20 Secrets to Make a Girl Fall for You & Fall in Love Before Asking Her Out

Want to know how to make a girl fall for you and fall in love with you too? You’ve come to the right place to find out how to have her swooning in no time!

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So you’re wondering how to make a girl fall for you and fall more in love with you every time you’re around her? Let’s walk through the thoughts in your mind.

As a guy, what do you do when you find yourself falling for a girl? If you’re just like most guys, you’ll pursue her. And then, you’ll woo her. And a few days or a couple of weeks later, you’d tell her that you like her or love her.

For girls, this is definitely flattering, and she may even like you back too. But almost always, this routine never works.

If you want to make the girl of your dreams fall head over heels in love, you need to do more than the tried and tested routine.

You need to tailor your approach to her likes, dislikes, and her character. You also need to be prepared to actually put in the time and effort. [Read: 10 reasons why saying ‘I love you’ too soon sucks!]

Why your assumptions are wrong

Most guys wrongly assume that girls love getting the attention of guys *just for fun*. They assume a girl will stare back, flirt, get closer, and in one swift move, just back away all of a sudden and pretend like nothing ever happened.

Have you ever experienced this? You probably have because most guys base their assumptions on this exact experience.

Have you ever got really close to a girl, only to be thrown to the floor a few weeks later because she either starts ignoring you or tells you she never did really *see you as anything more than a friend*? [Read: The secrets to avoid the friend zone with a girl you like]

You may have felt led on until she slammed the door on you, and now, you think this is a girl thing where they just use guys and walk all over them.

But really, if you’ve experienced it, you’re reading your experience all wrong!

What you experienced wasn’t a girl thing. It’s a human thing! All of us as humans behave the same way. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys lose the girl and finish last all the time!]

When we get something too easily without really working for it, we never appreciate it. If we don’t desire something and get it all of a sudden, we never really care too much for it. And that holds good for material things, and for matters of the heart too.

What you need to do is put in the work. Then, you’ll appreciate it all so much more and not take it for granted.

The art of taking things slow while pursuing a girl

When it comes to pursuing a girl, always take things slow. Pursue her, but at the same time, make her work for your affection too.

It’s great to follow your instincts in life. Yet, when it comes to falling in love, your inexperienced instincts will always lead you straight into the middle of the firing zone.

When you fall in love with a girl, you just want to know what’s on her mind and whether she likes you back too. But unless you make her want you and desire you first, she can’t really value you or even realize how great a guy you are.

Take your time, play it safe and easy, and help her see how awesome you are. Before you know it, when you finally ask her out, she’ll have the answer that you’re waiting to hear. [Read: How to make a girl like you without even asking her out!]

What girls want in a great guy

Just like you want to date a great girl, the girl you like wants to date a great guy too! So if you want to woo a girl who’s all that, you need to turn yourself into a guy who’s awed by all other guys and desired by every girl.

First impressions play a big part in making a girl like you instantly. But even if you weren’t able to impress her at first sight, fret not, because there are always second chances – although you may have to work just a little bit harder! [Read: 20 things girls look for in a great guy to fall for him]

When you start to fall for a girl, and you still haven’t told her that you love her, there are two scenarios you could experience. She may like you back, or well, she may not like you back just yet.

But on the other hand, if she doesn’t even know you exist or if both of you aren’t friendly yet, make sure you get her to notice you first. [Read: The most flattering ways to get a girl to notice you and think you’re a great guy!]

Scenario 1 – She likes you too

If you’re talking to her already, and you’re getting all the great vibes from her, you’re well on your way to impressing her. Just remember to avoid being hasty.

Flirt with her and have a good time with her, but use the tips we’re going to talk about to make her work for your attention. Then, she will fall for you even before you ask her out. [Read: 28 easy signs to spot and find out if a girl likes you a lot already!]

Scenario 2 – She doesn’t like you – YET

So how can you tell if a girl doesn’t like you or doesn’t see you as a dating potential yet? It’s simple really. Notice how she behaves around you.

Does she laugh or smile more often around you than she does with other guys?  Ask yourself whether she texts or calls for no reason? Or, does she bump into you at the cafeteria and talks to you for a while even if her friends are waiting for her?

If she isn’t doing any of this already and she’s not really a shy girl, she probably hasn’t fallen for you yet. Take it slow, and use these tips on how to win a girl’s heart effortlessly. [Read: How to woo a girl who doesn’t like you already and win her over in no time!]

20 foolproof ways to make a girl fall in love with you

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you, play it cool. And as much as you want to go all out with your guns blazing and proclaim your love for her because that’s what your heart tells you to do, avoid it!

Play the game with your mind instead. Take calculated risks with each new step, especially if the girl you love doesn’t like you just yet.

Use these 20 ways on how to make a girl fall in love with you, and as long as avoid a reckless streak, you should be well on your way to winning her heart. [Read: 25 things about a guy that are a huge turn on for girls!]

1. Don’t rush things

Take your time and play it cool. Never ever make your intentions too clear to the girl you like, and don’t be overeager to pour out your feelings.

2. Give her just the right amount of attention

Don’t drop your commitments and give her all your attention all the time. That’s the easiest way to make a girl get bored of you really soon.

An older woman will appreciate a man who’s dropping his priorities to make time for her, but when a girl is younger, she’ll assume you’re a boring guy with all the time in the world to spare. That’s not going to give her the best impression of you.

Remember to stick to your regular routine and see your friends too. Anyway, it’s important not to lose yourself when you fall in love. [Read: How to make a girl smile, laugh and like you instantly]

3. Love yourself first and foremost

This is very important if you want to make a girl fall for you or fall in love with you. Do you truly love yourself? If you don’t think you’re awesome, how can you convince the world and all the beautiful girls in it that you’re an awesome guy?

Fall in love with yourself and respect yourself. Then, the world will see you the same way too! [Read: How to love yourself and become a much better guy!]

4. Let her see that you have a life

Keep yourself busy and involve yourself in different activities. Go on out there and enjoy the world. It could be by trekking over the weekend, joining a few fun clubs, or even doing something new with your friends.

The more interesting you and your conversations are, the more awed by you she’ll be. And, as we said before, it’s vital that you keep your own independence and hobbies outside of any relationship you’re in too. [Read: How to talk to a girl and look really smooth doing it]

5. Always look good

Looks aren’t every girl’s biggest priority, but it’ll definitely be a perk if you can look fit and healthy. Work out, look healthy, dress well, and smell great.

You’ll make a much better first impression with every girl you meet. Of course, you should do this for yourself first and foremost, but it never hurts when trying to win a girl over!

6. Believe in yourself

It’s not easy to believe in yourself when you think you’re a nobody. But just because you think you’re failing with women or unable to impress a girl, that’s no reason to call yourself a failure.

Start believing in yourself and your capabilities, and enjoy the world. If it doesn’t work out one time, just put it down to experience and try again. You can always learn something from every disappointment. That means you can do better next time.

7. Don’t show your insecurities or your jealous streak

Never reveal your jealous streak to the girl you like, if you intend to make the girl fall in love with you. This is especially if she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys who are trying to woo her at the same time.

If she sees you as an insecure and jealous guy, she’ll just think you’re a creepy guy. A little bit of jealousy is cute, but only after she starts showing signs of liking you back.

Similarly, if you start telling her the things you’re insecure about, she’s going to start looking for them. Don’t point things out you don’t want her to see! [Read: How to win a girl’s heart even if there’s another guy that likes her]

8. Avoid becoming clingy

Always give a girl her space, especially when you’re trying to woo her. Don’t keep bumping into her intentionally, avoid constantly staring at her each time she’s talking to some other guy.

Also, stop calling her every night or texting her every few hours. Give her some space and give her the chance to miss you. Then she’ll realize how bored she is without having you around. [Confession: I’m a guy who’s too clingy and needy!]

9. Be the dependable guy

Help her when she needs something. Be the guy she can depend on to get her out of trouble. Girls love it when a guy they’re with has a protective streak.

If she feels safe around you, or believes you’re a guy who can handle any tough situation, you’re already in her good books.

10. Flirt in a friendly yet naughty way

She probably won’t flirt if there are other guys around, so try to get some alone time with her if possible. If you want to take it slow because you’re uncertain about her feelings for you, start by flirting as a friend. [Read: How to flirt with a girl and still behave just like a friend]

Then, once you’re past the friendly flirting, take it to the next level. The best way to flirt with a girl and make her shed her inhibitions is by flirting while texting or while talking over the phone. [Read: How to get a girl to start flirting with you while texting her]

If you want to be a little naughty, call her over the phone late in the evening, or when she’s in bed. Lower your tone and speak softly, and before you know it, both of you will be flirting in a way she doesn’t flirt with anyone else! [Read: 20 naughty text messages to start a sexy conversation]

11. Use the power of touch

The power of touch is something most guys overlook while trying to make a girl fall in love with them. While talking to her, look for an excuse to touch her now and then.

You could place your hand on her lower back while crossing the street, or touch her earlobe while admiring her earring. You could even linger in a hug for just a moment longer than necessary while saying goodbye.

However, do look for body language signs that she is comfortable with this. If you get the vibe that she’s not, back away a little and give her the space she obviously needs. [Read: The sneaky ways to touch a girl casually and make her horny!]

12. Don’t tell her you love her or like her

This is a big mistake, at least if you say it before she shows signs of liking you or falling for you. Always leave her wondering what’s on your mind even if you’re flirting with her. The curiosity will make her want you already.

Hang out with her alone a few times before you even think of telling her that you like her. Remember, you need to make her work for you and if you give it all up and tell her you’re crazy about her, she doesn’t have to put any effort in. [Read: How to casually ask a girl to hang out without making it a big deal]

13. Give her a thoughtful gift

But, make sure the gift is something small or insignificant that doesn’t even feel like a gift. You could give her a pen, a small ornament, a keyring, or a little something you think she’ll like.

Every time she sees it, it will remind her of you. And yet, because you haven’t told her you like her already, it’ll make her wonder what your intentions are. That’ll get her curious and interested and make her fall for you, slowly and steadily even before she realizes it herself! [Read: 50 really sweet and cute things to say to a girl]

14. Don’t give her all the control

Meet her often, text her often and talk to her over the phone often. But every now and then, back off for a day or two and wait for her to call you or ask you out to hang out.

By making her take the effort now and then, you’ll be forcing her to woo you and try to get your attention! That will only make a girl fall harder for you.

15. Make her miss you

This is a short phase you need to make her go through for a few days so she can realize just how much she likes you once you’re past the other steps. After both of you have become really close to each other, make her miss you now and then.

When you’re having an interesting conversation with her, tell her you have to go and hang up just when the conversation starts to get interesting. It’s the easiest way to help her realize how much she needs you in her life! [Read: The best ways to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]

16. Don’t always be available

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you, be there for her. But if you feel like she’s using you at any point, back off and tell her you’re busy.

If you avoid doing this, you’ll end up becoming her doormat and her man Friday. Remember, a girl will never want to seriously date a guy who behaves like her slave. This is the line that separates a guy deep in the friend zone and a guy she’d want to “tame” and date.

17. But, don’t be an asshole

Being unavailable now and then while wooing a girl is a great way to let her see that you’re not always available at her beck and call. But that doesn’t mean you have to behave like a total ass.

Be charming and courteous around her, and never treat her badly or disrespectfully. [Read: The art of chivalry while wooing a girl]

18. Treat her like a girlfriend

Even before you ask her out or tell the girl that you love her, start behaving like a boyfriend. Be protective of her when you’re around, take care of her needs, plan dates together and try to catch up with each other often.

And even before she realizes it, both of you will be dating. She will be madly in love with you already!  [Read: The 10 important traits that make a guy a great boyfriend]

19. Don’t play games

A girl is going to quickly see through your game playing. You might think that some of the tips we’ve given you resort to game playing, but they’re not. They’re self-preservation tips that help you to remember your worth.

Of course, by doing that, she also sees it too. Avoid lying, making her jealous, playing too hard to get, or being passive-aggressive or manipulative. It’s not cool and it won’t work if you want to make a girl fall in love with you.

20. Let other people tell her how great you are

Now, she should see it for herself, but it doesn’t hurt to have a third party tell her how fantastic you are. If you have mutual friends, this is easy. Just get them to drop in a good word or two.

If you don’t have any mutual friends, you’re going to have to be creative, but it’s always possible to find a way! [Read: How to get a girl to like you again after she loses interest in you]

Negative point alert… How can you tell if it’s just not happening?

There’s something we do need to address before we let you get on with following our advice. It’s vital not to push things too much. If someone doesn’t love you, they don’t love you.

There’s nothing you can do to force them into it. And anyway, don’t you want her to realize how amazing you are and fall for you naturally, without being pushed into it?

If you’ve tried all of the suggestions above and you’re still not getting a flirty or romantic vibe from her, back away. Seriously.

It may hurt, and you might not want to, but it’s important. Hopefully, she’ll suddenly realize that she has a huge void in her life and start calling you. Sometimes you have to move away from someone to make them understand how much you mean to them.

However, if you don’t get any response, or you just don’t feel she’s as into it as she should be, move on. You deserve someone who sees you as the wonderful person you are. And, you will find them. You just need to be patient and understand that sometimes, it just doesn’t work out.

[Read: Really sweet ways to tell a girl that you love her for the first time]

Now you know how to make a girl fall for you and fall in love with you. All you need to do is play it safe and smooth and avoid making your intentions clear right at the beginning.

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Vinod Srinivas Serai
Vin Serai
Vin Serai is the founder of LovePanky.com, and has delved deep into the working of love and relationships for almost two decades. Having dipped his feet in almo...