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25 Moves to Get a Player to Like You & Hook Him Before He Hooks You

You like this guy, but he’s a bad boy. You sit around trying to figure out how to get him to notice you. So, here’s how to get a player to like you.

how to get a player to like you

So, you like a player, and you want him to like you back. But how do you get a player to like you? How are you going to manage that? Well, that’s why you’re here. We’re going to guide you through the art of knowing how to get a player to like you.

But please, please remember, this person is a player. So, while you try to get them to like you, don’t get played yourself.

[Read: What makes someone a player? The biggest giveaways of a sly guy’s mind]

Why do you want to get a player to like you?

Before we tell you how to get a player to like you, we first want you to sit down and have an honest conversation with yourself.

Ask some hard questions like this. What do you like about players? What is it that attracts you to them? Do you really want to invest so much of your time and effort into someone who clearly doesn’t like being tied down? Do you just like the drama? Is it all worth it? [Read: How to tell if a guy is just playing you – 40 clear signs he’s just using you]

Here are some common reasons for liking players, but still, that doesn’t justify all the effort especially if he just has no plans of committing to one girl.

1. Thrill of the chase

People want what they can’t have. You’ve heard that before, right? It’s sad, but it’s true.

If we think something or someone is out of our reach, it makes us want it more. Plus, you want to know how to get a player to like you because the journey to try to “catch” him is fun and exciting.

2. He’s unattainable

The fact that you might not ever, ever get him, is also attractive to some girls.

Why is that? Well, it’s different for everyone. There are probably a lot of subconscious reasons that they don’t even know about themselves. [Read: 21 signs he wants you bad and is irresistibly attracted to you]

Players are usually popular. Whether it’s at a school, a club, or at work, people know who he is.

He’s probably good-looking and charming too, which is why he’s popular. And let’s face it, many girls go for the popular guys.

4. He’s a status symbol

Because he’s popular and pretty unattainable, it automatically makes him somewhat of a status symbol. If, by the off chance you actually do get to go out with him, you think that your social status will go up just by association.

5. You like the drama

As we all know, players love the drama. It’s never predictable or safe when you’re involved with – or chasing after – a player. You never know what to expect, and that drama is very exciting and addictive to some girls. [Read: Guys who play games – 17 signs and reasons and why and what you need to do]

6. You’re self-sabotaging

Maybe your self-esteem and self-worth are pretty low. In fact, you don’t think you deserve to be treated well by other people for some reason.

If that’s true, then you are subconsciously going after a bad boy because you expect to get rejected. You wouldn’t know what to do with yourself if a nice guy treated you with respect.

7. You think you can change him

Okay, this one is so common, but it’s really important that you understand this. Even if you do get a player to like you and go out with you, there is not a chance that you will change him.

But you secretly *or not so secretly* hope that he will fall in love with you and want to change his ways. Wake up… that is never going to happen. [Read: Why won’t he change? Why guys say they will but never do]

8. If you get him, it will make you feel special

Let’s say that you do get that bad boy player to like you. Well, you might think that makes you special.

You “settled him down” and that makes you think that you are different than the other girls. So, that’s why you keep chasing after him. Not because of him so much, but more because of yourself. [Read: 19 signs of low self esteem in a girl that shows you need self love right now]

9. Nice guys are boring

For some reason, there is that saying, “nice guys finish last.” That’s really sad, because nice guys aren’t necessarily boring at all. But they do have a lot less drama than a player.

And unfortunately, a lot of girls prefer the soap opera of a bad boy.

10. You don’t have to be good yourself

If you are involved with a player or are trying to get him to like you, you know he won’t play by the rules. He’ll probably cheat on you and treat you badly.

Well, maybe in your subconscious mind you like that because it gives you permission to behave badly yourself. You don’t have to stick to morals and ethics because he doesn’t… so why should you?

[Read: Dammit, why doesn’t he like me back? 31 reasons why guys do this]

How to get a player to like you and fall hard

As we just discussed, a lot of girls love chasing after players because they enjoy the challenge. If he looks, acts, and talks like a player, they are automatically into him. How could they not be, right?

Players are usually pretty good looking, know exactly what to say, and the right moves to make. Usually as girls get older, they realize what a waste of time it is. But, in the moment, they love it.

Listen, do we think you should get a player to like you? No, we don’t. We’re old school when it comes to this.

Players aren’t people who change magically overnight. But if you want to get a player to like you and you’ve made up your mind, you’re not going to let that get in the way of winning over his affection. Listen, we really hope it works out for you. Go get him, girl.

[Read: How to play a guy at his own game – 40 tricks to make sure you win no matter what]

1. Focus on friendship

We know you want to jump straight into the sexy guy’s bed, but you need to develop a relationship with him first. He’s a player which means he’s used to women falling for him. This guy can get any girl in the room, so this isn’t a problem for him.

But you need to offer him something else, something he doesn’t get with the other girls—friendship. Being his friend gives you an advantage. [Read: Why do guys play hard to get? The truth, 21 reasons, and what you need to do next]

2. Don’t be like the others

You see the other women falling for him and chasing him around. Don’t do this if you want to learn the art of knowing how to get a player to like you.

Remember, focus on building a friendship. If you act like the other women, he’ll see you like them. It is definitely hard, but act relaxed, in the same way you would act with your other friends.

3. Rock your confidence

If you want to make someone like you, be confident. This is a player we’re talking about, remember? They’re used to being around women and getting what they want.

Show him you love yourself and know what you’re worth. This will give him the desire to chase you because he knows you’re not going to be an easy catch. Keep your head high, shoulders back, and work that walk, girl! [Read: 30 effortlessly easy and sexy ways to keep a guy interested and hooked]

4. Don’t tell him you like him

Oh, we know you want to just blurt it out, but don’t. He’s a player which means he’s all about games.

If he knows how you feel about him right away, in his head, he’s already won. You need to put on a convincing poker face. This doesn’t mean you need to be an ice queen, but don’t be the one who confesses your feelings first. Give it time.

5. Get seducing

Well, it’s time to work your charm. That’s right, seduce him. Yes, he’s a player, but at the end of the day, he’s also a human. And when a man sees a confident woman who’s seducing him, it’s hard for him to resist.

This doesn’t mean you need to completely change the way you dress or how you do your makeup, but you should add a little flirting and eye contact into the mix. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

6. Comfortable is sexy

The traditional way of seducing a man and getting a player to like you is to put on a tight dress and heels, but you don’t have to do that.

You can if you want, but what people find most appealing is when someone is comfortable with themselves. This can be in a tight dress, or something more casual. There’s no seduction outfit you need to wear. Put on something that makes you feel sexy.

7. Be what he can’t have

That’s right. We know you want the player to have you, but right now, you need to make it look like he can’t have it.

Players are always getting what they want, that’s why they’re players. But, be someone he can’t have when he snaps his fingers. If you want a player to genuinely like you, he needs to work for your attention. [Read: How to get any guy to notice you and fall for you]

8. Be independent

Players are always around women that want to be with them. Women that need them around. But no guy wants a woman who’s going to hang off of him, especially a player.

When it comes to players, this is usually why they never commit. Sure, they like women, but the ones they’re with become clingy. So, live your own life. Join an activity, hang out with your friends, do your own thing. [Read: 26 good qualities of a woman every guy is always looking for]

9. Don’t be so available

This is something that’s really important. A player always has a couple of girls on his phone who are available whenever he needs them. You don’t want to be that girl.

Because once that happens, you’ll never leave that spot. If he calls or texts you, don’t reply right away. You need to show him he’s not on your priority list. [Read: How to play hard to get with a guy and leave him craving for you]

10. Get along with his friends

Unless you don’t like his friends… then maybe you should reconsider this entire plan.

But, if you do like his friends, well, this is a great time to get to know them. A player has a strong support system amongst his male friends. They usually have an entourage. If you want to leave an impression on him, get to know his friends.

11. Be supportive

If you’re developing the friendship, great. But being a friend is more than just hanging out together. You need to show him that you’re there for him.

He probably doesn’t express his emotions to other women very often. But by being there for him, you show him the relationship is genuine and safe. [Read: How to get someone to open up and really connect]

12. Cool it with the compliments

Of course, you want to tell him he looks cute today or that you like his shirt. You can do it, with a limit.

Don’t be the person who’s throwing compliments at him like flies. It’s okay to validate his ego or self-esteem. But, if it’s excessive, well, you’ll be seeing more of his ego than anything.

13. Rock his world

If you get to the point where you are going to have sex, well, good for you. It’s not easy to make it that far. This is the night where you rock his world. Of course, he’ll need to rock yours too.

If the sex ends up being amazing, he won’t be a player anymore. He’s been with many women, so, this needs to make him change his mind about what he’s doing in life. [Read: What makes a girl good in bed -The subtle things that rock a guy’s world]

14. Be patient

We know you want this to happen quickly, but when it comes to people’s emotions, it’s not something you can force. You need to give him time to relax, open up to you, and develop a connection. If it’s a genuine connection and friendship, it’s not going to blossom overnight.

We know it can be hard because you want this player to like you, and you want things to move forward, but you can’t push too hard. Just chill. [Read: Stop chasing him – Why guys run even further when you pursue them]

15. Know when to move on

That being said, you’re probably not going to wait around for years and years. At some point, if you’re feeling he’s not into you that way, it’s time to let it go. It’s hard, we know, but what are you doing to yourself?

You can’t end up being the person who hangs around a guy endlessly, waiting for the moment when he realizes he likes you. That moment won’t happen, at least not when you’re glued to his side.

[Read: How to know when to stop texting a guy and move on with your life]

You know how to get a player to like you. Now, the next step is actually doing it. You just need to own what you’re doing, and he’ll fall head over heels.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...