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Flirty Fingers: How to Turn a Guy On Over Text in 10 Steps

Who doesn’t like getting a flirty text from their girl? So, here’s how to turn a guy on over text in 10 steps. You’ll have him running home after work.

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Texting may be not the best form of communication for lovers *or any relationship*. However, sometimes you’re not able to call the person you want to talk to. Especially when it means talking dirty, you don’t want someone to overhear you. So, here’s how to turn a guy on over text in 10 quick and simple steps.
How to turn a guy on over text – 10 quick and easy steps
I don’t think your boss wants to walk in and peer over your shoulder, seeing your dirty texts. I mean, there’s always an exception. But let’s stay on topic. You want to turn a guy on over text, you’re going to need to know the right words to get the best results—and you want results.
#1 Figure out where you two stand. Does he know you like him? Or are you two just friends? I mean, there’s no point going heavy on the flirting right away if he sees you only as a friend.
If you are just friends for now, try to slowly incorporate the flirting into the conversation and see his reaction. If he’s replying, “Why are you calling me handsome?” well, then ease off a bit. If he’s still replying, and perhaps flirting back, then you know. It is safe for you to take your flirty texts to the next level. [Read: Frexting: Why sexting friends is the naughty new trend] 
#2 Start off nice and easy. If this guy isn’t your boyfriend, you’re going to want to start off nice and easy. Sure, sex is great, but foreplay is even better. Think of this as foreplay. Verbal foreplay.
But not the foreplay when you’re already having oral sex. I mean just in the beginning, when you guys are still in the make out stage—that foreplay. Your goal is to warm him up and get him all hot and bothered before he pounces on you. [Read: How to flirt with a guy over text – 11 no-fail lines]
#3 Wait for him to reply. Listen, if this guy isn’t your boyfriend, don’t bombard him with text after text if he doesn’t answer. Maybe he’s just busy or maybe he’s not into you.
The worst thing to do is text him again. Leave it. I know, you’ll want to write him and get his attention, but you’ll get his attention if you don’t look overly enthusiastic. Be patient, my young grasshopper. [Read: Why did he stop texting me? 13 rules you should follow]
#4 Time for the dirty texts. Okay, so he’s replying and responding in a flirty way—check. Now, it’s time to amp it up and start with some dirty text messages.
Start off with one like this, “I’ve been thinking about what I would do to you right now,” or “If you could do anything you wanted to me, what would you do?” When you ask this, you’ll get the imagination going. This is where he’ll start feeling some friction—in the pants region.
#5 Be descriptive. If the dirty talk is getting more intense, make sure to use descriptive words. Don’t just write back, “Yeah, I’d like that,” or “That feels good.” Get into it, girl.
You’re the one who started this! Remember, men are visual beings, so paint him a portrait of what’s going on, what you’re wearing, where you’re touching him. Tell him a goddamn story, and trust me, that story will take you far. [Read: 90 dirty questions to ask a guy and get him hot and horny]
#6 Leave on a high. Sure, you could keep the dirty texts going until morning, but, why would you? You need to leave this on a high so he comes back for more. If this is your boyfriend, then he’ll be running home to you. But if is a guy you’re interested in, definitely don’t give him everything. He’ll come back, trust me, they always do.
#7 Send him a picture, if you want. During the dirty texts, you can always send him a picture. It doesn’t have to be a complete nude. It could be a photo of his favorite part of you.
People always think sending flirty photos means you should send them a picture of your breasts or vagina. Nope and nope. Listen, send him anything you want or not. [Read: 20 naughty ways to tease your man and leave him horny]
#8 Bring it to life. If this is your boyfriend, and you’ve been dirty texting all day, don’t just leave it at that. Create the scene at home and surprise him with a special treat. Answer the door in some sexy lingerie or leave him a note at the front door, making him find you in bed. Yeah, that’ll be one of the most memorable dinners he’ll ever eat.
#9 Don’t think too far ahead. If you’re dirty talking with a guy you like and he replies, don’t assume you two are now an item. Dirty talk is fun, but it doesn’t mean anything.
If you’re looking not to be taken advantage of, make sure you understand what you two are. You don’t need to use dirty talking as a way for a guy to like you. If he suddenly shows interest when you dirty talk, then he’s probably not looking for something serious. Now, if he liked you before that and you happen to dirty talk after, that’s something different. [Read: How to play a player: 12 ways to return the favor like a boss]
#10 If he’s not into it, pull out. Listen, if you sense that this guy isn’t into it, then move on. It’s the best thing to do. Maybe he’ll realize he made a mistake *which he did*. Do you want someone who’s going to make you do all the work? No. Not fun.
So, if he’s not replying or giving you one-worded answers just stop. Don’t humiliate yourself. You’re not obliged to do this, you wanted to do this for some fun and excitement. You can stop at any time if it isn’t fun anymore. And I mean, there are tons of other guys out there that would appreciate you.
[Read: 20 sexy questions to text and seduce any guy in under 30 minutes!]
Use these moves to turn a guy on over text, and turn up the heat. Tease him while he’s at the office or waiting in line at the grocery store. When he comes home, you won’t be sorry.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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