Sexual attraction and chemistry can’t be planned.
It just happens.
One moment you’re sitting with someone you find rather attractive.
And half an hour later, both of you have hands all over each other, purring and panting like wild animals on heat.
So what gives?
What really creates this sexual chemistry out of nowhere?
And why is it such a passionate and uncontrollable force that leaves us feeling weak-willed and wildly courageous at the same time?
[Read: 13 physical attraction tips to look way sexier!]
What is sexual attraction?
Sexual attractiveness is a person’s ability to arouse someone else sexually.
The reasons for the attraction could be different for different individuals.
But almost always, sexual attraction weighs heavily on physical stimulation and physical attributes, be it attractive looks and physique, the ability to dance, or a person’s natural body odor.
[Read: 20 things that turn a guy on sexually when he sees a girl]
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But here’s something you need to remember. Sexual attraction is not the same as physical attraction or infatuation. While sexual attraction is the raw sexual desire to hit the bed with each other, physical attraction is the fondness you experience for someone based on their appearance or behavior. It could end up being a platonic experience, or it could lead to romance, friendship or even sex.
If you’re having a conversation with someone attractive, and begin to like the person and see them as a dating potential, you may be infatuated or attracted to them, but it doesn’t always have to end with sexual attraction. [Read: 20 signs of flirty attraction in a conversation]
How do you create sexual attraction?
Simply put, sexual attraction can’t be faked.
There are always sneaky ways to enhance it or accentuate sexual attraction. But to increase sexual attraction, you need to create it first. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely doable. [Read: 10 sneaky ways to build sexual attraction with someone you like]
The 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction
If you’re having a conversation with someone attractive, and the conversation leaves you feeling all hot and flustered, chances are, the sexual chemistry and attraction between the two of you is already sizzling and burning.
You can use these 13 signs of sexual attraction to find out if you or a hottie you’re chatting up actually want to get into the other person’s pants.
And even if you’re trying hard to create sexual attraction with someone, you can use these cues to build the horny attraction yourself. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by sitting next to her]
#1 Close contact. When you’re sexually attracted to someone you’re talking to, you’d find it very hard to stay away from them. You’d find any excuse to get closer to them, be it while walking together or while squeezing into a crowded elevator. If you’re talking to an attractive someone, and they constantly try to sit closer to you or move in awkwardly close for no valid reason at all, it’s probably because they’re sexually attracted to you already.
#2 Outrageous flirting. Do you find yourself helplessly flirting with this person all the time? Sexual flirting is one of the big signs of sexual attraction. If you’re sexually attracted to someone, you can’t help yourself from talking dirty or behaving like a naughty tease around them. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and dirty flirting tips for girls]
#3 Strategic locations. You can’t stop staring at strategic sensual locations on this person’s body, be it their crotch, their butt, their breasts or even their lips. You can try to stop yourself, but every sneaky opportunity you get, your eyes would just drift down south to get an eyeful of all that sexiness.
#4 Your heart starts racing. If you’re sitting in a cozy corner with this person, you can’t help but feel turned on and sexually aroused. With each minute that passes by, your excitement would make your hands wander and you’d start breathing deeper and harder too! [Read: 6 sexy ways to make a guy want to kiss you by turning him on]
#5 You’re all hot and bothered. If you’re turned on by someone’s touch or close proximity, you’d start to feel flustered and sweaty, especially if you feel awkward or uncomfortable with the wild emotions whirling in your mind.
#6 You find them irresistible. Sexual attraction can drive us crazy, especially when we’re around the object of our attraction. You’d have a very hard time keeping your hands away from them, and you may not even realize it. Do either of you end up clasping each other’s fingers, running hands against the other person’s cheek or hair? [Read: How to arouse a girl and turn her on in 10 ways]
#7 Your own appearance. When you’re around someone who sexually excites you, you can’t help but feel very conscious about your own body and appearance. You may find yourself looking at your own body now and then, and you may even try to stick out parts of your body that you think flatter your assets the most.
#8 You touch yourself. When you’re being seduced by someone’s presence in the room, you would subconsciously start to touch yourself, to show off and to cover your own sexual awkwardness. You may find yourself unbuttoning your collar, running your hands through your hair, or even getting more comfortable by spreading your legs wider! [Read: 15 very obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]
#9 Drawling conversations. A sexual conversation is never high pitched or giggly. As both of you start to talk sexy, the tone of both your voices would start to get softer and deeper, and mute down to almost a slow whisper. Your faces may be really close to each other too, and in all probability, both of you are only moments away from a stolen kiss.
#10 Burning stares. Burning sexual desires bring out the raw animal in us. When you’re deeply sexually attracted to someone, you can’t help but stare hard at them constantly. You may not always stare, but when they’re looking away from you, that’s all the excuse you need to strip them bare with your eyes. You know you want them right that moment. [Read: 10 red hot ways to seduce a man who isn’t yours already]
#11 It’s in the eyes. A sexually stimulating conversation is easy to read in the eyes. No matter how subtle or discreet you are about how badly you want this person in bed, your eyes can’t lie. If you’re romantically infatuated, your eyes will brighten up and sparkle with happiness. But if someone desires you sexually and both of you have a sneaky moment of alone time, you’d see that their eyelids are almost drunkenly half closed with lust *especially when their face is really close to yours*.
#12 You linger more than you have to. You don’t want to let go of this hottie even when you have to say your goodbyes. You linger your touch, your goodbye kisses and just about everything else. If you had a choice, you know you wouldn’t even want to let go of this person. [Read: 10 surefire ways to increase your sex appeal immediately]
#13 You just want a room. When you’re having a flirty conversation with this person, do you ever wish everyone else could just vanish? Or do you wish both of you had the privacy of being inside a locked room? When you’re having a sexually arousing conversation with someone you’re attracted to, you wouldn’t want anyone else around.
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Have you ever felt these signs of sexual attraction while talking to someone you’re attracted to? In all probability, it’s not a crush but a wildly passionate moment of sexual attraction you’re experiencing!
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