Home  >  Reads for Men  >  How To...

How to Confess your Feelings for a Girl and Win Her Over & Not Rejected

If you want to know how to confess your feelings for a girl, don’t be scared. It’s easy! Just try these tips to warm her up to avoid getting rejected.

how to confess your feelings for a girl

If you really like someone and want to know how to confess your feelings for a girl, you have no reason to feel silly about it. Every guy’s been there at least once in their life! Sometimes, it takes a risky plunge to master an art. And all of us have to start somewhere, don’t we?

Sometimes, you may not realize it yourself that you’re falling for a girl, and almost always, it may be a good friend of yours.

So what do you do then?

Do you confess your love to her and risk severing ties with her because of the awkwardness the confession could create, or should you just clam up and watch her as she’s whisked away by another smooth talker? [Read: How to tell a girl you like her without losing her]

Don’t shock her with your confession

Make her expect it. But don’t say it. Don’t confess your feelings for a girl until she starts making it obvious that she likes you too.

Shocking a girl with an unexpected confession of love is the worst thing you can do because it’ll almost always end with her rejecting you! And that’s even if she did like you and thought you’re a great guy in the first place. [Read: The best ways to make a girl desire you and want you sexually!]

After all, confessing your love to a girl is the easy part. But if you want to avoid any kind of rejection and want to ensure that she’d say yes to you, you need to learn to play your cards right.

Work your way into your heart so she can actually like you and fall for you without the pressure of being arm-twisted into dating you because of your confession.

Don’t rush it and don’t be hasty. Just take it easy, worm your way into her heart one step at a time, and she’ll start falling for you within a few days or weeks. And just when the moment’s right, pour your heart out to her and confess your love for her.

How to confess your feelings for a girl and not get rejected

Friends fall in love with each other all the time. Sometimes, it’s a little crush that’s soon forgotten. And at other times, friends hook up or have a fling that eventually ends. And in the worst-case scenario, the guy hides his feelings for this friend, until the point where she starts dating a new guy.

And then, he barges up to her, and tells her that he really loves her and has always loved her, and wants her to love him!

Well, this may work in the movies, but in real life, if you ever do something like that, you’re definitely setting yourself up for failure. [Read: 18 foolproof ways to make a girl in love with you effortlessly]

She’s never known that you like her or desire her, and now out of the blue, you expect her to drop her newfound love and start dating a guy she’s only seen as a friend for all these months or years?

Really, does that even sound right to you?

If there’s one piece of advice you really need, it’s this. Don’t be brash and reckless and say things in the heat of the moment when you want to confess your love to a girl, and more importantly, don’t wait forever and expect things to just magically fall into place because you love a girl and don’t have the balls to fess up!

Five steps to warm up to the confession

If you want to confess your feelings for a girl, let her know what’s on your mind. But at the same time, don’t tell her anything about it!

Confused? Well, just use these five easy steps, and you’ll see just how amazingly easy it can be to make a girl fall in love with you even before you ask her out.

1. Start talking to her

Is she a friend, or is she someone you walk past occasionally? The first thing you need to do is to find a way to get to know her better.

Get her attention and make a great first impression when she’s around. Arousing a girl’s curiosity and making her think you’re a great guy can make things a lot easier for you. [Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her instantly]

On the other hand, if you’re a shy guy who doesn’t like being the center of attention, you can always get to know her through her friends or through a common acquaintance. [Read: How to ask a girl out when you’re a shy guy]

2. Show off your funny bone

The easiest way to get closer to a girl and make her feel comfortable around you is by using humor. Girls love a guy who’s funny, and it works wonders with women because humor always takes the awkwardness out of any conversation.

And even if there’s nothing much to talk about, making a girl laugh will make you memorable in her eyes. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile, and make her like you in no time]

3. Tease her and flirt with her

Before you confess your love to a girl, make sure you stay away from the friend zone. Most guys who are funny and sweet end up falling into a girl’s friend zone because they just don’t know where to draw the line between being friendly and trying to woo a girl. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make her desire you]

Charm her and compliment her often. Let her see that you notice the little things about her that make her pretty.

If she’s wearing something nice, compliment her about it. If she looks great, tell her she looks really pretty. When you’re trying to woo a girl, always let her know that you find her attractive. [Read: 20 ways to flirt with a girl, build the sexual tension and make her thirst for you]

4. Get close to her

Another thing to try when you want to confess your feelings for a girl, is to try to spend more time with her, especially when no one’s around.

It’ll make her feel comfortable around you, and at the same time, she’d start craving your company and miss you when you aren’t around.

Try to do things together, call her often and ask her for her advice and help. Asking a girl for advice, be it about clothing, your life, or anything else will always make her bond with you and get closer to you. [Read: How to woo a girl and make her fall for you before you ask her out]

5. Text her and get naughty

If you’ve completed the first few steps here, the girl you like would probably really like you too. But just to make sure she likes you a lot in a more-than-just-friends kind of way, warm your way up and start texting her late at night. You could start off by texting late in the evenings and work your way to texts in bed within a few days.

And when you text her at night, look for excuses to get naughty with her. Start off by asking her a few silly questions, and work your way up to the sexier stuff. [Read: A guy’s guide to texting a girl and making her want you!]

Three ways to ask a girl out after warming her up

Once both of you get really friendly and flirty, all you need to do is ask her out. You don’t need to tell her you love her though! Just take it easy, and invite her out for starters. You can always confess your undying love for her after a few dates. [Read: All the reasons why saying ‘I love you’ too soon sucks!]

1. The direct approach

Just say it. The next time you’re sitting next to her, tell her about a great new place that’s opened up or a new movie that’s releasing the next weekend and ask her if she’d like to go out with you.

2. The old-fashioned way – over the phone

If you’re a shy guy, perhaps the phone would be a better medium for a date conversation. After all, phone conversations always make us feel bolder and more confident.

Ask her out to a movie or for lunch, and depending on just how confident you’re feeling, you can even tell her something like “so… it’s a date then!” just before hanging up the phone. [Read: How to ask a girl to hang out casually without making it a big deal]

3. Texts or on social media

It’s easy to warm up over text or over social media. You can use this one when you’re not too sure if she likes you already.

If she accepts, everything’s grand and dandy.

If she declines, you can always pretend like you’re just flirting with her, or being funny, or say that you were just making plans on behalf of the rest of your friends and that you’ll pass on the message that she’s not coming for the movie the next weekend! [Read: 28 secret signs to know if a girl really likes you back even if she’s playing it cool]

How to handle it if you get rejected 

The biggest deterrent for guys when it comes to confessing their love is the fear of rejection. But think of it this way, the worst a girl could say is ‘no.’

By not telling a girl how you feel, you’re only making yourself feel miserable. And what would you do if another guy starts making a move on this girl you like?

You need to remember that the worst thing a girl could say is no. Of course, it’ll hurt. But it’s still way better than clinging on to a mad hope that she may see just how much you love her someday.

By using these steps here, hopefully, you can avoid the risk of rejection because you’re making her fall for you even before you tell her you like her.

But whatever the reason may be, don’t ever let the fear of rejection hold you back from expressing your feelings. You’ll always regret hiding the truth from her. [Read: How to respond to a rejection and do the right thing even if it hurts]

Okay, so what if the worst does happen? You confess your feelings for a girl and then she rejects you. It probably won’t happen, but just in case it does, you can handle the disappointment like this.

1. Don’t force it

You may tell yourself that she doesn’t really know how she feels quite “yet.” Because of this, you might hang on to false hope that she will change her mind. While that might happen, you don’t want to force anything. You don’t want to chase her and try to make her feel the same way you do.

If you keep pursuing her, then you are going to look desperate. And that will definitely not make her change her mind!

You want to have a confident attitude as if her rejection doesn’t really bother you at all. It will make her wonder why you aren’t bothered that she didn’t return your affection. [Read: 15 blunt signs she wants you to leave her alone and has zero interest in you]

2. Accept it

Instead of forcing it, you just need to accept that she doesn’t have feelings for you. That’s all you can really do anyway. There is a famous quote from Buddha that says, “It is your resistance to what is that causes your suffering.” In other words, it is resisting what you don’t like and trying to change it that makes you depressed.

So, if you stop resisting what you can’t change, then you can accept it and move on with your life. You don’t want to accept it, but you really don’t have any choice. You can’t control how she feels, so all you can do is make the best of it.

3. Distract yourself

Stay busy. Go out with your buddies and do things you really enjoy. You can go to watch some games together, go to a party, play basketball or some video games. Pick up a new hobby. Try something from your bucket list. [Read: How to handle rejection without making a fool out of yourself]

The point is to distract yourself by doing a lot of other things so you don’t sit around and wallow in the fact that you got rejected. So, stay as busy as you can so you don’t have time to think about her.

4. It’s her loss

Dealing with rejection is all about your attitude. If you view her rejection as the end of the world, then it will feel like the end of the world to you. It will make you depressed and who wants to feel like that? Instead, you have to reframe the rejection and put it into perspective.

You’re a great guy, right? Of course, you are! And any girl would be lucky to date you. Even if you don’t feel that way right now, it’s true. Force yourself to think that way.

Her rejection is her loss, not yours. It’s not your fault that she has terrible taste in guys, right? Feel sorry for her!

5. There are other fish in the sea

Yes, it’s an old line that everyone uses. But it’s true. After all, they did name a whole dating app after that saying – Plenty of Fish! So, stop focusing on her and putting her on a pedestal. That might be what you want to do, but she is not the only girl out there. [Read: The 17 best dating apps for men to help you meet the one]

Instead, make sure you start looking around and dating other girls. Rejection can be a good thing. Maybe this girl you liked would not have been a good girlfriend in the long run. You might not have been compatible.

And now you have the opportunity to find someone who actually does like you back and appreciates you!

6. You learned a lesson

Everything in life is a learning opportunity. It might not feel like it at the moment, but it is. Everyone has gotten rejected many times. You’re not the only one this has happened to.

But now that you have dealt with it, you know how to do it better in the future if it happens again.

And the best part of learning life lessons like this is that you can help other people through their rejections too. Sharing your experience and how you made it through will help inspire them and make them believe they can do the same.

[Read: Should I ask her out? 30 signs she’s just waiting for you to make a move!]

As long as you follow these steps on how to confess your feelings for a girl, and avoid getting hasty or reckless at any point in time, you could surely make a great impression and make her like you even before you tell her that you like her!

Liked what you just read? Follow us on Instagram Facebook Twitter Pinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life. And while you’re at it, check out MIRL, a cool new social networking app that connects experts and seekers!

Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...