Prepare yourself to open up to your partner sexually and share each other’s sexual fantasies and dirty talk in bed.
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How to talk dirty in bed – Dirty talk examples
“Imagine you’re at a party. You’re tipsy after the six rounds of tequila shots. Now you’re dancing and swaying to the music… you’re dancing alone. Suddenly you feel a hand move across your bare back. You’re wearing a backless halter and you feel the hand slipping into the top, over your breasts from behind you. You don’t know who it is, but you can feel the hot, deep breath of a man you don’t know. You don’t care who it is, you’re drunk and you want to be felt all over. Now you see the hands groping all over your breasts in the smoky flickering lights of the discotheque. You can’t see the person too well and very soon you find yourself in his arms and your hands groping over the bulge of his pants…”
He whispers on in his deep desirous voice, filled with lust and imagination. She listens to him as he explicitly tells her all the details of a steamy, orgasmic session she indulges in, at a party.
She listens to him and closes her eyes as she imagines the picture. She is lost in an unreal world, a world in which she’s making out with an unknown man, something she wouldn’t be caught dead doing in the real world. But it turns her on… and she wants her partner to go on.
Talk dirty in bed to heighten your sexual pleasure
You may dirty talk about someone you’re attracted to with your partner or you may secretly imagine it yourself, but no one can deny that this thought hasn’t come in our minds as we indulge in a sexual romp with our partner. It might last for a second or for a few minutes or the whole time, but the thought of some other face does get you tingling and into a mild sexual frenzy.
One might not accept it or might not have indulged in it, but when another face distracts you in bed however hard you push that thought away, it’s almost a sexual fantasy, and you’re only trying to stop it from overpowering you.
You may think about the girl who danced beside you at the party rubbing shoulders every now and then or the guy who stared at you from across the bar counter. You may remember the time you were making out with your partner against a wall, in a dark corner on a claustrophobic dance floor, while a few ogling unwanted eyes stared at you desirously. [Read: How to have sex with a friend without losing their friendship]
But whatever pushes the button or gets that blood flowing into your loins, it’s the thought or the memories of an incident that usually sparks off a lusty sexual fantasy and opens the world of talking dirty in bed. Sometimes, it’s a deep desire to do something that you know you could never do in reality.
How to start talking dirty in bed
You may know your partner is physically attracted to a friend of yours, or someone they met at a party. Rather than hide the fact that your partner can be sexually excited by someone else, it’s so much better to indulge in the fantasy by learning how to talk dirty in bed, and easing the sexual tension that gets built up otherwise.
Try this with your partner tonight. While you’re having sex, start talking about someone you know your lover likes sexually or is attracted to. You don’t need to get sexual at first, just talk about them. You can warm up to the act in a few minutes by talking about a threesome in bed with that person, or imagine a party with that attractive friend. [Read: 20 sexy text message examples to start a naughty conversation with anyone!]
Try it once and you’ll know how explosive sex can be, when both of you open up about your sexual interests.
You have a choice here. You can be mentally unfaithful to your partner by pretending like you’re never sexually attracted to someone else, or you can involve your partner in the same fantasy and excite each other a lot more.
Now that you know how to talk dirty in bed, try this with your partner tonight. Or you can continue to know all about how to talk dirty in bed and arouse each other by reading more about the art of dirty talking in bed here.
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