6 Sure Signs He’ll Never Be in a Relationship with You

signs he won't be in a relationship with you

You’ve been dating for a while, and it’s been great. But for some reason, you can’t seem to get past the dating stage. Why aren’t you progressing?

The great, and sometimes horrible, thing about dating is that there are no rules. You can date a guy for three hours before you jump into a relationship. You can go through the courtship, meeting the parents, and a signed document of your intentions before being in a relationship. And you can also date him for a decade and still not be “official.” This is great for people who don’t want to be tied down by rules, but it’s a huge pain for those who are expecting a little more stability in the relationship.

The boon and bane of modern dating and “official relationships”

With Tinder just a click away, it is no problem to get a date these days. Plus we can always rely on our matchmaker friends to get us a date or two. Unfortunately, guys also know the ease with which they can date in the modern world. Just one little thing they don’t like about you can instantly get you from the “potential girlfriend” category to the “casual relationship only” category.

And this poses a huge problem for women who want something more than just a passing fling. We definitely want to know if we’ve been dumped into the “casual relationship only” category, but is it possible to really know for sure? [Read: 10 guys you should quit dating if you want real love]

Signs you won’t be his girlfriend

There’s no surefire way to know if you won’t be in a serious relationship with the guy you’re seeing. However, if you see any of these glaring signs, you can at least be pretty confident that he’ll never see you as anything more than just someone he happens to be dating.

#1 He is not consistent. Consistency is one of the top things you must look for in a guy. It doesn’t just make you feel at ease, but it gives you the feeling that they’re really interested in you. This doesn’t have to be limited to just texts and calls, but the plans they make just to be with you.

Do they want to see you regularly, or are there times when they disappear for a week at a time? If your guy is the latter, it could be possible that he has a girlfriend, other girls, or he could just be not that into you. Either way, no consistency means no potential for a serious relationship. [Read: Is he flirting like crazy one day, and going completely cold the next?]

#2 Meeting the parents and close friends is off-limits or has never been brought up. Let’s say you’ve been dating for a few months now, but you’ve never actually met his family and/or friends. It’s just always the two of you. Don’t you think that’s just a bit off, considering you should at least be at that stage where you’ve met his high school and college buddies?

Maybe the real reason why your guy never makes plans to introduce you to his family and friends is because he doesn’t have long-term plans to be with you. And don’t buy it if he says that his friends and/or family are just way too busy, and yet you always see Instagram photos of them casually hanging out.

#3 The guy you’re dating only remembers you when he wants to have sex. This is the most obvious red flag you have to watch out for. Unless you two have an understanding that your relationship is purely physical, then it is not acceptable that your guy only remembers to text or call when his body is in need of something.

If he only remembers you when he’s horny, get rid of him. That is, unless you’re only just in it for the sex as well. But if you’re not, keep in mind that no amount of amazing or readily available sex will convince him to suddenly make you his girlfriend. [Read: 10 signs he’s faking love just to sleep with you]

#4 He doesn’t ask you questions about YOU. You’ve been going out for a few weeks now, but all he does is talk about himself, or if he does ask about you, he doesn’t ask any follow-up questions. It’s like he only asks for the sake of asking, and not because he wants to get to know the girl he’s dating.

One of the most obvious signs that a guy wants to be in a relationship with you is if he genuinely wants to know every little detail about you. If he can’t even bother asking about the littlest things about you, then it’s either he’s a narcissistic human being or a douche that has no plans whatsoever of being your boyfriend. Either way, it’s quite obvious that you’re better off without him. [Read: 15 surefire signs he likes being with you but isn’t into you]

#5 He tells you straight up that he is not looking for a girlfriend. This is somehow related to the guy who only remembers you when he’s in need of sex. We’ve all come across this type – he tells you straight out that he isn’t ready for a relationship, nor is he looking for one.

Well, he’s obviously dating you just so he doesn’t stay single-single, and to feed his bodily and worldly needs. Stay away – no matter how hot he is, unless you two are on the same page. But girl, why date when you aren’t looking for a relationship? [Read: 13 clear giveaways to know if a guy’s a player or a gentleman]

#6 He veers away from the topic of commitment or labeling what you two have. MAJOR RED FLAG. We know how guys become possessive of girls they really, really like *or love*, so if the guy you’re dating refuses to be exclusive or to put a label on whatever it is you guys have, girl, it’s time to walk away.

This is one of those traps that so many women fall into. The guy refuses to outright say that he’s not looking for anything serious, so you sort of get that glimmer of hope that he might come around someday. The truth is, he’s keeping his intentions to himself because he still wants to have that hold on you.  [Read: 7 signs you’re definitely dating a player]

If a man wants to be with you, he will do everything to make that happen. Come to think of it, why invest so much time and energy on a man who doesn’t want you to be a part of his world for the long term?

If he just wants you now and can’t see you in his future, then there is just one way to deal with it – leave. I know it’s easier said than done, especially if you really like the guy, but you must learn not to sell yourself short.

[Read: 22 big early warnings signs of a bad boyfriend]

The right man will come along, someone who will want you to be part of his world permanently. Just always remember to trust your gut when it tells you that you’re dating a frog instead of a prince.

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Jorella Valino
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8 thoughts on “6 Sure Signs He’ll Never Be in a Relationship with You”

  1. Katy Laine says:

    This really hit close to home, Jorella. I am an 18-year old high school student and I have already had my share of heartbreak. My boyfriend of four months treated me like a fling. I never met his friends or his family. We would hang out and watch movies together but he didn’t let me meet his friends, though he met mine.
    My best friends told me that he was up to no good and he was just a player. I didn’t listen because I was stupid and I loved him. Maybe I should have listened to them because he fricking broke my heart on our prom night when he broke up with me and left me for a freshman girl!
    All these clues are true and I should have paid attention to all the signs.

  2. darla60 says:

    If you are good in an acceptable place with the knowledge that you will never be in a relationship that is one thing but remember the words never. This means no chance, or out of the question. I am very competitive so the thought that I cannot win makes me fight that much harder. I see the signs and think about progression still. So for a while I can ignore him talking only about himself and then it becomes problematic. If he dares to tell me that he is not looking for a girlfriend I believe I can change that decision. The signs are there and I can go through them to heart break or stop and go another way. I choose today to go another way.

  3. Alexa says:

    All the given signs were all true. Had I read this before, I might not be brokenhearted today. My ex-boyfriend kept telling me and my friends that he loves me and only me. However, my friends told me that he is not the right guy and that he can’t be trusted. My instinct told me also but I was so much blinded by my love for him. Even with all the obvious signs that he displayed, yet my heart won’t veer away from loving him. Until I came face to face with his other girlfriend whom he married a few months after we broke up. Sadly, though I saw the signs, yet I am powerless to let go of my love for him. Even until now I still can’t forget him and I am still longing to see him again.

  4. <3 Jorella says:

    You will get over him my dear, you just have to help yourself. Time will heal that broken hearts of yours. Just remember that you are one step closer to finding the one, because your ex is nothing but a frog.

  5. Jorella says:

    Hope this article will get to help you on your next relationship. Be glad it’s over, you, my dear deserve so much more. You will find someone, you just have to believe that there are still men out there deserving of your love. There may be just a few of them, but your time will come. 🙂

  6. <3 Jorella says:


  7. Tammy says:

    Yeah, I’ve been on the other end of a guy only wanting to be around when I’m having sex with him. It’s such a terrible feeling because he’ll come to me under the promise that we’re something more and after a fun date I’m more than willing to go back to his place or bring him back to mine. Surely enough, when the sex is over, then so am I. I wish guys wouldn’t do that.

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