If things are getting a little bit staid and uninspiring in the bedroom, here are 20 new things to try in bed that’ll bring the sizzle back instantly!
Bucket lists normally revolve around outdoor activities and lifelong ambitions, but a sexual bucket list is an entirely different creature. Essentially, this is a list of sexual activities that you and your partner have never enjoyed together before, and which you intend to give a try—at least once, that is.
Of course, many sexual activities are quite out there, and you may never have considered them previously. That’s the point. A sexual bucket list is there to encourage you to explore new sexual horizons and, if you don’t normally partake of these activities, introduce yourself to things you might not know you love. Sometimes, however, you might be quite surprised by how much you enjoy something and you may even end up incorporating it into your normal sexual routine.
So, not only do you get a whole new area of sex to enjoy, but there will be the inevitable consequence of trying these activities out: it brings you and your partner closer together, and creates a lot of fun memories, making it a win-win situation all round.
Sexual bucket list: 20 new things worth trying in bed
The following list suggests a number of activities that you can explore and experience together. Don’t be scared to add a few of your own!
#1 Oral. If this is somehow something that you’ve never experienced, then it should be the first activity to try. Seriously, how have you managed to get this far without it? Oral sex is amazing, for all parties, and should be a usual part of any sexual relationship. Give it a try and never turn back. [Read: 12 sexy ways to make him go down on you without a push]
#2 Massage. Not the kind that jams your arm behind your back and chops at your neck muscles with the force of a jack hammer, but the slow, sensual, and well-oiled kind. This is a subtle and easily-implemented addition to the list.
#3 The darling buds of May. One of the most neglected parts of the body is the nipple. Although they are often ignored, they can be incredibly sensitive, to men as well as women. Try different levels of intensity to see what works, from light licking and squeezing, right through to biting and clamping. [Read: The top 10 erogenous zones that drive women wild in bed]
#4 Dressing up. Some costumes and uniforms can be a real turn on. Women often love firemen, policemen, and other authority figures, while guys often love French maids outfits, leather dominatrix costumes, or simple silky adornments. Discuss what works for you and give it a go.
#6 Fantasy talk. Discussing fantasies mid-act, and talking about the filthiest things your imagination can muster during sex can really get the juices flowing. You don’t have to act upon them—make this clear to each other beforehand—but just airing them is enough to turn a normal lovemaking session into pure dynamite. [Read: How to fantasize about someone else without feeling guilty about it]
#7 Spanking. Perhaps one to go into gently to begin, but if you feel like upping the stakes, then try a firmer hand. Remember, though, that women have fuller posteriors than guys do, and feel the sting less than men. Also remember that guys have bigger, stronger, and rougher hands. Be as appropriate as the situation demands.
#8 Anal. One to go into very carefully, and only if she is very willing and relaxed enough to accept the guy without any damage being done. In a loving, trusting relationship, it can be very enjoyable, but definitely low down on the list of acceptable bedroom activities—especially as far as women are concerned. [Read: The curious guys’ and girls’ guide to anal sex]
#9 Anal, part II. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. This might seem shocking to many men, but the same pleasures are to be had by both genders, if done properly. Some would argue that anal is even more pleasurable for guys because of the sensitivity of the prostate gland. Try fingers, tongues, vibrators, or even a strap-on if the mood takes you. The same caveat applies as with #8, of course.
#10 Three’s company. If you’re both open-minded enough, try introducing a third person into the bedroom. Just make sure the rules are clear beforehand. For example, whether one of the couple is just to watch, or whether it’s open season for all three. [Read: Threesome tips: 20 things to know before you even consider one]
#11 Group. A full-on swinging session, group sex is pretty much the ultimate sexual sensory experience—just make sure you’re both in full agreement first.
#15 Role play. Role play links in well with the costume thing, and can be great fun. Policewoman and criminal, teacher and schoolgirl… you decide the scenario. Just make sure it leads to some heated in-between-the-sheets action.
#16 BDSM. A whole subject within itself, BDSM covers a large range of peculiarities. Maybe start off with some restraint and light spanking before hitting the whips, chains, and iron maidens! [Read: BDSM tricks and tips for curious first timers]
#17 Mutual masturbation. Takes a lot of discipline to stop yourselves from escalating it into full-blown sex, but combined with some of the above tips, such as fantasy talk or exhibitionism, it can be a real turn-on and definitely worth trying at least once.
#19 Porn. If one of you has always been a bit reticent about porn, get over it! Watching porn together is a great way to get the ball rolling and should be done by everyone at least once.
#20 Sex toys. And there are so many to choose from. Dildos, nipple clamps, love eggs, strap ons, cock rings, butt plugs and paddles—just to name a few. There is something for everyone and for every mood. Must be tried at least once, and probably many times more once you realize just how good they can be!
Now that you have a few suggestions at hand for new things to try in bed, why not give them a go? It might not all turn out to be your particular cup of tea, but you may find that you change your whole perspective on what sex should entail—as well as enjoying a new boost to the relationship you have with your lover.
Liked what you just read? Like us on FacebookTwitterPinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life.
David Cullen is frequently described as erudite, insightful and witty – but only by himself and only after several large glasses of Rioja....