Don’t you wish there was a way to know what a guy’s like in bed before you sleep with him. With these sexual questions to ask a guy, you’ll know.
Unfortunately, you can’t just look at a guy and know whether or not he’s good in bed. That’s just not how it works. And as much as we try to guess, we’re usually wrong about these sorts of things. But with some sexual questions to ask a guy, you can figure it out a bit easier.
You can like a guy more than you’ve liked anyone else only to realize he’s a dud in the bedroom. And don’t get me wrong, that’s not the most important thing, but without having chemistry in the sack, you just can’t work out in the long run.
Not all attractive people are good in bed
Sometimes it’s quite the opposite. The guys we think are the best in bed end up being the worst. That’s usually because we based our opinion on what they look like. As much as we wish those super hot guys were amazing and generous in bed, that’s usually not how it works.
Many times, the underdogs tend to be better. This usually has to do with a need to overcompensate. Because they’re not the best looking, they have to be able to bring something more to the table. But you can’t always rely on this, either. [Read: Which type of attraction is most vital for true love?]
Sexual questions to ask a guy that’ll reveal his game in the bedroom
If you’re into someone new and want to start heating things up, start asking some questions. You’ll know pretty early on if he’s good in bed or even if he’s really inexperienced.
#1 When did you lose your virginity? So long as you’re at a point where discussing this isn’t that big of a deal, asking will reveal a lot. If he lost it early, that can indicate more experience. But if he lost it rather recently, it could show you he’s more sensitive and willing to learn.
#2 How long were you with the person you lost your virginity to? This can reveal a lot more than just asking when he lost it. If he dated them for a long time, he’s probably more respectful than a guy who was only with someone for a short while or lost it on a one night stand. [Read: 15 true stories of losing virginity that aren’t so sexy]
#3 What’s your favorite position? This tells you a lot about his sexual style and if he’s a butt or boob kind of guy. Liking doggy style or any of those standard positions shows you he’s down for a typical romp.
But if he tells you a position you’re not really familiar with or is more rare, he could be a lot more experienced. Bonus points if he can’t pick a favorite. That shows he’s a little more adventurous.
#4 How much do you love going down on a girl? A guy who will take a blowjob but not go down on a girl isn’t one you want to have. If he answers this question with enthusiasm, you’re in luck. Now you just have to see if he can walk the walk instead of just talk the talk.
#5 Do you prefer a blowjob or actual sex? Most guys will say they like them for different reasons. Be wary of a guy who says he likes blowjobs most because it’s an indication that he might be a little more selfish in the bedroom. He’d rather just receive a good time than make an effort for it. [Read: 15 moves to give him a great blowjob]
#6 Tell me about the naughtiest thing you’ve done in bed. If you’ve asked the other questions and aren’t completely sure about him just yet, ask this one. It’ll make him open up about how crazy he gets in bed and that will tell you more than you need.
#7 Where’s the weirdest place you’ve had sex? Some people aren’t up for sex in public or even sex anywhere besides the bedroom. You’ll find out what his limits are and that’ll help you figure out if he’d be a good match for you sexually.
#8 What would you do if I answered the door naked? Ask him this if you really want to give him something to think about. Not only will you figure out just how much he wants to sleep with you, but you’ll also get a feel for his level of self-control. [Read: Shock and awe him with these surprise sex moves]
#9 What your favorite foreplay move? If he doesn’t answer anything specific, it’s a sign he probably doesn’t do much for foreplay – which is not a good thing. A guy who goes into more detail here clearly enjoys foreplay and will actually make an effort to get you warmed up first.
#10 How long is the longest you’ve had sex for? Any guy will exaggerate this. So take the time he says and cut it down a bit in order to determine the real answer. But if it’s pretty short, he might not be that generous in bed.
#11 What’s a naughty sexual fantasy of yours? Fantasies tell us so much about what someone really wants in bed. Knowing one of his can help you determine if he’s adventurous, dirty, erotic, or just a normal guy. It’ll be up to you to decide if you want to try it. [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas that are worth trying at least once]
#12 Do you watch a lot of porn? There’s nothing wrong with watching porn. Just keep in mind that guys who do watch a ton of porn tend to act like the people in porn.
#13 What’s a big turnoff in bed for you? Firstly, it’s great for you to know this before getting in bed with him. Secondly, it’ll help give you some inside knowledge as to what he really likes and doesn’t like. If you know one turnoff, you can figure out the others.
#14 Do you ever use lube? Any guy who has some experience will say yes. Because lube is extremely useful and even if you don’t need it, it still adds some extra fun and pleasure. Only a guy who’s a bit more insecure will say something like, “No. The girls I’ve been with never need it.”
#15 Have you ever used a sex toy while having sex? Sex toys can do a lot for sex even if it’s already great. If he’s experienced with sex toys, he probably likes to have a bit more fun than the average guy in the bedroom. He also has a greater chance of wanting to get you off than others.
Ultimately, it’ll be up to you to figure out what he’s like in bed based on his answers and if that’s what you consider good or not. It’ll be different for everyone, but these sexual question to ask a guy will certainly give you insight.