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How to Eat Ass: 28 Analingus Positions & Rim Job Tips to Eat Booty Like a Boss

If you’ve never given a rim job before but you’re keen to try, it’s important to know what to expect, how to do it safely, and how to make it feel good. 

How to Eat Ass - analingus and rimming positions and tips

Eating ass is not to everybody’s taste. But once you know more about analingus and the art of the rim job, there’s a good chance you’ll be extremely intrigued.

Analingus is certainly a taboo, but you’d be surprised at the number of people who actually enjoy it. It’s one of those things that you won’t know if you like it until you give it a go. Remember, the anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings and there’s a very real possibility of a pretty amazing orgasm.

Of course, if you’re the one giving a rim job, there’s plenty of information you need to know beforehand. There are very real hygiene concerns you need to cover, while also making sure that both of you are totally sure that you want to give it a go.

So, if you’re keen to learn more, let’s get to the bottom of it, literally! [Read: Top 20 sexual taboos and sex topics most of us love but never talk about]

What is eating ass and where does the term ‘rim job’ come from?

Eating ass is literally just that, it’s when you go down on your partner and stick your tongue up their bum hole. So then, what’s analingus, or a rim job? They’re all words that mean the same thing, in one form or the other.

Eating ass and analingus

Eating ass and analingus are synonyms. Both mean sticking your tongue up and around your partner’s ass.

Take the word cunnilingus, and flip it to focus on the ass, and you get analingus. It’s the same as eating ass or eating booty. [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]

Rimming or Rim Job

The specific action of placing your tongue around the rim of the anus. Rimming is basically a technique called the “tongue twister” which is performed on the anus.

What you do is spread the person’s cheeks apart with your hands and then, with your tongue, make circular motions around and on the anus. This is the basic movement. As you get more into it, play around with different motions and pressure.

Now that you’re familiar with this, everything just gets easier from here! Let’s start with the basics and take you to the level of mastery over the next few minutes! [Read: Just sex? Reasons why sex can never really be just sex]

Why eat ass when you can just go down on them?

Technically, you’re still going down on them to eat ass, just like you would to blow them or eat pussy. But we know what you mean, why should you eat ass when there are other things to play with down there?

Call eating ass a fad, or maybe it’s the new “thing” to do down there. Go back fifty years into history, and people would think you’re crazy if you told someone you eat pussy for pleasure.

Of course, there are ancient texts dating back hundreds and thousands of years where literature speaks of eating pussy and ass, most notably in the Kamasutra. But that doesn’t mean eating pussy was ever mainstream foreplay until recently.

Maybe in a decade or two, people will say you’re selfish if you don’t eat ass or try analingus! Who knows what the future holds?! [Read: A Kamasutra guide on how to have tantric sex and the steps to experience tantric orgasms for the first time]

What does ass taste like?

A very valid question, and to be honest, this thought likely passes through the mind of every single person who’s eating ass, at least for the first time.

If you’re doing it right and eating a clean ass, it should taste like nothing! Or more precisely, it should taste like any other part of your partner’s body – just like their thigh, their back, or their face.

If you do get absolutely any other kind of taste down, maybe you guys should have spent a couple of minutes longer in the shower during foreplay! [Read: Sexual foreplay – 26 lusty secrets to do it well and make them hot and horny]

Do you really have to eat ass?

If you’re curious about rimming, then you should explore the idea and give it a try. But really, if you’re not into it, don’t do it. You won’t have an enjoyable experience if you’re not into it. Do it if you want to, and if your partner is pressuring you, then get a new one.

Mostly, people enjoy eating ass not because there’s something magical down there that gives the “eater” extra pleasure. They enjoy eating ass because it arouses their partner and gives them a whole new sexual high they probably haven’t experienced before.

If you sleep with someone, and they tell you you’re the best lay they’ve ever had all because you ate their ass, wouldn’t that feel great? If eating booty is all it takes to be called a sex god, wouldn’t that ego boost be worth the effort? [Read: How to be great at sex – 17 secrets to be the hottest lay anyone can get!]

How should you bring up analingus to your partner?

If you’re into eating ass, that’s great! But you have to make sure your partner is down for it. It doesn’t matter if they’ll be the giver or receiver, not everyone wants a tongue in their ass. Consent is key. Just have a chat about it with your partner and see if they’re down to try analingus.

If you’re the one suggesting eating ass, listen to your partner’s concerns with an open mind and remember that if they don’t want to do it, you shouldn’t force them.

If your partner is suggesting it to you, avoid being judgmental and be a little open-minded as they talk. Don’t just push the idea away because you assume it’s gross.

But in the end, consent on both sides is a must. Without it, no rim job should happen. [Read: Foreplay done right – the art of really turning her on]

Hygiene FAQ

Make sure you’re really clean before you allow someone to go down on you. And likewise, if you’re going down to eat someone’s booty, give them a heads up so they wash extra carefully down and back there.

You need to remember that bacteria can be harmful if it enters your body through the mouth. So how do you clean it right? Just wash your bum until it feels clean. It’s that simple. [Read: Sex 101 – how to prepare for sex the right way]

Want to take it one step further? Stick a quarter of an inch of your finger into your bum and move it around under running water. And once you feel clean enough, wash your butthole with soap and water again.

You really don’t need to do this additional step, but if it makes you feel cleaner and less awkward when someone eats your ass, there’s no harm in doing this.

How can you tell if you’re still not ready? As gross as this sounds, the only way to know for sure is by sniffing it. If you get any kind of fragrance on your finger, you need to clean up again. [Read: How to get rid of vaginal odor – 16 ways to beat the sniff test]

Many people who have a bad experience with analingus complain about hygiene. No one wants to eat a dirty ass. Before having sex, take a shower. And with your finger, place it in your anus, making sure it’s clean.

First time eating booty? The best move for beginners

If you’re getting warmed up to eat ass for the first time and feel awkward about the whole experience, try using it as foreplay during shower sex.

Get squeaky clean and ask your partner to lie down in the tub *the best option*, or stand under the shower with their legs spread out *the second best option*. Now all you need to do is eat their booty just as you would with their pussy.

You’d feel much more relaxed under the shower, and you won’t have to worry about anything but licking freshly washed and moist skin while giving your partner unthinkable pleasure at the same time! [Read: The best ways to have sex in the shower and really enjoy it]

How does a rim job really feel?

Your anus has a lot of nerve endings. Without getting too technical, there are different kinds of nerve endings in your asshole that can pick up the smallest tingle. Here are a few nerve endings you have in your asshole.

1. Krause end-bulbs: These nerve endings can recognize subtle changes in temperature.

2. Meissner’s corpuscles: This helps you experience the sensation of touch.

3. Pacinian corpuscles: They can recognize the smallest difference in pressure around the anus.

4. Genital corpuscles: If there’s any friction, these nerve endings can instantly tell.

Place your tongue on your partner’s asshole, and every single one of these nerve endings is going to fire a signal of pure pleasure up their ass and to their brain.

So how does getting your ass eaten feel? A helpless, weak, intense pleasure, a weird kind of tickle, and everything nice in between. So nice that you don’t ever want them to stop rimming your asshole or eating your ass – that’s how nice it feels. [Read: She likes anal? 15 ways to impress a girl who likes the backdoor]

All the steps you’ll need to eat booty like a boss

You don’t know what you’re missing until you try it. Just take a few small steps, and before you know it, you’ll be eating ass like it’s your favorite thing!

If you want to know how to eat ass well, here are a few things you need to master.

1. Your tongue is your best friend

When it comes to rimming or eating booty, your tongue is the real superstar at play here. Once you’re in a comfortable position, start by licking around your partner’s butt and work your way up to their asshole slowly. And once you get there, lick it gently and softly a few times.

Your partner may clench their butt and that’s okay. it’s an awkward sensation, and it does take some getting used to. [Read: The curious guy’s and gal’s guide to first time anal sex]

2. Arouse the anus first

Now that you realize your partner will clench their butt involuntarily until they get used to the sensation, you need to warm up that area and make your partner relax.

So, before using your magical tongue, rub and kiss the area around the anus, slowly making your way to the anus.

Then, use your tongue, licking the area around it, and then go for the anus. If you do it right and take your time, your partner will wish you’d hurry up and lick their booty hole faster!

3. Circle the hole

Now a rim job is the perfect definition of this move. Run your tongue in circles all around and over your partner’s asshole. Start slow and give them a little tease with your tongue before you go faster or firmer.

4. Make all the right shapes

There are no “right” ways to use your tongue while rimming. You can make a variety of shapes with your tongue. You’ll just have to find out what turns your partner on the most. 

What you want to focus on is keeping the anus stimulated, which means you’ll have to switch up the motions. [Read: 16 ways to use your tongue down there and blow anyone’s mind]

5. Use more than your tongue

You can use your hands, your chin, and anything else that works to stimulate and arouse your partner as you eat their ass. And if you focus just on using your tongue, chances are, you’re going to tire yourself out very soon.

6. Change the speed and direction

Tease your partner by changing the direction, pressure, and speed of your tongue frequently. Remember how we said there are a lot of nerves in there?

Playing around with speed and direction will keep these nerves stimulated and keep your partner on their toes! [Read: Seductive tease – 20 tantalizing ways to blow your lover’s mind]

7. Use your breath

Use your breath to stimulate your partner. You don’t just have to lick them, you can also blow on their anus or breathe hot air over it.

8. Bite their butt

The butt is fleshy and luscious, and biting it arouses you as well as your partner. Bite their butt, run your teeth along their thighs, and mix the motions between licks and bites.

Just be sure to not bite their anus. It’s a delicate part, which could end up hurting them and killing the mood.

9. Dig your tongue in

After some time, the receiver’s anus will eventually relax, it may take some time depending how comfortable they are. When this happens, you’ll be able to use your tongue to dig in there.

Stick your tongue into their anus. Make your tongue firm, and gently try to push your tongue into your partner’s anus. [Read: Often overlooked sex moves she’ll love in bed]

In all probability, as hard as you try, you may only be able to penetrate them about a quarter of an inch unless your partner’s anus is really relaxed. Don’t forget to use lube if you want to enjoy it as much as your partner does!

10. Spread their cheeks

Use your hands to spread the cheeks apart so you have more room to penetrate. You want your tongue to be able to move freely. However, don’t spread them too far apart, or else it’ll cause pain. You’re not trying to part the Red Sea. [Read: How does anal sex feel both mentally and physically?]

11. Tongue the folds

The crinkles of the anus also contain those super-sensitive nerve endings. So explore around the folds with your tongue gently and then switch it up with a firmer touch.

12. Try a position where the receiver has control

We’re going to cover good rim job positions shortly, but it’s a good idea to try a position where the person receiving the rim job is the one in control.

So, that means they’re standing and you’re kneeling, for example. By doing this, it’s a major dominant high for the receiver, which will add to their pleasure.

13. Let out a moan

If you do this, the vibration from your voice will reverberate into their ass and drive them even crazier than they are already! [Read: Moaning in bed]

14. Flatten your tongue against their anus

When you flatten your tongue, you’re able to cover more ground, which means all parts of their anus will be in contact. Can you imagine the sensations?

15. Use your beard

If you have one, of course. But, make sure that your partner is okay with this as it might be a bit too rough or scratchy for their taste.

The best positions for eating ass

Want the best positions to eat ass? Here’s what you should begin with.

1. Doggy style is the easiest

If this is your first time, rim your partner in doggy style. It’s a comfortable position for them and it makes the anus easily accessible which is what you want. So, when in doubt, go into doggy style and go wild on their ass. [Read: How to make doggy style your favorite sex position]

2. Spread eagle

Have your partner lie down comfortably on their back and stuff a couple of pillows under their butt. Adjust the height so it’s perfectly aligned with your face as you go to town.

3. In the bathtub feels the cleanest

This works perfectly if you can get into the bathtub on opposite ends. Lift your partner’s butt and bring it to the level of your face.

It should be easier as the buoyancy of the water will make your partner feel lighter to lift and hold to your face. [Read: How to have safe sex in every single way it is possible]

4. Face sitting

This is a good position for analingus because it allows the receiver to be in control. However, you need to make sure that they don’t sit too much on your face so you’re uncomfortable!

Hold your partner’s butt in your hands as they squat over your face, put a pillow under your neck, and off you go!

5. The 69

You can use the 69 position to eat ass, just as you would to perform regular oral sex.

6. Any position that works for you

Try any position that works for you both, but remember that the best positions to eat ass are the ones where the legs can be spread far apart and comfortably. [Read: 30 day sex challenge – 30 sex positions for 30 days]

Things you can do to make rimming more pleasurable

You’re sure to want to give your partner the very best time possible, and in that case, use these handy tips.

1. Mix it up with toys

We wouldn’t recommend toys for the first time, however, if you feel confident then why not. You can incorporate butt plugs, anal beads, and dildos by inserting them into the anus.

It’ll help stimulate the male prostate, and for women, it’ll increase pelvic orgasms. It’s a win-win for everyone. [Read: The 15 most common types of sex toys all couples and singles should know about]

2. Use lube

The anus isn’t self-lubricated, so you’ll need to make it wet. This means you’ll be needing a lot of spit or lube.

Make sure that you lubricate the anus before inserting your fingers or toys. Don’t rush this part, you want your partner to enjoy the experience. [Read: How to prepare for anal sex – a beginners’ fantasy guidebook]

3. Use your fingers

You can use more than your mouth when it comes to eating ass. You can use your fingers and hands to stimulate the frontal genitals and/or insert them into the anus. You can also grab your partner’s breasts while rimming.

The point is, you have a lot of options to stimulate your partner while eating their booty. [Read: The dirty truth – is it possible to have an anal orgasm?]

Things you shouldn’t ignore while eating ass – The risks of rimming

Now that you know everything about eating ass the right way, here are a few more things you can’t ignore if you want to stay safe during analingus.

1. Don’t give an oral after eating ass

You do not want to mix anal bacteria with the vagina. This leads to infections such as UTIs. So, if you plan to perform a rim job on a woman, do it after eating her out. It’s the cleanest and safest way to perform a rim job.

2. You can use a dental dam or a condom

If you’re concerned about contracting an STI, use a dental dam or a condom as a barrier. If you’re using a condom, cut up the condom into a thin sheet, and place it between your tongue and your partner’s anus.

You can contract an STI while rimming, you should know that. When it comes to sex, whether it’s penetration, oral sex, or rimming, STIs are contractible. [Read: History of condoms and must-know facts to be a condom-know-it-all in 5 minutes]

3. No double dipping

You can’t double-dip. If you put something into your anus, you cannot use that same item and place it into the vagina. The anus contains bacteria that can be harmful to the vagina, causing infections and cystitis.

So, keep this in mind, you want your partner to be healthy after analingus. [Read: The risks and dangers of anal sex – what to watch out for]

4. Rinse your mouth after

It’s best to use a dental dam, as we’ve just mentioned, but if you don’t use a dental dam, then you’ll want to make sure you brush or use mouthwash to sanitize your mouth afterward – preferably both. [Read: The bottom of it – misconceptions of anal sex]

Anal orgasms are a real thing

You should know straight up that anal orgasms can occur through analingus. You need to find the right rhythm and flow which comes through practice. But it can happen. If you perform analingus on a woman, use your fingers to stimulate her clitoris at the same time.

By doing that, you’ll give her the very best chance of a mind-blowing orgasm that will leave her a huge fan of analingus!

Of course, the most important thing to remember from this entire chat is consent. You both need to be totally on board for it to be a success. Anything less than that, don’t do it.

[Read: She likes anal? 15 ways to seriously impress a girl who likes backdoor fun]

That’s about everything you need to know about how to eat ass. Now it’s time to give rimming and analingus a real try. Perhaps you’ll love it so much that it becomes your go-to move!

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Natasha Ivanovic
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