How to Tease a Girl Over Text: Get Her to Flirt Back with You

Knowing how to tease a girl over text is exactly what you need to hook her interest and make her attracted to you. After all, who says attract a girl over text?

how to tease a girl over text

Getting a text from someone you like is a great feeling, and if you know a girl is into you, then sending her fun and flirty text messages is a great way to let her know you feel the same way too. Knowing how to tease a girl over text keeps things light and casual while also letting her know you are interested.

Similar to teasing in person, your ability to tease her over text can grab her interest for you. It keeps her hooked on texting you, especially as it’s incredibly easy to get bored with texting. When a guy knows how to tease her even over text, she’ll flirt back with you and it keeps your text conversations playful and light simultaneously.

Humor constantly ranks as one of the top things that girls look for in a guy, so if you can write some funny teasing text messages you are sure to win her over.

Of course, texting a girl can still be nerve-racking, and while you may want to joke and flirt with her, there is a fine line when it comes to teasing. If you go too far or judge the mood wrong, then it could be game over before it’s even really begun. [Read: How to tease a girl sexually & leave her with your thoughts all day]

What does it mean to tease a girl?

When you tease a girl, you’re showing her your fun and playful side. We tend to get a little serious with relationships, always afraid to say and do the wrong thing. But while this fear is valid, it can make the relationship get boring way too fast.

So if you want to make her want you more, it’s time t bring out your playful side and start teasing her. Remember, teasing her isn’t always just about flirting with her or being seductive. It can also refer to teasing her with her odd quirks or with her latest Netflix obsession for the week.

You need to also get to know her even for a bit, before you start teasing her. Otherwise, you might end up offending her, even through text. Teasing a girl is basically you showing her your fun and humorous side and that you aren’t as stiff as she thinks you are. [Read: How to be a tease: 13 really flirty moves to capture their attention]

How to tease a girl over text – What you need to know

But never fear! We are here to help you! Here are some great ideas for how to tease a girl over text and make sure you get exactly the response you were hoping for.

1. Being playful

Poking fun at the girl you like needs to be playful, light-hearted, and good-natured. If you do it right, it will tell her that you have a good sense of humor and keep her on her toes. No girl wants a guy who fawns all over them from the word go. If you want to learn how to tease a girl, you need to be playful.

So don’t be too serious when texting her; lighten up a little and show her your fun side! Gently teasing her will let her know she’ll have to work a bit harder for you and that you are not one of those guys who is way too intense and cheesy.

If she responds well, it also shows you that she’s a fun girl who can take a joke and enjoy a bit of playful chat. It also means she’s confident, not insecure, and has a sense of humor too – perfect! [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

2. Calling her out

Calling her out on those odd little things that she does or habits that she has, is a good way to start. Teasing her for the geeky way that she lines up her stationary or about the fact that she is always late. Choose little things that you know she finds kind of funny about herself too. [Read: Should I ask her out? 30 signs she’s waiting for you to make a move]

3. Be cautious

When learning how to tease a girl over text, make sure you steer clear of anything that’s a sensitive subject. If you know she’s a little insecure about her weight, it’s best not to start teasing her about that cute little wobbly butt of hers.

Unless you want her to stop texting you altogether or be mad at you, it’s best to refrain from teasing her on sensitive subjects. So don’t tease her on her body or any insecurities you might know of.

While you might mean well *and genuinely think her butt is awesome*, if she is having an insecure day, there is every chance that she will take it to heart and simply be hurt by what you have said – however well-meaning. [Read: Texting her wild – How to turn a girl on over text]

4. Start slowly

Always start slowly. Try something simple and cheeky at first. Gently poke fun at her or make a joke at her expense and see how she reacts. If she comes back at you with a playful teasing text too, then you know you are good to continue.

If she ignores it or sounds a little offended, it’s best not to push it and maybe try a different way. Don’t intensely tease her right away, especially before knowing her. You need to start slowly and build it up from there. If she teases you back, that’s your cue to keep going. [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and make her wet]

5. Make sure you can take it too!

Part of knowing how to tease a girl over text includes making fun of yourself too. She’s going to want to know that you can take a joke too, so always be prepared to make fun of yourself and take any teasing that she throws your way too.

By making fun of yourself, not only will she get to see that funny, slightly dorky side of you that she’ll find super adorable, it will also allow her to let her guard down and feel more comfortable around you.

Doing that will mean you can both get closer to one another, trust each other more, have more fun, and like each other even more than before! Teasing goes both ways, and you can’t be the only one who does the teasing! [Read: 50 flirty text messages that are sure to make her smile]

6. Create a game

You can tease a girl by playing a cute question-and-answer game. You could each agree on ten questions and then guess each other’s answers. This is the perfect opportunity to tease her and get her laughing. For example, if the question was, ‘what’s your favorite hobby,’ your guess for her could be, ‘daydreaming about me :).’

If you don’t want her to get bored texting you, it’s essential to use goes to your advantage. Not only do they keep your conversation engaging, but it also develops your connection further! So be creative and play a game with her while you’re at it. [Read: Sexy, naughty texting games to have fun all night long]

7. Too keen?

If she texts you a couple of times in a row or replies really quickly to all your messages, you can tease her about that too. Acknowledging that she does will embarrass her a little and alert her to the fact that you are onto her – you know that she likes you and are teasing her about that very fact.

But if you do it in a way that lets her know you like her too, then she’ll just find you all the more charming. You want to tease her while also giving her hints that you feel the same way. Otherwise, she might not text you as much anymore!

8. Be flirty

Teasing her about liking you is a great way to let the flirting begin. If you have just had a great date, for example, you can send her a teasing text just after you’ve said goodbye saying ‘stop thinking about me.’ Or you can joke about the date itself ‘well, that was the worst night of my life, never want to do that again ;-)’

Relationships and dates in general don’t have to be so serious all the time. Teasing her will make her want you more; trust us on this. Keeping your text fun and light-hearted is definitely the way forward, and it’ll make it easier for her to come up with a similarly playful reply. [Read: 18 casual things to text a girl and leave her addicted to you]

9. Be cute with it

Teasing her is a great way to give her compliments without being too cheesy. You can let her know you like her but without making her feel like you are being too intense or so complimentary that it sounds like you are just a charmer who says that to all the girls.

This is such an effective way if you want to learn how to tease a girl over text. You’re being sweet and playful simultaneously! What’s a better combination than that? Say something like, ‘I just saw the cutest bird in the park flitting about, and it reminded me of you.’

This will show her that you like her without sounding too keen. [Read: Sexy, naughty texting games to have fun all night long]

10. Give a silly nickname

If you want to know how to tease a girl over text, you need to give her a silly nickname! She’ll absolutely love it when you call her something unique, preferably something you’re already teasing her with. Maybe you could call her giggles since she always manages to laugh at everything.

Or really, any nickname of your preference! She’ll appreciate it and love it coming from you *just make sure you don’t call her something insulting or with an insecurity of hers*!

11. Mock her

Mocking her is the best way you can tease her playfully without going too far. It’s light and playful enough to build your connection without offending her. Just make sure you don’t do it too often, or else she might not love it as much anymore. Mock her expressions, the way she speaks, or really anything about her!

12. Use her sense of humor against her

Having a sense of humor can help you tease her accordingly, especially when you also use her sense of humor. For instance, if her sense of humor is sarcasm, you can always choose to use it against her. Make a sarcastic remark and see how she reacts!

13. Mix things up

Make sure you mix things up every now and then if you want to know how to tease a girl over text. Use her humor against her or mock her, but don’t just stick to one way of teasing her. You need to create a little variety as that’s how you’ll hook her interest simply by teasing her.

14. Make fun of her, rather than yourself

There’s absolutely nothing attractive about making fun of yourself. This kind of self-deprecating humor will push her further away from you rather than towards you. So avoid doing this entirely. Instead, you should be making fun of her, as that’s how you should be teasing her.

15. Know when to let it go

So what if you don’t get a response? This is a point you will have to remember when learning how to tease a girl over text. Of course, there are going to be times where your teasing texts don’t quite work out the way you had hoped, and you end up getting no response from the girl you like.

It sucks, but it happens even to the best of us. That’s okay! You just need to let it go instead of forcing a one-sided conversation. So what if you don’t get a response? This is a point you will have to remember when learning how to tease a girl over text.

Of course, there are going to be times where your teasing texts don’t quite work out the way you had hoped, and you end up getting no response from the girl you like. If you think it is the latter, there is always time to backtrack and make sure she knows you really like her.

You can just go for a straightforward apology, something like, ‘hey, you know I was joking, right?’ or gently tease her a little more to put the smile back on her face like, ‘you mad at me? Want me to send you a virtual hug?’ [Read: How often should you text a girl – 17 must-know rules of texting]

So, how to tease a girl over text?

You can hook her interest and desire for you even further when you know how to tease a girl *the right way*. Whether you just started texting or you’re already dating, this will benefit your dating life by so much.

I mean, you don’t want to bore her with your texts, right? So now’s a good time as any to start teasing her and incorporate a bit of humor and playfulness in your texts. She’ll love that. [Read: What to text a girl – The dos, dont’s and all the secrets to know]

Knowing how to tease a girl over text can be the perfect way to start flirting and get her to like you even more. Keep it light and make sure her responses are egging you on. If you do that, you’ll know you are doing it right.

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Bethany Locke
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