15 Signs She’s Flirting with You Even if She Doesn’t Make It Obvious

signs she's flirting with you

Is she smiling or giving you the eye, but you’re not sure what she wants? If that’s the case, it’s time you found out the signs she’s flirting with you.

The movie What Women Want wasn’t made without inspiration. So many men are tongue-tied trying to figure out if the girl of their dreams likes them or not. Let alone pick up on the signs she’s flirting with you.

Well, usually when this happens, guys are too busy freaking out and overthinking. And you’re missing all the small details which tell you everything. Stop it! If you really want to find out, you’re going to have to relax and start paying attention to the nonverbal cues. [Read: 10 clearly noticeable signs of body language attraction]

The signs she’s flirting with you

Women aren’t as vocal as men when it comes to expressing their attraction for someone. Rather, they’re much subtler and make small gestures and hints to show the guy that they’re into him.

You may be talking to a girl and she’ll be giving you all the signs she’s flirting with you. And you’re focusing on the wrong things. Instead, focus on the signs that matter, the signs that tell you what’s really going on.

So, it’s time you learned the signs she’s flirting with you. That way, you’ll see what’s going on with the girl you’re talking to. Because she’s giving you the hints, you just need to see them.

#1 She’s all about the smiles. Now, you and I both know that people don’t give genuine smiles for no reason. It’s not that she has to smile, she wants to smile. If her smile is genuine and you see it from her mouth to her eyes, she’s physically showing you that she’s happy to be around you. [Read: Strongest signs of mutual attraction between a guy and a girl]

#2 She’s excited when she’s around you. If she’s usually dodging you and avoiding being near you, take the hint that she’s not into you. But if she’s relaxed and excited when she’s spending time with you, well, she may be turned on. See, you’re not bringing out her anxiety, rather, you’re bringing out her relaxed side.[Read: Is she actually hiding her feelings for you?]

#3 She doesn’t hesitate to touch you. Now, I’ve said this hundreds of times, but I’ll say it again, because it’s important. Unless it’s accidental, if a girl touches you, she’s attracted to you. Both men and women refrain from touching people that they’re not into. If she’s making excuses to touch you, this is a sign she’s flirting with you.

#4 She changed her look suddenly. Ever since you started talking, you’ve noticed a change in the way she looks. She’s been wearing more stylish clothes, doing her hair and makeup, she’s putting more effort into her looks. Now, she wouldn’t do this unless she’s trying to attract someone’s eye.

#5 You feel sexual energy. If you want to know if someone is flirting with you, just stop for a moment. Listen to your body. What do you feel? When two people share sexual chemistry, they’ll feel it. It’s like an electrical current going up your spine and stomach. Listen to your body because it’ll be able to give you clues of what’s going on. [Read: What does sexual attraction feel like – How to know exactly]

#6 She sits close to you. Again, if I had sat next to a guy that I didn’t like, well, I would have made sure there was a comfortable distance between us. I don’t want to him to sit any closer to me because I’m not into him. But if I’m into a guy, I’ll squeeze my ass right next to his and make sure at least one of our body parts is lightly touching each other.

#7 She flirts with her body. When she’s around you, she’s gently caressing her neck, playing with her hair, leaning in towards you. Boy, I know you may be new at this, but this girl is giving you all the signs right there. Nonverbal communication is crucial when figuring out if someone likes you. So, if she’s physically acting like she’s flirting with you, she is. [Read: How girls flirt – 15 signs she’s being way more than just nice]

#8 It’s about eye contact. Eyes are a major factor when it comes to flirting. In fact, you can flirt with a girl only by using your eyes. If she’s looking at you and smiling or giving you glances every now and then, it looks like she may be interested in you. Now, if she’s dodging your eye contact, then it looks like she doesn’t want to flirt with you. 

#9 She’s a big talker. Now, she could just be a big talker, not all girls are quiet and mousy. But if she’s talking more than usual, it’s probably because she’s nervous around you. If the conversation is effortless and there’s a good flow, then she’s into you. With that being said, if you’re the one doing all the talking, well, she may not be that into you.

#10 She’s nervous around you. When you’re around her, she’s dropping things, stuttering when she speaks and acts like a complete klutz. Hey, it happens to the best of us. But this just shows you that you’ve rattled her. She’s out of her comfort zone when you’re around and that’s because she’s into you. [Read: 12 obvious signs she really wants you to ask her out]

#11 She mentions the future. Now, this isn’t marriage I’m talking about, but when you’re talking to her, she mentions things that you could do together in the future. Going to see a movie, taking a hike, whatever it is, she’s telling you that you’ll be the guy she’s going to do these things with. She sees you as more than just a friend.

#12 She’s fidgeting. She can’t seem to sit still or talk without moving her hands, uncrossing and recrossing her legs, playing with her hair. She’s all over the place because she doesn’t know what to do. She moves so much, she could be on a dance floor right now. [Read: Female body language – 15 things girls do and what they mean]

#13 You’re flirting with her. You wouldn’t be able to flirt with her unless she’s flirting back. Now, if you’re trying to flirt with her but she gives you nothing, it’s time to move on. But if you’re feel able to flirt with her, she’s allowing it to happen.

#14 It’s in her hands. When talking to a girl, watch her hands. I know this is a weird thing to say, but there’s a reason. Her hands can tell you a lot about what she’s feeling. She may be gesticulating excessively or fiddling with her fingers. Both are signs that she’s into you. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she actually likes you]

#15 She asks you a lot of questions. She wants to know every small thing about you. So, she’s been asking you a lot of questions. You probably don’t even notice her asking you questions, but this is something to pay attention to. If she’s looking to get to know you on a more personal level, it’s a sign that she’s into you and wants to see what you’re all about.

[Read: How to seduce women – 20 moves to melt any girl and make her want more]

Men always want to know what women really want. Usually, women show the signs she’s flirting with you. The only thing you need to do is pay attention to the little details.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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