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How to Talk Dirty to a Man: The Guide to Seduce Anyone with Words

Think the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? If you want to turn him on, it’s gonna be through your words. Here’s how to talk dirty to a man.

how to talk dirty to a man

So many women think that dirty talking is just saying, “I’m wet,” which is a good way to start the conversation, but it takes more skill than that. If you think you don’t have the talent to know how to talk dirty to a man, you’re wrong.

You have it in you. You just need to unleash the beast. It’s not slutty, there’s nothing wrong with talking dirty. It’s a great way to build sexual tension and keeps things spicy.

How to talk dirty to a man – 14 tips to sound like a pro

You just need to find the way that suits you and your style. So, I’m going to give you a how-to guide for talking dirty to your man. Once you dirty talk with your man a couple times, you’ll get the hang of it. You’ll be able to dirty talk while baking a soufflé—yes, it’ll just come naturally to you.

So, let’s get you started on everything you need to know about how to talk dirty to a man. A little dirty talk never hurt nobody.

#1 Do it if you’re comfortable with it. If you feel pressure to talk dirty, but you’re not comfortable with it, don’t do it. Maybe you just need to give yourself some time to warm up to it, especially if you’ve never done it before. So, you don’t have to start off with the advanced lingo, you can send a cute selfie of yourself to start things off. [Read: 20 sexy text messages to get you started on a naughty conversation]

#2 Dirty talk shows them what you like. Use dirty talk as a way to show them what you’re sexually interested in trying out. This is also a good way to gauge what they’re into and if you two are sexually compatible. If he’s into BDSM and you’re not, well, you’ll find out quite quickly. [Read: The sexiest ways to talk dirty over text]

#3 Use words that you want them to use on you. If you don’t want a man to call you a bitch or slut, then don’t call yourself those words while dirty talking. Set the lingo to show him what turns you on and what doesn’t. Dirty talking puts you in a great position to educate them on what you want without having sex with them first.

#4 Be descriptive. Men are visual, so you want to really describe to them what you’re doing to them and vice versa. Now, don’t write an essay. Keep it short and sweet, but you can say things like, “I’m slowly taking my underwear off, while one hand rubs my vagina.” See? Did you picture it in your head? If so, then that’s the goal when it comes to knowing how to talk dirty to a man.

#5 But you can use photos as well. You can use photos to enhance your dirty talking or to start the conversation. You don’t have to take a nude photo, it can be with clothes on. Do something that makes you feel comfortable and sexy in the skin you’re in. He’ll eat it up like butter, trust me. [Read: How to take perfect vag selfies on your very first try]

#6 Find your bedroom voice. You need to find our bedroom voice. If you talk dirty to him in person or on the phone, you’ll want to have a bedroom voice. Now, because you’ll be horny, this voice naturally occurs to you, you’ll notice it right away. This deep, raspy tone most women tend to have really turns men on when they talk dirty. [Read: How to build your seductive voice and sound really sexy]

#7 Be open with your fantasies. If you want to be good at dirty talking, you’re going to have to let all those social norms and standards disappear from your head. You need to be completely free and open with what you want sexually. Do you want him to cum on your face? Tell him. If you restrict yourself, the sexual connection won’t be as good and neither will your dirty talk.

#8 Compliment him. Through dirty talk, you can compliment. You can say, “I love your big dick inside of me,” or “You’re so sexy, you make me so wet.” Who doesn’t like getting compliments while having sex? Exactly.

It turns him on even more and gives him a little confidence boost which you’ll feel while he fucks you. But make sure these compliments are genuine and not overstated or else it loses its charm.

#9 Be confident. If you’re unsure, it doesn’t matter. Just fake it till you make it. You need to show him you’re confident and it shows him that you know what you want and that you know how to get it. That’s incredibly sexy for a man, especially in the bedroom. Plus, when you’re confident, your dirty talking will be more intense and passionate. [Read: How to be a sex goddess who’s desired by all men]

#10 Don’t be afraid to ask. If you’re not sure if your dirty talking is turning him on, then ask. You’re not a mind reader. Ask him what turns him on and what he likes. You can say it in a sexy way, like, “what do you want me to do to you?” This gives him the chance to list off everything that turns him on.

#11 Use all the senses. Don’t limit yourself to just touch. No, girl, use all your senses. Taste, smell, sight—while you’re dirty talking there’s nothing sexier than a woman who combines all these senses in the bedroom. I mean, why else do we have them? Okay, I know why, you don’t need to tell me.

#12 Beginner dirty talking. Here are some phrases you can use if you’re just starting out with talking dirty.

– I want you inside me.

– I want to taste you.

– Guess what I’m wearing right now.

– I had a naughty dream about you last night.

– I’m so horny right now.

– I want you to fuck me.

– I can’t wait for you to be inside me again.

– I’m touching myself right now, thinking about you.

[Read: 50 sexy and dirty things to say to your boyfriend]

#13 Intermediate dirty talking. If you’ve passed basic dirty talking, then try out some of these phrases. They’re a little more advanced, so, you may get a more intense response.

– I want you to fuck me on the counter/table/against the door.

– Where do you want to fuck me?

– When I look at you, you make me so wet.

– I want you to make me go on all fours.

– Eat me out, baby, make me wet.

– You’re a dirty boy.

– I want you to use me tonight.

– Spank me, baby.

– Harder!

[Read: How to turn on a guy – 15 moves to arouse him while making out]

#14 Advanced dirty talking. So, you think you have what it takes? Well, I don’t doubt you for a second. These phrases are some advanced shit. So, before you use them, make sure you know what to do after.

– Fuck me hard.

– Fuck me like you own me.

– Spank me… harder.

– Stop talking and fuck me.

– Cum on my face/tits/ass/pussy.

– I want you to eat me out till I can’t walk.

– Choke me!

– Fuck me like a porn star.

– I want you to pound my pussy as hard as you can.

– I’m going to squirt in your mouth and you’re going to drink it.

– I want you to tie me up and fuck me however you want.

– You like how I fuck you? You want more?

– Gag me.

[Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk in a way you’ll never go wrong]

Now you know how to talk dirty to a man and what to say, it’s time you got started. I mean, you’ll need some practice, right?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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