How Girls Flirt: 15 Signs She’s More Than Just Being Nice

Girls are notorious for saying one thing and meaning another. So how do you know if she’s really flirting or just being nice? Read these tips to find out.

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Ah, girls. They are such curious, confusing creatures. One moment they’ll melt your heart with kindness, and the next, they’ll leave you slumped on the floor in embarrassment. Just what is it with them? They smile at you and you saw them just bat their eyelashes at you… or were they really? Are they flirting or are they just being nice? Well, wonder no more because here, we give you the answers.

How girls flirt and clear signs she’s flirting with you

We know, it can be hard to decode a woman’s words, much less her body language. But if you can pay attention to her subtle clues, you might find that she’s actually not all that hard to read after all. Check out these 15 common signs that she’s probably flirting with you.

#1 That smile. Smiles can be confusing. A smile can just be a simple form of greeting or acknowledging you, so be careful not to always interpret this as flirting. However, there is that flirty smile—a slow smile that reaches the eyes that gives you a “come hither” look. This kind of smile is an open invitation for you to come over and get to know her. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly]

#2 Hair flip. A hair flip is a highly instinctual move that dates back to the earliest humans, and even animals themselves have their own version of this classic move. Whether women are touching their hair, twirling it or even flipping it, it’s their way of making you notice them.

#3 Lip touch. There’s something about the way women touch their bodies that can really attract stares from the opposite sex. One of the most tempting body parts for men can be the lips, so if a woman looks at you and touches her lips or even bites her puckers, it’s a surefire way to know that she means business. [Read: How to kiss a girl for the first time and not screw up]

#4 Powder room. If you’re out with a girl, even just a friend or colleague, the way she presents herself to you, however superficial it may seem, is one indicator that she’s into you and wants you to notice. She’ll excuse herself to the ladies’ room and come back looking fresher than ever, makeup all retouched, smelling great, and maybe even one less button done to show off her best assets.

#5 Damsel in distress. Another surefire way a woman can show that she wants you to notice her is the good ole damsel in distress move. From asking you for directions to needing help carrying something, this is one way she can try to show you that she wants you to let out your inner knight to save her. This is especially true when she asks you for help, even though she’s obviously very capable of doing it herself. [Read: 8 romantic gestures from the olden days all girls miss]

#6 Touchy feely. When you’re out together with a girl, or even if you’ve just met her in a bar, if she can’t keep her hands off you, then you’ve got her in the crosshairs. Even a small and light touch on your arm while she listens intently to you is a huge sign. She might even graze her hands up your biceps to gauge just how fit you are. And when she likes what she’s touching, well, you know what to do. [Read: Body language attraction – Touchy feely flirting]

#7 Fidget Bridget. When a girl likes you, she’ll be much more self-conscious than normal. She’ll be fidgeting and might even exhibit signs of being uneasy when you’re around. Another fidgety behavior is when she looks at you and then looks away immediately when you catch her gaze.

#8 Close up. A girl who likes you and wants to be noticed will want to be near you. She may be fighting for your attention among other girls, and she’ll try her best to draw closer to you. Even if you’re alone with her, she might lean in closer to you or even whisper in your ear. This is one way of flirting, even if she may not be aware of it herself.

#9 Lively banter. So you guys strike a conversation. She’s all uppity and cheerful—a great sign that she’s happy you two are talking. A woman who likes you and is flirting with you will keep a conversation going as long as it takes, and will be interested in what you have to say. This is also one of those times when she’ll put her best foot forward with witty retorts and lively banter. [Read: How to keep a conversation going with the opposite sex]

#10 Laugh out loud. A woman who likes you and wants you to know it might laugh out loud at your jokes, even the ones that aren’t really that funny. It’s probably that they just enjoy your company and they want to compliment you with attention and laughter. After all, if she weren’t interested, she wouldn’t be wasting her time listening to your jokes and pick-up lines. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]

#11 Digging you. It’s one thing to be nice and just say “hi” to you nonchalantly. It’s another, however, when she says “hi” and then starts a conversation with some questions about what you do or how you are. If she’s flirting with you, she’ll show interest, or even just feign it. She’s stroking your ego while trying to learn just how compatible you are with each other.

#12 Raves and compliments. You’ll know she’s flirting when she compliments you with even the simplest things. From your hairstyle to your tailored suits and down to the socks she just had a quick peek of, she’ll be gushing about every detail she can find. [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]

#13 Qs and As. If she’s asking you a whole host of questions, she’s most likely trying to flirt with you. And not just that, she’s trying to see just how much you have in common. If she asks you if you play sports, for example, she might be trying to show interest in something you like, but she may also be trying to find out if the two of you would likely enjoy going to baseball games together. [Read: 50 relationship questions to test your compatibility]

#14 Trying to impress. Men and women, of course, try to impress the apples of their eyes, whether by grooming, showing off some talents or skills, or just catching their attention. So as for you, you’ll know she’s flirting with you when she’s trying extra hard to look great, show off her assets *physically or not*, brag about her accomplishments, and just catch your attention in a good way.

#15 Futuristic. She’s definitely flirting with you when she’s coming up with plans for the future. It may not be an off-the-bat plan for the two of you, but she’ll subtly suggest the possibility of you two going together. For example, after her Q&A, she might mention this band that she knows you like and how there’s going to be a concert. She might even bluntly ask you what you’re up to over the weekend, or dare you to try something new with her. Anything just to initiate something that is actually a date.

Girls don’t generally make the first move, probably because of how we are conditioned to feel that it’s the guy’s job to initiate flirting. However, girls have this subtle way of letting you know they are into you and want you to come over and get things started.

Catching your attention and letting you know they’re interested are women’s ways of actually manipulating you into making that darn move. So when you spot her doing any of the things mentioned above, then it’s your cue to brush up on your moves and go get the girl.

[Read: 15 more body language cues a girl gives away if she likes you]

There are many ways to know that a girl is flirting with you rather than just plain being nice. By being keen and perceptive enough, you’ll easily spot the difference. The tips above are also great indicators of whether they are likely to want to spark some romance with you or just put you in the friendzone.

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Tiffany Grace Reyes
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