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How to Dress Sexy by Throwing Away the Frumpy and Going for Boom

You may feel like you look frumpy. Listen, that doesn’t have to be permanent. Small changes make all the difference. Read on to know how to dress sexy.

how to dress sexy

When we hear the word ‘sexy’ we think about short skirts and lots of cleavage. So, I completely understand why you may be nervous to learn how to dress sexy. Not all of us feel comfortable wearing those type of clothes, but being sexy doesn’t mean you need to show off your breasts or wear super high heels. Dressing sexy is more subjective than you think.

How to dress sexy

I know you’re probably thinking, “Yeah, but all the men want someone that looks like Kim Kardashian.” Listen, it’s really not true. Yes, there’s no doubt that she’s hot and sexy because she is, but her sex appeal goes far deeper than just her clothing or body. So, if you want to know how to be sexy and look sexy in your clothes, you came to the right place. Learning how to dress sexy is not as hard as you think.

#1 Don’t take it so seriously. There’s a reason why you’re not able to relax and be your sexy self, it’s because you’re taking this too seriously. I know you want to be sexy, but just take it easy. You see the people that are trying too hard and you can spot them a mile away. You don’t want to force yourself to be sexy. [Read: 10 signs stress is ruining your life and how to fix it]

#2 Find out what you feel is sexy. Following a trend because it’s popular doesn’t mean you actually think it’s sexy. You need to find out what style you feel is sexy, especially when you wear it. Don’t just jump on a trend because you think people will think you’re sexy wearing it. No. You need to believe in it. [Read: Secrets to unleashing your inner sexy beast]

#3 Take baby steps. When my friends made me over, they threw all these sexy clothes and shoes at me to try on. The problem was, I was completely overwhelmed by everything. I was uncomfortable in the heels, I didn’t feel I was myself in the skirt and no matter how sexy the clothes were, I didn’t feel sexy.

So, if you need to take baby steps towards dressing sexier, do it. You need to feel comfortable in the clothes you’re wearing if you want to exude sex appeal.

#4 You need to be confident. The only way you can truly be sexy is if you’re confident. You can wear all the sexy clothes in the world but if you’re not yourself in them, it shows. So, you want to make sure your clothing makes you feel good. Sexiness doesn’t necessarily mean you’re showing your boobs off, it just means that you’re confident in how you look. [Read: 30 traits that make a woman attractive]

#5 Step out of your comfort zone. You only live once, so don’t hesitate to try new things. Sure, the outfit you wore yesterday wasn’t a hit, but you liked it so who cares. Now, you don’t need to go all out with something new, but you can try, for example, wearing a plunging neckline or a crop top if you’re not used to these styles. Play around with clothes and how you feel when wearing them.

#6 Wear red. There’s just something about red that makes people’s eyes go wild, they love it. We all know that red is the staple color for sexiness, and it’s true. Red is highly sexual and arousing, so if you want to make the people around you nuts over you, throw on something red. Plus, you can wear red with any style, so pick something you feel comfortable in.

#7 When in doubt put on a pair of heels. If you’re not sure that your outfit is giving off a sexy vibe then just wear a pair of heels with it. You should try to have at least one pair of black heels in your closet. You really can’t go wrong. A pair of heels can make your jeans and t-shirt look mouth-wateringly sexy. Not good at walking in heels? Practice at home. [Read: How to unleash your inner vixen and snag the guy]

#8 Skin doesn’t equate sexiness. So many people have the idea that in order to be sexy, you need to be revealing which isn’t the case at all. The key is to reveal one body part at a time. So, if you’re going to show off your legs then cover up your chest. This gives off the right amount of skin for the eyes without ruining the image.

#9 Wear sexy lingerie. You may be thinking, well, no one is going to see it so why does it matter. But, if you want to dress sexy, you need to feel sexy. Wearing something sexy underneath your clothes, something only you know is underneath is very sexy. Even though no one may see it, this is about you, not other people. [Read: How to let loose and be a bad girl]

#10 Don’t forget to accessorize. The jewelry you wear can change your entire outfit for good or bad. You want to wear some jewelry to add some color or a unique design to your outfit but you don’t want to overdo it either. So, I recommend wearing one statement piece whether that’s a necklace, bracelet, or earrings. You don’t need to look like a bargain bin jewelry shop.

#11 You don’t have to go crazy with makeup. I know it’s a trend right now to look exactly like Kim Kardashian and load your face with up to twelves different types of foundation and concealer but you don’t have to do that, really. If you want to know how to dress sexy, you need to remember that it’s okay to look like yourself, you should know that. So, you can go easy on the makeup.

Many women feel that wearing a lot of makeup will show them as being sexier, but that’s not true. Find your facial features which you feel are the sexiest and focus on enhancing them.

#12 Wear the right size. Size really does matter. The wrong size can make you look like you’re being stuffed or that you’re frumpy, so you want to make sure that what you’re wearing fits for your body. Who cares about the size, the point is, it has to fit you. Don’t be ashamed to go a size up, it’s just a number. [Read: The tips you need to flaunt your body confidence]

#13 Don’t see this as a competition. Being sexy is subjective. It’s not a contest between you and every other woman on the planet. Don’t worry about the other women around you, they’re all going through the same things as you are. So, just focus on working with your confidence and making yourself feel sexy. All of us ladies are in this together, so let’s support each other.

[Read: 22 ways to stand apart and shine from within]

Now that you know how to dress sexy, it’s time you put these tips to use. Why wait? Open up that closet and start picking out your outfit.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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