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The Sexiest Ways to Talk Dirty Over Text and Turn Him On

There are many ways to turn your guy on and talk dirty to him through text. Pick from these 47 sexting examples and turn the heat up instantly.


Despite popular belief, there’s more to turning a guy on than just saying, “Let’s have sex.” While that may actually work, you can also use fancier, subtler, more exciting, and more creative ways to tease and tickle him hot.
He will also appreciate the effort *or effortlessness* you put into teasing him. This takes a good understanding of what turns him on, so that you can push the right buttons and end up with a mind-blowing lay at the end of the day.
How to turn a guy by talking dirty over text

#1 Compliment him. Men like being complimented too. Telling him the things you like about him is one effective way of flirting with him. So if you want to get the ball rolling and send him something pleasant yet enticing, go ahead and pull out your mental laundry list of the attributes you find absolutely sexy and attractive.
-“I miss having my arms around your strong biceps when…”
-“I love leaning my head on your strong shoulders…”
-“Enjoyed working out with you today—and looking at you flex those muscles.”
-“Love your bedroom voice. Good morning.”
-“Remembering seeing you getting ready for work this morning. Gives me the dirtiest thoughts.”
-“You look great in your new shirt. I can’t wait to rip it off you later.”
-“There’s something insanely hot about the way you kiss me…”
[Read: 20 sexy questions to text a guy and leave him hard]
#2 Describe what you’re wearing. This is a classic that dates back to way before texting even existed. You text him details about what you’re wearing and that will definitely get his imagination going to places he dare not tell anyone else. The secret is to give him vivid imagery, yet still expertly leave some for him to piece together in his mind. Correctly done, you’ll have him thinking about ripping off whatever you’re wearing as soon as you two are alone.
-“Just woke up and I’m wearing nothing. Wish you were here.”
-“Tried on my new black lingerie. It’s got all the lace for… you know… easy access.”
-“Wearing nothing but your tie.”
-“I can’t wait to show you what I’m wearing. You’re gonna like it.”
-“I’m trying on these new bras and I can’t decide. I need a second opinion. Wanna help?”
[Read: 50 dirty, sexy things to say to your boyfriend that’ll drive him crazy]
#3 Give him control. Role playing can be exhilarating, as it can take your sex life to a whole new level. Using role play in your sexts requires a strategic buildup, but remember to keep it fun. One way to get him aroused with your sexts is by giving him the reins and bringing his inner bedroom tyrant out.
-“Tonight, I’m going to let you do whatever you want to me. Start planning.”
-“I was a bad girl and went all out shopping. It was really bad. I need a spanking.”
-“If you behave today, I might just give you a treat later.”
-“Hot kiss this morning… I hope you can finish what you started.”
[Read: Everything you need to know to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy]
#4 A sizzling promise. There’s another fail-proof way to make sure your man gets such huge hots for you, that he can’t wait to see you and be alone with you—and of course, get your panties off. You can do this by giving him a naughty, sexy sneak peek of what’s in store for him. Build up a sense of urgency as well, letting him know that you just can’t wait to have him and want him—NOW! Sext him with these and he’ll definitely be rushing home to you.
-“I need you to get home. The wait is killing me!”
-“I can’t wait to try out the new mattress with you.”
-“I have a surprise for you and I think you’re gonna like it.”
-“Finish work early. You’ll thank me later.”
-“Let’s stay in later. I have something to show you. *wink*”
-“Don’t do much at the gym tonight—save your energy for later.”
-“Feeling tired? I can give you a massage tonight. Just let me know where you want my hands to work the most.”
[Read: 20 sexy text messages to get you started on a naughty conversation]

#5 Do a flashback. Another great sexting idea is to give him a flashback of how amazing your last lay in the hay was, or how great he was in bed. Let him know that you can’t get enough of him and that you want him. Make him think about how great the sex was with you, too, and for sure, he will want to do it again—ASAP!
-“You were amazing last night!”
-“I still can’t get over the way you did *insert position or move*!”
-“Whoa, thought about you and me together and it still leaves me breathless.”
-“I’ve been thinking about those lips *or some other body part* all day long.”
-“Lying in bed now, thinking about you in it. It feels so empty without you.”
[Read: 20 naughty ways to tease your man and leave him horny]
#6 What are you doing? Another way to keep their minds racing with racy thoughts about you is to make them envision you doing something sexy. You can do this by sexting him what you’re doing, and making him imagine being there with you.
Keep in mind that mentioning you in bed makes him imagine you in bed *he’s likely there with you, too, in his mind*. This opens up a lot of fantasies for him. This is also a great way for him to think of you naked… and plan to get you naked the moment he gets the chance.
-“I’m lying in bed naked… got my hands on my breasts… should I go lower?”
-“I’m getting wet just thinking about you.”
-“I’m imagining you touching my *insert body part*.”
-“I just took a shower and I’m naked… trying to decide what to wear…”
-“I was thinking about you in the shower today…”
-“I’m actually watching porn right now…”
[Read: 60 dirty and seductive things to say to turn a guy on]
#7 Fantasize. Make his jaw drop with the naughty, raunchy fantasies you have. Most likely, he’s thinking the same thing. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination roam and make him excited about what sexual fantasies you will actually fulfill together.
-“I can’t wait to be alone with you.”
-“You and me. Behind the bar. Now.”
-“Want to see my version of 50 Shades of Grey?”
-“Let’s do it in the back of the car tonight.”
-“I just bought some cuffs. Care to try them later?”
-“Want to do it at the beach later?”
-“I’m craving whipped cream and strawberries—and I want to lick them off of you.”
[Read: 18 physical turn ons that arouse a guy instantly]
#8 Ask questions. Tease him with questions that will definitely start a hot sexting session. These questions can be as simple as “How was your day?” or something more titillating, such as:
-“What are you wearing right now?”
-“Want to come over tonight?”
-“Let’s try something new tonight. Any thoughts about being rough?”
-“Can I have my way with you?”
-“Wanna play tonight?”
-“I’m feeling horny. When can I see you?”
[Read: 10 subtle ways to get your man in the mood for naughty romance]
#9 Put your emoticons into it. Thank heavens for emoticons, right? You can make a sizzling sext sizzle even more with clever choice and placement of emoticons. They are also handy in helping you express yourself well and avoiding embarrassing miscommunications, especially if you’re trying to go for mystery and brevity. After all, there’s a difference between “I’m feeling hot” and “I’m feeling hot *wink*.” [Read: Funny emojis couples need to start using more often]
A great thing about sexting is you can be as dirty, sexy, and creative as you want. These tips are great, but the key to effective sexting that can actually get your man so horny he’ll want to have sex with you as soon as he can is to tailor these tips to what your man actually likes.
There is also such a thing as proper timing. If you know your guy is busy or in a meeting, sexting him may not be a good idea. It may even backfire on you, or you may end up embarrassing him if his boss finds out.
Sexting is an art, but the secret to this is for you to also know the proper timing and to be natural and comfortable about it.
[Read: The subtle art of making a guy get an erection just by sitting next to him]
As with anything, if what you do feels forced, he will notice, and it’s going to make your efforts fizzle. So keep these tips to talk dirty to a guy over text in mind, and sext away!

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Tiffany Grace Reyes
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