Learn the secret behind knowing how to be happy in a relationship. It takes just seven simple steps to bring love and happiness into a relationship.
Bringing happiness into a relationship is one of the simplest things couples can do.
But yet, several couples have a hard time keeping love and happiness alive, even if they did experience a lot of it in the first few months or years of the relationship.
Find out how to be happy in a relationship with these seven simple tips that can definitely change your life for the better.
How to be happy in a relationship
You don’t need a lot of money or extravagant gifts and lavish dinners to experience true love and happiness.
All you need to do is understand what really matters in love and how you can bring little changes in your daily interactions with your partner and change your lives.
Follow these seven steps, and you’ll see a happy and successful change in your relationship almost instantly.
Step #1 Communicate and understand each other
Remember those first few weeks when both of you were dating each other?
Can you remember all those incessant rounds of questions both of you asked each other to find out about your likes and dislikes?
Don’t stop asking those questions.
You may be in love with each other for several years, but as individuals, both of you are constantly changing all the time.
Learn to communicate and ask each other all those first date questions now and then, and try to have an active interest in each other’s lives and pursuits. It’ll help both of you understand each other better and bring both of you closer.
Always remember this. Misunderstandings in love don’t happen when you mishear each other, it happens most when you stop communicating with each other.
If you want to use these steps to change your life, both of you have to be aware of what it takes to be happy in a relationship and both of you have to work towards it. It just can’t be a one sided effort.
Confusions and petty arguments are at times inevitable even in the most happiest of relationships. And it’s alright to have a strong opinion once in a while. But no matter what the little disagreement is about or however angry or upset either of you are, make up as soon as you can.
And that means no wasting time on huffing, puffing or whining. You may be really angry, but learn to hold your partner’s hand and say “hey, I’m sorry we had a fight. Can we forget about it/talk about it some other time?”
What would work even better is a warm hug after a disagreement. Always understand that no matter what the differences are, both of you are in love each other. So whatever the issue, end it soon or talk about it when the tension isn’t so thick.
Step #3 Be willing to apologize
At times, you may just not want to apologize. You may be convinced that it’s not your fault and you don’t see any reason in humiliating yourself by offering an apology.
But that’s where you’re wrong.
What are you trying to prove after a fight? That you’re right and your partner is wrong? Why? Why do you have to show off that you’re right? Does it even matter who’s wrong or right when your lover is sad and upset?
In a relationship, there are no winners or losers. There are just happy couples or unhappy ones. If you want to know how to be happy in a relationship, learn to swallow your pride and apologize even if it’s not your fault. It’s for the sake of your relationship. Egos destroy relationships and both partners have to learn to apologize to each other even if it’s not their own fault.
Get rid of the ego and you’ll see how successful and happy your relationship can be.
Step #4 Learn to forgive
To err is human… and you know the rest of that quote. All of us make mistakes. In a happy relationship, both partners must learn to forgive each other.
It may be a petty mistake or even a huge one, but if you are willing to give your relationship a chance, learn to forgive, forget and move on. Unless, of course, your partner repeats the same act again, which would only mean your partner doesn’t love you or respect you enough to care about your feelings.
Unless it’s adultery or something just as heartbreaking, voice your opinion and forgive your partner. Holding grudges has never helped any relationship, and it never will.
Step #5 Respect each other as individuals
Your partner and you may truly love each other, but that doesn’t complete the recipe for a happy relationship. Do you respect your partner and trust them in your time of need? [Read: How to give space in a relationship]
Respecting each other is important for the success and happiness in any relationship. You may think your girlfriend is a hottie or you may know that your man’s a brawny hunk. But unless you respect them for their intellectuality and their personality, they’re nothing but your arm candy.
When you respect your lover, it shows that you trust them and can look to them for advice and help when it comes to making important decisions in the relationship. And the mutual respect that both of you share will bring more confidence into each other and happiness into your relationship.
Step #6 Look good in each other’s arms
The secret to knowing how to be happy in a relationship isn’t just about each other’s intellectual strength and the ability to compromise for the good of the relationship. Sometimes, happiness and fun in love comes from the desire to want each other.
Does your partner sexually excite you? Do you still excite your partner? Or have either of you put on a lot of weight or started dressing down and forgotten to clean yourselves up because it just doesn’t matter anymore? [Read: How to look sexy in bed]
For a relationship to be full of excitement and happiness, learn to never take each other for granted. Always try to impress your lover like you would if it was the first few weeks of the relationship.
Work out, dress well and look good. Win the admiration of your lover and the people around you and your partner will be attracted to you and will desire you more, even if you’ve been together for several years. [Read: What is the right age to get married?]
Step #7 Have an exciting sex life
Sex is pretty important in a happy relationship. In almost all relationships, it always starts off with sex every night and starts dwindling down to a few times a week after a few years and eventually, having sex once in a few weeks becomes a luxury.
But does that seem right?
If you met a crush you sexually desire or end up having an affair with someone else, wouldn’t you be banging the bed every night like a horse on heat? You do know that the sexual desire and the fire is within you, so do something about it!
You may be bored of seeing the same body parts all the time for years on end. But there are always ways to bring the excitement back into bed. Having an exciting and satisfying sex life is pretty important in understanding how to be happy in a relationship. Discuss about your sexual interests with each other and learn to innovate as both of you grow together. And if you do have a few sexually deviant ideas, talk about it.
At the end of the day, love and sex are as unique as the couple in love itself. So stop worrying about what’s taboo and what’s not. As long as both of you love it and it doesn’t bother the people around you, who cares!