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How to Talk Dirty To a Guy & 36 Secrets to Arouse Him with the Sexiest Words

Talking dirty isn’t that difficult, but many people struggle with it. Learning how to talk dirty to a guy is about owning your confidence and going for it! 

How to Talk Dirty To a Guy

Most girls want to talk dirty with their boyfriends, but many of them just don’t know what to say. It’s not the most natural thing in the world, is it? However, you can learn how to talk dirty to a guy and have him in the palm of your hand much easier than you might think.

It all comes down to confidence, practice, and following a few tips.

The good news is that you don’t need to resort to pornstar tactics to be effective. Talking dirty can be anything from telling your man how good it feels to full-on fantasy conversations.

There’s a level of comfort for everyone but you need to find a way that suits you best. [Read: A step-by-step guide – how to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one else can]

What is dirty talk?

Dirty talk is voicing your pleasure, your wants, desires, and telling your man how good he’s making you feel. When you break it down like that, it doesn’t seem so scary, does it?

Dirty talk doesn’t have to be explicit lines peppered with words for genitals that make you blush. If you attempt to talk dirty in that way and you’re not comfortable, your man is going to cringe as well. He wants you to be comfortable too. In fact, he wants you to enjoy talking dirty just as much as he enjoys hearing it. [Read: Dirty talking in bed with your partner]

If you try to say a word that makes you feel awkward, it’s going to show on your face. So, find words that you’re good with. And, if you can’t think of any, find other words that don’t make you want to hide your face.

At the end of the day, dirty talk should be something you feel comfortable doing with your man because it makes you both feel good.

If it’s just not something you enjoy or look forward to, it might not be for you. But, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it! [Read: 20 sexy examples to talk dirty to a guy over text and give him a hard-on in seconds!]

How to talk dirty to a guy

Talking dirty should come effortlessly, and it definitely will when you understand what talking dirty is all about.

Learning to talk dirty can definitely make sex feel a lot better and a lot more sexually exciting too, even if you’ve been in a relationship with your man for a long time. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy]

The easiest way to start talking dirty when you’re having sex with your man is to just talk. If your thoughts are sexy, the words will always be dirty.

But if you really want to understand how to talk dirty with a guy and sound really sexy at the same time, just use these tips. [Read: The best tips on turning a guy on when he’s with you]

1. Speak your mind when you’re horny

While having sex, you’ll find that there are a lot of naughty things that pass through your head. If you can think of it, say it to your man. If you’re aroused, it’s definitely going to sound dirty. [Read: 25 horny ways to increase your sex drive and keep it high]

2. Play with fantasies

Learning to talk dirty to a guy is all about indulging in an active imagination. What are the fantasies that arouse you?

Just imagine he was a sexy friend who you ended up having sex with when you were drunk. Or imagine he’s a hot guy you’re having a one-night stand with. How would you feel? Wouldn’t sex feel awesome and your orgasms feel better if you were having sex with a stranger all of a sudden?

Imagine that and talk to him about it. [Read: Top female sexual fantasies that are worth trying in real life]

3. Talk like you’re having an affair

How would it feel if both of you were having an amorous affair? The sexiest way to talk dirty to a guy is by fantasizing about passionate moments that are risqué.

Say something like “if I was having an affair with a guy like you, I’d get wet just watching you…” and add a few more sexy personal lines to your sexy stories.

4. Describe your dirty thoughts

Want to arouse a guy even before you get to the act in bed? Whisper what you’d do to him as soon as you get some time alone with him into his ears when he’s driving and on the way home.

As long as you go into all the intimate details, it’ll always be perfect dirty talk. [Read: 60 dirty and seductive things to say to turn a guy on]

5. Moan and let him know you like it

At times, you don’t need words to talk dirty to a guy. When you’re making love to your man, show your appreciation with wet gasps and moans.

As long as you gasp and moan each time he thrusts you deep, it’ll give him the same horny boost as sexy talk. [Read: How to moan and look and sound way more sexy in bed]

6. It’s not always what you say

Say anything sexy, but whisper it in his ears softly and breathlessly. It’s not always what you say to him to turn him on, but how you say it that makes all the difference.

Don’t giggle or try to look sweet. Look sexy, feel confident with your own body and moves, and just drop a few sexy words while biting his ear. [Read: How to become a sexy seductress overnight]

7. Party favors

Talking dirty about a wild party is always a huge turn-on. Parties are sexy and sweaty. While having sex, dirty talk to him about the sexy things you’d do to him if both of you were at a crowded club and everyone else was too busy to notice the dirty things you’re doing to him.

8. Don’t trash talk

Don’t trash talk unless you both like it. For most guys, moaning unnecessarily or making extremely aroused facial expressions for no reason can be a sexual turn-off.

It may work in porn movies, but it doesn’t always work in real life unless your boyfriend looks at you like a sexy piece of meat.

When feelings are involved in bed, use your imagination and get him thinking. It’ll arouse your man more and create better dirty talking opportunities. [Read: 40 naughty, playful texts to keep things hot and horny]

9. Only use crude words if you’re both comfortable with them

Calling each other a bitch and a dog could excite a few *animal lovers*, but not everyone else. If you like it, use it a couple of times and see if your man reciprocates by calling you something indecent in return.

If he doesn’t say anything or looks surprised, don’t worry about it and just switch to some other kind of dirty talk. [Read: 30 really dirty would-you-rather questions to turn your guy on]

10. Recall a sexy memory and talk about it

Can you recollect any sexy incidents that always turn both of you on? Perhaps, the time when you almost got caught, or the last time you gave him a road head?

Imagining and recreating a sexy memory like the first time you had sex with him or letting him fondle your breasts, through dirty talk can be extremely arousing and connecting for both of you. [Read: Road head confessions of a good girl]

11. Just tell him how good things feel

The single best way to start with dirty talk is to just tell your guy that what he’s doing feels good. Then, you can try and direct him a little. Perhaps tell him to go deeper, harder, faster. You get the idea.

He’ll love that you’re telling him what you want and like, plus it’s exactly the same as dirty talk!

12. Don’t just say “it feels nice”

Okay, dirty talk can be anything you want it to be, but it shouldn’t be boring. If you just say “oh it’s nice” it’s not really going to make your partner feel like you’re trying. Be a little more descriptive and just say exactly how it feels.

Sure, it feels nice, but what else? Go for it! [Read: Sexy sweet-nothings to whisper to your man in bed]

13. Make sure you speak with confidence

You might not feel confident at first, and that’s fine. However, you need to try and believe in yourself as much as you can, and then real confidence will come.

Look your partner in the eye and tell him how good it feels. Tell him what you want him to do to you and what you want to do to him. It’s the confidence that will turn him on.

14. Eye contact makes all the difference

We’ve just talked about speaking with confidence but remember eye contact. This is so vital. If you look your partner right in the eye when you’re talking and don’t shy away, he’s going to go crazy.

When learning how to talk dirty to a guy, eye contact is one of the most important tips you need to remember. [Read: 16 sexy ways to go from eyes-closed sex to eyes wide open in bed]

15. Use your body language too

Bite your lip, lick your lips, play with your hair, and run your hands over your body. Better yet, run your hands over his body!

When you show through your body language that you’re turned on, your words will mean so much more. Basically, he’ll know that you mean exactly what you’re saying.

16. Remember to relax

Of course, it’s easier said than done. If this is your first-time dirty talking to your man then we understand why you’re nervous. But listen, there’s no reason to be nervous.

If this is your first time, it is probably his first time as well. So, you are basically on equal playing fields. If you’re really nervous, then maybe you should rethink this. It could be you’re not ready and that’s okay. [Read: How to start sexting when you’ve never done it before]

17. Just say what you want him to do

Dirty talking is basically an “in” on the type of sexual experiences you like. You give your partner a sexy guidebook that he, if smart, should follow.

Dirty talking is telling your partner what you want to do to him or with him before actually doing it. This is also the opportunity for him to tell you what he likes and what he’d like to do to you.

18. Remember to be yourself too

When it comes to learning how to talk dirty to your man, please don’t make the mistake of trying to act like you like certain things because he likes it. No, no, no.

You need to be you and when you’re dirty talking to your man, if you aren’t vibing with what he’s saying, then don’t go along with it. Make sure you speak your mind because he’s not telepathic! [Read: How to unfake your life and embrace you]

19. Ease into it

Don’t just all of a sudden start talking dirty, especially if it’s your first time doing it with your partner. Start by flirting and then slowly build up the intensity. For example, if he says he’s in bed, you can reply by saying, “You know what I’d do if I was there beside you?”

This alerts him of what he’s in for, so he has a moment to prepare. It’ll catch him off guard, but he’ll get into the mood.

20. Be descriptive

Men are visual, so, you want to make sure that when you’re dirty talking, you use a lot of description. Don’t be scared to go into detail about what you’d like him to do to you or you do to him.

With description, he’ll be able to have a visual in his mind of you and that’s exactly what you want. Now, this doesn’t mean use big words, keep it simple! [Read: 31 new things to try in bed at least once with your lover]

21. Make use of the five senses

You have five of them for a reason, so make sure you use every one of them. If you want to get the vibe going, you should be using multi-sensory descriptive words.

Of course, you’ll use sight and touch, but those aren’t the only senses you have. Talk about sounds, taste, and smell. Don’t leave anything out.

22. You can start by texting

Texting is usually the easiest way to get into dirty talking if you’re not used to doing it. Plus, you have more time to think about what you want to say and reply. Overall, it’s a less stressful situation.

Make a comment about having a shower or how you can’t stop thinking about him. Easing into the dirty talk from there. [Read: How to learn to send your boyfriend steamy texts]

23. Tone changes everything

The tone of your voice can be a very powerful tool when you dirty talk. A deep and soulful tone builds up the sexual tension and sensuality between you. A higher pitch voice also works to arouse him.

You can play around with this and see what he reacts to the best.

24. Practice makes perfect

Talking dirty probably won’t fly out of your mouth naturally the first time. You must practice, especially if you’re not comfortable. You may want to practice on your own the first time.

You can always talk to him and tell him that you’re not experienced with dirty talking. That way, he helps you out and guides you. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]

Lines that make for good dirty talk

If you’re looking for a few examples of sexy and dirty things to say to your man, just use your imagination and mix these few lines in!

1. You make me so wet.

2. You look so sexy. [Read: 25 sexiest dirty talk lines to make anyone horny with your words]

3. Gosh, it feels so big!

4. I love the way you feel inside me.

5. Ohh… don’t stop that!

6. This feels so good!

Can you see how easy it can be? [Read: How to be good at sex – 17 moves to become the hottest lay]

Lines that don’t always sound good while talking dirty

1. More, more, more! *Trust us, he’s trying his best already!*

2. Is that all you got, big boy? *Are you trying to emasculate him?*

3. Screaming *Really, how many people actually enjoy screaming?*

4. F##k me… *Seriously, what IS he doing to you?*

5. Do it harder… *You’ll make him feel like he’s inadequate unless you compliment him for it after a few seconds of harder thrusts. We mentioned earlier that you can look him in the eye and tell him you want it harder but it really depends on how you say it!*

6. Say something dirty to me / Call me a bitch *Don’t ask him, just say it* [Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

If you want to talk dirty to a guy, sound sexy, and arouse him all at once, always remember to compliment your man with your words or recreate a few sexy fantasies for him while talking dirty.

[Read: The beginners guide to having phone sex like a sexy sassy minx!]

Just use these tips on how to talk dirty to a guy and really, you just won’t go wrong. In fact, you’ll bring back the horny school kid in him each time you have sex and talk dirty to him!

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...