Unfortunately, you can’t just look at a guy and know whether or not he’s good in bed. That’s just not how it works. And as much as we try to guess, we’re usually wrong about these sorts of things. But by knowing a few sexual questions to ask a guy, you can figure it out a bit easier. Or, at least get a more accurate idea!
You can like a guy more than you’ve liked anyone else only to realize he’s a dud in the bedroom. And don’t get us wrong, that’s not the most important thing, but without having chemistry in the sack, you probably won’t work out in the long run. [Read: Sleeping with someone new for the first time? 13 must-follow rules]
Sometimes it’s quite the opposite. The guys we think are the best in bed end up being the worst. That’s usually because we based our opinion on what they look like. As much as we wish those super hot guys were amazing and generous in bed, that’s usually not how it works.
Many times, the underdogs tend to be better. This usually has to do with a need to overcompensate. Because they’re not the best looking, they have to be able to bring something more to the table. But you can’t always rely on this, either.
Of course, you can teach a guy what you like and that will improve things, but wouldn’t you rather he had some super-hot moves beforehand? [Read: Which type of attraction is most vital for true love?]
If you’re into someone new and want to start heating things up, start asking some questions. You’ll know pretty early on if he’s good in bed or even if he’s really inexperienced. However, don’t fire question after question at him – he will feel like he’s in an interview and that’s not in the slightest bit sexy!
Here are a few sexual questions to ask a guy to get you started. [Read: 11 easy ways for guys to hide their sexual inexperience]
So long as you’re at a point where discussing this isn’t that big of a deal, asking will reveal a lot. If he lost it early, that can indicate more experience. But if he lost it rather recently, it could show you he’s more sensitive and willing to learn.
This can reveal a lot more than just asking when he lost it. If he dated them for a long time, he’s probably more respectful than a guy who was only with someone for a short while or lost it on a one night stand. [Read: 15 true stories of losing virginity that aren’t so sexy]
This tells you a lot about his sexual style and if he’s a butt or boob kind of guy. Liking doggy style or any of those standard positions shows you he’s down for a typical romp. That makes it one of the best sexual questions to ask a guy.
But if he tells you a position you’re not really familiar with or is rarer, he could be a lot more experienced. Bonus points if he can’t pick a favorite. That shows he’s a little more adventurous than the average guy! [Read: Sex positions guys love – 12 easy moves that’ll make him want more]
A guy who will take a blowjob but not go down on a girl isn’t one you want to have. If he answers this question with enthusiasm, you’re in luck. Now you just have to see if he can walk the walk instead of just talk the talk.
Most guys will say they like them for different reasons. Be wary of a guy who says he likes blowjobs most because it’s an indication that he might be a little more selfish in the bedroom. He’d rather just receive a good time than make an effort for it. [Read: 15 moves to give him a great blowjob]
If you’ve asked the other questions and aren’t completely sure about him just yet, ask this one. It’ll make him open up about how crazy he gets in bed and that will tell you more than you need to know.
Some people aren’t up for sex in public or even sex anywhere besides the bedroom. You’ll find out what his limits are and that’ll help you figure out if he’d be a good match for you sexually. [Read: The 20 best and hottest places for outdoor sex – it’s time to go al fresco!]
Ask him this if you really want to give him something to think about. Not only will you figure out just how much he wants to sleep with you, but you’ll also get a feel for his level of self-control. [Read: Shock and awe him with these surprise sex moves]
If he doesn’t answer anything specific, it’s a sign he probably doesn’t do much for foreplay – which is not a good thing. A guy who goes into more detail here clearly enjoys foreplay and will actually make an effort to get you warmed up first.
Any guy will exaggerate this. So take the time he says and cut it down a bit in order to determine the real answer. But if it’s pretty short, he might not be that generous in bed. That’s why this is one of the best sexual questions to ask a guy if you want to know what the experience may be like. [Read: Premature ejaculation – Don’t cry over spilt milk]
Fantasies tell us so much about what someone really wants in bed. Knowing one of his can help you determine if he’s adventurous, dirty, erotic, or just a normal guy. It’ll be up to you to decide if you want to try it. [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas that are worth trying at least once]
There’s nothing wrong with watching porn. Just keep in mind that guys who do watch a ton of porn tend to act like the people in porn.
And that means he might have some unrealistic expectations or might have learned everything he knows from porn. And that’s not good for you. [Read: Why men watch porn instead of their woman in bed]
Firstly, it’s great for you to know this before getting in bed with him. Secondly, it’ll help give you some inside knowledge as to what he really likes and doesn’t like. If you know one turnoff, you can usually figure out the others.
Any guy who has some experience will say “yes!. Because lube is extremely useful and even if you don’t need it, it still adds some extra fun and pleasure. Only a guy who’s a bit more insecure will say something like, “No. The girls I’ve been with never need it.” [Read: How to use lubricants to liven up your sex life instantly]
Sex toys can do a lot for sex even if it’s already great. If he’s experienced with sex toys, he probably likes to have a bit more fun than the average guy in the bedroom. He also has a greater chance of wanting to get you off than others.
Make sure that he says “yes” to this one. If he’s at all vague on the details or he seems to avoid the question, that’s a huge red flag. A guy who plays Russian roulette with his sexual health, or the sexual health of his partner, isn’t someone you want in your life.
You could also take it a step further and try and find out who’s responsibility it is to ensure safe sex. It’s down to both of you and if he hints it’s the girl’s business, get out of there! [Read: How to have safe sex in every single way it is possible to]
You need to ask this one in a jokey manner. If you ask too seriously or with a naughty smile, he might think that you’re actually up for it! If you are, that’s fine, but if you’re not and you’re just curious, you could end up with a rather awkward conversation! But, this question will certainly tell you a lot about his experience level and his experimental side.
He might not want to tell you the truth here, but you can work out whether he’s lying or not by his body language. Knowing how long he’s gone without sex can tell you a lot about his dating past. [Read: How often should you have sex? 15 signs you’re not having enough]
If you want to know whether you’re about to get it on with someone with an extremely kinky side, this question will tell you. It might be that he’s never indulged in kink of any kind, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to at some point. Maybe that could be with you!
Every guy has a move. Remember how Joey from Friends used to do the famous “how you doin’?” Well, the guy you’re crushing is sure to have his own signature move. You just need to know what it is! [Read: 11 sexy ways for men to get way better in bed]
While these sexual questions to ask a guy will give you a very strong insight into his sexual likes, dislikes, and his experience level, do remember one very large flaw in the plan – guys like to exaggerate when it comes to their sexual prowess!
You can usually work out when this is happening because he’ll display body language that tells you something is a little ‘off’. Look for avoiding eye contact, fidgeting, laughing when it’s really not funny, and avoiding any follow up questions.
But, hopefully he’s being totally honest with you and you can work out what this new guy is likely to be like between the sheets!
[Read: 20 sexy questions to ask a guy in order to seduce him]
Ultimately, it’ll be up to you to figure out what he’s like in bed based on his answers and if that’s what you consider good or not. It’ll be different for everyone, but these sexual questions to ask a guy will certainly give you an insight.
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