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How to Talk Dirty To a Guy & Secrets to Arouse Him with the Sexiest Words

Dirty talk is sure to get your guy’s pulse throbbing, amongst other things! Learn how to talk dirty to a guy and have him salivating in no time. 

How to Talk Dirty To a Guy

Most girls want to talk dirty with their boyfriends, but many of them just don’t know what to say. It’s not the most natural thing in the world, is it? However, you can learn how to talk dirty to a guy and have him in the palm of your hand much easier than you might think. It all comes down to confidence, practice, and a few tips.

The good news is that you don’t need to resort to porn star tactics to be effective. Talking dirty can be anything from telling your man how good it feels to full-on fantasy conversations.

There’s a level of comfort for everyone but you need to find a way that suits you best.

[Read: A step-by-step guide – How to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one else can]

What is dirty talk?

Let’s bust a few myths here.

Like we’ve just said, dirty talk doesn’t have to be explicit lines peppered with words for genitals that make you blush. If you attempt to talk dirty in that way and you’re not comfortable, your man is going to cringe as well. He wants you to be comfortable too. In fact, he wants you to enjoy talking dirty just as much as he enjoys hearing it. [Read: Dirty talking in bed with your partner]

If you try and say a word that makes you feel awkward, it’s going to show on your face. So, find words that you’re good with. And, if you can’t think of any, find other words that don’t make you want to hide your face.

At the end of the day, however, dirty talk should be something you feel comfortable doing with your man because it makes you both feel good.

If it’s just not something you enjoy or look forward to, it might not be for you. But, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it!

So, what is dirty talk? It’s voicing your pleasure, your wants, desires, and telling your man how good he’s making you feel. When you break it down like that, it doesn’t seem so scary, does it?

[Read: 20 sexy examples to talk dirty to a guy over text and give him a hard-on in seconds!]

How to talk dirty to a guy

Talking dirty should come effortlessly, and it definitely will, when you understand what talking dirty is all about.

Learning to talk dirty can definitely make sex feel a lot better and a lot more sexually exciting too, even if you’ve been in a relationship with your man for a long time. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy]

The easiest way to start talking dirty when you’re having sex with your man is to just talk. If your thoughts are sexy, the words will always be dirty.

What you hear on a porn video isn’t dirty talk, it’s almost always just dirty. If your man likes that kind of talk, and you like it too, watch a few nudie videos and learn from it.

But if you really want to understand how to talk dirty with a guy and sound really sexy at the same time, just use these tips. [Read: The best tips on turning a guy on when he’s with you]

1. Speak your mind when you’re horny

While having sex, almost all the time, you’ll find that there are a lot of naughty things that pass through your head.

If you can think it, say it to your man. If you’re aroused, it’s definitely going to sound dirty.

3. What if was a casual one night stand?

Learning to talk dirty to a guy is all about indulging in an active imagination. What are the fantasies that arouse you?

Just imagine he was a sexy friend who you ended up having sex with when you were drunk. Or imagine he’s a hot guy you’re having a one night stand with. How would you feel? Wouldn’t sex feel awesome and your orgasms feel better if you were having sex with a stranger all of a sudden?

Imagine that and talk to him about it. [Read: Top 10 female sexual fantasies that are worth trying in real life]

3. Talk like you’re having an affair

How would it feel if both of you were having an amorous affair? The sexiest way to talk dirty to a guy is by fantasizing about passionate moments that are risqué.

Say something like “if I was having an affair with a guy like you, I’d get wet just watching you…” and add a few more sexy personal lines to your sexy stories.

4. Describe your dirty thoughts

Want to arouse a guy even before you get to the act in bed? Whisper what you’d do to him as soon as you get some time alone with him into his ears when he’s driving and on the way home.

As long as you go into all the intimate details, it’ll always be perfect dirty talk. [Read: 60 dirty and seductive things to say to turn a guy on]

5. Moan and let him know you like it

At times, you don’t need words to talk dirty to a guy. When you’re making love to your man, show your appreciation with wet gasps and moans.

As long as you gasp and go ‘aaah’ each time he thrusts you deep, it’ll give him the same horny boost as sexy talk. [Read: How to moan and look and sound way more sexy in bed]

6. It’s not always what you say

Say anything sexy, but whisper it in his ears softly and breathlessly. It’s not always what you say to him to turn him on, but how you say it that makes all the difference.

Don’t giggle or try to look sweet. Look sexy, feel confident with your own body and moves, and just drop a few sexy words while biting his ear. [Read: How to become a sexy seductress overnight]

7. Party favors

Talking dirty about a wild party is always a huge turn on. Parties are sexy and sweaty. While having sex, dirty talk to him about the sexy things you’d do to him if both of you were at a crowded club and everyone else was too busy to notice the dirty things you’re doing to him.

8. Don’t trash talk

Don’t trash talk unless you like it and so does your boyfriend or husband. For most guys, moaning unnecessarily or making extremely aroused facial expressions for no reason can be a sexual turn off.

It may work in the nudie movies. It doesn’t always work in real life unless your boyfriend looks at you like a sexy piece of meat.

When feelings are involved in bed, use your imagination and get him thinking. It’ll arouse your man more and create better dirty talking opportunities. [Read: 40 naughty, playful texts to keep things hot and horny]

9. Only use crude words if you’re both comfortable with them

Calling each other a bitch and a dog could excite a few *animal lovers*, not everyone else. If you like it, use it a couple of times and see if your man reciprocates by calling you something indecent in return.

If he doesn’t say anything or looks surprised, don’t worry about it and just switch to some other kind of dirty talk. [Read: 30 really dirty would-you-rather questions to turn your guy on]

10. Recall a sexy memory and talk about it

Can you recollect any sexy incidents that always turn both of you on? Perhaps, the time when you almost got caught, or the last time you gave him a road head?

Imagining and recreating a sexy memory like the first time you had sex with him or let him fondle your breasts, through dirty talk can be extremely arousing and connecting for both of you. [Read: Road head confessions of a good girl]

11. Just tell him how good things feel

The single best way to start with dirty talk is to just tell your guy that what he’s doing feels good. Then, you can try and direct him a little. Perhaps tell him to go deeper, harder, faster. You get the idea. He’ll love that you’re telling him what you want and like, plus it’s exactly the same as dirty talk!

12. Don’t just say “it feels nice”

Okay, dirty talk can be anything you want it to be, but it shouldn’t be boring. If you just say “oh it’s nice” it’s not really going to make your partner feel like you’re trying. Be a little more descriptive and just say exactly how it feels. Sure, it feels nice, but what else? Go for it! [Read: 10 sexy sweet-nothings to whisper to your man in bed]

13. Make sure you speak with confidence

You might not feel confident at first, and that’s fine. However, you need to try and believe in yourself as much as you can, and then the real confidence will come.

Look your partner in the eye and tell him how good it feels. Tell him what you want him to do to you and what you want to do to him. It’s the confidence that will turn him on.

14. Eye contact makes all the difference

We’ve just talked about speaking with confidence but remember eye contact. This is so vital. If you look your partner right in the eye when you’re talking and don’t shy away, he’s going to go crazy.

When learning how to talk dirty to a guy that’s one of the most important tips you need to remember. [Read: 16 sexy ways to go from eyes-closed sex to eyes wide open in bed]

15. Use your body language too

Bite your lip, lick your lips, play with your hair, run your hands over your body. Better still, run your hands over his body!

When you show with your body language that you’re turned on, then your words will mean so much more. Basically, he’ll know that you mean exactly what you’re saying.

Lines that make for good dirty talk

If you’re looking for a few examples on sexy and dirty things to say to your boyfriend or husband, just use your imagination and mix these few lines in!

1. You make me so wet

2. Your shoulders look so sexy [Read: 25 sexiest dirty talk lines to make anyone horny with your words]

3. Gosh, it feels so big!

4. I love the way you feel inside me

5. Ohh… don’t stop that!

6. This feels so good!

Can you see how easy it can be? [Read: How to be good at sex – 17 moves to become the hottest lay]

Lines that don’t always sound good while talking dirty

1. More, more, more! *trust us, he’s trying his best already!*

2. Is that all you got, big boy? *are you trying to emasculate him?*

3. Screaming *really, how many people actually enjoy screaming?*

4. F##k me… *seriously, what IS he doing to you?*

5. Do it harder… *You’ll make him feel like he’s inadequate unless you compliment him for it after a few seconds of harder thrusts* We mentioned earlier that you can look him in the eye and tell him you want it harder but it really depends how you say it!

6. Say something dirty to me / Call me a bitch *don’t ask him, just say it* [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

If you want to talk dirty to a guy, sound sexy, and arouse him all at once, always remember to compliment your man with your words or recreate a few sexy fantasies for him while talking dirty.

[Read: The beginners guide to having phone sex like a sexy sassy minx!]

Just use these tips on how to talk dirty to a guy and really, you just won’t go wrong. In fact, you’ll bring back the horny school kid in him each time you have sex and talk dirty to him!

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Morgan Miller
Morgan Miller is a writer who lives in the Bay area, and suffers from an addiction to all things geeky and artsy. She loves wearing leggings as pants, and when ...
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