You’ve no doubt heard about sexting. For the most part, we hear when people get themselves into trouble with it, but sexting can be a really powerful tool for flirting and seducing a guy. The trouble with knowing how to sext a guy is that in this world filled with technology, anything can be saved and shared easily, so it’s also a little scary at first.
All of that leaves us with a big decision. Do we go ahead and sext anyways, or do we completely forgo that form of flirtation and stick to talking dirty in person instead? That last option is a pretty nerve-wracking one, right?
It’s a difficult choice to make, but as long as you know the ins and outs to start sexting, you’re good to go. [Read: Sexting ideas – 14 sexy tips to effortlessly sext like a real pro]
If you have no idea what sexting is or how to sext a guy, where have you been?! Sexting, as the name would suggest, is basically a series of sexual texts to someone you are either in a relationship with or flirting with.
Sexting doesn’t have to lead to actual sex when you finally meet up, but the chances are that it will.
The problem comes in learning how to start sexting a guy in the first place, because it’s not simply something you can drop into the conversation without warning!
Many girls tend to leave it to the guy to start the whole thing off, but sometimes the guy is worried that the girl will be offended.
There’s nothing to be shy, embarrassed, or offended by, provided it is with someone you trust and actually want to share such messages with! [Read: How to start sexting – 45 sexy tips and 50 examples to get someone horny]
The one thing holding most women back when it comes to learning how to start sexting a guy is embarrassment. Perhaps not knowing the right words to say, the risk of sounding weird, or that he’s going to laugh.
You want to know the truth? He’s not going to laugh.
He’s going to be so over the moon that you’re talking in a suggestive or even dirty way that he’s simply thrilled about the whole thing. To be honest, he’s got his hand down his pants and he’s not laughing, that’s for sure.
The single best way to begin is to embrace the whole thing as a lot of fun. He’s going to be saying things to you, you reply, he’ll say something else, and you might giggle a little, but it will make you smile. That’s the whole point! If you end up getting off on it, well, that’s a very pleasant side effect indeed!
So how do you actually begin? It’s likely that he has made some kind of suggestive remark in a text message that has got you thinking about sexting. If he hasn’t, it’s totally fine for you to make the first move. [Read: 16 tips you shouldn’t ignore if you want to be a good sexter]
When you first start sexting your guy, take it slowly and proceed from there. If he has sent you a text message that is a little suggestive, reply with a winking face emoji and a suggestive comment, e.g. ‘I wish you were here now, we’d have so much fun 😉’
There are no right or wrong words to use, and there are no right or wrong things to say either. It’s what feels good to you both.
Sexting is not meant to be ultra-serious, and you are not supposed to be some text-based adult movie star either! Keep it fun, because if it’s not fun, it’s not worth doing. Sexting isn’t always about the actual act of sex, it’s also about having a laugh, staying connected when you’re not together, and deepening your bond.
The more you do it, the more confident you’ll feel, and you’ll come up with more things to say off the bat. [Read: How to turn your boyfriend on while texting him – 21 powerful tips]
When figuring out how to sext a guy, thinking about what you’d like to hear is often the easiest way to come up with a few useful messages. From there, just let it flow.
Sexting is basically dirty talk via a text message. That’s really what it boils down to. Just use words that evoke a response in that way because it automatically paints a picture in their mind.
If it truly does feel awkward, cringey, and downright uncomfortable, just stop. In this case, sexting does not need to be a part of your repertoire. Perhaps the more in-person route is for you instead. [Read: How to sext your boyfriend – A guide to leave him yearning for more]
If you’re going to be sending naughty pictures, be careful. Even if you follow all precautionary measures, you could still end up finding your naked selfie all over the internet.
So in order to protect yourself, just crop your face out of the naughty pics. This really doesn’t change anything when it gets sent to your man. He’ll enjoy it all the same, but you reduce the risk of people knowing who it is in the naughty photo. [Read: Warning! How to be careful while sending dirty snapchats]
This should be the golden rule. We all need to remove our phones from our grasps when we’ve been drinking because we can do some serious damage without even remembering it sometimes.
Sexting is OFF LIMITS when you’ve been drinking. Sure, it may help calm your nerves so you can get that sext out, but if you’re not comfortable enough to sext the person sober, then you shouldn’t be doing it at all.
Right after you’ve hit that “send” button and the photo is delivered to your special man, go into your photos and delete it. And for you iPhone users out there, you’ll have to go into your “recently deleted” folder and delete it for a second time.
This ensures that if you ever need to go back through your photos to show someone something, there’s no risk of them seeing all your lady bits because you didn’t delete that naughty selfie. A hugely important tip for how to sext a guy. [Read: How to send sexy nude selfies and not get into trouble]
This is a really great technique for you to be able to sext safely, and it’s also really great for newbie sexters, too. To do this, you just send them a very simple phrase like, “I wish you were here ;)”, followed by a question when they reply.
This works best when you use open-ended questions that are suggestive. Something like, “What do you miss most about me ;)” will give him the hint to get talking dirty.
This way, you’re not the one sending all the dirty details… he is. But it’s still sexting. [Read: 20 sexy text messages to start a sexy, naughty conversation]
An important point when learning how to sext a guy is to never, ever, ever sext when you’re at work and on the company email. And never use a public computer or device to do so, either.
It’s far too easy for people to access, and you do not want that embarrassment on your hands.
If you just dive right in to the sexting world, you’ll be awkward, lost, and you’ll probably not be very safe. The best thing to do to avoid this is to work up to sexting instead of just going for it right away.
When learning how to sext a guy, send small, seemingly innocent sexts, and make your sessions really short at first. This will also help you gauge how he reacts and how safe you really need to be with the messages and photos you send. [Read: 45 sexy ways to start sexting the right way and 50 sext examples]
This is the best advice we can really offer you because you should never be talking the talk when you haven’t yet walked the walk.
Don’t sext someone you haven’t actually been physically intimate with. Firstly, you don’t know what would be effective to get them all hot for you in the first place, and secondly, the trust hasn’t been built that far yet. Who knows how they could misuse the things you say or the images you share?
If you’re feeling really uncomfortable about a certain sext and you just don’t want to send it, then don’t. There’s not a rule about how to sext a guy saying you HAVE to send everything you type up.
If you don’t think you should send it, or if it’s just a little too personal for your taste, just delete it and start completely over. [Read: 40 hot, playful texts to keep things hot and horny]
This should be an obvious tip for how to sext a guy, yet you see so many damn sexts online that were turned into something… not sexy at all. And that’s all because someone didn’t read through their message before sending it.
In order to make a sext effective, you have to proofread it. You can’t just send a mistake and expect them to stay in the mood, especially if they have no idea what you even mean! [Read: Flirty fingers – How to turn a guy on over text]
This is by far the most important rule to follow when learning how to sext a guy. You can never send a sext and have it be safe in another person’s hands if you don’t trust them yourself. You have to know that this person isn’t going to show others or laugh at your attempts.
Trusting whoever you’re sending naughty pictures to is a must if you want to sext effectively as well. Being comfortable is what makes sexts meaningful, and that comfort has to be built on trust. [Read: How to build trust in a relationship and make it last]
It’s no good beating around the bush here, if you’re going to learn how to sext a guy, you need to know the words to use. That means not using obscure words and trying to sugarcoat what you want to say.
If you want to tell him that you can’t wait to touch his dick, go ahead and say it! Don’t come up with an innocent word for the part of his body you want to touch – be direct! [Read: 20+ beginner dirty talk examples to get them in the mood for fun]
Sexting is basically teasing. While we’ve talked about being direct, you still need to hold back just a little. You could say something like, “I can’t wait to see you later, I’ve got some fun in store” and then he’s sure to ask you what that fun is.
You can then tease him with little snapshots, rather than giving him the full story. [Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk and say the sexiest words]
Add in a few breathy voice notes to your regular messaging routine, and you’ll have him begging for more! Tell him that you’re touching yourself and thinking about him, and then send him a few seconds’ worth of you moaning for him.
He’ll be desperate to get his hands on you! [Read: How to moan and look and sound sexy AF when you do it]
First of all, you do it not to please him but to pleasure your little self. Doing so will make it more natural and less awkward, therefore upping up the ante on the titillation factor. This will also make the experience more fun for you.
The more fun you have, the more sex appeal you will channel through your sexts. [Read: 20 sexy questions to sext a guy and seduce him discreetly]
What’s exciting about sexting is the sexual tension built up over time. Coming on too strong or too fast may throw your guy off, especially if you have just met. Don’t escalate from a simple hello to, “I’m totally touching myself while thinking of you.”
Start out with a simple text, and get flirtier and flirtier as you progress. Build up the anticipation by making your texts naughtier and naughtier, until your man can’t wait to actually do the deed with you. [Read: Sexy, naughty sexting games to leave you both horny all night long]
Saying that you’re going to tie him up to a pole and whip the bejeezus out of him isn’t something that will turn him on, especially because he knows it’s ridiculously untrue *unless it’s true!*. In fact, it may even freak him out a little.
Always text something that you really plan on doing, so there is follow through. Be imaginative, but don’t make it an utter fantasy or an empty promise. However, if you’re playing the fantasy card and he totally gets the role-play, then text away. [Read: 50 sexy and dirty things to say to your boyfriend]
It’s important to know when to hit the breaks when naughty takes a turn toward being nasty. If he’s sexting you about threesomes or something that is really not your cup of tea, you can either steer the conversation to something else, or you can be vocal, and let him know that you’re not into certain things.
Being in the heat of the moment doesn’t mean you have to play along with something that you’re really not comfortable with. After all, you should be having fun too.
If your man texts you that he had a rough day at work, don’t respond by saying, “Oooh, I’m so horny honey.” Show that you are responsive not only when he’s being kinky and frisky, but that you’re also there for him when he’s down or if he just needs someone to talk to.
Don’t substitute sexting in place of having real conversations or getting to know him even better. Use sexting only as a tool to add spice to the relationship, and not as your sole form of connecting with him. [Read: The sexy conversation starters to get you both horny]
Now you know how to sext a guy, you might need a little inspiration to get you started. Try one or two of these examples, and then let your mind run wild!
1. You going to be alone tonight? Want to play a game? [Read: Sexy, naughty texting games to have fun all night long]
2. I bet you’d be amazing in bed
3. I can give you a hand, if you want
4. I’m about to get in bed, want to join?
5. I’m imagining you’re with me right now…
6. Thinking about kissing you… everywhere
7. I’ve been wondering lately… about what you’d do to me
8. Be honest… have you ever fantasized about me?
9. I think I want you
10. I don’t know why, but all I want is sex right now
11. I need you here. Now.
12. I keep touching myself [Read: 40 naughty sexts to keep things hot and horny]
13. Can I have my way with you?
14. I want to serve you
15. I am so into you, I want to be in you right now
16. I feel wasted just by looking at your pictures
17. If you could do anything you wanted to me, what would you do? [Read: 50 sexy and dirty things to say to your boyfriend]
18. I don’t know what you did to me last night, but…
19. My _______ gets super ________ when I think about you
20. You’re a dirty boy/girl, aren’t you?
21. I’m going to wait until you’re begging for more…
22. Promise not to stop?
23. Could you go nice and hard on me? [Read: 23 sexy tips to talk dirty and say the sexiest words]
24 I want you to go deep inside, hard!
25. I want you to pull my ________, and force my ________ on your ________
26. I’m going to hold your hands down and….
27. Are you going to _______ for me, baby? [Read: 36 racy, random questions for flirty guys and girls]
28. I’m going to _______ you so good tonight
29. Mmm, I want to taste myself on your ______ [Read: 20 dirty questions to text a girl and make her wet]
30. I had a dream about you last night.
31. What are you wearing? [Read: 40 flirty questions to ask a guy and leave him thinking of you]
32. What are you doing right now?
33. If I were with you right now, what would you want to do to me? [Read: 20 sexiest texts to send a guy and seduce him]
34. Sucking on a lollipop and thinking of you.
35. Lying in bed and bored, want to come over and change that?
36. I’m horny right now.
37. Listening to this *insert song with dirty lyrics* and it’s making me think of you.
38. What you did to me last night is making me wet just remembering it.
39. I am touching myself and thinking of you. [Read: 35 texts to make him hard and crave your touch]
40. Just out of the shower.
41. Have I told you how sexy I find you?
42. I have a surprise for you later. [Read: The sexiest ways to talk dirty over text and turn a guy on]
43. You. Me. Naked. Tonight.
44. Good morning. I am not wearing any panties today. Just thought you should know. [Read: 20 reasons a good morning text is so important]
45. I want to act out your wildest fantasy. Just tell me what it is.
46. Let’s call in sick and stay in bed all day.
47. Bring whipped cream. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy]
48. You’re so sexy it takes my breath away.
In the end, there is no real right or wrong way to sext. As long as you follow our safety advice and you stay comfortable in everything you’re doing, the only way is up – literally!
Take it slow, give it a go, and if it doesn’t work for you, no harm done! But, the chances are you’ll both love how hot it gets you under the collar.
[Read: 34 passionate signs he’s making love to you and not just having sex]
Learning how to sext a guy is not difficult. A mere suggestion is all you need, and you can build from there. The more confident you become, the more fun your sexting sessions will be!
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