23+ Sexy Tease and Denial Games, What It Means & Steps to Give It a Try!

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Explore tease and denial games to spice up your sex life with playful tension, wild control, and powerful orgasms you’ll beg for.

What are tease and denial Games, really?

How to give tease and denial games a try with your partner

Edging as a form of total denial

Tie and tease

Male strap-on harness

Are tease and denial games a form of BDSM?

Explore tease and denial games to spice up your sex life with playful tension, wild control, and powerful orgasms you’ll beg for.

The anticipation is sometimes hotter than the act itself. That dizzy, aching moment when you’re so close you could scream? That’s where tease and denial games live, and it turns sexual tension into the kind of release that leaves you shaking.

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What are tease and denial Games, really?

Let’s break it down simply. Tease and denial is a kinky little game of “almost… but not yet.”

One partner (the “teaser”) turns the other partner on, using touches, kisses, toys, dirty words, anything that gets them squirming. The other partner (the one being teased) doesn’t get to orgasm. Not until they’re told. Sometimes not at all.

It’s kind of like being fed spoonfuls of your favorite dessert… but you’re not allowed to swallow. Just taste. Just want. Just beg.

The teaser’s job is to turn up the heat, to build your arousal slowly, then stop right when it’s getting good. The goal? To stretch out the anticipation until you’re practically vibrating with need.

The one being denied might be tied up, blindfolded, wearing a chastity device, or just told “hands off.” They might edge (get close to orgasm) over and over without finishing. And yes, it drives you wild in the best way.

It’s not about punishment. It’s about power, surrender, and intense, erotic tension. And when done right, it can lead to the kind of orgasms that hit harder than anything you’ve ever felt.

Why does it work so well? Psychologically, delayed gratification heightens desire. When your brain expects a reward but doesn’t get it right away, your arousal system kicks into overdrive. Dopamine levels rise, and you become more mentally and physically turned on. 📚 Source: Loewenstein, George, 1996, Out of control: Visceral influences on behavior

It also builds trust and connection between partners. One gives up control, the other holds it, and that power exchange can be sexy, bonding, and intimate. 📚 Source: Sagarin et al., 2009, Hormonal changes and relationship closeness during BDSM interactions

At its core, tease and denial is about getting so close… and staying right there. It’s slow-burn sex at its finest.

How to give tease and denial games a try with your partner

Now that you know what tease and denial is, let’s talk about how you can give the games a try with your partner.

People don’t like to admit that they need to amp up their sex lives; for them, it shows weakness. But the need to work on your sex life doesn’t mean your relationship is in the dumps. And tease and denial games are the best way to intensify your orgasms and revive your sex life.

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Firstly, teasing builds sexual tension very easily. Secondly, with denial, you can intensify the orgasm you’re about to have. Put these two together, and you’re in for an amazing ride *literally*.

Let’s step outside of our comfort zone with these delicious games.

1. Roleplay

If you’re interested in role-play, then you’ll love this game. Talk to your partner about which fantasies you want to explore.

Once you decide on one, it’s time to play it out. Now, if someone breaks character, they have to wait to achieve orgasm. Eventually, you two will get so into it, that you’ll be orgasming in no time. [Read: 15 effortlessly sexy role playing ideas for the shy]

2. Scrabble Tiles

If you love to play Scrabble with your partner, then you’ll love this game. Incorporate Scrabble into your tease and denial game by doing this: every time your partner gets you close to an orgasm, they get to spell out a word on the Scrabble board. You switch turns every time and decide when you both want to orgasm.

3. The Counting Game

So, there has to be a dominant *teaser* and a submissive *person who is teased*. The dominant needs to say a number, for example, 30. They will count backward, and the submissive isn’t allowed to orgasm until the dominant makes it to zero.

Counting backward creates even more intense pressure because the submissive doesn’t have any control. [Read: How to be a freak in the sheets without being creepy]

4. The Task Master

Sounds so intense, and it is. The Task Master is a game for couples who aren’t into basing the game on luck.

Instead, The Task Master is when you give your partner ten pennies, one for each of their fingers. Your partner needs to hold the pennies while you do naughty things to them, such as oral sex. Now, the challenge is if they drop a penny, you deny them the orgasm for a certain amount of time.

5. The Coin Flip

Another game with coins, but equally as fun. Who knew you could play a dirty version of a coin toss?

Well, you can! Play coin toss to determine whether or not your partner is going to orgasm. If the coin lands on ‘heads’, for example, they get to orgasm. If not, well, they’ll need to wait.

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6. Code Word

Here we go. One partner isn’t allowed to orgasm until the other partner says the code word. Now, you both decide on the code word beforehand.

This can be a fun game to play while your partner is losing their mind, waiting to hear the code word. [Read: 6 ways to control your orgasms with the art of edging]

7. Red Light, Green Light

Don’t worry, there aren’t any cars involved in this game. Though it’s based on a classic kid’s game, you can add a couple of features and make it into a naughty bedroom game.

One person gets to control the lights. The red means stop, and green means go. Your partner can only orgasm on a green light. If it turns red, you must stop. [Read: 10 really naughty sex games for couples to feel incredibly horny]

8. Remote toys

The beauty of tease and denial games is that they’re applicable to long-distance couples as well. Sure, you can’t play some of the games on this list.

But, with a remote control toy, you’ll be able to make your own games with your partner. The best part is the game can happen at any time of the day.

9. Tit for Tat

Here we go. This game is the ultimate tease and denial game. Your partner can only orgasm once you have already orgasmed.

You can make the game challenging by using blindfolds, using your weak hand, or using no hands. That’ll be a true challenge. [Read: Find out how to orgasm harder and better than ever]

10. Stroking games

If you and your partner are a fan of television shows and movies, here’s your game. When a character says their catchphrase, you perform a sexual act.

But, there’s a time limit to how long you should perform the act. Make sure you pick a show or movie that repeats a particular line a lot.

11. Point system

Orgasm as a reward is a common method of denying orgasm and using a point system is a good way to track when the person gets the reward.

For this, create a list of tasks that can be sexual or not. Then, the person gets points once they complete them. If you need 20 points to orgasm, then you might need to complete 10 different 2-point tasks. [Read: 19 foreplay sex games for couples to get naughty and horny in minutes]

12. Homework

Homework is never seen as sexy, but this game is. You can orgasm, but only after you write out an erotic story with scenes and memories of your best sexual fantasy for your partner to read. The prompt should be difficult enough to give the person a challenge.

13. Levels

For this tease and denial game, you can deny orgasm a specific number of times before you or your partner is allowed to orgasm. For example, you might specify ten levels, such as 5, 10, 15, etc. before orgasm is permitted.

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14. The Vibe Command Game

This one’s all about control, from a distance. If your partner is wearing a remote-controlled vibrator (panty vibe, plug, whatever you like), you hold the power.

But here’s the catch, you only press play when they follow your specific commands. Maybe they have to ask politely, hold a certain pose, or answer a personal question. If they fail or hesitate? The vibe stops. Just like that.

15. “Say Please” Challenge

This game is perfect for those who love verbal teasing and power play. Your partner isn’t allowed to orgasm until they beg for it, creatively. Each time they ask, they have to come up with a new way to say “please.”

They can’t repeat phrases, and the more dramatic or poetic, the better. You get to reward or deny them based on how much their begging turns you on. Simple, sexy, and hilarious if you make them rhyme. [Read: 24 Bad Girl Sex Tricks to Try in Bed & Seduce and Leave a Guy Obsessed!]

16. Ice & Fire

Temperature play adds a whole new layer to tease and denial. Start with an ice cube and glide it slowly over their skin, nipples, inner thighs, neck. Then switch it up with your warm breath or a heated massage oil.

The contrast between cold and hot will drive them wild, especially if you keep stopping before any direct stimulation. Think of it as sensual torture with a twist.

17. Denial Dice

Turn tease and denial into a game of fate. Before you start, roll a 6-sided die and let the number decide their destiny:

1 = 10 minutes of edging
2 = Orgasm denied tonight
3 = Slow oral only
4 = Chastity until tomorrow
5 = Ruined orgasm allowed
6 = You choose their fate

It adds unpredictability, which makes the teasing even more maddening. [Read: 27 Foreplay Sex Games for Couples to Get Naughty & Horny in Minutes]

18. Countdown to Chaos

Set a timer for 30 or 60 minutes. During that time, you can tease your partner as much as you want, but they’re not allowed to orgasm until the timer ends. You can bring them to the edge multiple times, stop randomly, or leave the room entirely.

The catch? They don’t know when it’ll end, and their body stays on high alert the whole time. When the timer finally goes off, you get to decide if they’ve earned it.

19. Public Pulse Play

Only for the bold, and the public play curious. If your partner is wearing a remote-controlled toy, take them out for dinner, a movie, or even a grocery run.

You control the vibrations through an app, but they’re not allowed to react, no moaning, squirming, or giving away what’s happening. If they break the rules, you cut the fun short. It’s a delicious mix of embarrassment, anticipation, and domination, without anyone else knowing. [Read: Dogging: What It Is, How It Works & 34 Public Sex Rules You MUST Follow!]

20. Edge Tracker

Keep score, literally. Every time your partner gets edged (brought close to orgasm, then denied), you add a tally mark somewhere they can see: on a whiteboard, your phone, or even their thigh with lipstick.

The more tallies they have, the longer they have to wait. Or you can set a rule: ten edges = one minute of pleasure. It turns denial into a numbers game… and they’ll love every frustrating second. [Read: How to Edge Yourself: What’s Edging & 15 Sexy Secrets to Huge Orgasms]

21. The Tease Jar

This one’s all about suspense. Write out sexy tasks on slips of paper, some soft, some steamy, some wildly frustrating. “5 minutes of oral,” “blindfolded massage,” “you may touch but not climax.”

Fold them up and drop them in a jar. Your partner pulls one out each night, not knowing what they’ll get. If they beg to skip one? You draw two tomorrow.

22. Silent Moan Game

The rules are simple: you can do whatever you want to them… as long as they don’t make a sound. Moan, gasp, beg, whimper? You stop immediately.

The silence turns up the pressure and makes every touch feel more intense. It’s a great test of control, and a way to build a ridiculous amount of sexual tension in total stillness. [Read: Sex Sounds: How to Moan and Look & Sound Sexy AF While Making Out]

23. Sensory Roulette

Blindfold your partner and take out a tray of objects: feathers, ice, fur, a vibrator, a leather glove, your tongue. Each round, you use one, and they have to guess what it is.

Get it right? They earn another minute of pleasure. Get it wrong? You pause, edge, or deny them. It keeps them guessing, and turns their body into a live-wire game board.

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Edging as a form of total denial

There is also a sexual practice of total sexual denial. This includes totally avoiding genital stimulation to the genitals of either sex. [Read: Female orgasm denial – the step-by-step to hold back and explode]

This is often used as part of tease and denial – total orgasm control. For this, the controller keeps the other one in a heightened state of sexual arousal for a long time but won’t allow them to have an orgasm.

If an orgasm does occur after the stimulation is removed, it is not nearly as pleasurable as usual and feels like a “ruined” orgasm as opposed to a “denied” orgasm. A denied orgasm can lead to what’s called “blue balls.”

Another form of sexual denial that can be done is the reduction or deprivation of any genital stimulation. This can include using a chastity device or another physical barrier to genital touch or achieving a full erection. [Read: Male orgasm denial – The sexy benefits of denying him an orgasm]

For men, the release of semen during the ejaculation phase might be prevented by some sort of constriction. A chastity belt is commonly used for this or a similar locking device for both men and women.

Depending on the situation, sexual arousal may still be possible regardless of the physical barriers to genital stimulation. But this depends on how the chastity belt is used.

And depending on the relationship between the two people, the person being denied might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times without actually achieving one. This causes feelings of intense arousal and psychological need.

Tie and tease

Some sexual situations can involve bondage, and these are typically called “tie and tease.” This is sort of an extended tease and denial game and can be a big part of erotic denial. [Read: Orgasm denial – how to withhold orgasm for ultimate pleasure]

Sometimes, partners will use dice or other games of chance to determine how long a person will be denied oral or penetrative sex from their partner.

Tie and tease activities are physically and psychologically intense. This is because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are increased by feeling helpless because the person is tied up and cannot move.

Male strap-on harness

Another thing that can be used in tease and denial is a male strap-on harness. This is like a strap-on dildo, but it’s worn by the male. It still allows him to penetrate the female, but it denies him the ability to orgasm. He might also use this in conjunction with a chastity device.

This is different from pegging because the strap-on in this situation replaces the penis of the male. It is a form of total denial if the strap-on replaces the penis throughout the whole sexual experience. [Read: Weird sex – the strangest and wildest sex acts you might want to try]

It can also be used as a form of teasing only during foreplay. If that’s how it’s used, it can prolong penetrative sex, and thus, satisfy the female just in case the male partner ejaculates prematurely.

Are tease and denial games a form of BDSM?

You might wonder if tease and denial is a form of BDSM. Well, erotic sexual denial is commonly, but not exclusively, practiced in association with BDSM and bondage. Discussions and negotiations between BDSM partners usually focus on the activities that may or may not be agreed to.

Tease and denial is used as a form of sexual control. Erotic sexual denial can be used by the dominant in BDSM to increase their control over a submissive.

Because the submissive is kept in a state of sexual vulnerability and need, they’re more likely to comply with the dominant. If they don’t comply, it can result in additional teasing or a period of denial in addition to any other punishments the dominant wants to inflict. [Read: BDSM 101 – how to be a dominatrix in the bedroom]

As we discussed above, orgasm denial is a big part of tease and denial.

This allows the dominant to experience enjoyable and intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power. The submissive enjoys the feelings of being sexually objectified ad being submissive to the dominant.

Orgasm denial can be used to increase the submissive’s tolerance for physical stimulation. It is seen as “training” in holding back orgasm or achieving orgasm on command. This is a means of erotic humiliation that is desired by the submissive or the dominant, or both.

Erotic humiliation can also help reinforce the dominant’s power in the relationship. Orgasm denial is also done along with other forms of erotic humiliation such as forcing the submissive to do chores, crossdress, or consume bodily fluids.

These can be used as punishments or conditions for release. The dominant has total control over this situation. [Read: BDSM tips and tricks for curious first timers]

Why play it safe when you could play with control, anticipation, and the kind of pleasure that makes your whole body shake? Whether you’re brand new to this kink or ready to take tease and denial to mind-blowing extremes, the magic is in the build-up, not just the finish.

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Because the longer you wait, the sweeter the release. So go ahead, pick a game, talk it out with your partner, and dive into the delicious world of tease and denial games.

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