12 Obvious Signs She Wants You to Ask Her Out

signs she wants you to ask her out

Wondering if she’s interested? If a girl likes you, you’d have to be really thickheaded to miss these 12 obvious signs she wants you to ask her out!

Despite the age of feminism and women being more assertive in the dating world than some men, there’s still that thrill that comes when a man asks a woman who likes him out on a date. The problem with this though, is that some men can be painfully oblivious of the hints that women give out!

You’re probably either one of those oblivious guys or you’re the type who wants to be absolutely sure she’s up for a date before you even ask her out. As lawyers say, “Don’t ask a question you don’t know the answer to.”

But the problem is that some women can give off signs that are easy to misinterpret. You may think she’s coming onto you, but she’s just being friendly. You may think she’s aloof, but in reality, she’s just playing hard to get. So what is it with these mixed signals and why isn’t there a code breaker for this yet? [Read: 10 ways to read mixed signals and turn the signs into love]

12 signs the girl you like wants you to ask her out!

Well, the next best thing you can settle for would be the signs that she gives away if she really wants you to ask her out on a date. Still clueless? Keep reading.

#1 She always seems genuinely glad to see you. Women often display two types of smiles. There’s the default smile for when something amusing is happening or for times when she just needs to put a smile on when facing people.

The other type of smile is the one that brightens up her whole face. It’s the smile you see on women who are genuinely excited and happy about something. If it’s the bright smile you’re seeing whenever you run into her or talk to her, then this is a clear sign that you excite her enough to want to go out on a date with you. [Read: 12 clear signs to know if the girl you like likes you back!]

#2 She looks very engrossed when you’re talking. You know a conversation is going downhill when the person you’re talking to just nods, fakes a smile and responds with monosyllabic words. But that’s not the case when you’re talking to her.

She always seems genuinely interested in what you’re saying. She gives you follow up questions, responds proactively and intently hangs on to every word you’re saying, even when you’re talking about something that may be of no interest to her!

#3 You’re suddenly a really funny guy. Women love it when a guy can make them laugh. But even if you’ve never really been the class clown, she always seems so amused with everything you have to say. Your jokes, one-liners and impressions are really hitting her funny bone.

If you can make her guffaw until she gets teary-eyed and no one does this with you, it has more to do with the fact that she’s into you than the fact that you’ve become a standup comedian overnight. [Read: 21 things to know to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly!]

#4 She’s recommending date spots. She’ll often ask you if you’ve ever been to that sushi place in the next block or that hot new café that everyone’s raving about. You’ll start to notice that she’s taken a sudden interest in all these places and she’s sharing that interest with you. Take it as a hint that she would like to go to those places with you one of these days.

#5 She’s mentioning the stuff that you have in common. What a coincidence! She’s also into series like True Detective and Game of Thrones. Her favorite movie is also Fight Club! She’s also into surfing and wakeboarding! For some reason, her interests align with yours perfectly, and she’s not afraid to show it. Take it as a hint to carry on the conversation over a cup of coffee or a couple of pints. [Read: 15 very obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

#6 She talks to you about the most random stuff. You probably have no idea why she’s asking you what wall paint would go with her teal drapes or why she suddenly wants your opinion on Woody Allen’s latest flick. It’s possible that she thinks you’re the expert on this sort of thing or *more plausibly* she feels comfortable talking to you about almost anything under the sun. She might be trying to pique your interest by getting you into a conversation with her, hopefully so that you remember her and get the guts to finally ask her out.

#7 She touches you. Women can oftentimes get away with being very touchy. A fortuitous brush of the pinkie here and a stroke on the forearm there aren’t just mere accidents. Touching during a conversation can signify that she’s placing emphasis on her words and she wants you to pay attention to them. She’s leaving a physical impression on you in order to a) get you to remember her, or b) give you a hint that she’s really into you. [Read: The discreet art of flirting by touch]

#8 She mentions when she’s free. “Oh, I don’t really have anything planned after work. You?” Does this line sound familiar? She’s telling you that she has no other plans *i.e. no dates scheduled*, and that if you were to ask her out then and there, she’s got the free time to take you up on that offer. Women who are trying to avoid dates oftentimes say that they’re too busy. So what does it mean when a woman tells you that she’s not busy at all? [Read: 15 signs she’s just leading you on and not really interested in dating you]

#9 She hangs out with friends that you have in common. You’ve probably met her before, but now she seems like a permanent fixture in your social circle. Of course, at first, you think it’s nothing. But when you start to notice that she’s almost always there when you’re hanging out with your common friends, then it can be a sign that she wants to see more of you.

If she pays special attention to you or almost always sits within arm’s reach of you when you guys are out, then she’s putting herself in your presence so that you’d get to know her even more.

#10 She doesn’t mention other guys in front of you. One of the things that men watch out for when asking a girl out is the jealous boyfriend who might beat him to a pulp. However, when a woman likes you, she may have the tendency to flaunt her singleness in the hope that maybe you’ll be the one to put an end to it.

She might say that she hasn’t found a decent date in a while or that she hasn’t been on a date in ages. Take it as your cue to be the guy who’ll sweep her off her feet and carry her off into dating paradise. [Read: How to confess your love to a girl without ever getting rejected!]

#11 When she introduces you to her friends, they seem oddly familiar with who you are. If you’ve got a keen sense of hearing, you might hear things like, “Oh, so THAT’s the guy!” or “He IS as cute as she said.” When a woman likes a guy, she’d find it difficult to contain her excitement so she’ll have to tell her girlfriends. If your name seems to ring a bell, then that’s a sign that you’ve been the topic of conversation in their group. [Read: 10 ways to flirt and make a girl like you and want you sexually]

#12 She’ll finally ask you out. Sometimes a girl’s got to do what a girl’s got to do. If she musters up the courage to ask you out, give her some credit. She probably likes you enough to potentially face the embarrassment of being rejected. If I were you, that’s a bold move that’s worthy of at least a couple of dates!

Obviously, the girl who wants you to ask her out doesn’t have to do all these things before you get definitive proof that she wants to go on a date with you. Three or four of these should be enough to prove to you that she’s really into you. [Read: 18 foolproof ways to make a girl fall in love with you effortlessly]

And now that you know these 12 signs she wants you to ask her out, you’re no longer the oblivious guy! So it’s high time you plan a date and finally ask her out!

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6 thoughts on “12 Obvious Signs She Wants You to Ask Her Out”

  1. Chris says:

    I’ve been wondering whether or not I should ask this girl out from my hometown. From her just being one of my brother’s friends, we couldn’t keep our eyes off of each other. She would text me constantly, and now her conversations are how much she misses me, how important I am to her, and how amazing I am. She’s actually afraid to joke with me because it might offend me and I’ll stop talking to her. I can’t tell if I should get involved.
    The only thing that’s stopping me from doing anything is I went back to college, about 2.5 hours from where she is. I can’t tell if it’s a bad move to make to be with her, or I’m afraid to do the same thing with my ex (which didn’t turn out so well)

  2. dave says:

    The guy should ask the girl. Because it shows strenght of communication from a man to talk to a woman, something that is more natural for a woman to do. So if a man does it, it means he’s really trying hard, and women like men who work, so that’s cool.

  3. Lisa says:

    @dave-Communication is more of a natural thing for men rather than women because women are expected to be silent and not communicate at all unless they are asked to. There’s still strict gender roles.

    Anyway, if a woman tries to ask what you want to do, don’t be a bitch about it, call her a whore, and put her in her place for it. It shows how sexist you are even though men are still entitled to make decisions.

  4. Trisha says:

    So there’s this guy in my science class and we kind of sit next to each other. Our seats are in rows so we’re not together together but we’re next to each other. We don’t talk much but we still talk, you know, just small talk. What can I do to get him to ask me out? I’m pretty sure he likes me because I see him staring at me a lot but sometimes he’ll show no interest in talking to me. So what will make him ask me out? I was wondering if I could get some help with this so I asked his friends about it and I told them specifically that I don’t wan’t him knowing about me liking him. They told me that they would keep it a secret but guess what? They told him and now he is trying to come on to me. I don’t know how to feel about this because, I kind of hate it, now that he knows I’m into him, he’s suddenly into me? What gives, dude? I really wonder because I don’t want to be used by a guy. I know that guys can be manipulative., especially if he knows that a girl likes him. I can’t really stay away from him because we sit next to each other and I don’t really want to change seats.

  5. Manuel the Mexican says:

    Sometimes us guys dont make anymoves unless were completely sure shes into us even if we like her 100 percent. We pretend to not like you. So we keep it casuel and nuetral.cuz sometimes you females send mixed signals so we dont bother.unless we know you down too.js

  6. John says:

    Here’s one obvious sign that I’m not going to ask you out no matter what you do: You are female, and are therefore dangerous to men. There is NO benefit to a man for being in a relationship with a woman. It is all cost, no reward.

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