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How does the first touch lead to a physical relationship between friends? How can two friends become fuck buddies? Find out how to get a fuck buddy right here.

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How to get a fuck buddy

In most cases, fuck buddies are just not planned. It just seems to happen by itself.

Unlike love, the characteristic about fuck buddies is that there is no planning, no first impressions and definitely no heartfelt gifts.

And the rest just seems to happen all by itself. [Quiz: Are you a fuck buddy potential?]

Of course, there has to be a wee bit of lustful flirting and mutual attraction. Other than that, there’s nothing at all that should be done to start a fuck buddy relationship.

When do people become fuck buddies?

It can happen when you least expect it. And surprisingly, most of the times, a fuck buddy is found when you’re down in the pits, almost always when you’re trying to get over a broken relationship. [Read: Top 10 sexiest songs to have sex to]

Adie, a 26 year old working at an advertising firm says she has a fuck buddy with whom she’s physically intimate, and loves the fact that she has someone with whom she can relate physically, and yet not be held down by the rules of love.

Says Adie, “It’s great to have a sex buddy actually. I used to go out with a guy who I thought was great. Things were perfect, and one fine day, I catch him necking a colleague of mine in the parking lot. I broke up with him with a straight face, but inside, I was devastated. I poured my heart out to this guy who’s a great friend of mine, and a consoling hug led from a simple hug to an all out lustful romp.”

One can end up becoming fuck buddies with a common friend, not just through an act of consoling, but also on a drunken escapade. One pint too many can have your hands moving over more than just the curves of your glass, and you’d probably end up with your arms round the shoulder of an attractive friend. [Read: Drunk girls always end up kissing other guys]

And well, a roving hand just can’t stop over a warm shoulder, can it?

The bright side of fuck buddies

When you’re ambitious and cannot understand the point of thinking about someone else’s feelings and happiness, or if you just don’t want to be held down by another person’s feelings, a fuck buddy is a perfect solution. You don’t have to keep in touch with this person every day or every week, nor do you have to remember anniversaries or put up with cute little love tantrums.

But you can always call your fuck buddy and go all the way, whenever and wherever you want. This form of non-committal love can be fun, if you’re still looking for that hint of long term love, but just don’t want to jump in, especially if you’ve always felt that true love can wait while you explore the different opportunities life has to offer.

And most people, who are afraid of commitment, and even more scared of the typical one night stand, find this whole arrangement of fuck buddies a bit more secure and comforting. [Read: 20 sexy things about a girl that turns guys on]

Is there a dark side of fuck buddies?

As much as I’d love to prove that there is a deep, dark abyss to fuck buddies, there just isn’t one. There’s nothing wrong in hooking up with someone just because you are physically attracted to someone.

Nor is there anything wrong in having someone as a fuck buddy just because this person is your buddy. And are you going to get an STD by doing this? Well, as much as we’d like to skirt the issue, no one is ever completely safe from an STD, we all have heard of cheating partners and the ‘I-just-wanted-to-know-how-it-would-feel-like’ types of lovers.

The only issue that may crop up is, perhaps, you falling in love with your fuck buddy or getting a huge crush on them. [Read: Do you have a crush on your friend?]

Getting yourself a fuck buddy

Remember, getting yourself a fuck buddy is very different from getting yourself a loving partner. It just doesn’t work the same way. You can’t woo someone into sleeping with you, or get them drunk in the hope of having sex. It has to happen naturally, over time. And there has to be mutual sexual attraction.

But the best way to get yourself a fuck buddy is by text flirting and seeing if your hot friend starts reciprocating. We’ve got an entire guide on text flirting [Read: How to text flirt and seduce a friend], which should help you get yourself an attractive fuck buddy.

Now that you know how to get a fuck buddy, go on and read about its advantages and little disadvantages in the fuck buddy guide.

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  • jason
    April 22, 2012 | Permalink |

    i take everything i said back. now that i think about it i can only last about 30 seconds. im also questioning my sexuality because i watched a porn and i didnt finish until i saw the guy climax

  • Jesse
    August 24, 2012 | Permalink |

    I’ve been married for 4 yeard and have not had sex yor 14 months. My wife sayes she not in to it now and its not me its her what do I do??

  • erik wirkus
    August 29, 2012 | Permalink |


  • October 11, 2012 | Permalink |

    Jesse..should start jerking off at night during bedtime…do it loudly..she gonna find it strange..then let her know…

  • Aria
    December 1, 2012 | Permalink |

    I broke up with my boyfriend because he was having sex with one of my closets friends so I called his friend over because I was feeling depressed and needed to be cherred up and we have been buddies since then were actually in a relationship now
    aria and jared <3 6 whole years yay

  • K
    December 2, 2012 | Permalink |

    I’m in college and I have a friend I hook up with regularly. It happened out of the clear blue one day lol It’s also cool and easy because college is good for F*ck buddies, especially living on campus hehehe…the only reason I am hooking up and nothing more is I am transferring at the end of the term and so there is no point in us trying to get to know each other and have feelings for one another because i am leaving and not doing long distance….so a hook up buddy comes in handy when you are single and between stable relationships

  • December 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    II just looking for sex.

  • arora
    January 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have had a “f*ck buddy” off and on for the past 9 years and he is one of my best friends. We love each other, so u can have a f*ck buddy that is just friends and still love them. Hes an amazing friend even when we are both in other committed relationships we still hang out every other week or so and grab some beers with a friend or two.

  • Nicegirl33
    February 3, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years our sex life is going very bad.. It can go for like 2 weeks -3 weeks without sex. It’s not me I try everything but he really says not tonight or is always tired..If we argue it goes to 2-3days before something happens..I m tired of pressure him…Cuz he gets angry and just gives me his back..I love him but I can’t keep doing this

  • lostboii
    February 23, 2013 | Permalink |

    Same as nicegirl33. Im with my girlfriend for almost 2 yrars. We first had sex like after 3 months into the relationship. At that time, she used to crave for more, i think because it was out first time. But now, she wouldnt even bother when i ask her for sex. This can last for months.

    Wish i had friend with benefits.

  • destiny
    February 26, 2013 | Permalink |

    I want a lesbian buddy right now

  • Dren
    February 27, 2013 | Permalink |

    XD Getting a fuck buddy doesn’t take time, I have about four want to be’s lined up right now. There are at least six others I could get into bed by dropping a few hits. Whether you’re looking for them or not they’ll come XD

  • Genuine niceguy
    March 22, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hi, I an a 47 yo man and have been divorced for several years. I dont want the commitment of a full on relationship but like the idea of a mutual fuck buddy in the Geelong area but not sure how to go about sharing private fun times with a girl. I am well experienced and can keep quiet. I can give someone contact details if interested to start with talking, Thanks for reading.

  • colin
    March 31, 2013 | Permalink |

    No one has mentionned it on here but having a FB might also be a way of having different types of sex, fetishes, or whatever. Im very open to all types of sex, it’s just for fun and sexual relief.

  • April 3, 2013 | Permalink |

    The reason fuck buddies exist is because prostitution isn’t legal. I had a man ask me for one of these arrangements. After listening to him I came to the conclusion what he really wanted was a hooker. I told him I would agree if he agreed to pay me for my emotionless sex with no strings until like he said the right woman came along, He basically said he has no interest in dating me , doesn’t want a relationship with me an I came to learn he doesn’t even like me. However he is sexually attracted to me. LOL Ladies the out come is always the same hurt feelings and the man moves on . Please ladies for the sake of us all make them give you money for your services or tell them to get lost.

  • Breanna
    April 10, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have a friend a flirt with a lot he talks about sex with me a lot and so do I I need help on how to ask him if he wants to be fuck buddies

  • jerry don galloway
    April 10, 2013 | Permalink |

    i am lookin for that someone !

  • Eric
    April 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    To the women who aren’t getting sex from their boyfriends: he’s not into you anymore. He wants the strange. You should experiment yourself and get a fuck buddy. Be safe. Maybe i can be your next. :)

  • Mee
    April 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    I was in a relationship for a few years and I’m into experimenting with girls and guys. Being a new single girl I feel right about trying new avenues for a while.

  • April 29, 2013 | Permalink |

    I just love big tit women that I can have sex with, whether it be on the stairs or in bed!

  • aGuy
    May 25, 2013 | Permalink |

    Yes, fuck buddies are great.
    I have two girl “friends”, i’ve been fuck buddies with each of them for about a year without them knowing from eachoter.
    So recently one of them told the other what we’ve been doing, and now I’m getting threesomes.
    It’s like those pornmovies coming true!
    If this kind of student life is my destiny, I’ll accept it with both hands. May it last for as long as possible #yolo :D!

  • June 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    I got my fb after flirting with him at work, he kept talking dirty and just told him promises, promises…and we finally got it together. He is younger than I, so I like having “no commitments..” ;)

    October 8, 2013 | Permalink |

    To the person that left the boy friend because he was fucking your girl friends! Well what kind of friends do you have that would give up the pussy to him, An did you know that he liked to have sex with other lady’s your friends or others? If you knew this in the beginning, ten you had a choice ! Ether join in with him or walk away if it was not what you like! See there many times WE put our self’s in a relationship that is not what we really want an thinking that the person will change. Will I was one of them men who liked to have sex or fuck other lady or friends. The ladys that where with knew this an would ask if they may come with me an join in , Well Yes I said, if it makes you feel good do it, as long as you are not going out of your way to hurt some one or your being a lair to your mate .

  • Kris
    December 8, 2013 | Permalink |

    Having a FWB is great to have. Sex between a woman and a man is a normal, natural, and healthy essential balance to life in and of itself! If a woman and a man is mature enough then they should understand that a FWB is a wonderful and special friend. Oh I shouldn’t forget a neuromuscular tension release also helps keep things in a proper perspective and really helps with a more favorable attitude and a much more pleasant way of being. ” Nothing ventured Nothing gained “

  • Tristan
    December 25, 2013 | Permalink |

    I was married for a few years but always had some attraction to other guys. I have tried a few times to be with another guy and it felt great. I am divorced now, working long hours and would love to find a normal straight guy who would let me five him a hand job and a blow j. Really would like a normal next door guy, wouldn’t even mind giving him a financial help. Just not sure how to do it or find one.

  • nadeem
    February 17, 2014 | Permalink |

    Tristan … I am for u..

  • Rose
    April 22, 2014 | Permalink |

    It is possible to fall in love with your fuck buddy, right? Because I did and now we are dating…

  • Serabyrakov-kip9morgan@netzero.net
    July 8, 2014 | Permalink |

    Hi,I for one do strongly believe in fuck buddies or “friends with benefits” and have been attempting to get a man and woman buddy for a short time. Though,without luck.Anyways I think I would be great for you Tristan,if you think so email me.

  • boggs128atMarshall.edu
    September 9, 2014 | Permalink |

    I Just got out of a 3 year relationship and it has been the most terrible experience of my life. I miss her all the time and I need a special friend that I can talk to and maybe more. I am not interested in anything serious right now because I’m still reeling from all of this its been hard. If there is a sweet and pretty girl that isn’t afraid to share intimacy with a good guy then give me a shout I am anxiously awaiting.

  • riung
    October 22, 2014 | Permalink |

    i think fb is what i am looking for. i am a good guy never cheating. but i am interested never try it before. i want to have fb as soon as possible

  • B McClaine
    December 19, 2014 | Permalink |

    Thirteen months ago I lost my spouse of 37 years. Two months ago I started looking for a friend with benefits so fore nothing all my friends are married. I don’t want a relationship I just want the benefits. I’m a 64 year old full figure still hungry for sex all I want is a fuck buddy.

  • B McClaine
    December 27, 2014 | Permalink |

    One of my grand kids saw my post can it be deleted

  • Sexydood101
    December 28, 2014 | Permalink |

    Wow, this basically describes it!

  • victor
    January 4, 2015 | Permalink |

    i was just looking out some that loves me and i love too, and i saw this girl she was looking so beautiful and well packaged and i went and talked to her she accepted to be my girlfriend and our relationship was getting to two month she began to ask me to come to bed with her and i like it but i don’t want to dis-virgin myself until am married. when i told her this she left me in anger but i just want to propose to her the next day because she was the one i love and wanted to marry.
    what do i do i am still in-love with the girl
    anything she want i will give it to her but not sex except we are married.

  • gerry
    January 7, 2015 | Permalink |

    You women are fuktup in the head.

  • shaghunt.co.uk
    January 21, 2015 | Permalink |

    more and more adults are using the internet for a discreet or casual fbuddy.. friends with benefits is fine.. but in my experience it is ultimately un-fulfilling and no substitute to sharing your life with one special person

  • Tom
    February 28, 2015 | Permalink |

    I’m just looking for a friendly fuck friend at about my age

  • alican
    March 9, 2015 | Permalink |

    Am single been in a long relationship just want to have fun all night long

  • Elt
    March 10, 2015 | Permalink |

    I’m not so much looking for a fuck buddy as intensely interested in going down/getting off any attractive woman I see. There are dozens of women I see every day that I would just want to politely ask, “do you mind if I give you some of the best head you’ve ever had. I just want to feel/hear/smell/taste them come a few times-not even a quid pro quo.
    Are their any women who can offer any tips on how to increase my chances? I am a tall,attractive, fit, mid-40s professional who has never had a problem dating beautiful women. For some reason, that’s no longer enough. I’ve had a number of experiences w/ women capable of multiple orgasms and it’s made me obsessed with a woman arousal and climax

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