How to Tease a Girl Over Text: Get Her to Flirt Back with You

how to tease a girl over text

Teasing a girl with flirty texts can be so much fun – but you want to get it right. Here is how to tease a girl over text and some ideas to send her.

Getting a text from someone you like is a great feeling, and if you know a girl is into you, then sending her fun and flirty text messages is a great way to let her know you feel the same way too. Knowing how to tease a girl over text keeps things light and casual, and yet lets her know you are interested.

Humor constantly ranks as one of the top things that girls look for in a guy, so if you can write some funny teasing text messages you are sure to win her over. Of course, texting a girl can still be nerve-racking, and while you may want to joke and flirt with her, there is a fine line when it comes to teasing. If you go too far or judge the mood wrong, then it could be game over before it’s even really begun.

How to tease a girl over text – What you need to know

But never fear! We are here to help you! Here are some great ideas for how to tease a girl over text and make sure you get exactly the response you were hoping for.

#1 Being playful. Poking fun at the girl you like needs to be playful, light-hearted, and good-natured. If you do it right, it will tell her that you have a good sense of humor but also keep her on her toes. No girl wants a guy who fawns all over them from the word go.

Gently teasing her will let her know she’ll have to work a bit harder for you, and that you are not one of those guys who is way too intense and cheesy. If she responds well, it also shows you that she’s a fun girl who can take a joke and enjoy a bit of playful chat. It also means she’s confident, not insecure, and has a sense of humor too – perfect! [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

#2 Calling her out. Calling her out on those odd little things that she does, or habits that she has, is a good way to start. Teasing her for the geeky way that she lines up her stationary or about the fact that she is always late. Choose little things that you know she finds kind of funny about herself too.

#3 Be cautious. When learning how to tease a girl over text, make sure you steer clear of anything that’s a sensitive subject. If you know she’s a little insecure about her weight, it’s best not to start teasing her about that cute little wobbly butt of hers.

While you might mean well *and genuinely think her butt is awesome*, if she is having an insecure day, there is every chance that she will take it to heart and simply be hurt by what you have said – however well-meaning. [Read: Texting her wild – How to turn a girl on over text]

#4 Start slowly. Always start slowly. Try something simple and cheeky at first. Gently poke fun at her, or make a joke at her expense, and see how she reacts. If she comes back at you with a playful teasing text too, then you know you are good to continue. If she ignores it or sounds a little offended, then it’s best not to push it and maybe try a different way. [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and make her wet]

#5 Make sure you can take it too! Part of knowing how to tease a girl over text includes making fun of yourself too. She’s going to want to know that you can take a joke too, so always be prepared to make fun of yourself and take any teasing that she throws your way too.

By making fun of yourself, not only will she get to see that funny, slightly dorky side of you that she’ll find super adorable, it will also allow her to let her guard down and feel more comfortable around you. Doing that will mean you can both get closer to one another, trust each other more, have more fun, and like each other even more than before!  [Read: 50 flirty text messages that are sure to make her smile]

#6 Create a game. You can tease a girl by playing a cute question-and-answer game. You could each agree 10 questions and then guess each other’s answers.

This is the perfect opportunity to tease her and get her laughing. For example, if the question was, ‘what’s your favorite hobby,’ your guess for her could be, ‘daydreaming about me :)’. [Read: Sexy, naughty texting games to have fun all night long]

#7 Too keen? If she texts you a couple of times in a row or replies really quickly to all your messages, you can tease her about that too. Acknowledging that she does will embarrass her a little and alert her to the fact that you are onto her – you know that she likes you and are teasing her about that very fact.

But if you do it in the way that lets her know you like her too, then she’ll just find you all the more charming.

#8 Be flirty. Teasing her about liking you is a great way to let the flirting begin. If you have just had a great date, for example, you can send her a teasing text just after you’ve said goodbye saying ‘stop thinking about me.’ Or you can joke about the date itself ‘well that was the worst night of my life, never want to do that again ;-)’

Keeping your text fun and lighthearted is definitely the way forward and it’ll make it easier for her to come up with a similarly playful reply. [Read: 18 casual things to text a girl and leave her addicted to you]

#9 Be cute with it. Teasing her is a great way to give her compliments without being too cheesy. You can let her know you like her but without making her feel as though you are being too intense, or so complimentary it sounds like you are just a charmer who says that to all the girls.

Say something like ‘I just saw the cutest bird in the park flitting about, and it reminded me of you.’ This will show her that you like her without sounding too keen. [Read: Sexy, naughty texting games to have fun all night long]

#10 Know when to let it go. So what if you don’t get a response? This is a point you will have to remember when learning how to tease a girl over text. Of course, there are going to be times where your teasing texts don’t quite work out the way you had hoped, and you end up getting no response from the girl you like.

There, of course, may be a few reasons for this. But the main ones are likely to be that she either just isn’t that into you – plain and simple – or that you teased her a bit too much, overstepped the mark, and now she isn’t sure whether or not to reply. [Read: How often should you text a girl – 17 must-know rules of texting]

If you think it is the latter, there is always time to backtrack and make sure she knows that you do really like her. You can just go for a straightforward apology, something like, ‘hey, you know I was joking right?’ or gently tease her a little more to put the smile back on her face like, ‘you mad at me? Want me to send you a virtual hug?’

[Read: What to text a girl – The dos, dont’s and all the secrets to know]

Knowing how to tease a girl over text can be the perfect way to start flirting and get her to like you even more. Keep it light and make sure her responses are egging you on. If you do that, you’ll know you are doing it right.

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Bethany Locke
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