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Do You Like a Friend’s Girlfriend? – The Next Move

do you like a friend's girlfriend?

Of all the dating dilemmas, this one is a difficult thing to handle. So do you like a friend’s girlfriend or does she like you? What’s next? Find out.

You have a friend.

And one fine day, he meets the girl of his dreams and falls in love.

A few weeks later, he introduces you to her. You’re happy for him.

But you’re totally falling in love with his girlfriend.

Ever been there?

Almost all guys have.

On one hand, you’re happy for your friend. He did find a great catch.

But on the other hand, you’re jealous.

His girlfriend is the sexiest thing you’ve ever seen and you can’t stop fantasizing about her, or wishing she could be with you instead of your friend.

Do you like a friend’s girlfriend?

When you’re a guy, it’s easy to instantly get attracted to a girl you meet, even if she’s your friend’s girlfriend.

While girls take a while to build the whole bonding thing, guys just don’t care. You like a girl, and you want her.

But when you like a friend’s new girlfriend or even an old one, you’re definitely on unstable ground. So what do you do when you find yourself in a dilemma like this.

There are just two things you can do. Steal the girl. Or admire her from afar and eventually forget about her. [Read: The best way to attract a girl with a boyfriend]

How well do you know your friend?

Firstly, most people are going to tell you to drop the thought. But every circumstance is different. And at times, you dating your friend’s girlfriend may end up turning out to be the best thing for everyone involved. But that’s not always the case.

Here’s the easy way to figure it out by yourself.

For starters, how well do you know this friend, is he a real good buddy or someone you just know in passing? If he’s a very good friend, stop right there. You don’t steal a girl from a best buddy, however bad things get. In a worst case scenario, you date a friend’s girlfriend only months after they’ve broken up. But that doesn’t always end well either.

But if you don’t know this guy very well or he’s not a great friend, then you could still give this a thought.

Can you fancy her and yet find someone else?

She may be hot, and all you probably want to do is hold her hands or take a sneak peek at her cleavage. You may think it is true love, but it’s almost always an infatuation. You can always move on if you choose to, remember that. [Read: Sneaky ways to stare at a girl’s cleavage]

Try to date one of her friends or someone else you find attractive. It’s easier, safer and won’t shatter any hearts. [Read: Stages of love for men]

Is she happy with your friend?

You may secretly think your friend is a loser and the luckiest son of a gun for getting a girl who’s so good in every way. And you may also think she’s unhappy in the relationship.

But is she really unhappy in the relationship? Did she tell you that herself? If she did, she probably likes you too. Why the heck would a girl tell her boyfriend’s friend that she’s unhappy for any other reason? In such cases, you may feel like the knight in shining armor who’s doing your friend’s girlfriend a favor by rescuing the damsel in distress from a bad relationship. But you’re really not.

You’re only creating more confusions and complications by flirting with her and leading her on. And don’t forget this, you’re digging your own grave by warming up to a good friend’s girlfriend.

Are you having a great time with her?

Is your friend’s girlfriend spending a lot of time with you, or going out of her way to talk to you? Do both of you have wonderful conversations laced with romance and seduction now and then? It may all feel really happy and sappy, but you have to remember that both of you are intentionally walking into something that could only create more problems. Do you really have to sweet talk her and try to make her feel like you’re a better guy? Are you really being a good friend here?

Does she like you too?

Most guys get confused here. Just because she speaks nicely and touches you while talking or complimenting you doesn’t mean she likes you too. She may just be trying to get friendly. Unless she tells you she likes you or tries to kiss you or hold your hand when it’s just the both of you, don’t let your thoughts wander into a complicated romance. Be sure of her feelings before you fall for her. [Read: Dealing with a complicated relationship]

The code of friends

If you try to steal a girlfriend behind your friend’s back, you’re breaking the bro code. Friends don’t date a friend’s girlfriend. You may be shunned by all your other friends for complicating things. Are you ready to give up all your friends for a girl who isn’t yours in the first place?

Can you forget her?

Sometimes, you may be faced with a life changing circumstance. You may know deep inside that your friend’s girlfriend is the one you want. And she may like you a lot too.

Can you live with yourself for not going out with her? You may end up hating your friend anyways for dating the girl you secretly like and your friendship may start falling apart in a few months.

Forget her if your friend matters to you

Younger people have a huge misconception about friendship. They think friendships are made for life. And it’s almost always false. You’ll only learn this later when you don’t have time for old friends anymore. Friends come and go all the time. A few friends may stay in your life forever, but most friends end up becoming once-a-month drinking buddies or once-in-six-months reunion party friends.

If your friend matters to you, harden your heart and forget about his girlfriend. If you couldn’t care less about losing your friend, and all that matters is his girlfriend, throw your friend in the dirt and date the girl!

How to date a friend’s girlfriend

Once you’re certain that you don’t care about your friend, and want his girlfriend more than anything else, start making your move if you know she likes you too. Preferably, try to steal a friend’s girlfriend only if he’s not a good friend and if he isn’t treating her the way a girlfriend should be treated. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

But while you’re wooing her and impressing her, occasionally tell your other friends about how badly your friend is treating his girlfriend and how she constantly calls you while crying over the phone and talks about how she’s unhappy with her boyfriend (as long as it’s close to the truth). By letting all your friends knows the real truth, you can actually end up looking like the savior and a hero in due course.

Don’t propose to her when she’s still in the relationship. If she likes you too, get her to break up with your friend first. And once you’re past that, invite her along the next time you meet your other friends. Let your friends believe that you’re just trying to make her feel better after a bad breakup with your friend who’s been a really bad boyfriend.

The bitchy complication

You may genuinely like your friend’s girlfriend. But you can’t jump into any conclusion about her feelings unless you hear it from her. Does she really like you? Don’t be too confident about that thought until she breaks up with her boyfriend.

A few girls just like the attention. She may be dating your friend, but after noticing that you’ve been drooling over her for a while, she may try to mess with your feelings just to get your attention. Wouldn’t you like it if your girlfriend’s best friend has a crush on you? It’s the same thing. Always wait for her to end the relationship. At least then you’ll know she seriously does like you. [Read: Why are women fickle in love?]

What should you do?

The last word, if you like your friend’s girlfriend enough to lose a friend, go full speed ahead. But never ask her out until you’re sure she likes you.

If you value your friend more than a fickle girl who can’t make up her mind on who she likes, then steel your heart and avoid her.

[Read: Is the girl you like using you?]

Do you like a friend’s girlfriend? Of course you do. But now that you know the odds and the ways, do something about it. But always remember to think with a clear head. And never jump to conclusions.

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19 thoughts on “Do You Like a Friend’s Girlfriend? – The Next Move”

  1. George says:

    I’m in a bit of a dilemma myself. My best friend’s has been dating a girl for almost a year now. He says he’s serious about her, but doesn’t really behave like he is. He takes her for granted, doesn’t think of a birthday present until it’s her birthday, nor does he even go out with her. She’s an angel and a great person. I liked her immediately as soon as I saw her, but knowing that my friend likes her, I didn’t try to pursue her. Eventually, she ended up falling in love with him.

    About six months ago, my friend told his girlfriend that I’ve had a crush on her and actually wanted to go out with her.

    She seemed surprised and shocked at first, but ever since, she’s been very friendly and nice to me. We get along really well, and about a month ago, she told me that she likes me too but she only went out with my friend because she assumed I didn’t like her in the first place. We even kissed each other that day and I almost felt dizzy!

    Now I’m confused about what to do, because she says she loves me, but doesn’t want to ruin the friendship me and my best friend shares. She told me she’d be fine to just stay friends. But I really want her.

    I don’t mind losing my friendship with my best friend for her. I don’t think I can live with myself for walking out on a girl who could change my life forever.

  2. A person says:

    So they call a girl fickle for not being able to decide who they want when it’s them making her so confused?

  3. iko says:

    Yea. My friends girlfriend nadean is all i could ever want. Basically we’ve… um made out a number of times. I dont know how to convince her to go out with me. I have asked her like 10000000000 times butshe keeps on being like “I’ll think about it” like geez just make up your mind. but yea I need help. seriously.

  4. MGS says:

    I’m in such a complicated situation thats like this…here comes a super long story.

    My best friend of 12 years started dating a girl. As soon as I saw her I felt in love, I dont know if I really am, but shes so beautiful and an amazing person thats only been mistreated by guys. When me and my friend met her, it was at a party. I was dating a different girl at the time, but I desperatly wanted to be with her. My friend said if he should go talk to her, and if I could be his wingman and chat up her ugly friend, since I was taken anyway. As a good friend, I obliged. The two started dating a a week after the party.

    My friend and my friend’s girlfriend and I would always hang out, just us three, because my friend was in a car accident so he relied on me for car rides. Often I would drive my friend’s girlfriend home with just us two in the car. We both recognized the connection we had and the tension between us, but never said anything of it.

    My friend’s girlfriend fell hard for my friend after he told her “I love you.” But then, just 4 weeks later, he broke up with her! They dated for 5 months total. I was shocked and called him, he said they had just grown apart. Instantly I messaged her saying I was sorry and that if she needed anyone I was there. We talked for a couple weeks and she was so sad without my friend, she felt used and lied to. I told her perhaps he wasnt thinking clearly and i called him, saying that me and her have been talking and that she still likes him. He said he thought about it and he likes her too, so I got them back together basically. I couldnt stand seeing her so sad. My friend again told her he loves her, but then he broke up with her just a few days afterwards. I continued to talk to her this entire time.

    We talked for a good month after this, she lives a city away from me. We became even closer. I called my friend and told him that we were still talking, and that I may have feelings for he. He said it was fine because he didnt care for her anymore. I told him thanks for his blessing. She said she was coming down to visit. I told her I liked her and if she would want to spend some time with me, and she returned my feelings and agreed. We had an amazing date, and we made out passionatly at the end of it all. We talked about how this could be a bit messy, and that it would be hard since she lives ~2 1/2 hours away. The next day I drove to where she was staying down here 5 mins before she left back to her college and knocked on her door, just to tell her I would miss her. We kissed.

    She left and we continued talking. We grew even closer, and when we first started talking she jokingly said I could visit her anytime up there and have a place to stay. I decided to get a couple days off work and ask if I could take her up on that offer. She was overjoyed and agreed. I told my friend that Id like to make sure he was fine if we started dating. All of a sudden, he just blew up on me. He said it wasnt ok at all, and that I was breaking bro code. I told him I’m sorry but this is how I feel. He never accepted my apology or how I feel for her, and we have seldomly talked since.

    Now, her and I have gotten much closer. We’ve done everything except have sex at this point (and even then, we’ve been nude with each other and done sexual activities, its just that shes a virgin and wants to wait.) Were not dating though….we talk everyday, and when were together everything is perfect, but she says she still has feelings for my friend. She says she doesnt have feelings that she would ever act on, and that she cares about me very much, but that shes not sure if we should go out (its been about 4 months since weve started talking.) My friend and I hardly talk anymore and if we do its only for short time periods.

    Basically, I feel like I am going to lose the girl of my dreams and my best friend, and theres nothing I can do about it. If I drop her, my friend and I will still never be the same (we’ve actually been growing apart the last 2 years anyway, but thats another story.) and I feel so much for this girl so I dont feel I can just do that anyway. On the other hand, her and I have such an amazing time together, yet she semi-frequently gives me hints that she still has feelings about him and when i confront her about it, she does tell me that she cant control how she feels and things along those lines. Basically, I have no idea what to do. I’d love it if she could forget about him because of his manipulative personality to females (i love the guy but its true) and the fact that her and I share a special bond and I am commited to her even tho we are seperated by a physical distance (and to be honest I know I am a more experienced and well-endowed lover than my friend.) And I’d enjoy keeping my friendship as well but that seems slim now. In conclusion, I’ve put myself in a very f**ked-up situation.

  5. Jake says:

    I recently had a friend of 16 years (and we’re only 21) try to come on to my girlfriend of 3 years. To make things worse he is going through a divorce right now and staying at my house. So you could say I felt extremely betrayed. Of course my girl told him no and told me what happened immediately. And of course when I said something the next day he started saying how sorry he was and how he would never do anything like that and it was just a drunk mistake. I told him I forgive him but really I don’t. Things will never be the same between us again and if he ever does that again im going to beat his ass. That’s another thin to worry about if your planning on stealing your friends girlfriend, you could get hurt. And don’t say “oh we’ll I’m bigger and tougher and he is” because you never know he might be to the point where all he has is that girl and if you try to take her he might do something crazy (involving a gun)

  6. Anon says:

    I have a confession about this, I’m in love with a girl that’s been like my twin sister for like 4 years, she is in a relationship with a friend we just met last year, she’s in love with him so much, she tells me everything, but my friend doesn’t love her that much back, she comes to home to cry, talk, even play, we also sleep together sometimes, but just that, not making love or kissing or something, those nights I try to look inside her bra, kiss her or hug her and tell her that I can’t take it anymore, I’ve been in love with her for like 2 years now. Tonight i’m sleeping with her again, but I want her to fall in love with me, make her happy, but still, I don’t want anyone to find out, just me and her. We have so much in common and I want to be with her with all my goddamn heart but I don’t wanna lose her,

  7. Anon2 says:

    If she cheats while in a relationship (with your friend) for you, she’ll probably cheat on you too. There are plenty of fish in the water. Create distance and keep yourself busy. It’s not worth it. You do not want on this path, ’cause it’s just going to get ugly. 2cents

  8. Anono says:

    My bestfriend’s girlfriend (my ex) got drunk with me at a party and started getting all touchy feely. My friend was there and didn’t drink and was being a debby downer. Anyways, the girl texts me and says she totally would have had sex with me if her boyfriend didnt find out. What to do…

  9. Draal says:

    DON’T DO IT!!!!! I fell in love with my best friend/roomate’s girlfriend, and she fell in love with me. when their relationship fizzled away, we confessed our loves for each other and had hot sex with each other, which led to us dating now.. NOW I HAVE NO FRIENDS AND THEY ALL HATE ME!!!! although i love my now girlfriend, she is all i have now and it is not worth it… This is why i find myself sitting here on a saturday night all alone while she works, because i have no one except for her… she still has her friends but i have none.. i repeat DONT DO ITTTT!!!!!

  10. Petey says:

    I discovered my best friend was banging my girlfriend when he dropped her off one night after band practice. I really wanted sex but she didn’t. Anyway at last I got her on the bed and pulled down her panties and found she was VERY wet between the legs. As soon as I put my penis inside her I knew it was cum from another guy. I was pissed off, but I finished off inside her as it was nice her being so sloppy!

  11. Zac says:

    I am in a very similar situation. There is this girl that one of my not-so-close friends has been dating. It’s been about a month now, and they hardly ever speak to each other. She always talks to me now. She sits by me instead of him whenever she gets the chance and sometimes smells my jacket (weird I know). I like the way she acts and she has a great personality. Her boyfriend just doesn’t seem to understand the concept of a relationship and I think she knows it.

  12. Secret says:

    I’m in a pretty bad sitiuation, I really like my recently new ex-bestfriends’ (backstabbed,no further detail) girlfriend. Theyve been dating for since the start of highschool and we’re in our senior year now, me and her have always been close and we have a lot more in common then she does with him. I only started to realize how amazing she was around 2 years ago. It doesnt help he doesnt see seem to realize what he has, hes too busy playing around on his xbox, the girls beautiful,funny,smart everything i ever desired in a girl. But theres another problem, me and her friend have had a on and off relationship since our second year of highschool. I feel like theres something there with me and her and starting to think that maybe my friend and her friend are starting to sense that as well. I dont have any idea what to do….

  13. Anonymous says:

    My friend cheated on her gal who was my friend too, she felt I betrayed her for not telling her about it, she latter let go her feel of hate for me and we became friends again. We could chat in a manner that suggested our friendship was becoming more than just that. out of respect for my friendship with both of them, I ignored her for about one and a half years bt then I gave up, my friend had constantly told me that he had no intentions of getting back with her. one day she paid me a visit, we talked a lot and she told me that she wanted a no strings attached sexual relationship with me, I gave in and we had sex that day, on a secend sex day with her, I suddenly realized that she was in constant communication with her ex (my friend) this was unusual since they broke up. I lost my trust in her and thought that she sought for revenge sex with her ex’s best friend

  14. The girlfriend says:

    I’m the girlfriend. I love my current boyfriend of three years and I love his friend. They’re both amazing men with unique, incredible traits. I feel though that my current boyfriend and I have gone as far as we can, our relationship is shallow and I don’t see us growing… I’m not in love but I love him dearly. But We don’t have an easy flow when we’re together, conversation is juvenile and often (I hate to say it , but) boring. What do I love about my boyfriend? We have history and comfortability. His friend and I have such a strong deeper connection when we talk. It seems like there’s a natural understanding of each other. I know he cares for me. Maybe I should just leave them both alone, I hate to even imagine coming between them. Neither one of them deserves to be disrespected like this. I feel like a pretty awful person, but then I wonder if loving more one person is really a bad thing… there’s so much to love about so many people… I may need to just stay single forever to avoid hurting anyone.

  15. mario says:

    my best friend always dated the girl i liked since first grade and dumped them like nothing. i got over them but know theirs a girl im not willing to stop loving them. after my friend dating them knowing i love them i think i should steal her while their dating

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