If you’re thinking the problem is you, maybe you’re wrong. Maybe the problem is in your lack-luster bedroom. So, here are some tips for a sexy bedroom.
Who would have thought that fluorescent lighting does more bad than good? Shockingly, everyone who has ever been under fluorescent lighting. Trust me, not even Gigi Hadid looks hot under them. You’ve obviously heard those lame comments about the bedroom being “where the magic happens,” but sadly, this clichéd line is true.
How to get a sexy bedroom
The magic does happen in the bedroom. I mean, it can happen on top of your laundry machine as well, but the bedroom is basically your sex base. So, if your sexy time is anything but magical, well, a good place to start is by making a sexy bedroom. Consider this minor renovation an investment to your sex life.
#1 Avoid white. White is clean and pristine looking, however, if you’re ever planning on having sex, don’t have white sheets. You don’t want to have dull sex. You want to have raw, messy sex. White won’t give you that. White will have you anxious the whole time, making sure you won’t stain the sheets. Stay away from white. [Read: Top 50 ideas for a sexy relationship]
#2 Get into texture. Try to incorporate various textures into your bedroom because it’ll heighten the senses. Instead of your basic cotton sheets, try satin. It’ll be a little unusual at first, but there’s something very sensual about it that you’ll grow to love. Don’t be afraid to play around and see what textures help you out in the bedroom.
#3 Make sure you eliminate distractions. Don’t put a TV in your bedroom… just don’t. The bedroom is a place for two things: having sex and sleeping. If you’re not planning on doing either, then go to the living room and flip on the TV. And make sure you have a place to put your cell phone so you won’t be distracted if you get a text message or phone call.
#4 Lighting is everything. If you want a sexy bedroom, I cannot emphasize this enough. Lighting is everything, it’s what makes or breaks a bedroom.
If you have fluorescent lights, vow to never turn those horrid things on, and buy a standing lamp instead. Your lighting should be soft and dim. If it’s too dark, there’s not enough visual stimulation. However, too much light is traumatizing. [Read: Lights on or off? The real score on perfect bedroom lighting]
#5 Put up sensual artwork. Now, you don’t need a bunch of nude photos in order to make a room feel sexy. Photos of your family are nice, however, maybe keep them out of the bedroom if you want to ever have sex again.
Your partner doesn’t want to be staring at your mom while they’re about to orgasm. If art isn’t your thing, even hanging a picture of a landscape is better than nothing.
#6 Lose the office look. Having a giant desk in your bedroom with a bunch of wires and papers laid out everywhere isn’t going to give you a sexy bedroom. In fact, it gives more of an office vibe, and that fantasy only works if you’re actually having sex in an office. It kills the sexual vibe that you’re trying to create in your bedroom. So, keep your personal life separate from work.
#7 Invest in the mattress. Your partner should wake up in your bed feeling like a million dollars, not like they’ve been hit by a bus. Spend a couple extra dollars and do yourself a favor by getting a supportive and comfortable bed. I mean, you’ll be the one sleeping in it the most, so it’s really in your best interest. [Read: How to spice up your sex life in 30 sexy ways]
#8 Get some candles going. Whether you’re a man or a woman, people like candles. It adds a romantic touch to your sexy bedroom, it’s like tying a bow on a gift.
#9 Mirrors. Mirrors are hot. I mean, they’re really hot. Have you ever looked at yourself having sex in a mirror? Do it. There’s something about it that just amps up the sexual energy.
Now, you don’t have to tile your whole ceiling in mirrors, but having a standing mirror in the corner adds that kink to the sexy bedroom.
#10 Keep a tidy room. People like clean people. I know, shocking discovery. Keep your room tidy. It doesn’t have to be spotless, you’re only human. But, any dirty clothes that are on the floor, just put them in the laundry room. Vacuum once a week. You know, basic hygiene. A sexy bedroom is a clean one. [Read: 14 sexy secrets to be incredibly good in bed every time]
#11 Keep your toys close by. If you have a collection of sex toys, keep them close to your bed. Have a drawer or a box where they stashed, you don’t need them lying around out in the open. It gives a greasy and dirty vibe – which isn’t the goal.
#12 Take a more adult approach. If you were an all-star football player in high school, that’s great. However, we don’t need to see every single medal you ever won hanging on your wall. You want to take the next step into your life and go with a more adult look. Your accomplishments are something to be proud of, but don’t make your room look like the Hall of Fame.
#13 Throw some pillows on the bed. Pillows scream comfort in a sexy bedroom. If you only have two pillows, your bed looks sad. Add a couple fluffy pillows because it gives more softness and comfort to your space. Also, those pillows will come in handy when you cuddle afterwards. [Read: 20 hot sex ideas to blow your lover’s mind in bed]
#14 Don’t have a garden in your bedroom. I know you probably heard that plants make your place homier, however, not in your bedroom. I mean, you can have a plant or two, but don’t go over the top. Also, if you know you won’t be able to take care of them, then opt out of this. No one wants to have sex beside something that’s dying.
#15 Have some sound system. Not one with a booming bass – this isn’t a Skrillex concert. You don’t even need anything fancy, even some speakers with an iPod connector will do. You’ll want to put on some music while you’re having sex. Music acts as an aid in determining the sexual energy that’s going to occur. [Read: The absolute sexy lovemaking playlist guide – Every song you’ll ever need]
#16 Put your personality in it. I gave you all these tips which will really add that sex appeal to your bedroom. But, you want to make sure that your personality still shows in your bedroom. Pick things that you like and that you think are sexy, because then it will truly show.