Things flagging in the bedroom department? Unable to fulfill your natural role of super-stud due to a waning libido? Read on to get things back on track.
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, a low libido is always going to have a negative effect on your personal life. Why? Because a low libido equals less sex, and since sex has proven physiological, psychological, and emotional benefits, then you should really be aspiring to having as much of it as possible.
But if you don’t want it, then it’s hard to make yourself have it. Bring into the equation a partner who’s starting to wonder why you can’t respond to the occasion quite as much as they’d like, and the added pressure just makes things worse.
Male libido problems
As already stated, low libido can be a problem for both sexes, but for the male there’s no “lie back and think of England” option. Our libido issues can, and often do, result in certain mechanical failures. We can’t hide our unwillingness to perform in the same way that a woman can.
And when the libido drops to such an extent that your psychology seems entirely unable to lift you back out of the sexual doldrums. it’s tempting to reach for the Viagra. But is taking the medicinal route out of such a problem actually the best route? [Read: 20 unique ways to keep your erection up for way, way longer!]
The natural options to increase your sex drive
The problem with taking medicinal support for such issues is that you’re doing nothing to solve the underlying causes. In fact, you could be compounding them by becoming reliant upon the medicinal option to such an extent that you fool yourself into believing you can no longer do without them.
This could then turn into a very long-term issue. Dealing with low libido naturally, however, can potentially turn the issue around in a matter of days. Hours even, in some cases. [Read: 20 common sexual problems in a relationship and ways to avoid them]
The three steps to a healthier sex drive
Dealing with low libido for a guy the natural way comes in three stages. The first of these is to deal with lifestyle issues, such as changing your daily routines, habits, and inclinations to get your libido back on track.
The second stage is to look at what you can put in your mouth *pun very much intended* to get your sexual fervor back on track, with certain foods that are very helpful in increasing libido.
The third stage is to improve extant sexual habits to spice things up between the sheets. In the following paragraphs, we look at these stages, breaking each down into four parts to help you put your libido back on the map in no uncertain terms.
Stage 1 – Lifestyle changes to increase your libido
Here are 4 lifestyle changes you can make to get your spirits back in the bedroom.
1. Exercise
The benefits of exercise are manifold, and an increase in libido is just one of them. Why? Because exercise helps moderate the body’s physiological and psychological functions, such as regulating blood pressure, improving your mental state, increasing your self-confidence, and making you generally fitter and more able to perform in the bedroom.
In a nutshell, there is no aspect to the issue that exercise doesn’t help with, in one way or another. [Read: 25 inspirational tips to motivate you to work out]
2. Sleep
Along with water, food, and air, sleep is one of the more essential mechanisms that power the human body. Without it, a whole host of physical, mental, and emotional issues can and will arise. Any one of these areas affected will have a knock on effect and prove detrimental to your ability to be “on the job.” Get your personal premium number of hours of sleep a night, and your libido will increase.
3. Diet
We won’t talk about specific foods here *that’s to follow in the next section*, but we will talk about diet in more general terms. And there’s no doubt about it, a poor diet does not help your libido.
Too many fatty, sugary, or overly processed foods, too much alcohol, or eating too much or too little in general will all have a detrimental effect upon your desire to perform. Eat in a moderate and sensible fashion to see your levels of potency swiftly rise. [Read: 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel horny again]
4. Stress
We all now know of the importance of dealing with stress – the silent killer, as it has come to be known. But less talked about is the effect it can have upon your sexual prowess. And it’s easy to tell you to eliminate stress, but it isn’t always that easy. Money worries, relationship issues, work problems, they all contribute to your stress levels, and it’s rare you’re in a position to completely eliminate them.
Do, however, make an effort to at least deal with them. Yoga, boxing, meditation, long walks – whatever it takes to lower your stress levels and get your libido back to the way it was. [Read: 13 untold sex secrets you should know]
Stage 2 – Foods for a better sex drive
While sex and food are two common indulgences, here’s proof that what you put in your mouth has a huge effect on your virility.
1. Zinc
Best source: some green vegetables, nuts, fruits, and, of course, oysters. Zinc not only helps to produce sperm cells but is also prominent in the production of hormones such as testosterone – the key player in all things related to male sexuality and libido. Zinc is at the top of the list for male-focused aphrodisiac qualities.
2. Omega 3
Best source: oily fish. This extremely beneficial oil has an added bonus in that it improves the elasticity of blood vessels and thinning the blood. The result – improved blood flow, an essential ingredient in the act of physical arousal.
3. Phenylethylamine
Best source: high cocoa content chocolate. By releasing dopamine and serotonin in the brain, dark chocolate instantly puts you in the mood for more sensual activities and relieves stress levels. A quick-fix secret weapon for a night of passion.
4. Slow release carbs
Best source: Seeds, grains, fruit, and vegetables. Refined carbs and quick release carbs play havoc on your hormone levels, making it far more difficult for your body to regulate your libido.
Give amour a helping hand with slow release carbs instead, which de-stress and energize your body. [Read: 10 foods that’ll get your sex drive to skyrocket instantly]
Stage 3 – Sexual habits that improve your libido
For some, it can be difficult to get in the mood, even if you’re already about to have sex. Here are a couple of ways you can help yourself get or stay aroused to keep up with your partner.
1. Positions
If you and your partner seem to have committed to a once weekly missionary position session, then your waning libido may be down to something as simple as boredom.
With the routine in full command of your sex life, it may be time to spice things up with a few new positions and get that missing excitement back in your life. You don’t have to try and get through every page of the Kama Sutra, but you could give it a fairly good go. [Read: 30 easy and exciting sex positions you can try in 30 days]
2. Environment
Sometimes, your usual environment can make sex seem a bit dull and repetitive, and this can have the worst effect upon your libido. Try a different room outside the bedroom from time to time – or even an entirely different location.
3. Exploration
Maybe you have a cognitive or emotional desire to transcend beyond the more usual realms of sexual activity that is impeding your libido.
Try unleashing your kinks with a willing partner to stoke up the fires and become a sexual adventurer of the highest order. [Read: 10 horny and naughty ways to get over a sexual dry spell in no time]
4. Attraction
If you or your partner aren’t taking care of yourselves properly, then this is bound to affect your libido. Sexual attraction does, after all, depend on you both being attracted to each other.
Whatever it takes – a bit of time in the gym, a new haircut, a more intense grooming regimen – get on top of it, and give your love life a gentle nudge in a much healthier direction. [Read: 13 steps to becoming the sexy guy you’ve always wanted to be]
Low libido doesn’t have to be a fact of life. If you want to consign it to the darker recesses of the past, then follow our natural tips to put a spring back in your step – and some lead in your pencil!
