A first date is all about making a perfect impression.
And for the girl you like, the first date is an easy way to find out if you’re a charming and charismatic guy, or just another regular guy.
You may have taken your time to woo this girl, and you may have impressed her enough into liking you for the guy you are.
But all of that counts to nothing if you can’t be a real man and impress the girl on your first real date together.
After all, a first date is the real test of a guy as a dating potential.
[Read: 18 subtle signs to find out if the girl likes you on your first date]
Two first date tips that really matter
First impressions matter a lot in real life.
And just like that, a first date plays a big part in charming a girl and making a good impression if you’re trying to woo her.
[Read: 15 things every girl looks for in a guy to fall for him]
For some guys, being a great date comes naturally. But even if you’re not a natural when it comes to charming women, fret not.
There are just a couple of key rules behind making a great first impression on a first date.
#1 Relax. Firstly, learn to relax when you’re on the date. Your date wants to impress you just as much as you want to impress her.
So instead of behaving like you’re going into a losing battle, lose your nervousness and try to have a nice time instead.
#2 Converse. And secondly, be a good conversationalist. No one likes a guy who doesn’t converse, not even your own guy friends.
If you’re not a great conversationalist, keep a few pointers in mind to talk about during the date. As soon as you feel more comfortable during the date, you’d be able to relax and communicate better with each other. [Read: How to look around and pick interesting things to talk about on a date]
16 first date tips for guys to charm a girl effortlessly
Dates are a game of chance. Sometimes, they work and sometimes they don’t. But if you want to make sure your first date is perfect, here are 16 important first date tips for guys that can make all the difference between a dreamy first date and a lost cause.
#1 Pick the right place. Usually, it’s the guy who picks the location. So make sure you pick a place that feel romantic. There should be people around, but yet, it should feel isolated and private. If it’s an afternoon date, a setting with greenery creates a perfect touch of romance. And if it’s an evening date, nothing beats warm lights like candles to create a perfect setting. [Read: 15 tips to keep in mind to plan the perfect first date and impress her]
#2 Don’t be late. Punctuality matters a lot on a first date, especially when you’re the guy. If you aren’t picking her up, get to the place on time so you can arrive before her. She’d feel more relaxed and comfortable when she walks in, knowing that you’re already at the date waiting for her.
#3 Plan something nice, and let her know most of your plans. Don’t leave your date in the dark while planning your evening with her. Tell her about what you have in mind, so she can be prepared for the occasion.
A perfect way to plan a good date is to make the evening feel more eventful by going to more than just one place. To know more about this idea, read Top 50 first date ideas and combinations to wow the girl on your first date!
#4 Show off your protective streak. An important first date tip that most guys forget is this one. You don’t need to wait for several dates until both of you are dating exclusively to make the girl feel like a princess. Take care of her and make her feel like she can depend on you for anything when you’re around. [Read: 12 Prince Charming traits that make girls swoon!]
#5 Dress up for the date. A girl takes more than an hour to dress up and look good on the date, just to impress you and look good for you. Don’t you think you need to reciprocate that favor for her? Dressing up in something clean and crisp is the least you can do to make the girl feel respected on the date. And she’ll definitely be impressed to see that you’ve made the effort to look nice for her too.
#6 Seduce her with your fragrance. Smelling great on a first date definitely has a lot of perks. Each time you go close to her to say something, she’d get a hint of your manly fragrance. And as long as it smells great on you, it’ll surely make a good impression on her too. [Read: A foolproof guide to making out with a girl on your very first date]
#7 Hygiene. If you want to charm the girl on your date, play close attention to your hygiene, and that includes your facial hair, nails and your breath. Bad breath is a complete no-no, and can ruin your date before you even realize it. Pop in a breath mint or a gum before you walk into the date.
#8 Bragging. Many guys assume that bragging about their job or their refined taste in cars or scotch would impress a girl in no time. But contrary to popular belief, bragging is one of the biggest turn offs for women. [Read: The 10 biggest dating turn offs for girls]
If you really want to put yourself out there and let her know how awesome you are, talk about yourself without coming across as an arrogant braggart. Listen to her point of view, ask her questions about her own achievements and her line of work, and when the moment comes for you to talk about your achievements, elaborate on something only if she asks you to tell her more about it. By doing this, not only will you come off as interesting, you’d appear classier too.
#9 Don’t get drunk. Sometimes, it’s easy to get carried away and have one drink too many without even realizing it. This is especially likely if you’re nervous or overexcited to be with such a wonderful girl. If you do end up tipsy and realize it, you’d end up panicking or getting distracted because you’d be too focused on trying to pretend like you aren’t drunk. Safer bet? Just don’t have more than a couple of drinks, especially if you’re having them on the rocks. [Read: 20 great ways to perfect your first date conversation and impress her!]
#10 Don’t shove your point of view down her throat. You may have decided on a few things to do that night, or you may want your date to try a particular dish at the restaurant. Make a suggestion about it to your date, and you’ll seem like a great guy. But if you try to force her to do something or try something, then that’s just plain annoying.
If your date ever feels like you’re forcing your point of view or trying to armtwist her into doing something, she’d definitely feel uncomfortable about it which could ruin your chances of having a second date with her. [Read: 14 signs you’re ruining your first date and don’t even know it!]
#11 Get the hint. You may be enjoying yourself on the date, but keep an eye on your date’s body language too. Does she seem happy to be with you? When you talk about something, does she seem genuinely interested in it? If your date starts looking around, seems distracted, or doesn’t ask you to elaborate about something you’re saying, get the hint and talk about something else.
Your date doesn’t necessarily have to like everything you say. And as cool and badass as you think your conversations about robotics or fast cars may be, chances are, your date doesn’t care about them. If you want your date to go well, keep an eye on the signs and take a hint when she gives you one!
Of course, you don’t always have to talk only about what she likes. To have the perfect date, try to find things in common so both of you can have a nice time talking about mutual interests. [Read: How to make a girl laugh and like you instantly on a first date]
#12 Your confidence matters. Confidence, really, is one of the most positive traits in a man. Of all the first date tips that matter, if you can’t wield confidence through your attitude and posture, you’re already fighting a losing battle. Sit up straight, speak with a firm voice, and exude confidence in everything you do. What’s a simple way to build confidence? Learn to love and respect yourself, and confidence will follow. [Read: How to love yourself and be more confident]
#13 Watch what you talk. Don’t get carried away and get caught with your foot in your mouth. It’s always better to be safe than sorry on a first date. Be cautious and avoid talking about things that may make her feel uncomfortable. Avoid talking about parents, exes, expectations from potential partners, and anything else that could make the girl cringe or feel awkward.
So how do you define an awkward question? Ask yourself what kind of questions you’d feel uncomfortable being asked when you are on a date. And make sure you avoid asking those very questions. [Read: 40 perfect first date questions that’ll make her open up faster to you]
#14 Treat her like a lady. Displaying chivalry is one of the easiest ways to waltz your way into a woman’s heart. Every girl likes to be pampered and taken care of, at least when she’s on a date with a guy who’s trying to impress her. [Read: How to be chivalrous around the girl on a date]
#15 Charm her and compliment her. Flattery always works wonders on a date. Now you don’t always need to lie to impress a girl. Instead, talk about the things you like about her. If there’s something about your date that fascinates you, compliment her about it.
And a tip to remember here, make sure you compliment your date’s attire as soon as you see her. She’s spent a pretty long time deciding on the perfect dress for the occasion, and she would feel rather let down if you have nothing good to say about it! [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]
#16 The goodbye kiss. This is something all guys look forward to the most during a date, the goodbye or the goodnight kiss. But don’t force a kiss when it’s not available for you. Sometimes, a girl may not be ready to kiss you goodbye and at other times, she may be too awkward to initiate it.
So how do you go about it? Well, just kiss her cheek softly and linger for about a second, and step back slowly. If her eyes are still closed or she’s still really close to your face even after you step back, it’s a good sign that she wants you to kiss her on her lips. [Read: 10 flirty tips to arouse a girl and make her want to kiss you on the date]
On the other hand, if she backs away quickly or breaks into a conversation, it’s a definite sign that she’s not ready for that kiss just yet. But don’t lose heart, as long as you’ve used these first date tips, there’s a very good chance that a second date is just around the corner. And the kiss you’re waiting for, well, it won’t be too far away!
[Read: 12 ideas to plan a second date she’ll love!]
If you think about it, these are little details that aren’t too hard to follow. And they’re really easy to use on a date. So the next time you’re planning a date, keep these 16 first date tips for guys in mind. They definitely won’t let you down!
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