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How to Have a Sexy Voice: 17 Steps to Make Everyone Love Your Voice

Knowing how to have a sexy voice is an important part of your confidence. You can be totally gorgeous, but the wrong voice can hold you back.

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Benedict Cumberbatch. Cate Blanchett. Morgan Freeman. Just a few personalities with a sexy voice. The common qualities observed in their voices are distinct depth, pitch, and well-modulated volume capable of mesmerizing people. Knowing the qualities behind this and understanding how to have a sexy voice makes it possible for anyone to improve their voice.

So, let’s get started by avoiding lousy speaking habits and exercise the minor fixes that will soon lead to a sexier voice.

[Read: How to feel sexy and desirable all the time no matter where you are]

Why you want a sexier voice

Having a sexy voice isn’t just about getting someone into bed or being a sex icon. Having a sexy voice is all about confidence. Sure, some people are born with a raspy voice that you just can’t turn away from. But, most of us have to learn how to have a sexy voice.

As much as we would all love to believe our favorite singers and actors were just born sexy, they weren’t. Most have voice teachers, trainers, and even those sexy accents were practiced to perfection.

Having a sexy voice gets you some flirty looks, but it is more than that. It is about magnetism. You will have people liking you without knowing you. People want to be closer to you and hear you speak.

This can help you not just romantically, but even with work and everyday life. People will bend over backward for someone with a sexy voice, even if they don’t consciously know why.

Assessing your voice

Before you can change your voice, you need to know what you sound like.

You might think you already know your voice, but you don’t. Listening to your voice in other ways is actually what helps you learn what it sounds like from an outside perspective. This is just the beginning…

1. Record your voice, then listen to it

It isn’t easy to assess the quality and sound of our own voice when just talking out loud. Your mouth is too close to your ears to really know how you sound to others. To get a good listen to how your voice sounds, record yourself speaking casually. Then, listen to it after.

This will give you an idea of what you sound like when talking to other people.

It might be weird at first, but do it regularly, and you’ll get used to the sound of your own voice. It allows you to pinpoint how to improve your voice. Also, try to record yourself with others too. Even if you just record a video for social media of you goofing around with friends, this can help you hear your voice in a more natural environment.

You don’t just want to work on your phone voice or your professional voice. You want to make your new sexy voice the go-to for all parts of your life. Instead of being overly critical, work on small changes to begin with, and watch your progress. [Read: How to improve yourself with these 16 powerful secrets]

2. Know the flaws of your voice

People’s voices have certain qualities that make them unique and distinguishable. While some are already gifted with a good speaking voice, others just sound a bit off or make a listener uncomfortable.

Things like having a lisp can be endearing but can also make people uncomfortable. It isn’t easy to edit out these differences, but if that is something you want to do, practice. You may need to find a speech therapist in this case. It can be difficult to remove some parts of your voice that are just part of you. [Read: 20 lifestyle decisions to make for a better life]

3. Don’t change your voice too much

Obviously, you want a sexier voice. There is nothing wrong with that, but it doesn’t mean you should copy someone else’s voice. You aren’t mimicking someone or doing a bit. And if you try to make your voice sound like someone else’s, you’ll sound more like a comedian than someone with a naturally sexy voice.

Don’t go changing the basics of your voice. You should still sound like you, even with a sexier voice. You just want to make minor tweaks to add a level of confidence and charm.

Types of voices

Voices are usually categorized into the following types:

**Raspy or broken voice

Think of Christian Bale’s Batman or that friend who’s been nursing a cold for two days. This type of voice which makes the speaker sound like they have sandpaper for vocal cords is often seen as intimidating or uncomfortable for listeners.

**Nasal voice

Billy Corgan of the Smashing Pumpkins and Adam Sandler are two examples of people who possess this type of voice. As the word implies, their speaking voice seems to come straight out of the nose instead of the mouth.

Its piercing and drone-like quality makes the nasal voice quite unattractive to some listeners though it might be useful if you’re voice acting for a muppet.

**Croaky voice

A croaky voice is something that people who have had too much whisky and cigarettes possess. A cross between a raspy and deep voice making it an acquired taste for some people. People listening to a croaky voice would easily associate it with femme fatale characters or movie villains.

**Mousy voice

This type of voice is only attractive if you’re a three-year-old trying to recite a nursery rhyme. The mousy voice is small, high-pitched, and fleeting, which is cute at first but annoying after too much exposure.

**Mouth voice

The mouth voice is your regular speaking voice that lacks volume and pitch variation. It is monotonous and plain. When people fail to utilize their other voice-making organs when trying to speak, you end up with this type. Clear enough, this type of voice is boring and far from sexy.

What are the essential components of a sexy voice?

This may sound scientific or biological, but these are all important aspects of having a sexy voice. There is a reason actors and singers train themselves. This isn’t an easy task. Changing your voice means learning the basics of a sexy voice.

You don’t have to go back to the basics or learn how to speak from scratch. But, you need to follow many guidelines to ensure you are making the right changes. You want to sound sexy, not awkward, and these tips should help you get there.

4. Air volume

A person with a sexy voice knows how to fully control and use the right amount of air volume in their speech. Little use of air results in a whispery, mousy voice, and too much air will make you sound like you’re seducing all the people you’re talking to. The right amount of air volume incorporated in speaking results in a sexier and well-modulated voice. [Read: 16 sultry and swoon-worthy Spanish pick-up lines]

5. Depth

Depth is one of the most recognizable qualities of a sexy voice. We’re all familiar with how Sean Connery or James Earl Jones commands their audience with their powerful baritone voice. Vocal depth is achieved by speaking from your diaphragm and using the full power of your lungs to resonate with the sound that your mouth makes.

You want your voice to hit deeper than the norm. There is something about that sound that is just purely sexy, and if that is what you desire, you can study these voices and see where you need to make changes.

6. Proper enunciation

Aside from the mechanical process of making sounds, when it comes to learning how to have a sexy voice, the way a person pronounces their words is also a key component in projecting a sexy voice. Proper enunciation calls for the speaker to pronounce every syllable of every word clearly and correctly.

A great way to practice this is with exercises. You can do wordplay, and the exercises actors do before a show. There are plenty of these online, and they help prevent you from tripping over your words. [Read: How to master the art of being a true conversationalist]

7. Well-paced talking speed

Another key in achieving a sexy voice is talking at a moderate pace. By talking at the correct pace, you can enunciate properly and emphasize certain words. By contrast, speaking at a very fast rate will make your voice sound manic and annoying.

We all have a pace at which we speak, but you want to find that sweet spot. Remember what it was like to give speeches in school? You sped through it so you could go sit down and hide your face. Well, fast-talking is not sexy. Slow things down. Make sure everyone can hear you and understand you.

8. Natural accent

A person’s accent is the “signature” in a person’s speech. Though this is an acquired part of speech, being comfortable using your own accent lends a unique sounding voice. An accent adds a melodic quality to a person’s voice, making it pleasant-sounding to listeners. [Read: How to make people like you by charming everyone]

How to have a sexy voice

Once you understand the basics, you can start to intact these things into your voice. Try it when talking on the phone. Record yourself practicing. And even start incorporating these changes into your everyday conversations.

9. Make it a point to relax prior to speaking

Achieving a relaxed state before talking will give you full control of your breathing, vocal cords, and oral muscles, allowing you to better control air output and enunciation.

By contrast, a person who’s tense when trying to speak will suffer poor air control causing their voice to break or fade into a squeak. You want to practice your breathing at all times so that you don’t need to take a deep breath in before talking.

10. Practice talking using your diaphragm

As mentioned, using your diaphragm to facilitate air control will allow you to produce a deeper-sounding voice. To grasp how it is done, try to speak as if mimicking a man’s deep voice.

Notice how speaking in this manner causes the sound to resonate in your chest cavity before coming out of your mouth. By using your diaphragm, you add warmth and body to your voice, making it sound sexier. This sounds harder than it is, but you can look for tutorials online to learn how to have a sexy voice by speaking from your diaphragm. [Read: From social anxiety to social butterfly]

11. Practice talking slowly

Fast talkers are a bit of a pain to listen to. If you can imagine what it feels like to experience listening to such types, then it would be a brilliant idea to practice putting brakes on your speech rate. It is like listening to someone who is on fast forward. You only catch every so many words, and you can’t understand them. It’s not sexy.

Talking slowly gives you more control over your pronunciation, making you less likely to stutter and use fillers. In addition to this, talking at the right pace will assure your listener’s attention to your voice.

12. Mind your pronunciation

Mispronouncing words brings the wrong attention and distracts your train of thought. That’s why pronunciation must be considered when going for that sexy voice. After all, a good-sounding voice is wasted if the way you pronounce words are way off. Take time to learn a more extensive vocabulary. Even learning how to pronounce obscure words and names will make you sound sexier.

13. Swallow and clear your throat before talking

We’ve seen this a lot in movies or cartoon scenes of a character giving a speech. It might seem like a cliché, but clearing your throat and swallowing excess saliva will make your vocal and word delivery unobstructed.

This is a small way you can ensure you don’t choke on your own saliva when talking. Whether you are saying something important to your boss or your date or just talking with friends, you want to sound clear.

14. Open your mouth and jaw when talking

Actors and singers are always taught to fully open their mouths and jaw when speaking to improve their voice. This practice relaxes and gets you used to use your mouth, facial, and jaw muscles when talking. If you want to know how to have a sexy voice, keep in mind that talking without fully opening your mouth will result in a subdued sound and less clarity to certain vocal sounds that require your mouth fully opened. [Read: How to be charming no matter who you’re talking to]

15. Listen to people you know with a sexy voice and note how they speak

Getting that coveted sexy voice also involves a little research and investigation. If there’s a person or celebrity you know whose voice you want to have as your own, listen to them carefully and note how they pronounce and control their breathing while speaking.

16. Know the habits that can alter the quality of your voice

Certain habits like smoking, drinking too much alcohol, and eating too many sweet or spicy foods may drastically alter the quality of your voice.

Singers, in particular, avoid such practices to maintain their vocal quality. If you want a voice that’s truly sexy, avoid damaging vocal habits. [Read: The 20 life hacks you need to grow in confidence]

17. Practice talks to get yourself used to your ideal sexy voice

Once you’ve identified all the techniques needed, all that’s left to do is practice until you get used to speaking in that voice. Keep on practicing until that sexy voice comes out of you naturally.

[Read: How to revamp and reveal the hot and sexy you]

Some people are naturally gifted with a sexy voice that makes their listeners fall in love. But it is possible to learn how to have a sexy voice with some copious practice.

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