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How to Let Go of a Relationship that’s Bad for You

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At times, a relationship can do more harm than good for you. Recognize the signs and understand how to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you.

Relationships are always a happy experience.

Well, until things start to go bad.

That’s when a beautiful relationship can actually bring your life to a standstill and trick you into a world of complications and pain.

Are you in a relationship where you’re not experiencing the happiness you think you deserve?

If you think it, there’s a good chance that it’s true.

[Read: How to stop thinking about someone you still like]

How to let go of a relationship

The funny thing about relationships is that it’s all in your head.

A relationship is over when you think it’s over.

If you’re not as happy as you think you should be in a relationship, you should let go even if you still love that person.

It’s that simple really.

You’re not being selfish. You’re doing both of you a favor.

It’s always better to let go of a bad relationship than hold on when you see no happiness at the end of the tunnel.

[Read: Signs of a good relationship]

The 9 steps to let go of love

If you want to understand the different ways to let go of a relationship, use these nine steps and follow the way.

#1 Why should it end? Do you really know why your relationship should end? If you want to let go of someone you love, you have to understand the real reasons behind why you think your relationship is making you unhappy.

#2 Can you fix it? Are you giving it your all to make the relationship work? If you’re in a relationship where you’re doing all the work while your partner is just coasting along on the ride, that’s never a good sign. If you are willing to take a chance, give your relationship one last chance to fix it. [Read: How to fix a relationship]

#3 Don’t force love. Don’t try too hard to bring the old romance back. It’s not worth it. Love should be effortless and mutual, and even if you try to force it, it’ll just slip away again, causing you more pain.

#4 Is it love or fear? Why are you holding on to a relationship where you see no future in it? Ask yourself why you’re holding on even now, are you still in love or are you just afraid of being single again? [Read: Are you ready to be friends with your ex?]

#5 Work your courage. Breaking up is not easy. And it takes courage to take a decision that can make such a big change in your life. All of us love stability in our lives, even if it’s a bad life. But just because you’re getting used to a certain routine doesn’t mean it’s a good thing for you.

#6 Brace yourself. Prepare yourself for the pain and the loneliness after breaking up, especially if you still have a soft corner for this person. Taking a chance to face loneliness is one of the hardest things you can do. But you’ll never really know what life has in store for you unless you take that step in the dark.

#7 Accept your decision completely. Unless you’re convinced about your decision, it’ll only leave you confused and sad. Write a list of reasons on a piece of paper and look at it now and then, until you’re completely convinced so you don’t regret it or backtrack on your words again. [Read: Signs you’re not in love anymore]

#8 There is no easy way out. If you’re sure you don’t want to be in a relationship with your lover, you have to learn to face the end. Don’t get drunk or isolate yourself, and try squirming out of the impending break up.

#9 End the relationship. Once you’re sure you have the strength to let go of the relationship, learn to end it the right way using these conversation examples in the last step, how to end a relationship the right way.

Letting go of a relationship can seem very difficult when you look your partner in the eye for that final conversation, but as soon as you speak up and walk away from your new ex, you’ll feel a heavy burden lift itself off your chest.

When should you let go of a relationship?

There are different reasons to let go of a relationship and walk away. Here are 10 reasons why a relationship may be doomed to failure and pain. And if you find yourself experiencing any of these symptoms, perhaps it’s time to end your romance.

#1 You’re convinced that you can never have a happy ending.

#2 It’s a complicated relationship. [Read: Tips to deal with a complicated relationship]

#3 You think you’re way better than your partner and deserve someone who treats you better.

#4 You don’t respect your partner or your partner doesn’t respect you.

#5 Your partner constantly cheats on you, even after getting caught.

#6 You’re being taken for granted by your lover.

#7 There’s no focus on your life and your wants in the relationship.

#8 When you’re not ready for the relationship and the commitments it requires.

#9 You don’t trust your partner anymore.

#10 If you’re constantly frustrated and you don’t know why.

After letting go of the one you love

Prepare yourself for what could happen after you let go of the relationship.

You may meet someone who loves you and treats you better. You may be happier than you could ever imagine. [Read: How to love again after being hurt]

On the other hand, your lover too may date someone else, may spread rumors or even stalk you. Think of possible future scenarios and work your own solutions to how you would want to handle it. It’s always better to be prepared for anything the world throws at you after you let go of the relationship. [Read: I miss him but he doesn’t miss me anymore]

If you make a conscious effort to get over it, you can. Learn to walk away and the rest of your life will sort itself out. [Read: Signs your ex is thinking of you]

Should you date your partner again after breaking up once?

If you ever find yourself having second thoughts about getting back with your ex again, try to weigh the pros and cons. Remind yourself of the reasons for breaking up and ask yourself if you’re ready to face those same frustrations all over again.

[Read: Should you date an ex again?]

If you feel like ending a relationship because it’s draining the happiness out of your life, remember these tips on how to let go of a relationship to help you walk away happier and lead a better life.

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16 thoughts on “How to Let Go of a Relationship that’s Bad for You”

  1. Stacie says:

    wow.. I honestly have an over protective bohfriend it gets on my nerves help anyone?

  2. louis says:

    i am in a relationship and after two years of sharing love and joy, but today my girl friend does not trust me anymore and is accusing me of having another girl friend. which i know is not- i still love her and i want her back. it will be really hard to let go my first lover.

  3. Don says:

    I am a hardworking and selfless person while my wife is the complete opposite. She left after an argument, I thought about taking her back but I felt like we didnt have a future. Im not going to let her back in my heart. Thanks for the tips.

  4. Chelle says:

    After a five year relationship I had not been invited to by (ex)boyfriends house for three months. A month ago he suggested he come to my place for a visit. I said NO! We weren’t fighting but I had a gut feeling something very wrong with the situation. If I wasn’t welcome at his place why should he be welcome at mine? I stopped being a doormat. He has contacted me a few times since to ask how I am but not to get together. It has been very hard not giving in and asking him over. Being alone is very hard and I have many moments of sadness. But I know there is no future with a man who doesn’t even want me at his house. I call it regaining dignity and integrity.

  5. trell says:

    I been in a relationship with this guy for ant 3yrs and still until today nothing has change about his attitude. He always has something negative to say about another gentlemen, he is very insecure, he don’t treat me or my family with the level of respect as I am giving to him, he lets his family say anything to me, and he don’t communicated our play with my boys the way a man is suppose to and his family and I don’t think he can stand up for himself when it comes to another gentlemen. . But he SOMETIMES if it don’t upset his life or choice, made sure I am good.. please someone help me. I’m stupid in love but need to know if I’m doing the right thing by being in this relationship

  6. Rhonda says:

    IWas in a relationship for 2 years, a very rocky and hurtful relationship. After expressing to my negative boyfriend many many many times that i deserved to be treated better it never happened. I’m a person that has good in my life, i havea God heart, I’m honest and faithful and helped this man many times with his ex wife who tried to twist and turn the divorce decree where their kids were concerned many times. He was very hurtful, many times purposely to the point where he made me cry everyday and my own kids seen this therefore they didn’t care for him, his own kids don’t care that much for him for that matter. He drinks write a but which was an issue in our relationship and after me trying to help him become a better person over2 years and giving him examples of how he should not only treat me but others as well i finally gave up because more then once he has shown me that i mean very little to him. He was my first boyfriend in high school then we got back together 25 years later andi do have to say he us but the same person, he’s very negative and rude and revengeful towards his ex who cheated on him. I WA cheated on by my ex husband as well but i was able to forgive him and have a decent relationship with him for our childrens sake. After breaking up with my boyfriend several times i just did so a week ago deciding this was it I’ve honestly had enough and i deserve way better. At first i was very abbey with hun over catching him in so many less then playing the ignoring me game but i got past the anger and just tried reaching out yesterday to try and end things on better terms but he is still ignoring me which really hurts and I’m just wondering how to get past the hurt that he is still causing by his actions. He’s a very child person and i seen thus towards his ex as well as towards myself from time to time and i just wonder how someone, who supposedly loves someone cab treat then this way because never in a million years could i imagine treating anyone this way. I text and emailed him yesterday and he won’t reply so i am moving on but I’m just very hurt that anyone could treat another person this way and the ways he had over this 2 year ordeal. I think it’s ok to be angry with someone but it is but ok to be cruel to them.

  7. Danielle says:

    Thank you, this helped me to make up my mind. Im letting go
    of the illusion ive had in my head, after going through my husbands phone i know he will never change & i know i deserve more.

  8. eric says:

    I’m in a relationship with the most evil women you can ever run across, she have cheated on me over 30 times now she is fooling around with my kin folks and neighbors ,she the town drunk on the weekend and ghetto as can be, she keep pretending that she love me but all that change when my back is turn the become the street walker drunk and hunting her prey .

  9. sindy says:

    hi I”ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5yrs now, he doesn”t respect or apologise to me even if he is wrong, he sleeps with girls on the spare rooms while i”m asleep and never apologises, he calls me names and always accuses me of cheating even though I have never cheated on him and everytime we have a fight he packs my bags and throw them on the streets, he says he loves me but never acts like it, I want to live him but do not have the strength as I’m scared of being lonely because I am an orphan

  10. kelly says:

    I met a guy from other culture. I never thought i will fall for him deeply. In my mind I liked him from the beginning but with time i loved him more and more. At beginning he also shows me lots of loves and cares but now after 3 months he is already changing he say he love me but i don’t feel the same way as before. He looks like someone els, not the guy who I used to love. He said these days he had lots of problems with family, paper and lots of stuffs. On otherside me i am also not so stabiel in my life, so I can’t help him much. I think he is sad bacause he still has feeling for his ex as now she is with someone els maybe. I have tried many times to break up but what for reasons we always get back but today something happen. Now i really think he need to end these relation where i dont see any future. I am thinking to take break from him. Maybe this break i am going to take it’s our last goodbye.
    I don’t think he ishappy with me so better i let him go.

  11. Lala says:

    Trust God. He doesn’t want you to be treated like that.
    There will be someone that will treat you better!!

  12. Beverlyn says:

    :(( im married have one baby but i kept coughting my husband cheating i found he had a acc in facebook and connected to his phone exchanging message with some sexy girls and saved photos of sex videos and pictures of the girl his been chatting with and some nude photos of that girl. i felt sick all over and confronted him now he asked forgiveness i forgave him and then second time?? i cought him havingphone sex and a girl.:(( still forgive him and found him still connected with a ex girlfriend he reasoned out he just need something with the girl saying his just using her for some loads :(( i feelt used too. and lastly? were supposed to be all good but i found a sexy underwear that his hiding in t5he cabinet good thing im cleaning the house my job is in a bpo compony so im always out at night so im having suspicions that she might have make out with the owner of the panty. now he reasoned its a panty he bought at store and wanted me to wear it but problem is i know its not brand new. i stop texting him and then he just dont care and ignores me as well. i wanna ignore him to but every day its hurts so much esp. i have a baby and i have spent my life with a man that doesnt love me the way i loved him please i want you to help me out do i need to say sorry first and forgive him again? im tired .. really tired.
    i hope so you can send me a message what to do the email is duranbeverlyn@gmail.com thank you for this post..

  13. Diane says:

    There really isn’t an easy way out when you’re dealing with a breakup. I’m going through one now and trying to put the no contact rule into place is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Are they suffering? Do they know that I am? Do they even care? There’s a whole lot of questions running through my mind that I’d love to have some answers to, but I know I’m never going to get the truth I deserve. It’s just time to pack up and move on even though that’s so much easier said than done.

  14. Beth says:

    You’re too good for this. This is too unhealthy
    of a relationship to be in. Leave it immediately.
    Your past is behind you- and no man-no matter what- should act like he does. YOU deserve some happiness-and some peace of mind for that matter.. He doesn’ deserve you at ALL!!

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    Of course, what a great website and informative posts, I definitely will bookmark your blog.All the Best!

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