Is the guy you see acting suspiciously distant, yet always around for sex? Could it be that you’ve encountered the mystical fuccboi?
Listen, maybe if you’re really lucky, you won’t encounter the fuccboi. But in all honesty, no matter how great of a girl you are, there will be one guy that tries to treat you like shit. This is because they’re a fuccboi. They’re also a long list of other swear words, but basically, everything can be wrapped up under that one word quite nicely.
Usually, you don’t realize the guy is a fuccboi until after he made you go mentally insane and left your heart broken with a bunch of unanswered questions. But don’t let him win. Nuh-uh, come on, I know it’s hard, but when you see the signs, cut it so you keep your heart intact. [Read: The 14 warning signs a player can’t hide]
Your fuccboi guide: Everything you need to know
I’ve encountered so many fuccbois. I thought they were the only type of man that existed. Which isn’t true, there are good guys out there. You just go after the wrong ones. So, if you’ve heard the word “fuccboi” but don’t really know what it means or how to know if the guy you like is one, well, good thing you came here.
It’s time to get down to serious business, I want to make sure you end up with a good guy, not someone who doesn’t appreciate you. So, pay attention because you need to know what the red flags are when it comes to a fuccboi. Save yourself by knowing the signs!
What is a fuccboi?
Before we even start looking at the signs, you need to know what a fuccboi is. A fuccboi is a guy who is strictly into sexual relationships. Now, that part isn’t a bad thing. However, the difference between a guy who wants casual sex and a fuccboi is that a fuccboi doesn’t tell you what they want. Instead, they lead you on, making you think that you’ll be able to have something more with them just so they can continue having sex with you.
They have no intention of being with you or committing to you, even though, they want you to commit to them. You feel me? They want all the goodies without being honest with you from the beginning. This is why they’re fuccbois. [Read: 15 signs he’s only using you for sex]
14 ways to tell he’s a fuccboi who wants to play you
Not sure if the guy you’re “seeing” is a fuccboi? Well, if you notice a couple of these signs in his behavior, there’s a solid chance he is one.
#1 He’s not interested in deep conversation. He doesn’t want to know how your day was or if you passed your exam. What he cares about is if you’re still going to hang out with him tonight at his place. If a guy really likes you, he talks to you about everything. The subject isn’t important, what’s important is that he speaks to you. If your conversations are shallow and mostly revolve around sex, he’s a fuccboi. [Read: 10 booty call moves that may be disguised as true love]
#2 He doesn’t make plans to see you. He doesn’t ask you to hang out with him. If he does, he conveniently asks you late at night and always at either your place or his. If he really liked you, he would be making sure you see each other as soon as possible and not to have sex. He wants to spend quality time with you, not just a bang.
#3 He’s always texting other people when you’re around him. Yes, you may not think it’s a big deal, but why is he texting other people around you if he’s with the girl he likes? Could it be that he’s trying to hook up with other girls? That would be a yes. Don’t argue with me and make up an excuse. If he likes you he wouldn’t care who’s texting him.
#4 You haven’t been on an actual date with him. Sure, you grabbed pizza with him after the club or ordered a movie on the TV, but that’s not a date. In fact, now that you think about it, you’ve never actually been on a date with him. He has never taken you for dinner or to the movies. Nothing. That’s a huge red flag. [Read: 13 dating rules for the woman tired of terrible dates and games]
#5 He isn’t into labels. Oh god, this one is a classic. Yeah, he can’t stand labels. If you have been seeing each other for some time, and it’s that weird period where you want to know what’s happening between you, he suddenly says he’s not into labels and likes it how it is. Of course, he likes it the way it is, he doesn’t want to commit to you. Red flag!
#6 All his exes are crazy. All of them are nuts. Every single one. He never says anything nice about the girls he dated in the past. This is because he’s a fuccboi who doesn’t take any responsibility for his actions. Thus, he blames it on everyone else. She dumped him because she’s crazy, not because he cheated on her.
#7 His friends are just like him. Who you hang out with is who you are. It’s true. So, it’s best to see what his friends are like. If they’re all non-committal and sleeping with ten different women, the odds are he’s not much different. His friends are probably all fuccbois as well. Check it out by meeting them or at least creeping their social media.
#8 He hits on other women in front of you. This is because you two are not actually together. You get that—right? If he thought you were his girlfriend, he wouldn’t do that. If he was serious about you and respected you, he wouldn’t do that. He just wouldn’t do that! If he does that though, it’s a clear sign he doesn’t care about you.
#9 He’s all about the nudes. All he wants are nude photos of you. Yeah, he follows you on Instagram and Facebook, but it’s not enough. Instead, he wants those naughty photos of you all the time. But if he was really into you, he wouldn’t be asking you for them. [Read: The 10 biggest sexting rules you need to follow]
#10 He thinks he owns you. He doesn’t like it when you go out or talk to other guys. Also, he thinks he’s entitled to sleep with you whenever he wants. Yet, when it comes to committing, he’s nowhere to be seen. He doesn’t own you. If he thinks he does, he’s a fuccboi.
#11 He never says sorry. Why would he say sorry for anything when he doesn’t care. Everything you say to him comes off as an attack, and he’s quick to defend himself. But you’re not asking him to defend himself, you just want to talk. Why would he feel the need to defend himself if he isn’t doing anything wrong?
#12 He loves to talk about himself. It’s all about him. Him, him, him. He doesn’t ask you anything about yourself because he doesn’t care. It’s always about what he’s doing, how he feels, if he’s hungry or bored. It’s never about you, your dreams, your passions, your wants—nothing.
#13 He’s always testing you. He’s doing small things to test you and your loyalty to him. Though, you don’t test him, because why would you? You like him. He always makes sure he’s holding the power, ensuring you’re not going to screw him over. [Read: 17 answers to why a guy is ignoring you]
#14 There’s no evidence of you together. That’s only because he doesn’t want any evidence of you in his life. I know it sounds harsh, but it’s true. Why would he keep you a secret? Because he has other women. He doesn’t want them to know about you and vice versa. If he likes you, he would have no problem displaying photos of you together on social media.