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Top 8 Reasons Why She Refuses to Give You a Blow Job

No matter how nicely you ask, there will be some women who simply won’t blow you. Here are the top 8 reasons why she’s refusing to go down below.

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A lot of things confuse men when it comes to having sex with a woman. Aside from not knowing the location of specific parts of a woman’s body, they also have trouble understanding why some women refuse to give blow jobs. The reason is not something that can easily be discussed, but we’re here to do that for you.

If you look at the most common pattern of sexual intercourse today, oral sex is usually a given. Foreplay can start by exploring different parts of each other’s body, but it almost always ends with oral sex. The assumption is that all girls are willing to give their partners blow jobs, but that is absolutely not the case.

A lot of women do not want to give their partners a blow job. Their reason should not be an issue for anyone. Their bodies are their own and their decision should be respected by any man who wants to be with them.

No matter which way you look at it, a woman should be given the right to control what happens to her body. If they do not want to give a guy a blow job, it should be their prerogative. They should not be made to feel bad about not doing it, which is something that a lot of men do these days.

What happens when a girl refuses to give a blow job?

The most common reaction you can get from a man when a woman refuses to give him a blow job is resentment. Some men are more chivalrous than others, and will accept the situation as it is. The problem is that others will complain about it, and push a girl to do it anyway.

When those men do this, they do not think about the consequences of their actions. They may not be forcing  themselves on a woman when they complain about not getting a blow job, but they are in fact challenging a woman’s right to refuse acts she doesn’t want to participate in.

Some men will take the more appropriate route of talking about the situation with their partner. They will express their concern about why their partner does not want to engage in oral sex. This way is better, because it does not seem threatening, and it can actually help in making progress in whatever sexual endeavor they are engaged in.

The worst case scenario of guys being refused a blowjob

Although the situations mentioned above may seem tame, there are times when they are not given an option. Some men will choose to pressure a girl or guilt them into giving a blow job, while some will force a girl to perform the act without even asking. Let me just say whatever it is that those girls are not able to say: That is the equivalent of rape.

A man who approaches the concept of a blow job by forcing her into it does not deserve to be with any woman. You should always ask a girl if she wants to give you a blow job. If you think that words are not necessary, think again. Women HATE IT when guys shove them down towards their penis without even asking. [Read: 16 signs of an abusive relationship]

What to do when she refuses

When a woman refuses to give you a blow job, accept the situation. If it bothers you so much, then discuss it with your partner. It is not a hopeless situation, because there are a lot of reasons why women do not want to give blow jobs. The good thing is that some of these reasons can change. Some won’t, but if you can’t live a life without blow jobs, then go find someone else who shares the same beliefs as you do.

Why do girls refuse blow jobs?

When a woman refuses to give a blow job, it could mean a multitude of things. It cannot be isolated to just one reason, but some are more significant than others. The truth is that no matter what the reason is, a man should not judge her by the choice that she makes about it.

#1 Virtue. Sometimes virginity may be a moot point when it comes to asking for a blow job, but some women refuse to do it because the act itself is on a whole other level of intimacy. Oral sex shares many of the elements of penetrative sex. A penis is still involved in the process, which makes it just as daunting for most women who have never even seen a penis.

#2 Hygiene. A penis is something men use to pee with, and all women are aware of that. Some are iffier about it because of the vas deferens’ proximity to the urethra. Sometimes, a woman just won’t do it because she is aware of a man’s approach to hygiene. It might smell bad or even taste bad. If it were the other way around, any man will agree. [Read: 9 tips for wet and wild sex in the shower]

#3 Power play. A blow job is a very pleasurable act that many men enjoy. If a woman knows that it is something that you really want, she can use it against you to get something that she wants. It is a sad fact, but some women do use it as something to hold over a man’s head. [Read: 10 things women want in bed to feel comfortable with you]

#4 Pride. A blow job is not an insignificant act. It can be construed by some people as an act of submission. When a woman considers giving a blow job as something that has value over the things that a man does for her, she won’t do it. If you won’t eat her out and ask her nicely for a blow job, don’t expect her to give in so easily. Sometimes, a woman can also consider it demeaning, which is a whole other topic all together.

#5 Intimidation. Some women think that penises are one big weapon used by men. It can be intimidating for some, especially when they are faced with a penis for the first time. Sometimes, a girl doesn’t know what to do with it, and she will be too afraid to even try.

#6 It’s too huge. The mouth and throat is not as versatile as the vagina. Huge penises can be a pain for some women, and they will refuse to even try to put it in their mouth. It can hurt and even cause a woman to gag. If a woman thinks she can’t handle a penis that’s too big, she will give up on it all together. [Read: What women really think of your penis]

#7 She just doesn’t like how it looks. Women look at a penis the way men look at breasts. If it does not appeal to her, she will not want to put it in her mouth. If she does not like the way it looks, she may get turned off by the idea of giving you a blow job.

#8 You’re being an ass. If you are not treating her right, and have the audacity to ask for a blow job, there was no need for you to read this article at all. A blow job – even though it sounds like a joke most of the time – is still as intimate as sex itself. It is a gift that should be given to someone who deserves it – a man who knows how to give when it comes to sex and other aspects in a relationship.

Asking for a blow job is not rocket science, but understanding why a woman may not want to do it is a little more complicated. You can try to talk about it and ask your partner to think about it, but you cannot do anything if she refuses.

[Read: 16 ways to get her to enjoy giving you a blowjob]

If you try to understand the reasons why most women refuse to give blow jobs, you will be able to sympathize with them. There is nothing a woman likes more than an understanding and considerate man. And maybe she will even reward you for being such a good boy about it.

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