How to Get a Fuck Buddy



how to get a fuck buddy

How does the first touch lead to a physical relationship between friends? How can two friends become fuck buddies? Find out how to get a fuck buddy right here.

Click here to read more in the introduction on how to have sex with a friend.

How to get a fuck buddy

In most cases, fuck buddies are just not planned. It just seems to happen by itself.

Unlike love, the characteristic about fuck buddies is that there is no planning, no first impressions and definitely no heartfelt gifts.

And the rest just seems to happen all by itself. [Quiz: Are you a fuck buddy potential?]

Of course, there has to be a wee bit of lustful flirting and mutual attraction. Other than that, there’s nothing at all that should be done to start a fuck buddy relationship.

When do people become fuck buddies?

It can happen when you least expect it. And surprisingly, most of the times, a fuck buddy is found when you’re down in the pits, almost always when you’re trying to get over a broken relationship. [Read: Top 10 sexiest songs to have sex to]

Adie, a 26 year old working at an advertising firm says she has a fuck buddy with whom she’s physically intimate, and loves the fact that she has someone with whom she can relate physically, and yet not be held down by the rules of love.

Says Adie, “It’s great to have a sex buddy actually. I used to go out with a guy who I thought was great. Things were perfect, and one fine day, I catch him necking a colleague of mine in the parking lot. I broke up with him with a straight face, but inside, I was devastated. I poured my heart out to this guy who’s a great friend of mine, and a consoling hug led from a simple hug to an all out lustful romp.”

One can end up becoming fuck buddies with a common friend, not just through an act of consoling, but also on a drunken escapade. One pint too many can have your hands moving over more than just the curves of your glass, and you’d probably end up with your arms round the shoulder of an attractive friend. [Read: Drunk girls always end up kissing other guys]

And well, a roving hand just can’t stop over a warm shoulder, can it?

The bright side of fuck buddies

When you’re ambitious and cannot understand the point of thinking about someone else’s feelings and happiness, or if you just don’t want to be held down by another person’s feelings, a fuck buddy is a perfect solution. You don’t have to keep in touch with this person every day or every week, nor do you have to remember anniversaries or put up with cute little love tantrums.

But you can always call your fuck buddy and go all the way, whenever and wherever you want. This form of non-committal love can be fun, if you’re still looking for that hint of long term love, but just don’t want to jump in, especially if you’ve always felt that true love can wait while you explore the different opportunities life has to offer.

And most people, who are afraid of commitment, and even more scared of the typical one night stand, find this whole arrangement of fuck buddies a bit more secure and comforting. [Read: 20 sexy things about a girl that turns guys on]

Is there a dark side of fuck buddies?

As much as I’d love to prove that there is a deep, dark abyss to fuck buddies, there just isn’t one. There’s nothing wrong in hooking up with someone just because you are physically attracted to someone.

Nor is there anything wrong in having someone as a fuck buddy just because this person is your buddy. And are you going to get an STD by doing this? Well, as much as we’d like to skirt the issue, no one is ever completely safe from an STD, we all have heard of cheating partners and the ‘I-just-wanted-to-know-how-it-would-feel-like’ types of lovers.

The only issue that may crop up is, perhaps, you falling in love with your fuck buddy or getting a huge crush on them. [Read: Do you have a crush on your friend?]

Getting yourself a fuck buddy

Remember, getting yourself a fuck buddy is very different from getting yourself a loving partner. It just doesn’t work the same way. You can’t woo someone into sleeping with you, or get them drunk in the hope of having sex. It has to happen naturally, over time. And there has to be mutual sexual attraction.

But the best way to get yourself a fuck buddy is by text flirting and seeing if your hot friend starts reciprocating. We’ve got an entire guide on text flirting [Read: How to text flirt and seduce a friend], which should help you get yourself an attractive fuck buddy.

Now that you know how to get a fuck buddy, go on and read about its advantages and little disadvantages in the fuck buddy guide.

70036 56

We’re trying hard to create better relationships in the world. But we can’t do it without YOU!
Did this feature help you better yourself or your relationship? You can change someone else’s life too!

  • Pingback: Friend to Lover Guide | Are You Falling for a Friend?()

  • Pingback: How to Have Sex with a Friend | Edition 6()

  • Pingback: Having an Affair with a Married Man | Married Men and Affairs()

  • Pingback: Male Fantasies - Black Book of Top Male Fantasies - Lovepanky()

  • Pingback: How to Text Flirt With A Friend - Text Flirting - Lovepanky()

  • jason

    i take everything i said back. now that i think about it i can only last about 30 seconds. im also questioning my sexuality because i watched a porn and i didnt finish until i saw the guy climax

  • Jesse

    I’ve been married for 4 yeard and have not had sex yor 14 months. My wife sayes she not in to it now and its not me its her what do I do??

  • erik wirkus


  • Wildgoose

    Jesse..should start jerking off at night during bedtime…do it loudly..she gonna find it strange..then let her know…

  • Aria

    I broke up with my boyfriend because he was having sex with one of my closets friends so I called his friend over because I was feeling depressed and needed to be cherred up and we have been buddies since then were actually in a relationship now
    aria and jared <3 6 whole years yay

  • K

    I’m in college and I have a friend I hook up with regularly. It happened out of the clear blue one day lol It’s also cool and easy because college is good for F*ck buddies, especially living on campus hehehe…the only reason I am hooking up and nothing more is I am transferring at the end of the term and so there is no point in us trying to get to know each other and have feelings for one another because i am leaving and not doing long distance….so a hook up buddy comes in handy when you are single and between stable relationships

  • http://facebook loue

    II just looking for sex.

  • arora

    I have had a “f*ck buddy” off and on for the past 9 years and he is one of my best friends. We love each other, so u can have a f*ck buddy that is just friends and still love them. Hes an amazing friend even when we are both in other committed relationships we still hang out every other week or so and grab some beers with a friend or two.

  • Nicegirl33

    I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years our sex life is going very bad.. It can go for like 2 weeks -3 weeks without sex. It’s not me I try everything but he really says not tonight or is always tired..If we argue it goes to 2-3days before something happens..I m tired of pressure him…Cuz he gets angry and just gives me his back..I love him but I can’t keep doing this

  • lostboii

    Same as nicegirl33. Im with my girlfriend for almost 2 yrars. We first had sex like after 3 months into the relationship. At that time, she used to crave for more, i think because it was out first time. But now, she wouldnt even bother when i ask her for sex. This can last for months.

    Wish i had friend with benefits.

  • destiny

    I want a lesbian buddy right now

  • Dren

    XD Getting a fuck buddy doesn’t take time, I have about four want to be’s lined up right now. There are at least six others I could get into bed by dropping a few hits. Whether you’re looking for them or not they’ll come XD

  • Genuine niceguy

    Hi, I an a 47 yo man and have been divorced for several years. I dont want the commitment of a full on relationship but like the idea of a mutual fuck buddy in the Geelong area but not sure how to go about sharing private fun times with a girl. I am well experienced and can keep quiet. I can give someone contact details if interested to start with talking, Thanks for reading.

  • colin

    No one has mentionned it on here but having a FB might also be a way of having different types of sex, fetishes, or whatever. Im very open to all types of sex, it’s just for fun and sexual relief.

  • [email protected]

    The reason fuck buddies exist is because prostitution isn’t legal. I had a man ask me for one of these arrangements. After listening to him I came to the conclusion what he really wanted was a hooker. I told him I would agree if he agreed to pay me for my emotionless sex with no strings until like he said the right woman came along, He basically said he has no interest in dating me , doesn’t want a relationship with me an I came to learn he doesn’t even like me. However he is sexually attracted to me. LOL Ladies the out come is always the same hurt feelings and the man moves on . Please ladies for the sake of us all make them give you money for your services or tell them to get lost.

  • Breanna

    I have a friend a flirt with a lot he talks about sex with me a lot and so do I I need help on how to ask him if he wants to be fuck buddies

  • jerry don galloway

    i am lookin for that someone !

  • Eric

    To the women who aren’t getting sex from their boyfriends: he’s not into you anymore. He wants the strange. You should experiment yourself and get a fuck buddy. Be safe. Maybe i can be your next. :)

  • Mee

    I was in a relationship for a few years and I’m into experimenting with girls and guys. Being a new single girl I feel right about trying new avenues for a while.

  • Ellouise

    I just love big tit women that I can have sex with, whether it be on the stairs or in bed!

  • aGuy

    Yes, fuck buddies are great.
    I have two girl “friends”, i’ve been fuck buddies with each of them for about a year without them knowing from eachoter.
    So recently one of them told the other what we’ve been doing, and now I’m getting threesomes.
    It’s like those pornmovies coming true!
    If this kind of student life is my destiny, I’ll accept it with both hands. May it last for as long as possible #yolo :D!

  • http://lovepanky paula

    I got my fb after flirting with him at work, he kept talking dirty and just told him promises, promises…and we finally got it together. He is younger than I, so I like having “no commitments..” ;)


    To the person that left the boy friend because he was fucking your girl friends! Well what kind of friends do you have that would give up the pussy to him, An did you know that he liked to have sex with other lady’s your friends or others? If you knew this in the beginning, ten you had a choice ! Ether join in with him or walk away if it was not what you like! See there many times WE put our self’s in a relationship that is not what we really want an thinking that the person will change. Will I was one of them men who liked to have sex or fuck other lady or friends. The ladys that where with knew this an would ask if they may come with me an join in , Well Yes I said, if it makes you feel good do it, as long as you are not going out of your way to hurt some one or your being a lair to your mate .

  • Kris

    Having a FWB is great to have. Sex between a woman and a man is a normal, natural, and healthy essential balance to life in and of itself! If a woman and a man is mature enough then they should understand that a FWB is a wonderful and special friend. Oh I shouldn’t forget a neuromuscular tension release also helps keep things in a proper perspective and really helps with a more favorable attitude and a much more pleasant way of being. ” Nothing ventured Nothing gained “

  • Tristan

    I was married for a few years but always had some attraction to other guys. I have tried a few times to be with another guy and it felt great. I am divorced now, working long hours and would love to find a normal straight guy who would let me five him a hand job and a blow j. Really would like a normal next door guy, wouldn’t even mind giving him a financial help. Just not sure how to do it or find one.

  • nadeem

    Tristan … I am for u..

  • Rose

    It is possible to fall in love with your fuck buddy, right? Because I did and now we are dating…

  • [email protected]

    Hi,I for one do strongly believe in fuck buddies or “friends with benefits” and have been attempting to get a man and woman buddy for a short time. Though,without luck.Anyways I think I would be great for you Tristan,if you think so email me.


    I Just got out of a 3 year relationship and it has been the most terrible experience of my life. I miss her all the time and I need a special friend that I can talk to and maybe more. I am not interested in anything serious right now because I’m still reeling from all of this its been hard. If there is a sweet and pretty girl that isn’t afraid to share intimacy with a good guy then give me a shout I am anxiously awaiting.

  • riung

    i think fb is what i am looking for. i am a good guy never cheating. but i am interested never try it before. i want to have fb as soon as possible

  • B McClaine

    Thirteen months ago I lost my spouse of 37 years. Two months ago I started looking for a friend with benefits so fore nothing all my friends are married. I don’t want a relationship I just want the benefits. I’m a 64 year old full figure still hungry for sex all I want is a fuck buddy.

  • B McClaine

    One of my grand kids saw my post can it be deleted

  • Sexydood101

    Wow, this basically describes it!

  • victor

    i was just looking out some that loves me and i love too, and i saw this girl she was looking so beautiful and well packaged and i went and talked to her she accepted to be my girlfriend and our relationship was getting to two month she began to ask me to come to bed with her and i like it but i don’t want to dis-virgin myself until am married. when i told her this she left me in anger but i just want to propose to her the next day because she was the one i love and wanted to marry.
    what do i do i am still in-love with the girl
    anything she want i will give it to her but not sex except we are married.

  • gerry

    You women are fuktup in the head.


    more and more adults are using the internet for a discreet or casual fbuddy.. friends with benefits is fine.. but in my experience it is ultimately un-fulfilling and no substitute to sharing your life with one special person

  • Tom

    I’m just looking for a friendly fuck friend at about my age

  • alican

    Am single been in a long relationship just want to have fun all night long

  • Elt

    I’m not so much looking for a fuck buddy as intensely interested in going down/getting off any attractive woman I see. There are dozens of women I see every day that I would just want to politely ask, “do you mind if I give you some of the best head you’ve ever had. I just want to feel/hear/smell/taste them come a few times-not even a quid pro quo.
    Are their any women who can offer any tips on how to increase my chances? I am a tall,attractive, fit, mid-40s professional who has never had a problem dating beautiful women. For some reason, that’s no longer enough. I’ve had a number of experiences w/ women capable of multiple orgasms and it’s made me obsessed with a woman arousal and climax

  • stormigrl

    I have a sex buddy and he is amazing in bed. we both had relationships.
    I have fwb’s in the past but they didn’t really talk thst much. We fill the void of what we want in life. I really want a relationship one day but this is great as a temporary thing. We text pretty much daily. The sex is amazing as compared to past fwb’s. :)

  • Scott

    I’m tired of waiting when I should be able to have sex without asking I need it always , I’m always in need and I am pushed to the side by my wife

  • jesse taylor

    I have a friend that I like very much but were not on the same page about fucking. She fucks me but not like I need it. We have many conflicts about it & I need something different.

  • Mike

    I’m married but my wife lost all her sex drive after mentapause it’s been over a year. I’m sorry for your loss. Manet we can help each other

  • Mike

    What town do you live in. We are looking for the exact same thing

  • SimonDiad

    A what’s too all the sexy brown rose …

  • EddieMarriage

    Well come on, this really only applies to good looking people. I have been going out with a lady for 7 months now, several times a month, and the other day she dropped a bomb on me that we will never be more than “just friends”. In all these months, not once have we ever kissed, let alone gone beyond that. Well, once I tried to kiss her in the car, and she turned away. She likes going out with me, and texts me like crazy, but she said this: “you are not attractive to me”. Her Facebook shows that her previous relationships were with much better looking men than me. Apparently, she bases romance upon a man’s facial features.

    Anyway, when I suggested we could be just fuck-buddies instead, she threw her head back and laughed. “If I’m not attracted to you for a relationship”, she said, “I am not attracted for you for sex. You are just not good enough looking for me, period.”

    And therein lies the rub: fuck-buddies need to be good looking.

  • EddieMarriage

    All the time I was in college I never had a fuck-buddy. Never had sex. I wanted to, but girls were not interested in me. At the dances, I asked them to dance, some would dance with me, but look around the room. Apparently I was not good enough looking for them. Pretty well all the college girls were shallow and superficial. I was a really nice guy, kind, gentle, funny. But not good enough looking. Very sad.

  • EddieMarriage

    I haven’t had sex in 16 years. I am not good enough looking for women my age. They are all shallow and superficial. They pretend that they aren’t. But they are. They write on dating websites that they want, “oh a man who is kind and gentle and sweet and makes me laugh and is a gentleman and listens to me and…” Bull. All they want is a handsome stud. The rest? Well, once they land that stud, then they will mold him into the “perfect” man. They will make him kind and gentle and sweet and a good listener and funny, yadda, yadda. But he’s gotta be good looking or no dice. Men aren’t shallow; it’s women who are.

  • John McMaster

    If you still want a fuck buddy I’m interested how about some fun

  • John Wanamaker

    Attraction comes from more than just looks. You should read up on the art of seduction. I mean, come on. Nothing happened the first 7 months.. Did you really need her to spell it out for you as she did? You’ve got this, my friend! Maybe not with this specific women but you got this. It will take some studying on seduction, implementing your studies on a great variety of prospective women, and dealing with the rejection that comes with learning the stuff. Easier said than done, I know. However, this is exactly what needs to be done for you get the casual relationship or even formal relationship you desire.

  • Andrew

    This assumes that you already have an opposite sex friend who wants to be your fuck buddy; I don’t. I want to find a sexy girl and turn her from a stranger straight into my fuck buddy. I don’t want to be friends first. I want to shag her within minutes of meeting her, then shag her again every day thereafter. No taking her out on dates, no giving her presents, no being a shoulder to cry on, no meeting her family, no putting up shelves in her house.