38 Signs Your Man Is Crushing on Another Woman & Has Feelings

Is your guy showing another girl some serious attention? It’s time to learn the signs your man has a crush on another woman and work out the truth. 

Signs Your Man Has a Crush on Another Woman

From time to time in a relationship, you may notice that your boyfriend is behaving differently. There could be a number of reasons why this may be happening, so don’t panic. But sometimes, one explanation for his strange behavior may point to the signs your man has a crush on another woman!

Of course, there are instances when having a crush is harmless. One of those instances is when your man is crushing on a movie star or a random Instagram model. But when his eyes alight on someone who could possibly reciprocate his feelings, that’s when trouble can start to brew.

With the possibility of another woman snatching up your man, that crush can turn into a flame. Luckily, there are some signs that are definite giveaways that your man is getting the hots for somebody else.

Once you learn the signs your man has a crush on another woman, you can use this knowledge to your advantage, as you try to see if your man might be considering cheating on you. [Read: Why do men cheat? 43 excuses, real reasons and the best ways to prevent it]

The biggest signs your man has a crush on another woman

You definitely want to look out for these signs, as they will tell you if your guy is just good friends with a girl, or if he’s got a genuine crush on her.

1. He is giving another woman a lot of attention

This is one of the most obvious signs your man has a crush on another woman. If you frequently see him chatting to the attractive and fit neighbor, it could definitely mean that he is interested in her.

Unless there is a direct reason for your boyfriend to be chatting with the same hot female on a regular basis, the chances are that he is intentionally making the time to talk to her. [Read: What is flirting? The science behind this common act]

2. He doesn’t want you to see his phone

 Not wanting you to see his phone could easily mean that he has spicy material on there that he doesn’t want you to discover. Could it be one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl?

Has he been texting the attractive girl he met at the gym, has he been calling an old lover? Who knows? Definitely not you, because he won’t ever let you near his phone, and hence the justification for suspicion. [Read: Why would a guy with a girlfriend want another girl’s attention?]

3. He is overly jumpy

Perhaps he has a crush on someone, and he is nervous that you will find out. This could definitely put him on edge.

So, if he jumps like a jack-in-a-box every time you mention something even remotely connected to his crush, he could quite possibly be hiding some emotions he has for a certain woman in his life – and not you.

4. He makes less eye contact with you

If he has feelings for someone else, he may be experiencing guilt. That guilt may be preventing him from making proper eye contact with you.

In this circumstance, he probably doesn’t want you to bore deep into his soul with your eyes and purge the information out of him. If he starts averting his eyes in the middle of a conversation, or rocking sunglasses more in your presence, it may be a further, though silly, effort to avoid eye contact. [Read: 21 secret signs your relationship is starting to go downhill]

5. You catch him checking out the same girl over and over

It may be a mutual friend that you both have, or a pretty barista, or maybe even his physical therapist.

But whatever the case, if you frequently see him checking her out, whether in person or on social media, it could definitely be more than an innocent look in her direction.

6. He seems less into you

This is definitely one of the signs that your man has a crush on another woman. It may present itself as a general feeling that he just isn’t as passionate about you as he once was.

You may not be able to pin it to any specific conversations or events, but you may feel that his romantic energy is just not coming your way as much as it used to. [Read: 40 secrets to make your man feel happy and incredibly lucky to date you]

This could definitely mean that his interest is going somewhere else. Side note, it may be time to bust out some scandalous outfits to get that attention right back in your direction!

7. He is overly defensive

If your boyfriend is having mood swings that resemble a male period, it could be because he is emotionally frustrated since he likes someone else. In this circumstance, not only does he have to repress his desire, but he also has to conceal it from you.

All of that emotional constipation can take its toll, and it might lead to random hissy fits. This is one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl.

Combine his frustration, a dash of guilt, and the tension of hiding his crush from you, and you’ve got the complete recipe for a guy who might suddenly explode over the smallest things. [Read: Is he hiding something from you? 20 signs he feels guilty for hurting you]

8. He gives slight signs of physical affection to the same girl over and over

Examples of this may include putting his hand on her back as he lets her walk through the door, or using any excuse to touch her, such as driving a point home in the conversation with a gentle touch of the arm.

If you notice that he does this more with one girl than he does with any other girl, or even with you, then it can definitely be a red flag.

Scheming hint – This may be time for you to try to get some distance between your man and this woman. Or perhaps, it may be the perfect time to set that woman up with a friend who is looking for a new girlfriend!

Setting her up with your friend can do two things: One, your guy may lose interest in her since she’s interested in someone else. And two, it might clue him in to the fact that you’re on to him. [Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

9. He makes revealing Freudian slips

If you suspect that your man has a crush on your friend, and he accidentally asks if you had “buns” when you were out with her, instead of if you had “fun” with her, this can be a giveaway.

Sometimes, it is simply impossible to censor all of your speech properly. You can use this fact to gain insight. [Read: 10 things emotional cheating can do to your relationship]

10. You just have a sneaking suspicion that he is becoming more interested in someone else

Sometimes, our intuition can pick up on things that our rational brain cannot. So, if for some reason, you are suddenly starting to suspect that he is developing feelings for someone else, you could be correct.

Be careful how you approach this though, because if you have no evidence and you accuse him of being in love with someone else, it may not be received well. Sometimes the signs your man has feelings for another girl can be confused, after all.

11. His behavior patterns have changed

Before you had the sneaking suspicion that your man has a crush on another woman, he was pretty predictable. He would come home from work at the same time every day. The two of you had your routine.

But if now he’s making excuses for different things like “going out with the boys,” then that could be one of the bad signs your man has a crush on another woman and is trying to hang out around her. [Read: Emotional cheating vs. friendship – the point where the line is crossed]

12. He’s vague or secretive

If he announces that he’s going for drinks with “friends” after work, but he doesn’t tell you with whom, he might be hanging out with another woman.

It’s even worse if you ask who he’s going with *or if you can come too* and he refuses to tell you or say yes.

13. You find him talking about the same woman a lot

Maybe he works with a particular woman named. He might tell you all about her and what they do throughout the workday.

If you find that he’s talking about her a little too much, then your man might be overcompensating for his crush. It might be to throw you off and make you think he has no feelings for her… but he does.

If he’s always talking about the same person, it’s one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: What is cheating in a relationship? The truth most people ignore]

14. Lack of communication

If you find that the two of you just don’t talk like you used to, that means his attention may be going elsewhere.

His texts could be dwindling down, or he might not just want to engage in deeper conversation like he normally does. It could be because he’s thinking about someone else. [Read: 15 signs he’s talking to another girl and using you until he hooks her]

15. It feels like he’s avoiding you

As was mentioned above, you probably have some sort of routine with him. So, if you are asking him to hang out, go out on dates, or sleep over, he might be coming up with excuse after excuse not to.

If it gets to the point where you feel like he may be trying to avoid spending too much time with you, maybe that’s because it’s one of the signs your man has a crush on another woman.

16. He gives you less attention

Whether it’s when he’s physically in your presence or not, he is giving you a lot less attention. Maybe when you’re both watching TV, he’s constantly on his phone, or he just doesn’t text or call you like he used to. Maybe it’s because your man is thinking about or interacting with his crush.

Pull him up on his lack of interest but also know that this could be one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: The 4 most common yet painful types of cheating in a relationship]

17. If you ask him about it, he blows it off

If you have been suspicious for a while and decide to just come right out and directly ask him, he brushes you off like it’s no big deal.

He might even gaslight you and make you feel crazy for even thinking that he has a crush on another girl. That’s because he doesn’t want you to know the truth. [Read: Snapchat cheating – this sneaky new trend is the ultimate betrayal]

18. He avoids going a certain place with you

Let’s say you’re hanging out together on the weekend, and you suggest going to grab drinks at a certain restaurant or bar. If he seems uncomfortable with that idea, you should ask yourself why.

Maybe he knows that she goes there a lot, and he doesn’t want her to see him with you. Or maybe it’s a place they usually go, and they know the staff might recognize him and ask him about the other girl.

Avoidance is certainly one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl.

19. He starts to compare you to other women

He might suddenly start commenting on women he sees on TV and compare you to them. Or he could say things like, “Why don’t you ever wear anything like that?” or “You should try to do your hair like that girl.”

Well, you know he is thinking about other women – whether they are in the media, or even in real life. [Read: 15 gut-wrenching signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend]

20. He doesn’t get jealous anymore

When you used to go out with your friends, he would act a little jealous. He would question you before and after about who you’re going with, where you’re going, and if you talked to any guys.

If he doesn’t seem bothered or jealous before like he used to, there could be a very good reason for it. [Read: What is emotional cheating and 15 signs to recognize an affair ASAP]

21. He always seems too busy

If you find that you are initiating dates and hanging out more than usual *more than he is,* then that means he is not thinking about hanging out with you as much.

He might come up with a ton of different excuses, but they all come down to one thing… he’s too “busy” to see you. Busy doing what? [Read: What you need to do when your boyfriend doesn’t take time for you]

22. He’s online… a lot!

Okay, we’re not talking about just social media here, but just his phone habits. Has it changed suddenly?

Does he seem to always be active on Instagram or Facebook? Is he always active and online on WhatsApp, but it’s been a while since you received any texts from him? When you call him up all of a sudden, does it go to call waiting even late into the night?

If he would speak to you all night over the phone, but now has to hang up in exactly 15 minutes a few days in a row, that’s strange, don’t you think?

Unless he has a very good reason for his shift in behavior, or he’s able to explain himself, you may need to assume your man has a crush on another woman. [Read: Instagram flirting – How it’s secretly ruining your relationship]

23. You just feel it

Every human has intuition. It’s that little voice in your head that tells you when something is wrong. It’s the feeling you get in your stomach when you know someone isn’t being honest with you. That’s intuition, and it’s something you should consider.

If the voice in your head says, “I think something shady is going on,” then the odds are something is happening. It may not be cheating, but it’s something. 

Sometimes you don’t need to see many signs your man has feelings for another girl, you just feel it deep inside. [Read: The real signs your relationship is on the verge of ending]

24. The small gestures suddenly stop

Your boyfriend used to send you good morning messages, or a selfie while stuck in traffic, but that’s all ended. These small gestures are what make the relationship.

These gestures show he cares, but they’ve all stopped now.

 25. He’s not so attentive during sex

When you were intimate, he used to focus on pleasing you, as you do for him. But now when you have sex, it feels mechanical, lacking any emotions. If he’s not interested in pleasing you, talk to him.

It doesn’t mean he’s cheating on you, but it shows his mind isn’t where it needs to be. [Read: Why feeling disconnected in a relationship isn’t always the end]

26. You’ve caught him lying

Not once, not twice, but multiple times. And though you haven’t been able to really put your finger on what’s going on, you’re no longer able to fully trust him. If you can’t trust him, then this is a genuine issue because a healthy relationship is made on mutual trust. 

27. Where is the PDA?

It’s not here, that’s for sure. You used to hold hands, give each other kisses and hugs while at the supermarket or walking down the street. But that’s all come to an end.

He’s no longer showing PDA when he used to be someone who loved doing it. Now, that’s just strange and it could be one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl. [Read: 20 veiled signs your boyfriend is cheating on you already]

28. He doesn’t show excitement anymore

When you were around each other, there was this buzz, this excitement between you. There are moments when that fades for a couple, but is this lack of excitement one-sided?

If when you are out, it feels like he’s in pain to spend another minute beside you, ask him what’s up.

29. He doesn’t confide in you anymore

When he came home from work, he used to tell you about his annoying boss, or a joke his co-worker told him. But he doesn’t confide in you anymore. The deep conversations you had have come to an end.

But he is still having those conversations… just not with you. There are other reasons he may have closed down a little but it could be one of the signs your man has feelings for another girl too. [Read: Troubling signs he’s losing interest in you and may walk away soon]]

30. He’s suddenly into his looks

Your man would wear underwear he discovered on his floor, but now, he’s only wearing the best of the best. He focuses on his appearance, how he smells, and how he styles his hair. In other words, it’s the complete opposite person you’re dating.

So, what’s the sudden change? Who inspired him? [Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheater red handed]

31. He seems a lot more distant

Listen, it’s hard to be yourself around your partner when you know you’re cheating on them. Of course, unless you’re a sociopath and don’t care. But if you’re human, being around your partner while lying to them is a challenge.

Unless there is a real reason for his distance, e.g. stress or family problems, it could be one of the signs your man has a crush on another woman.

32. The relationship feels forced all of a sudden

Whatever you do, it feels like you’re pulling teeth. Whether it’s going on date night or having sex, everything feels forced. And that’s not because you want that to happen, it’s the reaction to what’s going on with your partner.

If you’re struggling to keep the relationship afloat, there’s a reason why. [Read: How to know if you’re not in love anymore and drifting apart]

33. They’re showing classic cheating signs

Whether it’s adding a password to their phone, hiding their messages from you, or coming home late, he’s showing classic signs of cheating.

These are signs that eventually poke their heads out and are unavoidable, no matter how careful he is. Eventually, you notice. 

34. You sense he wants to be somewhere else

When you’re on date night with your partner, it doesn’t feel right. You feel they want to be somewhere else, rather than next to you. How your partner acts around you is a strong sign of how they feel about you.

If he’s happy being with you, he wouldn’t act uninterested in your company. [Read: How to know if he’s lying to you without asking or confronting him]

35. He’s trying to find a reason to end things with you

Maybe you had a stupid fight, one that would be resolved in a couple of minutes usually, but now he wants to break up with you. The reason is really dumb, but you know that’s not the real reason.

He doesn’t want to confess he has feelings for someone else, so he’s trying to dump the break up on you. 

36. You’ve met her and you get really bad vibes

Maybe it’s his co-worker or study partner from school; whatever the case, you have a bad feeling about them. You can’t put your finger on it, but something about them doesn’t sit right.

Now, this isn’t a valid reason to accuse your partner of cheating, but your body is putting you on alert. [Read: How to follow your gut instinct – Tried and true methods to follow]

37. You’re no longer included in his social life

Little by little, he’s started to cut you out of social activities that you used to do together. For example, maybe you’d meet him and his colleagues for happy hour after work. Not anymore.

If he’s not including you in his social life, he doesn’t want people to see you together as a couple. Why? Because he has a different plan up his sleeve. 

38. He’s cheated before

We don’t want to say, once a cheater, always a cheater. Because we don’t think that’s necessarily true. Everyone cheats for different reasons. It doesn’t mean they will cheat again.

But you also need to take your partner’s past into consideration as well. If he has a record of cheating and has done so multiple times with the same woman, well, that is something to look at. [Read: The signs you might be dating a serial cheater]

Bottom line

At times, it can be difficult to see the signs that your man has a crush on another woman. There is also a major difference between a crush, and a simple opinion that he thinks a particular woman is attractive.

After all, there are probably many men you think are attractive. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you have a crush on them.

A crush means that someone really, really likes another person, and could potentially be interested in pursuing and dating them. By understanding the signs your guy has a big crush on someone else, you can be on red alert and try and avert disaster before it happens.

[Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheating partner red-handed and in the act right now]

With these signs your man has a crush on another woman, you can find out if your man’s eyes have been wandering. Then, it may be time to address the situation by confronting him or luring him away from his crush.

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