Most men love women who get the job done excellently—and by job, we mean blowjob. Use these secrets to give good head, and blow his mind every time.
If there’s one job that shouldn’t be like a job, it’s the blowjob.
Nothing can turn off a man who’s getting head than a partner who knows how to give it, but just isn’t into it, or a partner who goes through the same motions like clockwork. That’s boring. Let’s admit, there are many women out there who are either not givers or gifted in the art of blowing.
Still, you have to do it at one point or another, whether to return the favor to your man, turn him on, or to just give him a treat.
So let’s get on with it, shall we?
How to give a mind-blowing blowjob
A blowjob, done right, is a woman’s ultimate secret weapon in bed to make your man fall apart in your hands… or in this case, your mouth. You’ll even end up with a little pleasure too.
#1 Take control. Performing oral sex on your partner can be empowering, as you hold in your hands, mouth, or both, the power to please your partner in your own way and with your own timing. This can also amp up your own libido, making you more aroused as well.
Giving head to your partner is a great time for you to explore his body in very intimate ways, get to know its curves and crevices, and at the same time have fun. So take this opportunity to get to know him better physically and keep things playfully sexy. [Read: How to master the art of the perfect blowjob]
#2 Build it up. Often, when you’re in the heat of the moment, you may find yourself heading straight to your man’s fly. While this is fine *and a must for quickies*, it’s the buildup that gives you both the best orgasms. So instead of ripping his boxers off, take your time and linger on his other body parts.
Caress his arms, trace his chest, make your fingers lightly touch his abs as you make a trail towards his crotch. Taking your time like this and teasing him with your fingers and palms will help build anticipation, which can then potentially take your main event through the roof.
#3 Explore with your mouth. We can’t emphasize enough, don’t just head straight to the crotch when you give head. As you trail a path with your fingers from your lover’s chest down to his manhood, follow this up with your lips and tongue. Kiss him in various places as you go down his body.
If you are undressing him, kiss him downwards as you unbutton his shirt. This keeps his arousal up and stimulates him in all places at once with your hands and fingers, which is almost enough to take him over the edge, that is, until you finally take him into your mouth. [Read: 10 seductive bad girl sex tricks to try in bed tonight]
#4 Give it a hand. Or two. Just because you are using your mouth for the BJ doesn’t mean you should leave your hands idle on your sides. Massage, rub, caress, and stimulate him in different parts of his body, especially his member.
Use one hand around his base and move it up and down as you also bob up and down with your mouth, stimulating his whole penis. Also pay attention to his little jewels, his testicles. Rub and caress them, or give them a gentle squeeze from time to time. [Read: 12 sexy, smutty moves to give him the best handjob ever]
#5 Use your body. Anyone who is an expert at giving head knows how to give the full-body experience. After all, it’s not just your mouth, tongue, and hands that are sensual and can give pleasure. Your whole body can be a great tool too.
Rub your breasts against his thighs as you sit above him on the bed. Graze your hair over his stomach to give subtle sensations as you move down. Better yet, with good positioning and better coordination, you can guide his hand to your breasts, touch yourself, or have him touch you down there too. All of these add important wow factors to your whole performance. [Read: Erogenous zones for men – 8 secret zones to touch your guy]
#6 Lube it up. Making your BJ wet and moist is by far one of the best things you can do, whether you’re a blowjob newbie or an expert. Making his member wet makes the whole experience more sensual and luscious, taking the friction up enough without making it painful.
You can do this by producing enough saliva or by using a flavored lube. If you’re into some experimentation, you can also try whipped cream or flavored syrup, so you’ll enjoy licking those goodies off of him too.
#7 No jaws. It is highly important to avoid grazing your teeth on your man’s rob when you are giving him a blowjob. Even if you’re highly aroused and can’t get enough of his manhood, avoid clamping down with your jaws, as your man’s penis is highly sensitive, especially when he’s erect.
Even accidentally grazing his shaft with your teeth can be enough to make the moment fizzle. A great tip to avoid this is to wrap your lips over your teeth as you move up and down and all over him. This ensures that your munchers will have no contact with his pecker.
#8 Variety! Have you figured out a way to make your man come when you get down on him? Is this what you have kept doing because it works? You may have the techniques down pat, but if you keep doing the same routine over and over, it can get boring.
And as we all know, boredom and routine are two things that can kill a relationship, both in and out of the bedroom. Therefore, try out new things with your blowjob repertoire. Keep exploring and keep on looking for hot spots. Vary your tempo, pressure, and rhythm to keep the excitement going. [Read: 8 naughty little moves every guy wishes you’d do in bed]
#9 Get some rest. Sure, giving him a blowjob can get tiring, especially for your mouth and jaw muscles. But you know what? It’s okay to rest. All that rolling and bobbing can be painful for you, so allow yourself some active rest.
This is when you can try other things while you give your mouth a break. For example, brush or rub his penis against your lips, like you’re using his dick as a lipstick. Alternate with your hands to keep the sensation going.
#10 Make eye contact. Just because he can’t see you as you kneel or go down on him doesn’t mean you should disappear. Make your presence felt by maintaining connection with him through eye contact.
If he’s lying down and you’re sitting down with your head on his crotch, chances are, he might also be looking at you from time to time. These moments are the best times to lock eyes with him, and maybe give him a sexy wink and a smile as you resume pleasing him. [Read: 9 blowjob secrets to drive him wild with desire]
#11 Finish off with fireworks. Here’s a topic for debate: to swallow or not to swallow? The answer to this lies in your own preference. If swallowing cum is revolting to you, then don’t force yourself to swallow, giving him a disgusted face at the end.
Find out what he prefers, as there are men who like to come on your breasts, belly, or even your face, and there are those who like to come inside your mouth. If they belong in the latter category, what you can do is to let him come in your mouth but modestly spit it out onto a tissue afterwards.
Make it a full-body performance by putting your whole body to work and not just your mouth. This is also the perfect time to get creative as you get more intimately acquainted with your man’s anatomy. And of course, don’t forget to have fun.
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Tiffany Grace Reyes
Tiffany is a wordsmith who has played with words ever since her letter-to-the-editor was published nationally at the age of 9. Since then her writing has gone f...