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How to Seduce a Girl & 22 Subtle Moves to Make Her Sexually Desire You

Learning how to seduce a girl properly takes practice. You can’t just jump in there and expect to have her begging for more! Practice makes perfect. 

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Seduction is an art form. Most guys that try to seduce women end up failing in their efforts because they just don’t know where to start. The truth is, if you want to learn how to seduce a girl, you need to not only treat her right, but you also have to focus on her mind, rather than her body.

You see, men are turned on pretty easily – no judgment here, but it’s usually true. They’re very visual creatures and if they find someone attractive, it’s not going to take a huge amount to seduce them and get them firmly in the mood.

Of course, this doesn’t stand for all men, but for the most part, it’s true. Yet, a girl is totally different.

To seduce a girl, you need to make her feel comfortable. You need to trigger her imagination and get her mind interested in you. [Read: What guys find attractive? 25 traits that make a guy irresistible in a girl’s eyes]

How to seduce a girl – The key things you need to know

Learning how to seduce a girl is going to take some hard work and understanding of the female mind. But, we have faith in you and know you can do it!

You may think it’s an easy trick, but if you want to be successful, you have to approach this task with a keen mind.

Understand these tips, practice them and see which work and don’t work for you. It’s time to get to work, fellas. [Read: Art of seduction – 25 seductive ways to smolder and ooze sex appeal]

1. Know that all girls are different

You won’t be able to use the same techniques on each girl. Why? Because not every girl is the same—this is something you really need to understand.

Once you get that, you’ll talk to each girl in a different way, rather than lumping all of them as one type of personality. Men are not all the same, right? And, neither are women. [Read: 20 seductive moves to make any girl melt and want more]

2. Focus on seducing her mind first

Women are mental and emotional beings. When we have an orgasm, it’s highly linked to our mental state. So, for us, sex is not simply sex, it’s also mental.

The same goes for seduction. If you want to know how to seduce a girl, it won’t work by sending a dick pic; you need to stimulate her mind. Talk about something interesting, use visual language to get her to use her imagination. [Read: The 5 biggest factors that boost a man’s sexual market value]

3. Girls love to laugh

Most girls do have one thing in common – we want someone who makes us laugh. Makes sense though, right?

But make sure you’re not trying too hard to make her laugh – it has to be natural. It’s also true that your humor may not match with hers and that’s okay. There will be another girl who will laugh at your jokes, trust us. [Read: How to make a girl smile, laugh, and like you instantly]

4. Don’t make it obvious that you’re trying to seduce her

No one wants to know they’re being seduced. It ruins the fun for the both of you. Think of this as a challenge for you and her.

If you tell her, “I’m going to seduce you,” what does that do? Not a lot. Keep a little mystery and enjoy the experience. [Read: How to be seductive – 15 secrets of seduction to turn anyone on]

5. Hold back from making a move

We know you want to kiss her, but don’t. You need to build up the sexual tension and nothing works better than not giving her what she wants. It will drive her crazy that you didn’t make a move on her – which is the goal.

So, take it slow because a little frustration is a good thing.

6. Show your natural confidence

Learning how to seduce a girl never works if you walk into a room looking insecure. You need to look like you own the place. But this is the thing – you need to actually feel it.

If you’re not confident, well, fake it till you make it. It’s the only way. However, do remember that being too confident can also backfire. Just believe in and be yourself. [Read: Subtle differences between an arrogant and cocky man]

7. Look at her face, not her boobs

Come on guys, this is the most important thing you shouldn’t do. Keep your eyes up. We know you want to look down, but you want to seduce her, so don’t look at her like she’s just a pair of boobs.

Keep your eyes up, engage in conversation and show interest on an intellectual level. Have a little respect!

8. Figure out what she wants

You need to think about what she wants. Is she looking for a one-night stand or a relationship? See what she wants.

Now, you don’t have to ask her directly, but through indirect questions, try to figure out what she’s into. That way, you know how to approach her. [Read: Does she want the D? 19 clues to know if she wants you to take her home]

9. Don’t make it look like you want to sleep with her

If you’re talking to her, you want to take things further. We know that. You know that. We all know that. But this doesn’t mean you look at her like a piece of meat.

As girls, we know the look when someone just wants to take us to bed versus someone who’s actually interested. Sure, if we like the guy, we’re into it, but we also just see that they want sex and nothing more.

This is where we start thinking and debating whether or not we should continue talking to you. [Read: How to flirt with girls – 25 secrets to win her over]

10. Keep lame pick-up lines to a minimum

Oh no, please. If you don’t have to use them at all, then don’t. Not sure then what to say to a girl? Just introduce yourself to her.

If she’s into you, she’ll talk. Using some “did you fall from heaven” line is lame and really makes the panties dry. Trust us. [Read: 20 really bad pickup lines you’d be crazy to use in real life]

11. Create a subtly romantic atmosphere

It doesn’t matter where you are, whether it’s the club or a cafe, you’re in charge of making the atmosphere between you romantic. This means you need to use your body language to convey interest—sit close to her, look her in the eye, laugh, smile.

Make her feel warm and wanted. Don’t overdo it, but subtly romantic is what you’re going for.

[Read: How to make a girl wet and horny just by sitting next to her]

12. Selectively choose where to touch her

Don’t be too hands-on with her, otherwise you’re going to come on too strong. What you need to do is touch her, but in places where it’s neither too sexual or too passive.

You can touch her lower back, for instance. But, do not touch her ass! You’re more likely to get a slap than returned interest. You can touch her shoulders, her arms, her knee.

But, read her carefully – if she flinches, moves away, or seems uncomfortable, stop. [Read: Fractionation seduction – How to seduce women with emotions]

13. Don’t use the help of your friends

Seriously, you’re not a kid anymore. You can use a wingman in the beginning, but you should really be trying to seduce a girl without the help of your friends.

When you get to the point where you seduce a girl without having a friend to act as a wingman, that’s when you’ve made it. Friends can be helpful, but the real challenge is doing it on your own. [Read: How to seduce a friend subtly and find out if they’re into you too]

14. Always remember to be yourself

This is really important – you have to be yourself. We’ve seen so many guys try to seduce a woman, but they fail because they’re trying to be someone else.

Why try to be someone else? We know that other guys look like they always get girls, but that’s because they’re who they are. Seduction shouldn’t change who you are as a person, only enhance the features that you have. [Read: How to be yourself – 14 steps to unfake your life and love being you]

15. Take it slow

Remember, when it comes to seduction, you are not in a race. If a woman feels pressured or pushed into anything, it will have the opposite effect. She needs to feel respected, cared for, and comfortable at all times.

Slow down, you’re not aiming for a medal here! [Read: How to be attractive to women: Be a cut above all other guys]

16. Look the part

If you dress well, not only do you impress her, but you feel more confident in yourself too. Make sure you pick out an outfit appropriate for the occasion, dress smartly, and don’t choose anything too loud or garish.

You want to look sophisticated and manly, but also at ease with yourself too. If you dress too loud, you’re just going to scare the poor girl off.

Also, no matter how fantastic your outfit, if you haven’t bothered to shower, do your hair, and spray a bit of nice cologne on before you leave the house she isn’t going to be massively impressed! [Read: Manscaping – What girls want to see on a guy’s body]

17. Listen to her

There is a difference between being confident and completely dominating the conversation. If you want her to feel relaxed and comfortable like she’s getting to know you better, it is important for the conversation to be two-way.

Listen to what she has to say and show you’re actually listening too.

18. Ask questions – but not too many!

Make sure you ask her lots of questions too. This shows her that you are interested in her and actually want to get to know her as a person, rather than just get her straight into the bedroom.

The more secure and comfortable a woman feels, the more likely she is to want to take things to the next level. But, don’t fire questions at her like she’s in an interview. That will have the total opposite effect. [Read: 60 deep and fun get to know you questions to peek into their soul]

19. Be attentive to her needs

If her wine glass is empty, make sure you fill it up. If she looks cold, offer her your jacket. Paying attention to the little things here and there makes all the difference.

Plus, she’ll think you are super sweet and romantic, as well as feeling like you are the kind of guy who knows how to take care of a woman. [Read: How to be chivalrous – The code of modern chivalry for men]

20. Compliment her

Make sure she knows just how attractive you find her. Giving a woman compliments is all about the timing. Make sure you wait for a break in conversation or hold her gaze and say something like, “Sorry, I just can’t get over how pretty you are.”

The key to compliments is making sure they are not too intense, but also direct enough so that she knows you are really attracted to her at the same time. [Read: 19 sweet compliments for girls that’ll make them go “awwww”]

21. Move a little into her personal space

When it comes to making a move, if you are at dinner or out for drinks, move your chair closer to hers or brush her hand across the table or her leg underneath it – but as we mentioned before, watch how she reacts.

You could suggest going dancing where you have opportunities to touch her, or for a walk where you take her hand. If you have a date at home, suggest you get more comfortable on your sofa and then sit closer to her.

22. Remember, don’t force anything!

Sometimes, regardless of whether you do all the right things, the chemistry just isn’t there. If you aren’t getting good vibes back from her, then don’t try to force anything. Cut your losses and accept that you can’t win them all! [Read: 27 signs she’s not interested in you anymore and is slowly losing interest]

Learning how to seduce a girl? Just go for it!

Seriously, what have you got to lose? If you don’t try, you’ll always kick yourself and wish you had. If you try and it doesn’t work out, well, at least you know. 

Remember to focus on conversation and respect and you’re far more likely to get a good result than a slap across the face. Girls do not like being made to feel like a piece of meat – she deserves better than that.

If you want to take things further, feed her mind and make her feel like a million dollars. The key to seduction isn’t in being too keen, it’s in turning on her mind first of all. 

[Read: What is masculinity? The truth behind what women want in men]

Now that you know how to seduce a girl, it’s time you gave it a try the next time you’re out. Remember that while you’re seducing a woman, always be yourself. It’s the best way to achieve the ultimate outcome.

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