Is He Into Me Or Is He Just Being Nice? 85 Signs to Read His Flirty Interest

Are you agonizing over a guy and thinking to yourself, is he into me? Well, you don’t have to wonder anymore because just use these signs to know for sure.

Is He Into Me

Do you feel something in the air when you’re around this guy? Do you ever wonder, “is he into me?” because of the things he does for you or the things he does around you?

Guys operate differently from girls and tend to be less expressive when dealing with their emotions. They’re often a little more afraid of rejection, so they hesitate to be vulnerable. While girls prefer to make it pretty obvious if they like someone, guys can often put on a more macho appearance to avoid losing face.

So, for some guys, it’s not easy for them to tell a girl that he likes her. 

He may be shy or even scared of getting turned down. Do you have a guy friend who seems to have “more than friends” on his mind? Is he into you?

It’s not easy to know if a guy’s into you or just being really friendly. But if you know the signs that really matter, it’ll help you find out for yourself if a guy is into you and help you make the next move. [Read: Is he flirting with me? Signs that’ll reveal the truth]

If you don’t like him, you can always back off or let him down easily before he goes in too deep. On the other hand, if you do like him, you can warm up to him and let him see that romantic feelings are mutual.

If he isn’t willing to spill the beans, these signs can help you figure out how to tell if a guy is into you.

Nice versus flirting

Being nice and flirting overlaps, and it’s easy to be confused because sometimes they could even be the same thing. How do you tell the difference? Other than picking up on almost invisible subtle hints, it is not always possible. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

Why do you want to know?

If you are simply just curious if someone likes you or is interested, let it go. He will eventually make it known by asking you out if he really likes you.

If you want to know so you can let him know you are not interested, you do not want to embarrass him or yourself. So, be subtle.

Work into a conversation that you are dating someone or are not interested in dating anyone from the office. Hopefully, he will get the hint and you won’t have to make it obvious. [Read: How to tell a guy you don’t like him in the nicest way possible]

If you like him, then stop being subtle yourself.

He may be thinking the same thing

Guys are just as afraid of rejection as you are. Instead of trying to read between the lines, make it obvious. Give him the answer he’s not giving you.

If you like someone who gives you mixed signals, let him know you are interested. Touch his arm when you’re talking. Or straight up ask him to go get a drink. From there you should figure out his intentions. [Read: How to read mixed signals and turn into love]

Is he into me or is he just being nice? How to tell the difference

Sometimes, the signs a guy is into you are so subtle that it’s hard to know for sure. But if you see several of these signs in a guy, it’s almost 100% guaranteed that he has feelings for you, even if he hasn’t said it out loud yet.

It’s time to stop the hours and hours of wondering and start looking for the signs to know the answer to the big question: is he into me?! [Read: How guys flirt when they like you – 15 subtle things they do to impress you]

1. He treats you like a lady when you’re out together

When just the two of you go out or hang out for a while, does he behave like you’re his girlfriend?

Does he pull a chair back for you, offer to get you things, or does he insist on paying for you even when all friends generally go Dutch?

If a friend does this, there’s also a good chance that he’s just being a chivalrous guy. But watch out for his behavior with other girls.

Does he treat them the same way or is it just you that gets the special attention? [Read: 16 signs he’s irresistibly attracted to you and wants you bad]

2. He uses any excuse to touch you

If a guy’s into you, he’s obviously going to be infatuated with you. And infatuation involves a lot of sexual attraction.

He may not make it obvious or give away any signs, but he’ll try to touch you whenever he can, be it while crossing the street or the lingering touch while hugging you goodbye.

Ever felt like he lingers his touch when you clasp his hand or when he places his arm around your waist or on your back? That’s a good sign that he’s into you. [Read: 20 types of physical touch and what they all mean]

3. He flirts with you

If a guy is into you, he can’t help but flirt with you. Flirting comes naturally when you like someone, you really can’t help it. Do you ever find him sweet talking you or asking you personal questions while pulling your leg?

If he does this in front of others and to all girls, perhaps he’s just the group jester. But if he prefers to flirt when you’re alone or if he likes flirting just with you, he’s definitely into you!

Just flirt back with him now and then and see if he takes things further. Sometimes, all a guy needs is a small affirmative nudge to get the courage to let you know he likes you! [Read: How to flirt with a guy subtly without really flirting at all]

4. He never talks about any other girl

When a guy likes a girl and hasn’t told her yet, he’ll want to make it as obvious as possible without really revealing the truth directly.

At the same time, just to make it extremely clear that he’s into you and no one else, he may avoid talking about any other girl he fancies when he’s around you.

That way, at least he’ll hope to get the message across that you’re the only girl he notices. [Read: The super-obvious signs a man is attracted to you sexually]

A great way to test this is by talking about a few girls and asking him whom he finds the prettiest. If your name pops up even when it’s not on your list, then it is pretty clear he is crushing on you!

5. He wants to be with you

Even when you’re hanging out with a group of friends, does this guy make his way through the crowd of people just to be around you? If he constantly chooses to be around you even when there are several other friends he can talk to, he’s obviously very interested in you. 

6. He likes your attention

If you’re wondering, “is he into me” about a particular guy, keep an eye out for his people-pleasing behavior that’s specific to you. If a guy likes you, he’ll try his best to please you. 

Have you ever told him he looks good in a particular attire? If so, does he dress the same way often when he’s around you? [Read: The subtle signs he wants to make a move on you and ask you out but is scared]

If he knows about your preference for music or places to hang out, does he have the same preferences too? A guy who likes you will always try to become the perfect splitting image of the kind of guy you’d like.

So, is he into you? If you see that he changes his preference whenever you change your interests and hobbies, there’s a possibility that he’s trying to impress you and make you like him.

7. He opens up to you

Guys don’t usually open up to women right away. They tend to be more emotionally closed in the beginning. With time, they slowly open up. [Read: 20 subtle signs a guy likes you but is trying not to show it]

If he opens up to you, he trusts you and feels comfortable around you. Or, if you are an easy person to talk to, he may just be venting. But if he volunteers information about his past, his childhood, and his parents, he may want to confide in you because he trusts you.

That can be a telltale sign that he likes you. But if he talks to you a lot about his ex or his actual current girlfriend, then he is just venting or looking for a side chick. So, avoid him.

8. His friends and family know about you

Guys don’t bring up the names of girls they’re not interested in. Period. But if a guy is interested in a girl, his friends would definitely know something about you, if not everything about you.

If his friends and family know about you, he’s already been showing you off. [ Weird ways to know someone doesn’t like you as much as you think]

9. He talks about “our” future

He may not even be thinking of it consciously, but he may drop a “we should do this next time.” It shows he thinks about the future. And if he’s thinking about the future, he likes spending time with you.

10. He compromises

People like to have things go their own way, that’s only normal. Who wants to actually compromise and only be semi-satisfied? Exactly. But when you’re into someone, you’re more willing to compromise to make that person happy. 

11. He hangs around even when you show your true self

Any man that stays by a girl’s side when he sees her unshaven legs in stained pajamas, or when she’s got a running nose and a fever, is probably interested in her *beyond sex.* Come on! [Read: The signs he’s genuinely interested in being with you]

If he still sees your beauty when you’re in your purest form, a.k.a. who you are when no one’s around, that means something.

If you’re in sweatpants with no makeup on and he tells you you’re beautiful, he’s not lying.

12. He compliments you

Okay, guys probably compliment you often. However, it depends on how they compliment you. If they say, “You look hot today,” well, that could be translated to, “I’d f*ck you today.”

Though it’s genuine, that doesn’t mean much. If he’s commenting on details about you, he pays close attention to you. That’s what you want. [Read: How guys flirt – 15 subtle things guys do to impress a girl they like]

For example, if he compliments your sense of humor, your work ethic, your passion, your kindness, or your confidence, he may like you. A guy who is interested and worth your interest will take the time to notice more than just your looks. 

13. He wants to spend his free time with you

He could be watching Netflix or watching football with his boys, but instead, he’s going bike riding with you and eating sandwiches on the beach. His free time is as important as yours, so if he chooses to spend it with you, that means something. 

14. He’s the one keeping in contact

We all know that it takes two to tango, but if he’s the one chasing after you—texting and calling— well, he’s into you. This is pretty obvious, don’t you think? If he likes you, he calls you. [Read: 30 peculiar signs to look for when a guy likes you]

15. He’s interested in your interests

If you’re not truly interested in someone, you may sleep with them, but you don’t really care what they do in their spare time. More importantly, you’re not going to waste your time doing something you don’t want to do.

Well, on the other hand, if he’s into you, he’ll be more willing to try things that you’re interested in like salsa dancing or going to the theater. [Read: 15 ways to tell if someone likes you without asking them]

16. He likes to show you off

If a guy doesn’t like a girl, he wouldn’t be parading her throughout town, meeting friends, and tagging her on social media. If this guy is taking you around town and showing you off, he’s proud to have you by his side.

17. He supports your dreams

If he supports your goals and dreams, then he respects you and believes in you. Many people become jealous and try to push you down. So, if he builds you up, it shows that he cares about you.

Does this mean he’s into you? Not necessarily, but it’s a good sign that he sees you as more than just a pretty face. [Read: The subtle signs he likes you as more than a friend and wants to ask you out]

18. He initiates deep and meaningful conversations with you

If you’re still wondering, “is he into me,” think about the kind of conversations you two have with each other. [Read: 75 HUGE signs to tell if a guy likes you and secrets to make him like you more]

Aside from the flirting and the witty banter, does he try to get to know you on a very personal level? Does he talk about his life’s desires, dreams, and aspirations? Does he ask you about yours?

Only the people who genuinely care about you would want to know about your deepest desires and your dreams. And likewise, a guy who shares his innermost thoughts with you feels very close and emotionally invested in you.

19. He goes out of his way for you

Most guys don’t even like going out of their way for their girlfriends, so if he does for you, he may be trying to impress you and hope you make the first move. [Read: How to let a guy know you’re interested without appearing overeager]

For instance, if he brings you your coffee order every morning or buys you small gifts because something reminded him of you, he most likely likes you.

20. He offers to do things just for you

If you didn’t ask him for a favor but he offered to help, he may like you. For instance, if he offers to help you move, build IKEA furniture, or give you a ride to the airport, he probably likes you.

Not only does he want to do things for you, but these are all excuses to spend more time with you. [Read: Things nice guys do that are generally mistaken for flirting]

21. He asks you for help

If he asks for your help with something that requires spending time together, he may like you.

If he needs to buy a gift for his mom’s birthday or pick the perfect restaurant to throw his sister a party in and asks for you to research or shop with him, he probably likes you.

But if he wants you to do the work on your own, don’t take that as a respect for your abilities, but rather him taking advantage. [Read: How to spot a misogynist and run]

22. He acknowledges your relationship

What does that mean? If he says you make a good team or you work well together, he may just believe that in a literal sense.

But if he offers to do more together, whether in a group or alone, he probably is interested in you. He might not ask you out in an obvious way, but if he makes plans, even in a platonic sense, he is probably interested on some level.

23. He makes eye contact

Yes, this may be super subtle, but eye contact is such a major way to flirt and make a connection. Obviously, he’ll make eye contact in a conversation, you know, because he is a human being. [Read: What does prolonged eye contact when flirting mean?

But if he is across the room and you catch each other’s eyes, he may be interested. And if he walks by and smiles, and you notice he is consistently making eye contact with you when he doesn’t need to, he is most likely interested.

24. He leans toward you during a conversation

Body language is powerful. It actually accounts for about 80% of the meaning of a message. So, if he is leaning toward you, then that means he likes you. If he didn’t, he would be backing away from you and keeping space between the two of you.

25. He angles his body toward you in a room

Even if he is not sitting with you and having a conversation, he could still be angling his body toward you in some way.

This is because he wants to have the front of this body facing yours. It’s a subconscious message he’s sending that he wants your attention because he likes you.

26. He singles you out in a group

If you aren’t hanging out one-on-one, he tries to make it that way. Even if there are multiple people he could be talking to, he’ll always come over to talk to you if he is into you. [Read: 34 subtle ways to get out of the friend zone and make yourself VERY desirable]

Why else would he do that? He wouldn’t. Instead, he would just talk to whoever else he wanted to talk to.

27. He seems a little nervous

Girls aren’t the only ones who get nervous around the people they like. Guys feel that too. After all, they are human just like you. So, if he’s not the most confident guy or a little shy, then he will act like he’s a little anxious around you. Don’t worry – that’s actually a good sign!

28. *BONUS* Ask him

A lot of men like straight shooters. If you like him and want to know for sure, just ask. Tell him you feel a vibe and think he is flirting and want to know if you should take that seriously.

His answer to this will say it all. You’re a confident woman. So, whether he says yes or no, now you know you can do something about it or move on. [Read: These revealing signs will tell you if he doesn’t like you romantically]

29. He tells you

Some guys are shy but eventually when they get to the point where they’re pulling out their hair, they tell you. If you see all these signs, it’s only a matter of time until he tells you how he feels.

But, you can also beat a guy to it and quicken the process by sharing your feelings with him. Why not? Life is too short to wait and wonder.

30. He asks you questions

If he is asking you many questions, it’s because he wants to find out everything about you. He wouldn’t bother wasting his time and energy doing this on a girl he doesn’t like. [Read: 30 peculiar signs to look for when a guy likes you]

So if you feel a little like you are being grilled, it’s only because he really wants to get to know you better!

31. He totally ignores you

Often what can seem like hate is actually love. If a guy basically ignores you completely, it might not be what you think! Guys can be pretty bad at showing their feelings, especially when they like someone. 

Give him a chance, go easy on him, and see if you can’t make him feel more relaxed. [Read: How do I know if he likes me if he won’t talk to me?]

32. He buys you a drink

Simple but effective. If a guy asks you if you’d like a drink, it’s because he wants to show you that he’s chivalrous

If you like him, make sure you say yes! This might seem like an obvious one for telling if a guy is into you, but it’s usually true.

33. He asks you for your number… and then calls you

If a guy asks for your number, it’s a surefire way to know that he is interested in you. He obviously wants to keep that connection going and hopefully meet up with you again.

Of course, there are some guys out there who take those digits and then disappear into the night. So if he calls or texts you, then you’re on to a good thing for sure! [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

34. He wants to be social media buddies

If he’s adding you on Facebook and following you on Instagram, that is a really great sign. He is clearly interested enough in you to want to get to know you better, find out more about you, and daydream about you while checking out your profile pictures! 

It also shows that he has nothing to hide.

35. He makes a move

If a guy goes in for a kiss, it’s because he thinks you are seriously hot stuff! It may seem obvious, but then again, him making a move may get lost in translation if he is feeling a little nervous. [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and turn him on instantly]

36. He looks away

Okay, so sometimes guys are a little shy. So if he can’t maintain eye contact with you, keeps staring at the floor, and mumbles into his t-shirt, it’s probably because he likes you so much that you’re making him a little nervous!

37. He asks if you have a boyfriend

No, he isn’t just nosy! He wants to find out if you are free and single! Duh! [Read: Signs he really likes you but is too chicken to admit it]

38. He gets all fidgety

Another telltale sign of nerves here – if the guy is getting all twitchy around you, it’s probably because he thinks you are pretty dreamy, and you’re making his stomach go all fluttery! 

39. He acts all macho

If the guy you have a crush on suddenly goes all alpha male all the time when you are around, it is probably his way of showing off. He wants you to see him as manly and protective. This is his way of doing that, even if it might actually make him look like a bit of a doofus.

40. He gets all protective

Be it a comforting arm around your shoulder, leading you through a crowd, or sticking up for you when things get a bit rough, this guy is all about making sure you are safe and sound – how nice is that? [Read: 15 unfortunate signs he likes you but isn’t really into you]

41. He gets jealous

There is nothing worse than seeing the person you like with someone else. If he gets jealous when you talk to other guys, he wants you all for himself. And that’s how to tell if a guy is into you for sure!

42. He remembers the little things

That movie you said you wanted to see – he gets tickets for it. Your favorite restaurant – he’s taking you to it. That random necklace you mentioned you liked weeks ago – he bought it for you.

This guy is paying attention to everything you say and going all out to impress! [Read: Does he like you as more than a friend?]

43. He teases you

A guy making fun of you is usually just his silly way of flirting. Now, if he is rude, this is not a good sign. But, some lighthearted teasing means he is trying to flirt. 

44. He arrives early and stays late

Whatever you have asked him to do, whether it’s a dinner date or helping you out with a project, he always gets there before you and stays after everyone else has gone home.

He clearly wants to spend as much time getting to know you as he possibly can. Awwww. [Read: 40 things guys say when they like you and actions that mean a lot more]

45. He goes quiet

When a guy is into you, he may shut down. We know this doesn’t help his case, but he may just be quiet because he doesn’t know what to say. If you like him back, give him some time and help him feel comfortable around you. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to show you care]

46. He actively listens

Suppose you don’t like someone. You may tend to zone out when they talk. But, he actively listens. He lets you talk, doesn’t interrupt, and asks follow-up questions. He really cares about what you have to say. 

47. He ignores his phone

Most people are on their phones all day. If he is into you, he will turn it upside down or keep it in his pocket.

And when it goes off, he will ignore it because you have his full attention. [Read: How to live in the moment

48. He’s all over your social media

Not only does he follow you on social media, but he likes all your posts, watches all your stories, and maybe even comments. If he is sending you memes and tagging you in funny videos, he is totally into you. 

He wouldn’t be thinking of you when mindlessly scrolling through his feed if he didn’t like you.

49. He stumbles over his words and gets sweaty palms 

Just like you, when a guy is into you, he gets nervous. He may get flustered or stumble over his words. Or he may talk too fast. 

There are so many signs of nervousness, from sweating to clammy hands and even gas. If he shows these signs, he is probably into you. [Read: Signs of anxiety – how to read the signs ASAP and handle them better]

50. You feel it

Sometimes you just know. A woman’s intuition is nothing to ignore. 

51. His friend says so 

Has a guy ever come up to you in a bar and told you his friend over yonder thinks you’re attractive? If so, that is a definite sign he’s into you. 

Guys sometimes send their friends to do their dirty work. [Check out: Signs he likes you but is too chicken to admit it]

52. He can’t stop smiling at you 

A smile can tell you so much about how someone is feeling. If he’s smiling at you from across the room, and even while the two of you are talking, he likes you.

[Try: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

53. He ignores other people when you’re around 

It’s really easy to tell who’s into you when you’re in a group setting. If he sees you walk into the room and leaves anyone he’s talking to, just to come to find you, he really wants you.

Trust us, no guy will leave his buddies to talk to a girl if they’re not interested in them. 

54. He always looks sharp 

In other words, he always is dressed amazingly, is well-groomed, and smells delicious. A guy who has his eye on someone is going to try his best to look great for them. [Read: How to be more attractive]

55. He’s on his best behavior 

When you’re hanging out with him in a group with his friends and they’re all making crude jokes, and you notice he’s being quiet and just laughing along, he’s into you. He doesn’t want to do or say anything that might offend you—in any way.

56. He laughs at all your jokes 

Your jokes aren’t all funny—especially if you’re just not a funny person in general. But if he laughs at most of the things you say that aren’t even all that funny, he is thinking about asking you out.

57. He divulges intimate details about his life 

No guy is going to tell his deepest darkest secrets to just anybody. When guys tell you personal information about themselves, it’s because they like and trust you. [Read: How to get your man to open up]

58. You catch him looking from a distance 

If you turn your head and see him eyeing you from across the room, he’s interested in you. Guys don’t gawk for no reason.

59. He raises his eyebrows when talking to you 

It’s a proven scientific fact that a person raises their eyebrows when they’re interested in what you have to say. So, watch his facial expressions the next time you’re talking to him. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and girl]

60. He sits with his legs wide open 

This symptom of interest is far more scientific than the others. When a man likes you, his primal instincts tell him to show off his best “assets.” And human nature tells us that his crotch is apparently what we women want to see.

We’ll leave you to decide whether you agree with that one or not! [Read: 27 signs he likes you as more than a friend and wants to date you]

61. He does the plan making 

If he’s initiating when you’ll see each other next, where you’re going, and what you’re doing, he likes you. No guy goes to all that trouble for no reason.

62. He always seems cheery around you 

He’s going to be in a good mood around you if he has feelings for you. So if you find yourself noticing that he’s always happy, it’s because he’s into you. [Check out: 16 secrets to a perfectly happy relationship]

63. He tickles you 

Tickling indicates that he wants to touch you, hear your laugh, and see that adorable smile you’ve got. All of which are huge signs he’s into you.

Of course, this one is likely to only be the case if he knows you well enough to actually touch you in that way. Otherwise, it’s just creepy and a little inappropriate. 

64. He asks about your day 

Guys aren’t really ones for small talk. But if he’s asking you about how your day has been, he wants excuses to hear from you—and maybe he really does care!

65. He asks personal questions 

When a guy is just being polite, he’ll ask surface questions, like “what’s your job,” “where are you from,” etc. But if he’s into you, he’ll delve deeper into your personal information. [Next, read: How to know if a guy likes you for real]

66. You feel you can be yourself around him 

The thing about having a crush is that you never feel comfortable around him, you’re always nervous. But with this guy, you feel yourself.

You can laugh, be goofy, and just have a good time. This is a huge sign that he’s into you because he’s going out of his way to make you comfortable. [Read: The signs he’s ready for a relationship with you and signs he’s not]

67. He’s asked you about your feelings toward relationships 

He’s had “the talk” with you and wanted to know how you feel about being in an exclusive relationship and whether you’re ready for it. Well, if you’re still wondering if he likes you, you need to get your ears checked. [Read: The 15 signs he’s ready for a relationship with you] 

68. He doesn’t send you booty call texts 

If a guy only texts you at night to see “what you’re doing,” then he’s looking for a booty call. But is this guy texting you during the day? If so, there’s more to this interaction than just sex.

69. He’s keen to help when you ask 

A guy who is into you will jump at the chance to help you with something. But, he won’t assume you need help. 

If you say you need help moving or that the copy machine is busted, he will help without complaint but he won’t just take control if you don’t need it. [Read: How to get a shy guy to feel courageous and ask you out]

70. He encourages you

A guy who is into you wants you to be happy. If you mention you’ve always wanted to go skydiving and you get the opportunity, he will encourage you to do it. 

A guy who isn’t into you will apply his own agenda.

71. He lets you know his future plans

It’s not that he’s about to drop down onto one knee and propose, but he’s gently letting you know what he wants in his future. That’s simply because he’d quite like you to be a part of it. [Read: 12 life questions to help you visualize your future]

72. He offers to buy you things 

If you’re out and you see a cupcake you think is cute, he offers to get it for you. He’s not being presumptuous or flashy here, he simply wants to treat you because it makes you smile. That’s one of the best ways to answer the question of if he is into you.

73. He treats your belongings with respect

Put simply, he treats you, your belongings, and anything connected to you with the utmost respect. He’s on his best behavior and he wants you to know it. 

74. His friends try to leave the two of you alone

He’s no doubt told his buddies that he likes you and they’re doing their best to give him the space he needs to woo you!

If you’re all out together and suddenly you find that you’re alone, it’s probably because they’ve strategically moved away! [Read: 40 secret signs a friend likes you romantically even if they’re hiding it]

75. His actions match his words 

He wants you to know that you can depend on him. When he tells you he’s going to do something, he does it. He doesn’t let you down or leave you wondering. 

That’s how to tell if a guy is into you – he’s keen for you to know he’ll always be there for you. [Read: Does he or doesn’t he see a future with you?]

76. He drunk dials you

This is not a booty call, it’s completely different. If he’s drunk, he calls you. Why? Because when we’re drunk, our walls are down and we act on our emotions. 

You’re on his mind whether he’s drunk or sober. But when he’s had a few drinks, he can’t stop himself from reaching out.

77. He defends you when someone insults you

He’s not going to sit around and let someone talk trash about you. He’ll stand up for you and let them know that they’re out of order. 

Of course, you don’t want him fighting for you, but it’s probably not out of the question depending on what the person has said. [Read: Key differences – protective boyfriend or controlling boyfriend?]

78. He takes care of you when you’re not feeling well

He might bring you some chicken soup or your favorite cookie. Either way, he’ll do what he can to make you feel better and comfort you when you’re sick. 

79. Hugs last just a fraction longer than they should

A regular, platonic hug lasts just a couple of seconds, and that’s it. However, one of the signs he’s into you is that hugs last just a little longer. You can feel it, it’s like he doesn’t want to let go. 

80. He takes a deep breath when he sees you

You might notice him taking a quick, deep breath. This is a subconscious thing because it makes his shoulders look broader and his waist smaller.

Evolution tells us this is apparently an attractive thing to women. [Read: Science of attraction – 17 things that are far sexier than looks]

81. His voice changes into a slower, sweeter tone

He’s relaxed around you and he feels able to let his guard down. This is likely to happen after a few flirting sessions and once he’s got to know you better. 

He’s over the deep voice, peacocking behavior, and now he’s chilling. He feels comfortable around you. [Read: Attraction theory – what makes you desirable in someone’s eyes?

What to do when he’s into you

Okay, now you know how to tell if a guy is into you, what are you going to do about it?

Well, it really depends on whether you like him, or if you’re not interested in him romantically.

Your first decision is to work out which of these scenarios is yours. [Read: Do I like him? Easy questions to reveal the answer in a minute]

1. Don’t overthink it

Maybe you’re not too sure right now but you’re on the fence. That’s okay. Why not spend a little time around him and see how you feel then?

You don’t have to rush or overthink this. 

2. Pay attention to how you feel and work out if you like him 

When you’re in his company, how do you feel? If he’s not around, do you think of him? Zone in on how he makes you feel and use that information to work out whether you like him or not. [Read: How to show a guy you like him and charm him while being a real tease]

3. If he’s too cryptic, don’t bother

If he’s sending you mixed messages, don’t waste your time on him. He’s either not sure how he feels himself or he’s playing games. Neither is a situation you have time for. 

4. Talk to him about it 

If you’re pretty sure you’re seeing major signs he’s into you and you think you might be into him too, talk about it. Suggest a date. 

If you’re sure you’re not into him, approach this conversation carefully but let him know that you see him as a friend only. [Read: How to understand the differences between men and women]

Knowing that a guy likes you can feel like a very powerful position. But, that doesn’t mean you can lead him on or make him feel bad about it. Approach this with empathy and care and assess how you feel before you say or do anything. 

Men are not that complicated

There’s one last thing you need to know before you decide whether or not this guy is into you. Men are really not that complicated. In fact, they are quite simple. [Read: Mars and Venus – obvious gender differences in communication]

While women overanalyze, overthink, worry, and freak out about every little detail, guys just don’t do that. They stick to the simple facts. Regardless of what women think, they don’t purposely try to send mixed messages about their intentions toward you.

The bottom line is this: if a man likes you, then you will know. You won’t have to decode all the signs because eventually he will step up to the plate and ask you out. Until then, use this list to calm yourself down.

[Read: 45 signs he loves you even if he can’t say it out loud]

[Read: How to get your crush to like you – 22 ways to make them fall hard]

How to know if a guy is into you doesn’t have to be tricky. Keep yourself focused on spotting these signs to give you all the information you need.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...