20 Deep Questions to Ask a Girl to Reveal Her True Self

Getting to know a girl more than just what’s on the surface can be difficult at first. But these deep questions to ask a girl reveals who she really is.

deep questions to ask a girl

Girls like to do this thing where we withhold a lot of information about ourselves when we first meet someone. We could even be a month or two into the relationship before we even divulge HALF of who we really are. We feel protective of ourselves, and it can take time to open up to people. That is why you need to know these deep questions to ask a girl.
That being said, it can make trying to get a girl really hard for certain fellas. You may think you’re asking all the right questions only to end up with the same runaround answer shortly thereafter. So how do you truly get to know the girls you’re talking to?
The benefits of knowing someone deep down
How many people in your life can you say that you REALLY know? I’m talking about if it were life or death, could you answer a question the exact same way they would? There are probably very few people you know this way and if I’m assuming correctly, you have a really good relationship with those people.
The benefits of knowing someone deep down can mean the difference between a successful relationship and a relationship that’s only skin deep. When you know someone for who they really are, you know that you’re with them for all the right reasons. [Read: 18 revealing what-if questions to ask your girlfriend]
Deep questions to ask a girl to reveal her true self
All in all, girls are by far the hardest people to get to open up–even if we like to talk a lot. We keep ourselves very hidden to protect ourselves from getting hurt. It’s just how we are, and it can be really frustrating for you to get to know us.
Luckily, there are ways to get us to dish our deepest darkest desires without having to wait months on end. All you have to do is ask the right questions to unearth who we really are. These deep questions will do the trick and show you who she really is.
#1 What’s your worst fear? This one is often asked in a joking manner and girls usually end up saying something like, “spiders,” “snakes”, “ghosts”, or things that aren’t very serious. Make sure you get the REAL answer out of her. [Read: Win her heart: All the things to talk about with your crush]
#2 If you won a million dollars, what would you spend it on? This tells you a lot about her character. Many materialistic people would buy cars and mansions, but if she says something like, “give it to charity,” or something with more meaning she’s probably a better person.
#3 If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why? This may not seem like a deep question, but it could tell you a lot about what type of person she is: good or bad.
#4 If you could be anywhere right now, where would you want to be? This will tell you more than you would ever hope to know about her goals in life and her true desires. You can learn if she’s a traveler or maybe if she would rather be with distant family.
#5 What kinds of things make you happy cry? This is one of those deep questions to ask a girl that can help you see what types of things she values the most. If something makes her cry with happiness, it is VERY important to her. [Read: When a woman is crying: The gentleman’s dos and don’ts]
#6 What’s your biggest passion in life? Most people ask, “What do you like to do?” but that can be much different than what someone’s biggest passion is. Find out hers, and you’ll know WAY more about her that what’s just on the surface.
#7 What would you wish to accomplish in life if you could only accomplish one thing? Asking her this deep question helps you understand the single most important hope she has out of life.
#8 Where do you see yourself in 20 years? If you want to know what this girl has planned for herself, asking her what she thinks her life will be like in 20 years is a great way to find out if you two are compatible.
#9 Are you a spiritual person? Religion can be a very touchy subject for some people and asking if someone is spiritual helps you uncover their beliefs and even their views on the world. Spiritual people also tend to be more in touch with themselves, and they care more deeply for others. [Read: 15 traits that’ll make you perfect boyfriend material]
#10 How often do you see your best friends? Finding out how much a girl values those in her life that she loves can be discovered with this deep, yet simple question.
#11 How often do you see your family? This is another way to find out just how much her family means to her, and that can help you discover whether or not you’re truly compatible.
#12 What’s one thing you wish you could do differently in your life so far? Everyone has made mistakes and everyone has something that they wish they could’ve done differently. Knowing what hers is will help you understand where her life has been and where she wants to go. [Read: 20 questions to ask her that can reveal your own sensitive side]
#13 What’s one thing that no one else knows about you? Many people are never asked this question and yet they all have something to answer it with. This helps her open up to you, and you’ll find out something very important to her.
#14 Who is your biggest influence in life? This is a great question to ask simply because it shows you what type of person she really is by knowing who she is influence by.
#15 What do you value the most? Asking her this deep question is very important in discovering if both of your values line up or if she has a much different outlook on life. [Read: Fellas, this is why you’ve never had a girlfriend]
#16 What did you want to be when you were a little girl? This one is almost sure to get a smile out of her. Not only will you help bring her back to simpler times, but you’ll find out how much her life has changed since she was younger, and that can tell you more than you ever need to know about a person.
#17 What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through? This is another powerful question that can show you just how strong of a person she is, or if she’s had a simple life with not much struggle. Which way she answers can completely change how you see her.
#18 If you found out you were going to die tomorrow, what would you do today? Many people get asked this question but few know how to answer it. It shows you just how important something truly is to her.
#19 What’s one thing you would change about yourself? If you want to know how she feels about herself and how important her appearance is to her versus her personality traits, ask her this. [Read: 15 cute things to text your girlfriend when you miss her]
#20 What are you grateful for in life? If you really want to know who she is as a person and what type of person she is, you’ll find out by getting an answer to what she is grateful for. She may be grateful for her shoes or she may be grateful that she has a place to sleep every night. Those answers mean completely different things about her personality.
[Read: Instant chemistry: 25 flirty questions to ask a girl you like]
Getting to know someone for who they really are is always important when determining if they’re right for you. These deep questions to ask a girl helps you find out who she is at her core.

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