17 Clear Signs That He is Cheating: Ignore Them at Your Own Peril

It’s normal to hear about people cheating on each other, but do all men really cheat? No, of course not. But here are signs that he is cheating.

signs that he is cheating

People always say, “once a cheater, always a cheater.” Now, I don’t think that’s true. Come on, there are multiple reasons why someone cheats. Okay, sure, there are guys who cannot remain in a monogamous relationship, but there are also other guys who cheat to fill a void that’s missing in themselves or their relationships.

You may be disagreeing, but then again, how would you really know unless you’ve cheated yourself?

17 signs that he is cheating on you

Well, coming from someone who did *and I’m not saying I’m proud of it*, that phrase is definitely the stereotypical line for cheaters. Do all men cheat? No. I cheated because I was unhappy in my relationship.

Should I have just broken up with him instead? Yeah, absolutely. But at the time I couldn’t do it. But, if you’re worried about being cheated on, there are some classic signs for you to follow. Believe me, I would know them.

Not all men cheat, but yours could be. Yeah, I know, girls always over-analyze, so you might need to read these signs that he is cheating on you. [Read: Why do men really cheat? 3 real reasons and 27 excuses]

#1 He accuses you of cheating. You may not even think that he’s cheating at the time, but if he’s starting to accuse you of texting people or changing the way you act when you haven’t been, well, then it’s time to start looking at what he’s doing. I noticed I did this to my ex when I was getting paranoid that he would find out.

#2 He stops having sex with you. Well, don’t worry, he’s still having sex… just not with you. If you notice that your sexual patterns have changed suddenly, then that’s a pretty good sign that something happened.

It’s very hard to sleep with someone else while maintaining the same sexual chemistry with another person. And this is one of the huge signs that he is cheating on you.

#3 He’s somewhat present. Oh, he’s there, sitting beside you on the couch while you watch Stranger Things, but he’s not actually there. He’s texting beside you. Who? Who knows. But if you’re noticing that the time you two spend together is basically you talking to yourself, well, it looks like he’s not in it anymore. [Read: 18 emotional affair signs you probably didn’t even notice]

#4 He never actually tells you what he’s doing. All you know is that he went out. But where did he go? No place that he wants you to know, that’s for sure. You seem to always know vaguely what he’s doing. He’s “going out with friends,” or “going for drinks with colleagues.” Do you know who they are or where they’re going? Probably not.

#5 He’s on Tinder. Well, this is one of the most obvious signs that he is cheating on you. If your friends discover him on Tinder or another dating app, don’t ignore it and just act like he forgot to cancel his membership. Oh, he’s on it, and he’s swiping. He’s swiping hard.

#6 There’s unsaved numbers in his phone. He just has a list of unsaved numbers on his phone that you’ve never seen. No, they’re not the pizza guy. Unless it’s a girl who delivers pizza naked at his hotel room, that is. Those are most likely numbers of women… women who shouldn’t be around your man.

#7 Doesn’t like you touching his electronics. His iPhone, iPad, laptop – yeah, you’re not allowed near them. In fact, don’t even come into eye contact with it because it’ll upset him.

Most likely because something may pop up that you shouldn’t be seeing. Like racy pictures, dirty emails, or meet-up texts. [Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheating partner in the act]

#8 He is looking good all of a sudden. Like, too good… you know what I mean? The baggy jeans that used to be his favorite? Long gone. He’s now wearing form-fitting shirts, sliding that gel in his hair, and it’s not for you. It’s for her. He’s peacocking right in front of your face. One of the huge signs that he is cheating on you.

#9 He’s going out more. He’s now a social butterfly! He’s suddenly sprouted from his cocoon. Yawn. He’s having a good time without you, of course. If he’s suddenly going out on weekends and weeknights without you, going to dinners and clubs, that’s a good sign.

#10 He has to work late… a lot. The boss has really been clamping down on him lately. Oh, give me a break. He’s not working late. I mean, he’s working, but he ain’t getting paid for it.

If his late nights at the office are a new thing, well, I would drop by the office one night with dinner for him. See how that work is coming along. [Read: More than just sex? An update on why men actually cheat]

#11 He can’t remember details. He told you he went out with colleagues last night, but the details around it are pretty sparse. He can’t remember who was there or what happened… hmm… perhaps he should see a doctor for this newly developed dementia… or… perhaps he’s cheating.

#12 He has a sexy Instagram following. Every thong-wearing, cleavage-revealing girl you can find is either followed or following your man. What a strange coincidence.

And, as you can see, he’s highly active on liking all their photos, giving them the attention they deserve. Yeah, there’s also the option of messaging as well, which I’m sure he figured out quickly.

#13 He won’t let you see the bills. It’s not because he doesn’t want you to pay them. Oh sure, bring out the wallet, he doesn’t mind. But, what you’re paying for may not be in your favor.

If he won’t let you see the bills, there’s probably some self-incriminating evidence on them, like Visa bills with hotel names and sex toys purchases on them… which is one of the signs that he is cheating on you. [Read: Is flirting cheating when you’re in a relationship?]

#14 He’s being too nice. Does he usually surprise you with gifts or dinners out? No? Hmmm, looks like we have one that’s feeling guilty. So usually, when someone cheats, they change their behavior. In this case, he is trying to cover up his cheating by acting too nice. Don’t fall for it. It’s a lie.

#15 He acts single. Oh no, you guys aren’t together. Can’t you tell? He keeps you locked up at home while he’s out on the town, living it up like the single man he is. If he’s acting like he’s single, it’s because he is. I mean, you two may be together, but he doesn’t see it like that at all. [Read: Emotional cheating and 10 bad things it can do to you]

#16 You feel it. Listen, you know he’s cheating on you. You feel it. You’re not stupid… you’re in denial. There’s a difference.

What you need to do is get some courage to confront him and make that final step that you’ve been too scared to make. It’s not easy, I know. But, it’s better than walking around with this feeling inside you. [Read: My boyfriend cheated on me – 15 things you need to do ASAP]

#17 You’re jealous or crazy. If you’ve confronted him about cheating, he probably won’t come out right away and admit it. Depending if he feels guilty or not, he’s going to pull all the tricks he can before admitting.

You’re going to be called either jealous or crazy. You’re insane for ever having these speculations because he would never do that to you. Can he explain the hotel charges on your Visa? No. But he would never cheat on you.

[Read: Getting back with a cheater – Is it really possible?]

Not all men cheat, and those that have cheated may not even cheat again. But you want to make sure that you’re not the one being cheated on. It’s not fun. So, look at the signs that he is cheating on you.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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