Seriously, who hasn’t met a friend who’s sexy and all that?
And how many of us haven’t wondered how to have sex with a friend?
It feels so good to be bad. It feels even better to cross that boundary and play dirty, doesn’t it?
Life in the fast lane couldn’t get any faster in these days of fast love and raging hormones.
It’s hard to get over the blues of being single especially when everyone around is either madly in love, or physically in love.
If lovers can do it, why not friends? After all, friends do share everything lovers share, other than physical intimacy, right?
Sex with a friend
You can turn to a friend to cheer you up, and hang out together to cure those boredom butt pains. As always.
A friend can really help cheer you up in more ways than just a shoulder to cry on. If this friend is of the opposite sex and looks hot, that is.
In these days of sexual relationships and one night stands, friendships too seem to dig in for a stake of lust and carnal desires. Sex, to be precise. A hug between two friends can lead to heavy petting and a drink can show you the direction to your friend’s bedroom, with a finale of lustful lovemaking. [Read: How to accidentally kiss a friend]
Why have sex with a friend?
If your friend is charming or really good looking, what are the odds that you are not going to want to have sex with a friend? Oh yeah, I seem to have forgotten the ‘fact’ that friends are out of bounds. Is that what you’re trying to say? You know what, take that phony excuse and stick it up your rear end!
Now don’t tell me that you’ve never wondered about how to have sex with a friend or fantasized about a sizzling friend as a hot lay, or hoped for a drunken snog at least once. [Read: Signs you’re both ready to be more than friends]
Having sex with a friend – A sex buddy
A sex buddy is someone you know as a friend, and is physically attractive and physically attracted to you. It doesn’t end there though, a sex buddy is one who shares uninhibited physical intimacy with you, with no strings attached! If this is news to you, take those goody goody glasses off your face and take a good look at the pair gyrating in the club, and try keeping a count on the number of partners that are being swapped in a night, at least on the dance floor!
Sex buddies have always existed over the years but until a few years ago, it was an immoral and hushed affair. Friends have always had sex with friends, but it’s not really something people readily talk about in the open.
But recently, with the boom in 24/7 calls from work and work shifts at hours that run late into the night, the prospect of friends just hoping to have sex with a friend or friends just rubbing the shoulders is passé! These days, it’s not taboo or unusual to have sex with a friend, after work or a party. If one night stands can be morally legal amongst us, why not having sex with a friend? Anyways, they’re here to stay, whether you like it or not.
Phone calls and sex with a friend
A booty call is that ‘special’ call that is made with the sole intention of having sex, with the person being contacted. And this person is usually a single attractive friend of the opposite sex, who is bored, and craving for some sort of fun to wind a boring day. Or perhaps, they too just want to have sex with a friend. A booty call is usually made at night, or after consuming alcohol. [Read: How to text flirt and have sex with a friend]
A booty call might be the telephonic version of a one night stand, but it’s a lot better in more ways than one. Here, you don’t have to worry about waking up in bed with an ugly slob as you already know what your hot friend looks like, and the chances of getting an STD is relatively less, though it cannot be eliminated.
Now that you’re all warmed up with the lingo, it’s time to ask yourself if you want to have sex with a friend. And if you do want that, it’s time to take the next baby step into the land of sex buddies.
How to get a fuck buddy
In most cases, fuck buddies are just not planned. It just seems to happen by itself.
Unlike love, the characteristic about fuck buddies is that there is no planning, no first impressions and definitely no heartfelt gifts.
And the rest just seems to happen all by itself. [Quiz: Are you a fuck buddy potential?]
Of course, there has to be a wee bit of lustful flirting and mutual attraction. Other than that, there’s nothing at all that should be done to start a fuck buddy relationship.
When do people become fuck buddies?
It can happen when you least expect it. And surprisingly, most of the times, a fuck buddy is found when you’re down in the pits, almost always when you’re trying to get over a broken relationship. [Read: Top 10 sexiest songs to have sex to]
Adie, a 26 year old working at an advertising firm says she has a fuck buddy with whom she’s physically intimate, and loves the fact that she has someone with whom she can relate physically, and yet not be held down by the rules of love.
Says Adie, “It’s great to have a sex buddy actually. I used to go out with a guy who I thought was great. Things were perfect, and one fine day, I catch him necking a colleague of mine in the parking lot. I broke up with him with a straight face, but inside, I was devastated. I poured my heart out to this guy who’s a great friend of mine, and a consoling hug led from a simple hug to an all out lustful romp.”
One can end up becoming fuck buddies with a common friend, not just through an act of consoling, but also on a drunken escapade. One pint too many can have your hands moving over more than just the curves of your glass, and you’d probably end up with your arms round the shoulder of an attractive friend. [Read: Drunk girls always end up kissing other guys]
And well, a roving hand just can’t stop over a warm shoulder, can it?
The bright side of fuck buddies
When you’re ambitious and cannot understand the point of thinking about someone else’s feelings and happiness, or if you just don’t want to be held down by another person’s feelings, a fuck buddy is a perfect solution. You don’t have to keep in touch with this person every day or every week, nor do you have to remember anniversaries or put up with cute little love tantrums.
But you can always call your fuck buddy and go all the way, whenever and wherever you want. This form of non-committal love can be fun, if you’re still looking for that hint of long term love, but just don’t want to jump in, especially if you’ve always felt that true love can wait while you explore the different opportunities life has to offer.
And most people, who are afraid of commitment, and even more scared of the typical one night stand, find this whole arrangement of fuck buddies a bit more secure and comforting. [Read: 20 sexy things about a girl that turns guys on]
Is there a dark side of fuck buddies?
As much as I’d love to prove that there is a deep, dark abyss to fuck buddies, there just isn’t one. There’s nothing wrong in hooking up with someone just because you are physically attracted to someone.
Nor is there anything wrong in having someone as a fuck buddy just because this person is your buddy. And are you going to get an STD by doing this? Well, as much as we’d like to skirt the issue, no one is ever completely safe from an STD, we all have heard of cheating partners and the ‘I-just-wanted-to-know-how-it-would-feel-like’ types of lovers.
The only issue that may crop up is, perhaps, you falling in love with your fuck buddy or getting a huge crush on them. [Read: Do you have a crush on your friend?]
Getting yourself a fuck buddy
Remember, getting yourself a fuck buddy is very different from getting yourself a loving partner. It just doesn’t work the same way. You can’t woo someone into sleeping with you, or get them drunk in the hope of having sex. It has to happen naturally, over time. And there has to be mutual sexual attraction.
But the best way to get yourself a fuck buddy is by text flirting and seeing if your hot friend starts reciprocating. We’ve got an entire guide on text flirting [Read: How to text flirt and seduce a friend], which should help you get yourself an attractive fuck buddy.
Should you become a fuck buddy?
Firstly, having sex with a friend can never feel as good, when love is missing in the air.
And however much you feel satisfied after bedding your friend, your mornings will still feel the same, maybe just a little sore!
Research has shown that people who are in love are a lot happier than the ones who are involved with a fuck buddy.
Even if they did indulge in a satisfying shag once in a while.
Do you need a fuck buddy?
It’s all a matter of what you want out of sex, really. If you’re looking at satisfying yourself physically rather than the needs of your partner, or if you don’t care about falling in love or having sex lovingly, then go right ahead. [Read: How to seduce a man into having sex with you]
But if you want to share the best moments of your life with someone special, and celebrate your successes and share your sorrows, then you definitely need to fall in love. You really can’t sit down and pour your feelings out to a fuck buddy all the time. It contradicts the whole definition of a fuck buddy!
Having a friend to have sex with is like getting drunk, you feel great when you’re indulging in it, but the mornings usually come with its share of emotional hangovers.
You feel stupid for having got physically intimate with someone so easily. Believe it or not, most of the time, you’d end up feeling used and cheap! But just like your craving for a drink, a few days later, you’d end up reaching for your cell phone, to make that booty call that gives you the satisfaction of a great night and a hollow morning after.
Becoming a fuck buddy
Zachery, who used to have sex with a friend, always felt used and stupid each time he walked out of his fuck buddy’s door.
“I loved the fact that I was having a great time in bed with no strings attached. But each time, I felt really stupid for doing it. It made me feel like a swinging gigolo! And at times, I wished things would just go back to the way my life was, before I started making out with this very good friend of mine,” he says. [Read: Do you like a friend’s girlfriend?]
You really have to understand that there is no turning back once you make out with your friend. You could lose all the pure and innocent fun, and care about nothing other than rolling on a haystack.
And after a while, things can start fizzing out, and eventually, the once-a-week fuck buddy routine can turn into a once-a-month affair. And before you know it, you would just end up avoiding each other, and maybe even regret the fact that you’ve lost someone special because both of you can’t look into each other’s eyes, what with the both of your eyes’ focusing on all the other areas all this while.
Or worse, one of you could end up falling in love with the other person. And this, can completely ruin the fuck buddy relationship and someone’s emotional life! [Read: How to date a friend]
So should you become a fuck buddy?
Simply put, there’s nothing bad about having a fuck buddy, or indulging in a one night stand with a friend, but when you really like someone, give your emotions a second thought and ask yourself if this friend is someone special, and whether you would be willing to jeopardize your friendship for a few minutes of pleasure once in a while.
But then again, if you really like this person, then why not just spend more time with each other to see if there can be more than just a fuck buddy love between the both of you? Maybe a closer friendship. Maybe even true love.
There’s nothing wrong at all about becoming fuck buddies, as long as both of you know it’s just sex and nothing more. And also remember that sex should have nothing to do with your friendship and should never affect it. [Read: How to kiss a friend and get away with it]
So should you become a fuck buddy? Heck, go right on. But only if you’re ready to be a good fuck buddy material yourself!
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