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18 Girl on Top Tips to Make Sex a Lot Sexier!

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Being on top of your guy can feel awkward or tiring at times. Read these 18 sexy tips to feel more comfortable and sexy when you’re the girl on top. By Kayla Kissinger

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Read the introduction on how to ride a man and look sexy doing it before you use these tips and things to know.

After all, you do need to understand what goes on in your man’s mind when you’re on top, and also learn the best positions you can use when you’re the girl on top.

The girl on top sex position

Before using any of these tips, remember this.

You may feel awkward or uncomfortable about the way you think you look when you’re bouncing off your man, but your man would find you more sexier than ever in the controlling girl on top position.

[Read: Top 10 male sexual fantasies]

When you’re on top, you’re the one controlling the sex, so don’t get carried away.

You need to make your man feel like he’s playing a part too, and that’s the only way to enjoy great sex when you’re sitting over him.

Things to know when you’re on top

When you’re on top, there are a few precautions to keep in mind and a few things you need to know to make sex more enjoyable for both of you. Use these things-to-know to learn more about the sexy girl on top position.

#1 It’s really tiring. Sitting on your guy and pounding on him or grinding circles around his member isn’t as simple as it sounds. It’s really tiring. You’re not lying down doing the missionary here. You’re jumping on and off all the time, and that involves a lot of your biggest muscles like the ones in your legs.

Every now and then, rest your hands on the sides of your man or place it over his chest so you can take the pressure off your legs. You’ll feel stronger and enjoy the girl on top position better. [Read: 50 kinky ideas for a sexy relationship]

#2 Tie your hair. In the movies, watching a girl riding her boyfriend looks sexy, especially when she flicks her hair from one side to another with her hands. But it’s not so easy in real life. When you’re sweating in bed, your hair will stick to your face and annoy you.

Untied hair can be distracting to your boyfriend too. Every time you bend towards him to kiss him, he’ll have to deal with your big mane of hair that strikes his face and tickles him. Avoid all of that, just tie your hair and focus on the sex instead.

#3 Don’t go too fast. It may seem exciting to bounce off him really fast, but you’ll get tired really fast. And most importantly, you’ll ruin the sex.

Think about it, great sex is all about the rhythm and the motion. Both of you have to feel in sync with each other to actually enjoy sex. If you move too aggressively, your man who’s lying down would never be able to keep up with you and he’ll end up feeling left out of the game because he won’t feel involved. [Read: 10 ways to please your man in bed and everywhere else]

#4 Foreplay when you’re on top. When you want to get on top, make him lie down on his back and stroke him all over. He’ll enjoy the attention because he really doesn’t have to do much here. Blow him or kiss him all around his member and turn him on. And once he’s fully ready, penetrate him. Take your time before sitting on him or he may end up losing his erection.

When your man’s lying down, he can’t stroke himself or control the way you move, and the unpredictability can make him lose his erection. It takes time to move in sync with each other when you’re on top. And until then, the erection you give him before penetration has to work its magic to keep him up. [Read: 20 ways to keep an erection up for longer]

#5 He’s not as strong as you think. Really, your man’s member is really, really sensitive. It doesn’t have a bone even if he has a boner. When you’re on top of him, a lot of your weight rests around his member. Move around in new motions or adjust your position now and then. But don’t sit on him hard or move in quick, opposite directions all of a sudden, without any warning. You may end up fracturing him down there if you don’t take it easy!

#6 Let him know you want to be on top. As soon as both of you feel in the mood, both of you will have a preconceived notion about what’s to come next. Almost always, the guy assumes he’ll be on top and prepares his mind for it.

But if you intend to get on top, let him know just how horny you are, and that you want to take the lead and get on top of him. By doing that, you won’t disappoint him because he’d know what to expect. [Read: The seven sexiest types of sex you can ever have!]

#7 Read his signs. The person on top has the important task of gauging the sex and working towards making it better. They control the way the sex goes and how it ends. So when you’re using the girl on top position, you can have fun controlling your man. But at the same time, you need to read his signs so both of you can orgasm together.

If he seems to be distracted or in pain, slow down and see if it’s something you’re doing. Perhaps, you’re moving too aggressively and giving him a burn on his inner thighs. Or if he suddenly grabs you, stop moving your pelvis for a second to find out if he’s unable to hold on anymore. And most importantly, if his member starts throbbing inside you when you’re on top, he’s probably having a hard time holding himself back from blowing out, so slow down and help him get back his control or build yourself up to orgasm together.

#8 The motions. You can move vertically up and down when you’re on top. You can go fast and quick or slow and deeper, or you can move around his member in slow circles. Indulge in any motions as long as it feels good.

But don’t jump between motions too quickly. Give enough time for your partner to relate to your moves and he can move in the opposite direction and connect better with you, which will ensure that the sex is better. [Read: 10 fun sex games to play with your boyfriend and turn him on]

10 ways to make the girl on top position feel more sexy

Now that you know the right way to have sex when you’re on top, here are ten sexy tips to look sexier and seduce your man into having better sex.

#1 Play with your hair. Now and then, loosen your hair up and use your fingers to play with it carelessly when your man’s looking at you. You can pretend like you can’t notice him by turning your face away from him if you feel awkward. It’ll definitely arouse him a lot more just watching you enjoy yourself.

#2 Cup your breasts. All guys love watching a girl play with her breasts. As you bounce off him, cup your breasts with your hands and move them against the sides of your body. Additionally, you can take his hands and place it on your breasts as you grind around him. [Read: Why do guys like breasts like crazy?]

#3 Add in an oral. When you’re on top of him, stop now and then and slide downwards to his knees. And bend down and lick his member. It’ll turn your guy on a lot just watching you lick him up when he’s so wet around his member.

You can also take his member out while having sex and move your hip closer towards his face so he can give you some action too. [Read: How to make him go down on you without a push]

#4 Dominate him. If you’re on top, you know you’re in control. But don’t just think it, do something about it. Treat him like you’re in control of him, order him to do something, or yell at him. It’ll make you feel more powerful and sexy. And your man will feel more aroused getting dominated by you at the same time.

#5 Enjoy his body. What does your man do to your body when he’s on top? Do the same things to his body. Being on top is all about shedding your inhibitions and feeling in control. Lick his nipples, nibble his ears, grab his butt as you straddle him and do anything else that makes you feel good. Your man may actually be surprised and get turned on by seeing this new side of yours.

#6 Dirty talk. Don’t just bounce up and down the whole way. You’ll tire yourself off or the constant thwacking will end up boring both of you. Get close to him and gasp something sexy in his ears. Whisper something dirty that’ll turn both of you on more. And in the heat of the moment, let your imagination run wild and dirty. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy]

#7 Control him. Lean into him, grab his hands and push it behind his head or above his head. Hold his hands in yours and ride him harder. If you want to take it a notch higher in the sexy scale, tie his hands to the bedpost or even handcuff him or tie his hands together with a scarf. It’s all the little things that’ll make him feel more helpless, which will make the whole thing feel more sexy.

#8 Get rough. When you’re having wild, passionate sex, it’s obvious that you’ll feel hornier than other days. Use your nails against his chest and watch him moan in painful delight. Bite him and leave a few traces of love bites around his body or just cover his eyes with a blindfold and let him grope around your body as you get rough with him from top. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life]

#9 Show yourself off. Getting on top is all about losing your inhibition and feeling more confident about yourself. As you grind your pelvis against his, lean back and stretch your body. You’ll be able to reveal all, and you’d look a lot sexier too. And your man will definitely have a hard time keeping his hands off your body as you show yourself off. [Read: How to feel sexy and desirable all the time]

#10 Let him hold you. Staying on top and moving aggressively against him for more than a few minutes can leave you exhausted. To avoid feeling weak with fatigue and ruining the mood, give your man some control now and then.

Grab both his hands and place it against your waist as you move up and down on him. And press his hands firmly against your body so he gets the hint to lift you up and down along with your own momentum. It’ll help ease your sex workout and make him feel involved too. And by doing that, both of you can actually last longer and enjoy the girl on top position for much longer.

[Read: 30 dirty and sexy truth or dare questions for couples]

The girl on top position can be sexy and something that’ll be a lot of fun for both of you. Use these tips to ride him and remember to feel powerful and confident, and give your man the wildest ride he’s ever had!


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  • Richard
    June 15, 2012 | Permalink |

    My girlfriend is very sensual and I get down on my knees and thank God every day. In terms of item 2 above I would have to disagree in the sense that long hair brushing over the skin can be extremely sensual. The only downside can be that at times when she bends down to kiss me we both end up with a mouthful of hair. Not a major issue for me as her hair is part of her and the chemistry is very strong. The great part of girl on top is that watching her express her desires in an uninhabited manner can be very arousing.

  • July 19, 2012 | Permalink |

    Am so much impressed with this tips.

  • Bernie W.
    July 22, 2012 | Permalink |

    Good tips in this article. Thanks. I just would add the following tip to girls / women:

    He will have an earlier erection and have a bigger orgasm, when you really stroke him softly all over (as the text says), not least his thighs, a-n-d also you may take a condom on 2 of your fingers and stimulate his prostata region behind his ‘balls’, before you sit on him

  • Norm
    September 3, 2012 | Permalink |

    This is one of the more comprehensive articles on this subject, and it’s needed given the society’s rapid epiphany that woman on top should be the position of choice and hence habit.

    Tip # 6 is probably one of the more important ones, but for reasons other than those given. I would venture to guess that these days most guys (and I’m one of them) actually assume that the WOMAN will be the one on top and our minds ARE prepared for it. That said, it’s all the more important for the woman to “read his signs” (Tip #7) in assuming the expected (or at least desired) position. Overall, done with care WOT is a win-win for both, that’s why it’s used most frequently now, and that’s why more articles on the mechanics of it are helpful and necessary—especially for women but also men.

  • phaedruscj
    September 28, 2012 | Permalink |

    My wife llikes it on top especially when she has me put my hand between her legs and stimulate her clit with my finger while shes controllong the action from on top.

  • Brittany
    December 19, 2012 | Permalink |

    I already do all of this. I’m a pro.

  • Homer Orfaeus
    August 16, 2013 | Permalink |

    This article is very nice and useful, but two of its opinions seem wrong. The advice that I like best is „You can also take his member out while having sex and move your hip closer towards his face so he can give you some action too“. The opinions that seem to be wrong, are those which assume that men look through woman’s eyes: that the view of dangling boobs and her hair ruffled by the wild ride can turn a man off; isn’t it obviously ridiculous? Men are deeply visual in sex, the view of a woman sliding up and down on his shaft, her pussy and boobs welcoming groping by him in that process, her face lit up by the pleasures, all that is a pure delight for a man; no way it could turn him off!
    The other misconception is the idea that men can be feeling humiliated by the woman’s dominant role in the man-riding; where did you get that? I am a male-chauvinist pig, but it never crossed my mind that I should feel humiliated by the cow-girl „dominating“ me. Only a miserable sissy can be thinking about controlling, domination and humiliation, rather than enjoying that great sex-feast that a man-riding provides.
    Now, my advice about that last subject: The man’s pleasures of being ridden by a woman are often way-too-great to produce mutual and simultaneous satisfaction: the intense pleasures of being cow-girled, all too often makes the man reach his orgasm much sooner than he normally would, and then his proud member betrays her and outrageously escapes her, making her bouncing pointless, and her excitement unsatisfied. The couple should be aware of this, and plan accordingly.
    Man-riding is best when planned ahead as a two-round event, with the first, quick round dedicated for him, followed by the second round designated for her pleasure, with his happy-ending likely too, but of only a secondary importance. There is nothing special to be mentioned about the first round, but in the second round it may be good to begin it in the regular cow-girl position with the man’s fondling her clitoris intensely, followed by her turning around into the „reversed-cowgirl“ position, which makes the penis slide right over her G-spot. Unlike in the missionary position, the woman is now controlling the penetration and so she can precisely direct the pressure of the penis’s head where it causes her best pleasure. When in the orgasm already, she can stop her bouncing and enhance the orgasm by petting her clitoris. When she is already completely satisfied and relaxed, and if the man has not reached his orgasm yet, she can (if she likes doing that) do him the special favor of making him the double-intense orgasm of the prostate ejaculation (best into herself). The reverse-cowgirl position is ideal not only for the woma’s pleasure, but for a prostate „milking“ as well. The woman is sitting right over the man’s rectum (best, with his Jade Stalk inside her Lotus Flower) , and her fingers (one or two), when inside it, are naturally bending towards the front-side of his colon, where the prostate is located; you will clearly feel that globe-shaped thing. When laying on the back, both a man’s prostate and a woman’s G-spot are located similarly, and they behave similarly. Prostate participates in normal ejaculations and orgasms, but with a massage, the prostate sends much more of the semen for the ejaculation, and the general pleasure of the orgasm is much stronger, too. And milking the prostate, not too often, once a week or so, is good for man’s health, beside its pleasure.
    When milking the prostate, always use a condom, both for the hygiene and for the safety of the man’s colon (fingernails!). Don’t do this to men over forty – if he happens to have a beginning of prostate cancer (most men get it sooner or later), a massage can force a „sleeping“ cancer to spread, killing the man.
    Some women are concerned about the reverse-cowgirl position, that showing her back to the man may be boring or impolite for him. How can he be bored while his penis is being rubbed intensely by the beautifully slippery, gentle vagina? The Japanese know better: their observation is that a woman’s back is the most sexy-looking part of her body. This may be of the deeply natural origin, since all animals make love while the male is looking at the female’s back; very likely, that position was eliminated in the Western culture quite recently by religious reasons. So, don’t worry about showing your back, I agree with thee Japanese, naked backs of women look very inviting.

  • sam k
    November 12, 2013 | Permalink |

    I have been trying to get on top with my boyfriend for awhile but I wasn’t sure how to do it and was feeling really unconfident because I lost my virginity to him but he has had sex before so has had more experience but I think these tips will give me the confidence boost I need to do it, thank you for helping me :)

  • randy albin
    May 22, 2014 | Permalink |

    this captures some attention. is this for the lonely-hearted? everyone wants affection

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