66 Blowjob Techniques, Positions & Tips to Give Good Head & Make Him Gasp!

If there’s one sexy superpower that can leave your guy weak in the knees and madly obsessed, it’s learning how to give good head. And lucky for all of us, giving a mind-blowing blowjob isn’t about porn-star theatrics. It’s about knowing the right blowjob techniques, secrets to reading his body, and actually enjoying yourself while you’re at it.

In fact, studies show that couples who regularly engage in oral sex report higher relationship satisfaction and better communication in bed. 📚 Source: Sexual Satisfaction, Oral Sex, Orgasm, and Sex Frequency, 2016, David A. Frederick, et al., 2016

Whether you’re brand new to blowjob techniques or looking to fine-tune your mouth-and-hands game, we’ve got you covered. From the hottest blowjob positions to creative tips, safety hacks, and even how to deal with the awkward “to spit or swallow” dilemma, we’re diving deep into everything you need to know.

Ready to give head that makes him gasp… and maybe even forget his own name?

[Read: 28 sex moves to surprise your boyfriend in bed & make him happy-horny]

Why do guys love a good blowjob so much?

Basically, they feel good. Isn’t that reason enough?

Oral in any guise is a different sensation than penetrative sex. It’s intimate, personal, and it adds an extra type of pleasure to the whole experience.

We can’t generalize and say every guy loves a blowjob, but come on, have you met one who doesn’t yet?

It’s almost expected that in a couple’s sex life, blowjobs will become a pretty strong part of it. Now, that doesn’t mean you should do it if you don’t want to. But if you’re happy to, it pays to be informed.

Knowing a few different great blowjob techniques if you want to give your man a mind-blowing orgasm will help you to keep things fresh in the bedroom and stop your man from getting bored – as if he ever could!

The best positions for blowjobs

Blowjob techniques can be made a whole lot easier once you’re in the right position. Doing so will be a lot more comfortable for him and you.

It’s likely that your jaw might become a little tight or sore at some point during proceedings, so if you’re comfortable otherwise, it won’t be such a workout!

A few common blowjob techniques are:

1. On your knees

This is the most common. The guy sits or lays down and you get in between his legs, on your knees, and do your thing. [Read: Kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]

2. The front and center

In this position, you lie down with your head propped up on some pillows while the guy kneels over you. It may sound intimidating, but it’s comfortable!

3. The 69

This is a good one for you because you get some fun at the same time!

Basically, the 69 means that he’s going down on you at the same time you’re giving him head. You lay top to toe and bend, recreating the number 69. [Read: 69 sex position – how to do it right, the best positions, and why it can suck]

4. The upside down

This one is a little more acrobatic. You lay on the bed with your head hanging off the end. Your boyfriend then walks toward you and you give him a blowjob while looking up at the ceiling, hence the name.

5. Reverse face-sit blowjob

He sits on the bed or couch while you straddle him facing away, then lean forward to give him head in reverse. This gives him a perfect view of your body, and it’s surprisingly comfy for your back too.

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What to expect when you give a blowjob

The most surprising thing to people who give a blowjob for the first time is that they’re not expected to put the whole thing in their mouth!

Use your hands to stimulate the lower half and stick to the top half. That way, you’re not going to feel like you’re choking.

What will you see? Well, you’ll see his penis, and you’re going to get very up close and personal with it. It shouldn’t smell, and if it does, well, you need to have a gentle conversation with him about having a wash before you go down on him.

And the most confusing thing for people giving blowjobs is what to do when he comes. Should you spit or swallow? Well, it’s a personal choice. If you do choose to swallow, keep a glass of water handy. [Read: Spit or swallow – what should you do with your man’s happy ending?]

Must-Know blowjob tips to be a tease with your hands and mouth

Before we take things a step further and give you some seriously impressive blowjob techniques to try, you need the basic tips to get started.

1. If you don’t want to do it, just don’t do it

If you genuinely don’t like giving blowjobs then don’t give them and try something else. There isn’t a requirement that you have to, it’s just an act that’s generally a part of sex. But if you choose not to do it, it doesn’t make the sexual experience any less than what it is.

2. Initiate

Do you enjoy asking your guy to go down on you, or would you rather he did it spontaneously? Probably the latter. Who wants to ask for a blowjob all the time?

Be the one to initiate it. This shows enthusiasm and shows him just how much you want to pleasure him. [Read: How often do people have sex to maintain a healthy relationship?]

3. Show enthusiasm

Sometimes you just need to show enthusiasm to make things work better. A blowjob from someone who looks like they’re planning their shopping list in their mind isn’t sexy. So, moan, groan, use your hands, really get into it.

4. Get sloppy

Yes, you read right. You don’t need to have manners when giving an actual blowjob. What you do need though is a decent amount of saliva as lube. The wetter, the better.

If you’re naturally low on salvia, try drinking orange juice or anything acidic prior. It helps you salivate due to the low pH level.

Don’t be afraid to give a sloppy blowjob and get messy – he’ll think it’s super hot. [Read: Messy, sexy, and dirty things to do in bed!]

5. Develop a solid rhythm

You could say that giving good blowjobs is like dancing, you need to have a steady beat and rhythm. Now, the rhythm you develop needs to sync up with your hand and mouth at the same time.

A solid rhythm will allow you to have control and increase or decrease speed whenever you want, and in turn, help you give him the best blowjob.

6. Do some foreplay before

People just love to skip foreplay which makes no sense to us. Have you ever tried driving a car when the engine is cold? Exactly. It doesn’t go so well.

Although a blowjob alone is great foreplay, that only works if it isn’t the main event. So, warm up the chemistry between you and create the scene. Men love foreplay, they really do. [Read: The best foreplay moves that work exceptionally well on men]

7. Use your tongue first

Before you engulf his penis in your mouth, you’ll want to use your tongue to lick his frenulum. The frenulum is the underside of the tip of the penis, and it’s the most sensitive spot. From there, try moving your tongue up and down his shaft.

8. Mix up your movements

As we mentioned earlier, a man can become desensitized to the pleasure after a while if the movements stay the same. So, you’ll need to mix up the movements of your mouth and hands.

You can squeeze it a little harder, increase or decrease speed, use your tongue during the blowjob to touch the head of the penis, or swirl it around the tip.

You can also give some attention to the testicles as they’re often left out of the fun. [Read: What is tea bagging? The sexy guide to eat his balls and make him cum]

9. Don’t forget your hands

At some point, you’re going to get tired, which is completely natural. But this doesn’t mean you have to completely stop what you’re doing. Remember, you have two hands, so don’t be afraid to use them.

You can use your hands to grab the shaft and gently rub it, just as you would with a hand job. Or you can use your hands at the same time while giving him head. [Read: The sexiest, slutty moves to give the best hand job ever]

10. Eye contact

Men love making eye contact while receiving a blowjob. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to keep your eyes locked on him the entire time. But every now and then, look at him while you pleasure his penis with your mouth.

11. Only try deepthroating if you’re comfortable

Every guy likes a little deepthroat. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to do it, some women don’t like the gagging sensation, and we don’t blame them.

But if you don’t mind it, deepthroating can really amp up the stimulation for your man. You will need to practice this a couple of times to get it right.

12. Timing is everything

You can give a blowjob in three minutes, sure, and the guy will probably love the experience. However, you shouldn’t just be blowing the guy because it’s something you should do.

You give him a blowjob because you enjoy it – you enjoy having his dick in your mouth, and you want to pleasure him.

So, try making the experience like a movie – slow in the beginning, build up the tension, and then BAM! Climax. Now, that is a blowjob. [Read: Sexual exploration – ever heard of the finger blowjob?]

13. Practice makes perfect

Being a blowjob queen doesn’t come overnight, no pun intended. It takes a lot of sweat and arm strengthening. So, you need to practice and get advice and suggestions from the guy you’re blowing.

Don’t feel embarrassed, it’s in his best interest that you master the techniques like the blowjob giver. So, practice, take notes, and within no time you’ll get the technique down to an art.

14. Find your own style

Every girl has their own BJ style. Some girls use a lot of tongue, others have a specific rhythm they follow. Find a style that suits you because you’re the one that will be giving the BJ, not him.

Once you find a groove that suits you, just practice on making it better. [Read: 18 sexy ways to be incredibly good in bed and leave anyone wanting more]

15. Use everything you’ve got

Okay, you’ll need your mouth, but don’t forget the other beautiful parts of your body. Use your chest, hands, feet, use it all.

Go wild. A blowjob, of course, will need your mouth. But you don’t have to limit it to just that one body part to give the best blowjob ever.

16. Play with visuals

Dress up in a sexy outfit if you want to know how to give good head and make it look even better! For starters, if he’s laying down on your bed, wear a sexy bra, lace underwear, and give him a little extra to look at.

Blowjobs are more than just his penis. It’s about you and your sexuality. Want to take it a step further? Dress up like a fantasy character and role play while giving him head. [Read: The sexual role play guide for beginners]

17. Let your hair down

This is a sexy move and it’s super easy to do. Even if you don’t know it yet, chances are you’ve done it before without even realizing it. For this, he should be lying down and you should be off to the side.

All you have to do is let your hair fall down onto and over his balls. As you move your head up and down, the hair will give him a little massage with the lightest touch.

This feels amazing for him, almost like the caress of a feather. He’ll be totally blissed out!

18. Show yourself off

Most guys like to look at a woman when she’s sucking him off. But every guy is different and so is what he wants to see. Once you know what eye candy he likes, give him a peek while you’re blowing him.

If he’s a boob guy, give him a nice view by using your twins to stimulate the base of his penis. If he’s an ass man, show him some ass. [Read: 15 ways you can give him a view he’ll go crazy for!]

19. Stay comfortable

Okay, so you thought it was a great idea to get on your knees on the hard floor to begin with. But change positions so you’re comfortable now. You won’t break the flow or break the horny zen state your man is in.

20. Don’t blow him

Just because it’s called a blowjob doesn’t mean you just have to blow him while giving him head. Your mouth and tongue are magical tools when giving a guy head, so use them wisely.

Yes, it’s funny to blow an uncircumcised guy and watch his dick turn into a pufferfish. But no, it’s not sexy.

21. Explore his body

Giving head to your partner is a great time for you to explore his body in very intimate ways, get to know its curves and crevices, and at the same time, have fun.

So take this opportunity to get to know him better physically and keep things playfully sexy. [Read: How to touch a guy – 17 subtle moves to make him lose his mind]

22. Don’t forget the balls

Ah, yes, those little guys. Don’t forget them, they need some loving too. Use your hands to hold them and gently massage them or you can suck on them as well. Either way, he won’t complain.

23. Play with his bum

The anus is still a slightly taboo topic, but it’s a very sensitive and pleasurable place for men. You can use your finger to just press gently over it, or use a sex toy.

Now, not all guys are going to be down for this, so you’ll have to slowly work your way to this point. [Read: 18 hot male erogenous zones & places to touch a guy most girls don’t know]

24. Tainted love

Different men respond to this one in different ways, but it’s worth seeing if he likes it. When he’s about to come, push somewhat firmly on the perineum, also known as the taint *the area between his anus and scrotum*.

This will push on his prostate and constrict the flow of his semen as he ejaculates, thus making him feel like he’s literally about to explode with pleasure.

25. Bring along a toy

There’s no rule that says your sex toys are only for you. Get one out when you’re giving him head to really get him going. It should be something that vibrates, and ideally, it should be small.

Don’t bring it out right away. Get him going a little bit first, and when he’s really starting to get into it, about halfway to orgasm, then introduce it. [Read: 15 common types of sex toys that singles and couples should know about]

26. Edging + oral = explosive finish

Instead of rushing to the climax, bring him close, then stop. Let him cool down. Then start again. Teasing him like this makes the final orgasm feel way more intense and satisfying.

27. Temperature play

Take a sip of ice water or warm tea before you go down on him (not too hot, obviously). Switching between hot and cold creates incredible sensitivity and surprise for him.

Pro tip: Trace an ice cube along his shaft or thighs while you tease the tip with your tongue. He won’t know what hit him.

28. Vibrator trick

Hold a small bullet vibrator against your cheek while giving him head. The subtle vibration gets transmitted through your mouth, turning your BJ into a whole new level of stimulation.

Especially useful if he takes a little longer to finish.

29. Music + rhythm = magic

Pick a slow, sensual song (like something from The Weeknd or SZA) and move your head and hand to the beat.

This keeps the rhythm natural and engaging, plus, it makes you feel more confident and in control.

30. “Look but don’t touch” game

Before you even put your mouth on him, hover over his dick, breathe on it, kiss around it, and tease like crazy. The anticipation drives him wild, and makes the actual blowjob feel like the hottest reward ever.

31. Let him choose where to come

You don’t have to let him do it every time, but maybe let him come where he wants to, once in a while. You may not understand why he wants to come there, but if he enjoys it, it won’t hurt you, and if you’re fine with it, indulge him.

32. Not all guys can finish with a blowjob

This is a must-know blowjob tip, and not knowing this could bruise your ego. Not every guy can cum with a blowjob. Some guys find it easier to ejaculate while having sex instead.

33. Listen to his suggestions

Now during the blowjob, he’s not going to stop you and explain what he likes and dislikes, but he will move his body in a certain position or hold his penis, etc.

The point is, he’ll make subtle hints as to what he’s into and what he’s not into. Your job is to try to pay attention to those hints.

34. Don’t get offended if it’s not working

You may think that you really know what guys like, but be honest with yourself, you don’t know. You don’t have a dick, so if he’s not enjoying how you’re blowing him, don’t get offended.

Take it as a learning experience and a chance for you to develop some new skills, enjoyable skills. [Read: The small steps to get back your body confidence in the bedroom]

The best blowjob techniques to suck a man to orgasm

Now you know the basics, it’s time to talk blowjob techniques and positions!

1. The hand blowjob

This blowjob technique is actually a handjob disguised as a blowjob. Whether you’re inexperienced or just don’t like to give him head, this is what you do.

Until you have discovered that you can mostly use your hands but still make it appear like you’re putting an erect penis into your mouth, you’ve still got a lot to learn!

This is also a great way to give your mouth a break until you’re ready to move to another blowjob position. [Read: Quick handjob – for when you’re short on time and horny as ever]

2. The rough blowjob

This blowjob technique is very primal. You may have mastered it because you like it rough too, or you’re in a hurry to get someone off in public. It involves very fast sucking, sharp head bobbing, and plenty of hand and finger stimulation.

This is actually less on quality but more on forcing a quick orgasm, something you’d prefer to do if you don’t know the person very well. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]

3. The standard of all blowjob techniques

The standard blowjob is slower, and you’re in a much more comfortable environment. You may actually want to pleasure your man, so you take more than five minutes on his dick. You’re also actually more enthusiastic, but not going crazy *and by this, we mean crazy good* on him.

4. The gourmet

From the term itself, this blowjob technique requires some edibles. You either use some whipped cream, honey, chocolate syrup, or any food item that will make his dick taste better.

If you want to spice things up a bit, this is the technique you’d want to whip out. You’ll love licking yummy food off your man, and he’ll love seeing your delight as you service him. [Read: Sexual bucket list – 17 fun sex ideas you have to try]

5. The no hands

This is a position and blowjob technique that women with exceptional experience often do, especially if they want to show off. This involves using only your mouth and tongue to pleasure him. No hands involved.

For added effect, you can have your man tie your hands behind your back with your undies or his tie.

6. Suck de soleil

If you’re lightweight or petite and your man is especially muscular and strong, you may have done this position with him many times. You let your guy hold you upside down while you give him a blowjob.

Simultaneously, he may thrust into your mouth while standing up, and maybe even while giving you head in return. It’s acrobatic and tiring, but worth it! [Read: Spicy sex positions to heat up your bedroom romps]

7. The python

You may have tried this technique with a hefty man… If you know what we mean. However, this technique can be done with men of all sizes, too.

You put his dick into your mouth inch by inch, like a python swallowing his prey. It’s a blowjob technique that might take some practice, but it’s worth it.

8. Vocalization

This is one of those blowjob techniques where your loud side can really come out. Essentially, you are so into receiving him that you talk dirty and vocalize even during a blowjob.

This includes the gurgling and choking sounds that you make as you thrust his dick into your throat. This technique adds pleasure to the usual head, as the vibrations in your mouth add more stimulation.

9. The whole shebang

This is the kind of blowjob that will definitely blow his mind. You employ many of the above techniques, using your discretion and tuning in to what your partner likes at the moment, to orchestrate your moves.

Employing this blowjob technique can take quite a bit of time, so remember to take breaks. But once you pull it off, you’ll be able to get him off. [Read: 15 things women wish men knew about the female body]

10. The virgin’s mouth

It’s a great way to role play with your guy. You pretend you haven’t seen any other dick before his, so you’re hesitant, scared, excited, and breathless to give him a blowjob.

11. The twister

This one is basically the same as the hand and mouth job from earlier, but instead of allowing your hand to just move up and down, you twist your hand around the head and shaft at the same time to create friction.

To add extra enjoyment for him, you can use both hands and twist them in opposite directions, whilst you suck on the tip.

12. Deepthroating

Many women have tried this and failed, and may have tried it and thought they were going to throw up. Deepthroating is the stuff of porn legend, and your man is certainly going to enjoy it if you give it a go.

Basically, you take him as far to the back of your throat as you possibly can.

The downside? You’ll gag for sure, and you might be worried about being sick, so pull back once you feel yourself getting close to the gagging sensation and move on to another oral sex position. [Read: 26 secrets to deepthroat like a pornstar & leave a guy gasping in pleasure]

13. Hitting the roof

If deepthroating isn’t your deal, you could try using the roof of your mouth for extra friction instead. Rather than allowing him to hit the back of your throat, angle it upwards, so it hits the roof of your mouth instead.

Less potential for sickness and still a good time for him.

Ironically, the gag reflex at the back of your throat will actually massage the tip for him and gives him extra pleasure. So, whilst you’re trying not to vomit, he’s loving the feeling.

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Are blowjobs good foreplay?

To a guy, a blowjob is literally the best kind of foreplay you could ever indulge in.

Firstly, foreplay is the most important part of the lovemaking experience. Of course, we’ve all had amazing quickies without foreplay that will be remembered forever. But in general, we can all agree that great sex requires phenomenal foreplay.

From a woman’s point of view, a guy going down on her helps to get her engine revved, ready for the main event. That’s exactly what it’s like for a guy too.

Why you should give your man head

Firstly, if you don’t want to or don’t like it, you really don’t have to. It’s that simple. But if you’re open to the idea, giving your boyfriend head comes with many benefits that can take your sex life to the next level. So, how is it any different than just penetrative sex?

The pleasure received through oral sex boosts the chance of reaching orgasm and can enhance the sexual experience not just for him, but for you too. By engaging in oral sex, your time in the bedroom is diversified and you lower the risk of falling into a sex rut.

There is also a new level of intimacy that comes with giving a blowjob. We mean, you’re literally face to face with his package, so of course it’s going to get intimate.

What many women fail to realize is many men struggle with performance anxiety when it comes to sex. They’re anxious about their size, their girth, their member’s aesthetic, if it’s deep enough… The list goes on.

So when a man receives a blowjob, it’s a way he communicates sexual trust. He trusts his partner to explore his body without fear of judgment. And by creating an accepting space for him, you show him support, trust, love for his body, and instill confidence in him.

In short, giving a blowjob has a lot of benefits that often go overlooked. The intimacy that comes along with oral sex strengthens the closeness of a couple and even brings back a spark that was once missing. [Read: 46 sexy secrets to please & pleasure a man in bed & leave him aroused 24/7]

Cut vs. uncut – does it make a difference?

It really doesn’t matter whether your guy is cut or uncut. If he’s hard, you’ve just got one simple job – a blowjob!

If he’s not hard yet, you’ll need to gently pull back the foreskin if he’s not cut. This is really the only difference. However, if you do this, do so gently!

As for sensation, it really depends on the individual guy and his sensitivity level, but on the whole, he’s going to enjoy himself, so don’t stress whether he’s cut or not! [Read: Sexy things to love about an uncircumcised penis]

Three common mistakes that girls make

Before we dive into all of the things that you can do to make your sucking techniques as masterful as possible, it’s important to go over some common mistakes that you need to ensure you avoid.

1. Rushing in too quickly

Girls often do this if they don’t really want to suck the guy’s dick but they know that it’s expected or feel like they should.

It’s almost as if they close their eyes and then dive right down there, trying to endure it for as long as possible, and then coming back up for air with a sense of accomplishment. [Read: Turn-offs for guys – 72 physical, dating & sexual put offs all men notice & dislike]

This mindset not only makes the experience worse for her but for him too. Sex – whether oral or penetrative – is about being present in the moment and enjoying the company of your partner.

If you want to rush sex simply because you don’t want to endure it, reconsider why you’re having sex in the first place.

2. Teeth

This is fairly obvious, but remember how sensitive a guy’s penis is.

While some, and by that we mean very few, men like a slight graze with the teeth, it’s generally a better idea to keep your teeth far away from his member.

The penis is very sensitive, and a slight nip could have him writhing in pain. You want him writhing in pleasure, certainly not agony.

3. Lack of commitment

We’ll reveal a few ways to improve your technique soon, but giving a blowjob is more than just putting the head of the penis into your mouth and bobbing up and down a bit.

After a while, he will become desensitized to this technique – if it even is one. A lack of commitment is a real turn-off for both people involved. You might even send the message across that you are uninterested in him sexually. [Read: How to spice up a relationship – 30 sexy ways to feel loved & horny]

How do you know if he’s enjoying the blowjob?

The best way to know if he’s enjoying his time is to listen and look!

If you’re doing it poorly or he’s not enjoying it, you should be able to read the signs to know. If he’s enjoying it, well, you’ll definitely know!

However, it’s always important for partners to communicate with one another in a sensitive way. By doing that, both partners are happy and enjoying themselves. There is nothing worse than wondering if what you’re doing is right or not; everyone needs a little feedback!

Similarly, there is nothing worse than putting up with something because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings by telling them it feels bad. [Read: Top worst mistakes couples make in a relationship]

Before you slide under the sheets (or under him), here’s something way hotter than any tongue trick, enthusiastic, clear consent. Good head doesn’t start with your mouth. It starts with a conversation.

If you’re wondering how to give good head, remember: the real secret isn’t in some viral blowjob technique, it’s in knowing what your partner likes, what you feel comfortable doing, and making sure you’re both on the same page.

Whether it’s asking things like, “Do you like it when I go slow?” or setting clear boundaries (“I’m not into swallowing”), open communication removes the guesswork and turns nervous energy into confident, connected pleasure.

In fact, research shows that couples who communicate openly about sex report higher satisfaction, greater intimacy, and more frequent orgasms. 📚 Source: Allen B Mallory, 2021, Dimensions of Couples’ Sexual Communication and Satisfaction

So, what does good sexual communication sound like?

“Do you want me to try that thing we talked about?”
“Tell me what you like while I go down on you.”
“It’s totally okay if you’re not in the mood, I just want to know.”

Consent and communication don’t kill the mood, they make it ten times hotter. They create space for trust, kink, creativity, and mind-melting orgasms. And guess what? Being able to say yes confidently only feels good when you also feel free to say no.

Oral Hygiene & Safety Tips Before You Go South

Nobody talks about this enough, but oral sex does come with its own set of hygiene rules and health risks, especially if it’s not with a long-term monogamous partner.

You’re literally putting your mouth on someone’s genitals, so let’s not pretend it’s all strawberries and whipped cream.

Whether you’re just exploring how to give good head or you’ve got blowjob techniques down to an art, here’s what you need to keep in mind to stay safe and sexy:

1. Freshen up together

Before anything goes in anyone’s mouth, a quick wash with warm water (not heavily fragranced soap) is your best friend. You don’t have to make it awkward, invite him to shower with you and turn it into foreplay.

A clean penis is a sexy penis.

2. **STIs can be passed through oral sex**

Yes, really. Oral sex can transmit herpes, HPV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and even syphilis or HIV in certain situations, especially if you have cuts or sores in your mouth or gums. 📚 Source: CDC, Oral Sex and the Risk of STDs

3. Dental dams & condoms exist for a reason

They’re rarely used, but that doesn’t mean they’re useless. If you’re giving head to a new partner, or one you’re not exclusive with, flavored condoms or dental dams are your best bet for protection. They reduce STI risk while still letting you go wild.

4. Check for cuts or sores

If you’ve got a sore throat, ulcers, cold sores, or bleeding gums, skip the blowjob tonight. These create open doorways for infections.

5. Mouthwash = yes / Brushing = maybe not

Don’t brush your teeth right before giving head, tiny abrasions in your gums can increase STI risk. Instead, rinse with antibacterial mouthwash to freshen up safely.

6. Don’t ignore unusual smells or discharge

If something smells off, feels off, or tastes weird, it probably is. Trust your instincts and don’t be afraid to say “hey, let’s pause and check in.”

It’s not “unsexy”, it’s smart.

Mental Blocks: Why Some Women Feel Weird Giving Head (And How to Change That)

Not every woman loves giving head, and if you’re reading this while cringing at the idea, you’re not alone.

Maybe you’ve tried it and hated the smell. Or you worry about gagging. Maybe it just feels awkward, degrading, or straight-up gross. And you know what? That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

The truth is, a lot of women have mental blocks about blowjobs, and they come from real places: societal messaging, bad past experiences, pressure to perform like it’s a porn scene, or just plain old unfamiliarity.

1. The “penis is weird” problem

If your brain is screaming “I can’t put that in my mouth, it PEES from there!”, welcome to the most common block. It’s okay to feel that way. This is where hygiene, trust, and your own comfort level come in.

You can always start small: kissing, licking, using your hands more, and slowly exploring. It’s not all-or-nothing.

2. Porn-pressure and performance anxiety

Porn makes it look like you’re supposed to be a deepthroating gymnast with a messy finish and no complaints. But in reality? Most guys just want you to enjoy it. Pleasure, not performance, is the goal. Do what feels good to you, too.

📚 Source: Ruth Lewis et al., 2016, Oral Sex, Young People, and Gendered Narratives of Reciprocity

3. Fear of gagging or choking

It’s a real fear, and it’s valid. Deepthroating is not a requirement to giving good head. You can stay at the top, use your hands, and still make him melt. Learning how to breathe and control your rhythm over time helps build confidence, too.

4. Feeling objectified or degraded

Some women feel like giving head puts them in a submissive or degraded role. That’s usually a sign something deeper needs unpacking, maybe a bad past experience or just discomfort with power dynamics.

But here’s the flip: when done on your terms, oral sex can be incredibly empowering. You’re choosing to give pleasure, to take control of the moment, to drive him wild with your skills. [Read: Head Pusher: Why Some Selfish Guys Do This & How to Handle Them]

5. Negative past experiences

If a guy once grabbed your head without warning, said something gross, or acted entitled, yeah, that’ll ruin it. You deserve trust, safety, and respect. So if you’re open to trying again, communicate your boundaries clearly and make sure he earns that access. [Read: Using Sex as a Weapon: Why We Do It & 20 Harsh Ways It Could Backfire On You]

Want to shift your mindset?

Start by taking pressure off yourself. You don’t have to “be amazing” or finish him off with fireworks. You just need to feel safe, clean, curious, and in control. That’s how confidence builds.

Let oral sex become an experience you enjoy, not just a box to check.

[Read: The top *totally acceptable* reasons why a girl would refuse to blow a guy]

Aftercare, Emotional Connection & What Happens Next

Sure, learning how to give good head is a sexy skill. But what happens after the moans and messy sheets matters just as much.

Aftercare isn’t just for kink, it’s for intimacy, reassurance, and connection. Whether it’s cuddling, a glass of water, playful teasing, or a shared laugh about the “we almost broke the bed” moment, these little things help deepen the bond.

Studies show that couples who engage in affectionate aftercare report higher sexual satisfaction and emotional closeness. 📚 Source: Amy Muise, et al., 2014, Post Sex Affectionate Exchanges Promote Sexual Satisfaction

It also gives you both a chance to talk openly about what felt amazing, what you’d want to try next time, and what could feel even better with a slight tweak.

Because at the end of the day, oral sex isn’t just about blowjob techniques, it’s about trust, curiosity, and the playful journey of turning each other on. And that? That’s way hotter than any one move.

So go ahead: play, explore, tease, taste… and make the entire experience, from start to cuddle, something neither of you will forget.

P.S. Want to really master how to give good head? Treat every blowjob like a delicious mystery, something you explore, tweak, and remix each time. That’s how the pros do it. And honestly, when you enjoy it, he’ll feel it in every moan.

So there you have it, a shortlist of the many positions, blowjob techniques and oral sex tips that every girl should know. These techniques are fun and key to giving a great BJ experience.

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