Let’s face it – not all guys are born with the swag that makes girls swoon. It’s no biggie… you can learn. So, here’s how to get girls to like you.
Contrary to what you might think, it’s not that difficult to learn how to get girls to like you. You may think that girls are mysterious, complex creatures, but they’re human just like you. And most of us have similar needs.
So don’t worry, there are things you can do to have girls start swooning over you. And none of them are really that difficult. So let’s take a look at how to get girls to like you.
How to get girls to like you – 11 tips that make a difference
You don’t have to watch movies and study the moves that the leading men make in order to know how to get girls interested in you. Actually, it’s very simple. Here are some tips for how to get girls to like you.
#1 Be nice. This one is SO easy! It’s not difficult to be polite, say “please” and “thank you,” help people, and be kind in general. I know what you’re thinking… “But nice guys finish last!” Actually, that’s a bunch of bull. Sure, some do. But a lot of bad boys finish last too. At the end of the day, everyone likes to be treated with respect. And girls are no exception.
So, you need to be nice and respectful to girls, but you should also have your own life. Don’t make her the center of your universe. That’s creepy for most girls.
#2 Be genuine. Don’t be someone you’re not! Let me repeat that… don’t be someone you’re not! Don’t go dressing in clothes you normally wouldn’t be caught dead in, or wear cologne you can’t stand, or talk in a way that sounds way too cool.
If you aren’t genuine, then girls won’t get to know the real you. And you can’t fake it forever! Eventually, you will go back to who you really are. And what then? She will be confused because you “changed.” So have her fall for YOU… who you really are. Not who you are pretending to be. [Read: 12 tips to transform you from a nice guy to a real man]
#3 Take care of yourself. Some guys think it’s acceptable to be unshowered, unkempt, and just overall icky-looking. It’s like they think that because they’re guys, they have a free pass to be stinky and scraggly and not put much effort into what they look like.
Girls don’t like that. Now, you don’t have to go around wearing a 3-piece suit everyday. But you do need to look like you put some sort of effort into how you look. If you look like you sit around eating Big Macs, playing video games, and not showering all day, well, girls won’t like that. So take care of yourself, please. [Read: 15 things women look for in a man before falling for him]
#4 Get to know her. There is nothing worse than when a girl has to hold up her end of the conversation and the guy never asks anything about her. If she’s always saying, “So, where did you go to school?” and “Tell me about your job!” or “Are you close to your family?” and you’re only doing the answering *and not asking,* well, she’s going to get sick of that.
You need to ask about HER! Ask her questions about her life. What are her dreams? What’s her favorite movie? What was she like as a kid? Girls like it when guys are interested enough to ask questions and attempt to get to know her. If you don’t, they will get sick of being the one asking all the questions and probably go find someone else who is interested in getting to know her. [Read: How to talk to girls and leave them swooning]
#5 Have a sense of humor. Girls are suckers for guys who have a sense of humor. Now, that doesn’t mean that you have to be one step away from a Saturday Night Live cast member, but you can’t always be serious.
You don’t even have to crack jokes or do silly things. Having a sense of humor and being funny can be two different things. You need to be able to laugh and not take yourself *or life* too seriously. In other words, be fun, keep it light, and that will make her want to spend more time with you. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly]
#6 Pay attention to details. When she talks, make sure you take mental notes. She might say something like, “Gosh, I really want to see that new Brad Pitt movie when it comes out next month.” Well, take note of that. And when the movie comes out, tell her that you’re going to take her. But remind her that you remember she wants to see it.
She’ll be shocked! Wow! A guy who actually LISTENS to me and remembers things I say and what I like! Sadly, that’s a rarity. So if you can be “that guy,” you will get huge brownie points. [Read: How to think like a woman and get the girl]
#7 Compliment her. Girls love compliments. But they can’t be too cheesy or seem disingenuous. Don’t say something like, “Your eyes are beautiful like the ocean,” or “Hello pretty lady.” Those are just a bit gag-worthy. They’re lame, and anyone can say things like that.
You need to give her real compliments. For example, if you’re having an interesting conversation, say, “Wow, you’re really smart! I don’t know a whole lot of people who are as intelligent as you.” Or, “I just love being around you because you are so happy! I love the way you make me feel.”
#8 Help her and treat her with respect. Everyone needs help with something. Whether it’s moving or cooking a Thanksgiving turkey, people love when others help them. So be that guy. Be that guy that she could call in the middle of the night if her car breaks down. It’s a relief for a girl to know that there’s a guy who has her back.
This kind of behavior shows that you respect her. But all of your actions should show respect to her, really. Respect her time, respect her space, respect her body. All of it. Just treat her like a gentleman.
#9 Be a good conversationalist. Girls hate it when you can’t hold a conversation. I once went on a date where all the guy talked about was stuff like the sewer system in his neighborhood. I’m not even kidding. Really? I mean, why in the world would I care about that? It’s BORING. And he never got a second date.
Don’t just talk about yourself – that is selfish and narcissistic and shows no empathy. But also don’t JUST ask about her – that feels like a job interview. Ask her if she believes in aliens, or if she believes that 9/11 was an inside job. Start a really interesting conversation… that’s a really important tip for how to get girls to like you. [Read: How to win a girl’s heart and impress her effortlessly]
#10 Be reliable and consistent. If you say you’re going to do something… then DO it! Be a man of your word. There are way too many flaky guys *and girls* in the world. Be one who stands out among the crowd by being reliable and consistent.
And no, it’s not boring. Contrary to what you might think, not all girls like mystery. A lot of them are impressed when they can count on you. It’s refreshing because it’s rare. As sad as that is, it’s true.
#11 Be chivalrous. Some girls who have a feminist side might think this is a bad tip for how to get girls to like you. But being chivalrous doesn’t mean that you think girls are less than you. It means you highly respect them and so you treat them as such.
Besides, chivalry is basically just being polite. Opening doors, helping her put on her coat… simple things like that. Because most guys don’t do that, you will stand out from the crowd, and she’ll be impressed.
See? It’s not that difficult to learn how to get girls to like you. All you have to do is be aware of your behavior, and adjust it as you go. When you do that, the girls will fall head-over-heels for you.
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Dr. Carol Morgan
Dr. Carol Morgan has a Ph.D. in communication and is a professor at Wright State University where she loves corrupting young minds. As a relationship and succes...