Sometimes the only way to teach someone a lesson is to beat them at their own game. But how to play a guy at his own game when you’re the one being played?
Women are well-known for playing mind games with men. Actually, we’re considered experts. But, so many of us fall easily into the games men play with women. I think it’s because we assume that we’re the game players, leaving us open for manipulation. To turn the tables, it’s time to learn how to play a guy at his own game.
The fact is both men and women are experts at playing mind games with each other. Of course, many of us are open and honest people, but there are always those who fall between the cracks. Those are the ones to watch out for. But, let’s be honest, most of us have been played by someone. Take it as a life lesson.
How to play a guy at his own game
If you feel you’re being played, you must stop it. That’s easier said than done, especially when we have feelings for them. But you don’t want to be taken advantage of and left broken-hearted. The best thing to do is to remove yourself from the situation before it gets worse. Kick him to the curb.
But, I know before you go, you’ll want to give him a taste of his own medicine. Now, I advise you not to do this, but I also know you’re human, and you probably will. If you plan to play a guy at his own game, you may as well do it the right way.
Here we go, it’s time you learned what to do and learn how to play a guy at his own game. The tables are about to turn on him.
#1 Slightly acknowledge him. He’s used to you liking all his photos, commenting on them, texting him multiple times a day. In other words, he’s used to you chasing him. Now, you turn the tables. Pull back, way back. Instead of showering him with attention, slightly acknowledge his existence. Say hi, be friendly, but that’s about it. [Read: Understanding why a guy comes back when you ignore them]
#2 Stop giving him attention. Most men will play women for attention for a quick ego boost. But that’s what you must cut. Stop giving him the attention he wants. The only way to get his attention is by ignoring him politely.
Brush him off, make him work harder for your time; you’re not an easy catch. Leave him wondering why his moves aren’t working anymore.
#3 Flirt with other guys. Ah, yes, this one is a classic. But don’t make the mistake of making it obvious you want his attention or else it won’t work. Don’t look at him while you’re flirting with other guys. Show him that he’s out of the picture. This guy doesn’t like losing a race. [Read: 30 wicked ways to make a guy jealous and win his attention back]
#4 Don’t fall for his charm. This guy lives on his charm; it’s one of the only qualities he has that works. So, he’s going to do his best to charm his way into your pants. Instead, show him that you’re not falling for his charm. It’s an old act. He must come up with a different strategy if he wants to make you fall for him. Once he becomes obsessed, the ball is in your court.
#5 Have a good time *without him*. While you’re busy trying to win him over, make sure you spend time enjoying yourself with friends and family. It’s easy to get sucked into this game, and that’s not what you want to do. Go out with friends, meet other people, and if he’s there, remember to have a good time and not get distracted by senseless drama. [Read: 15 moves to get a guy to chase you and fall real hard]
#6 Don’t sleep with him. If you want to play a guy at his own game, show him that you’re not some easy chick. If you’ve already slept with him, pull back. If you haven’t slept with him–great! It’ll be that much easier not to. Plus, if he’s playing you, then he doesn’t deserve you.
#7 Keep the mystery alive. Everyone loves a little mystery. If you want him to fall for you, be a little mysterious. He shouldn’t know everything about you. The fact he doesn’t know much about you is why he’s still interested. Avoid talking about exes, passions, your fears, and dreams. Give him just enough to keep him coming back for more. [Read: How to be mysterious without being too distant]
#8 Don’t text him. You cannot give into texting him. These type of guys are used to women chasing after them. If you want him to chase you, stop texting him first. If he texts you, yes, answer, but not too fast. Let him sit and wait for your text. You’re busy. You have a life.
#9 Get ready to invest time into this. This isn’t going to work overnight. It will take some time and energy on your part. Ask yourself if this is something you actually want to do. I know it sounds empowering, but it’s a lot of investment. Is this guy really worth all this hassle? Or are you just in this for the drama? [Read: 20 wily signs of a player to recognize one instantly]
#10 Don’t fall for his traps. When he sees himself falling for you, he’s going to pull out all of his traps in hopes of holding onto the control. Your job is to stay firm in your stance; not falling for any of his tricks and games. If you do, well, you completely lost the entire point of this.
#11 Know when you pull out. The entire point of this is to pull out just before he gets bored, and he will get bored. Invest just enough time for him to catch the bait. No one said being a player would be easy. That’s why cutting a player off right from the beginning is always the easiest solution. [Read: How to stop selfish people from hurting you]
#12 Keep seeing other people. While you play him, make sure you don’t fall into your own trap. It’s funny how easily our brains trick us into falling for someone while we try make them fall for us. So, make sure you’re seeing other people, going out, and having fun.