How to Make Your Boyfriend Want You More Than Ever

How To Make Your Boyfriend Want You More Than Ever

Does your boyfriend love you and desire you? Use these 16 do’s and don’ts and learn how to make your boyfriend want you and desire you more than ever!

Do you think your boyfriend could love you more?

Or perhaps, love you better?

Most of the time, girls just learn to accept their boyfriend for who they are.

Even though their boyfriends are nothing like the man of their dreams.

[Read: 10 most important traits of a good boyfriend]

And over time, these girls compromise on their own wants and wait for their boyfriend to show the smallest romantic gesture to feel better about the relationship.

Seriously, don’t be that girl.

How to make your boyfriend want you

Every guy has the potential to be the perfect boyfriend, just as soon as he learns to follow the rules.

And it all starts with these 10 tips on how to make your boyfriend want you more and 6 more tips on things you should avoid doing to be wanted by your boyfriend.

All of us take relationships for granted eventually, even if we don’t intend to at the beginning.

But can you really blame yourself or your partner, when either of you don’t remind each other about it?

[Read: 30 super sexy ways to keep him interested in you]

If you want to have a happy relationship and a boyfriend who appreciates you, don’t compromise on your wants and desires in the relationship just to make your boyfriend feel happy. He’ll start to accept you for who you are, instead of realizing how understanding, accommodating and genuinely nice you actually are.

Sacrificing your happiness for someone is a good sign, but only if it’s mutual. There’s a thin red line between sacrificing and suffering in a relationship.

Understand these tips on making your boyfriend want you and use them. You’ll see the difference in no time.

#1 Look good in his arms. Let’s talk about pleasing your man with appearances first. Guys are shallow, and the physical appearance of their girlfriend plays a big part in his ego and his desire to be with you. Look sexy and have eyes turn towards you when you’re in his arms. If his friends think you’re hot stuff, he’ll desire you and want to be with you more. And he’ll never want to let go of you. [Read: How to look sexy without trying]

#2 Respect yourself. Your boyfriend is not better than you. Falling in love is a mutual experience between lovers. Have an ego and be confident of yourself. If you truly respect yourself, your boyfriend can’t help but respect you and admire you.

#3 Spend time with your own friends. Make your own plans now and then. Go out with your own friends and feel good about yourself, be it in having a good conversation or attracting the attention of another cute guy. Believe in yourself, and remember that you’re still hot stuff. And the best part, he’ll miss you more when you aren’t available at his beck and call.

#4 Have your own life. Your boyfriend is only a part of your life, not all of it. If you’re always with him or he finds you available all the time, he’ll only take you for granted.

#5 Be a wildcat with fiery passion. Try new things in bed. If you want to know how to make your boyfriend want you sexually, don’t be predictable in bed. Try new things and don’t let bedtime get boring. Enjoy sex and take pride in your passion and interest in exploring sex. [Read: Top 50 clean and kinky ideas to try in bed]

#6 Be a smart girl. Be aware of the world around you, be it on the news or in current affairs. Men always think they’re more intelligent and aware. Prove him wrong, he’ll worship you and take you more seriously.

#7 Play hard to get when he takes you easy. Don’t let your boyfriend ever take you for granted. If you ever feel like he’s taking you lightly, put him in place. It’ll scare him, true, but it’ll also make him realize that you’re not someone to be taken for granted. [Read: Why men like a chase to stay in love]

#8 Display PDA. Men love it when their girl shows her appreciation in public. It makes them feel desired and lucky. Wrap your arm around him or place your hand on his cheek in appreciation when he’s being nice. He’ll be a lot nicer and he’ll be happy to have a girlfriend like you. [Read: Public display of affection laws and etiquette]

#9 Walk away if he disrespects you. Snub him or avoid his calls when he disrespects you. He’ll be too scared to take you lightly. You’re not throwing a tantrum by doing this, you’re letting him know that you have self respect.

#10 Follow your own dreams. Be passionate about life and your own ambitions. Your boyfriend will never respect you or desire you if all you do is sit wide eyed and stare when he talks about his ambitions and dreams, and have nothing to share in return. [Read: How to be successful in life]

Six things to avoid if you want your boyfriend to want you

#1 Don’t be too easy to get. Don’t be available for him anytime he calls you. Don’t change your plans just to be with him. Let him know that you have a life too, and he needs to take you more seriously if he wants you by his side.

#2 Don’t be a pushover. If he changes plans in the last minute and leaves you in the middle of a date to hang out with his friends, or cancels a date for silly reasons, don’t accept such behavior. If he walks away, call another cute guy and hang out with him just to get back at your boyfriend. It’s the only way he’ll learn.

#3 Don’t be eager to please him. Pleasing each other should be mutual. If you find that you’re the only one indulging in sweet gestures while he just behaves like a slob, put an end to it and make him work for your attention all over again. [Read: 25 sweet romantic gestures for everyday life]

#4 Don’t be the first one to make up all the time. This is especially important if it’s not your own fault. If your boyfriend’s taking you for granted, and you find yourself being the one who has to make up all the time, ignore him for a while or give him a cold shoulder. If he really cares, he’ll swallow his pride and come back crawling.

#5 Don’t be clingy and needy. Show off your independence even if you’re just idle and sitting at home. Appear like you’re a girl who can sort her own affairs. He should know that spending even a few minutes with you is a privilege! [Read: 13 clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid it]

#6 Don’t be a bad damsel in distress. Men love a damsel in distress, but only if you play the part in the right manner. Make him feel like a man, but don’t always go trailing him for help. [Read: How to be a perfect damsel in distress]

If you want to know how to make your boyfriend want you more, sexually or otherwise, just follow these 16 tips. And always remember to have self respect. After all, you are awesome!

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63 thoughts on “How to Make Your Boyfriend Want You More Than Ever”

  1. Stef says:

    Thanks a million!!! This article has just helped me get back on tracks when i was being taken for granted in my relationship. Really helpfull article told me all i need to know and more.

  2. krissy says:

    I really like this page!

  3. Alexandra says:

    This was probably the best advice I’ve ever read

  4. Logan says:

    i’m a guy, and i read this out of curiosity. and i have to say that the only ones i want to see in my girlfriend are #1 #2 #5 #8 and #10. Some of that other stuff is just annoying as hell. i don’t want my girl to go and try and catch a few cute guys’ attention. I want my girl to be smart but I don’t want her correcting me all the time just to make herself seem like ‘the boss’. and I don’t want my gf acting like a bitch if i do something that makes her mad, just tell me and i’ll work it out

  5. The smart one says:

    Hey, I just want to say how stupid this is. I mean some of them, I would never do to my boyfriend. #9 especially, instead of ignoring his calls, I learned to TALK TO HIM, I know it might be totally the logical choice and let’s face it girls are not logical in relationships, but it actually works, he listens to me every time I have a problem. Even if we don’t agree on something we listen to each other and learn to understand. I’ve done #9 to past boyfriends before and it only caused problems to NOT get solved. Some if these things are just flat out immature and things I would have done at 14. And I’m still only 19 and know better.

  6. Aldo says:

    #1 would be a huge turnoff for me. Don’t try and look good for me ever. Look the way you want. Your not a trophy or an accessory, your a woman. Don’t ever try to look good in his arms, dress in a way that makes you feel good, feel free, in a way that’ll tease him if you’d like but definitely don’t appeal to his shallow mentality if he indeed is like that. Kill that shallow mentallity. If you act like everyone else eventually you will be viewed just like everyone else. Do you want to appeal to him only physically or would you prefer to use your intuitive senses and mind to turn him on as we’ll. don’t focus on the physical. Turn him on mentally and females are already good at that. Physical is a small part of it all

  7. Aldo says:

    Here’s my advice. Communicate, act, be, the same way with a guy you like as you are with close friends. just add a bit of this: if you know what gets him going, lovingly tease him in a subtle way that drives him wild. That’s it. Goodnight

  8. Rox says:

    I love these ideas They are awesome

  9. Jona says:

    Such a typical shitty sexist post. it roughly sais “give your man a constant fear and anxiety that you will go to another”. all women aren’t god damn godesses and neither men are gods. if equality were to teach us something it would be to respect eachother and treat eachother well, women and men alike. if you as a woman treat your man like this and thinks that you create actual “true love” you are misguided by this. Should a man be treated in such ways that he feels exploited at first and then panicks over all the fear and anxiety that your woman have another guy on the hook ready to switch? that is not anything even near respect. women treat your men right. men treat your women right. don’t abuse them in any way or you will end up having a piece of shit girl/boyfriend because of constantly inducing the fear of you going behind their back.

  10. jackson says:

    Okay number 2,2 about that Call another cute guy doesn`t work, it just makes the guy to hate you.

  11. Alison says:

    Looking good in his arms and having your own life is good for the both of you, it will boost your own confidence and remind him how lucky he is to have you. It never hurts to miss each other every now and again, especially when the reunion consists of wild, passionate sex πŸ˜‰

    Making your bf jealous and insecure is toxic. Men like to feel that you’re devoted to them and them only! He will be very grateful to have you as his girl if he can trust you and knows that you’re not paying attention to any other guy.

  12. hannah says:

    This is stupid Girls: Talk to your man if he upsets you, dont ignore him! And definitely, MOST DEFINITELY dont go to a different guy to try and make your guy jealous! That is immature and will ruin your relationship! Also, he cant read your mind, you have to tell him what youre thinking or else he wont know! Ive learned to love my guy even if he doesnt deserve it! Love is a choice, not something you feel! Some good words to live by: Always assume the best and doubt the worst! A good relationship is made up of two good forgivers!

  13. Jessica says:

    I did this and after my boyfriend was so nice he could have been a god xxx

  14. fels says:

    This is the stupidest article I have ever read. Is it directed at 16 year old girls? “Look good in his arms”, “follow your own dreams” laughable!!!

  15. Julie says:

    I think this was Bad. I would never go out with another guy if my bf called off our date!!
    That’s rude. And instead of ignoring his calls, i would TALK!!! I dont care what u say im always clingy & needy!! Thats just WHO I AM and im not gonna stop being should read all the comments people wrote and change your stupid tips. Also, my bf loves me just
    The way i am. He would not break up with me for hanging out with him!!! Plus
    He is hot because he’s a hockey player!!! So in your face!!!! Bitch!!!!

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    News. Do you have any suggestions on how to get listed in Yahoo News?
    I’ve been trying for a while but I never seem to get there! Thank you

  17. Cheyenna says:

    Really? If he does go hang out with his friends, DO NOT hang out with another guy! That is the worst thing you can do to a guys ego, and he sure wont want to be around someone that doesnt pet that! The only way he’ll learn what are you15? If he does go out and you want to also it better be with your family or your GIRL FRIENDS . What are you and that other guy gonna talk about anyway, how bad your bf is… that leads to cheating… i believe thats cheating anyway… going out with a guy other than your bf… :poop:

  18. Allana says:

    This should be titled “how to send a self respecting man running”!!!!
    Look sexy?? If he loves you he won’t give a damn what you look like! Just don’t intentionally look like a slob or a skank when he takes you to a fancy restaurant or his moms…

    NEVER just walk away when he disrespects you!!! Talk to him, as calmly as possible about what it was that pissed you off! Only walk away when you can’t calm your shit enough to have an adult talk about the situation at hand…

    This shit only works at 14… Smh!!

  19. Fairy says:

    Need some tips on #7!!! Play hard to get when he takes you easy.

    Like what do I do?
    I wont go out with anothr guy.. It might hurt him… What else can I do????

  20. ultra says:

    “Guys are shallow”?? Come on.

  21. Silvia says:

    I kept questioning my bf of almost 5yrs because he wanted a day out with his flatmate. Now he’s acting distant from me told me I’m jelous and that he’s not going … He nor me have been out without each other for the past 3yrs.

    I want him to have a good time now I feel so guilty and he’s not talking to me properly! I told him to go not to cancel about 1000 times but he told me he’s not going to change his mind. I messed up and I know this is going to come back to me 100 times worse! How can I fix it if he won’t listen and go?

  22. CJ says:

    Act like a lady with some self respect and he’ll be too scared to lose you if he does anything wrong in the first place.

    Remember ladies, he’s privledged to be with you. Sometimes you just have to remind him. I don’t agree with a lot of the statements above, but I do believe guys are oblivious and need a taste of their own medicine sometimes.

    When they talk about how it hurts their feelings, tell him thats exactly how you go off and do me. If you want to stay stuck in this phase, I’ll stay right here with you. But if you want to move forward in our relationship and grow togehter, we can do so. Together.

  23. Cry91191 says:

    Hey, I can honestly say that I do these things and I have had a very great relationship. I learned that this is what works from experience with a past controlling boyfriend. These will work as long as you stick to them and the boyfriend is not controlling. A controlling boyfriend may not allow this. But if he allows it… He may be a keeper.

  24. kim says:

    i wanna try this, but i realized i’m the selfish one.. we always fight due to my clinging, dependency and nagging.. i don’t know if i should do thing to make him want me more or should i fix first my problem?

  25. Angella Johnson says:

    I love ideas!!!…i am going to try them all…thanks

  26. Issabella Maraz says:

    This advice is amazing!!! I have trouble getting my boyfriend’s attention and he seems to take me for granted a lot! If I ask for his help with something, he nags about it every time, but when he asks for my help I just have to smile otherwise he throws a tantrum! He’s doesn’t desire me or do anything romantic for me. He never buys me any gifts or treat me to restaurants or anything… it’s really painful, I’m so hungry for his love but all he talks about his dream/work. Sometimes I even wonder if he still want to marry me one day because if he does, it doesn’t seem like a pretty picture… :’-( Please give more advice!!! thank you

  27. sneha says:

    can i try this????but i am confused that it will really work or not?
    and i want to know that by doing this he also starts doing the same then what?
    and if he dosn’t care that i am talking with him,then?
    i just want a guareenty that he will starts realising that how valuable i am to him by doing this……can i start doing this or not???
    and when will i get back your answer?
    please reply fast its very urgent………..i am in a big trouble with this relationship……?

  28. Tracy says:

    What a bunch of manipulation tactics and head games! I can’t even believe articles like this are being published! Using different tactics to trick, persuade, coerce and manipulate your partner’s behaviors instead of being honest and having integrity is good advice? This is the most childish article I have ever seen in my life. What is worse is that some people actually found this helpful! Good luck, folks!

  29. annameg says:

    I luv dis advice

  30. vee says:

    This is grt advice guyz myself i ddnt noe how to plz my man …grt stuff

  31. Esther says:

    This is the best advice ever…. Am gonna try it. Am so certain it will work πŸ™‚

  32. Thomas Ray welbaum says:

    We need a three some like I have been telling you ! How about a nice hot mature women for the both of us?

  33. nicole says:

    I am struggling with my partner of 3 years we argue over silly things and fall out over childish things too, he has his night out once a week and i stay in constantly apart from doing bills or shopping, but i feel mean if i go out as he works all day and im a stay at home mummy, i feel like we are drifting apart but he tells me to talk to him and i do but then he turns it all on him and makes everything about how he feels, ive compromised with everything, i feel like my life is being taken for granted and nothing is changing by talking. Help please if anyone has any.

  34. Alex says:

    This was a great article. It should be titled love yourself to be loved by another. I think this can go both ways. It’s not about how to manipulate your man into loving you, it’s about doing these things because you want to. Hanging out with your own friends and following your dreams and being smart, these are things I would hope a girl(or boy) wants to do for themselves regardless if they have a S.O.

  35. shanne07 says:

    I think so of it tips are okay, like having your own life, own friends, own hobbies and dreams and goals but I disagree with giving him the silent treatment when he shows disrespect or hanging out with another man if he takes you for granted. If you are too mad dont say anything but once you calm down tell him what you feel. Sometimes men do not even know that they said or did something that upset you unless you tell them.

  36. joyous says:

    this is quiet encouraging bt if i start feeling myself by trying to ignore him just to see if he will chase after me and he also does the same wat will happen next

  37. Alex says:

    call another cute guy and hang out with him just to get back at your boyfriend!!! It was the worst advice to give!!!

  38. danny says:

    I am a guy and I like to research how women thinks, well, we are talking about men, take it from a man. This is all bull crap. Ask anyone. No man will say, he likes to chase. Chasing is in our society is called desperate, or pervert or so on. So trust me, first of all guys hate the chasing process itself and secondly, they don’t want to be called desperate or thirsty. This article is full bullcrap. Do you know what’s the guy gonna do, when u cross the line of “playing hard to get” – he will be so tired of it and eventually he will be so pissed off, he is going to do two things, doesn’t matter the fact he loves you or not. #1 – he is gonna dump your ass and then you will be left just regretting. #2 – he is gonna start looking for other girls who actually gives him value, and eventually he will be fucking you both at the same time in no time coz when he starts get attention from the “other girl”, he won’t give a shit about, you playing hard to get, he will only come when u r free to only penetrate you and he will go see the other girl.

  39. Jordan says:

    This doesn’t work on all guys. My fiance is normally crazy about sex, but ever since we got engaged, he hasn’t cared at all. I know he wants it. He tells me all the time. But whenever I try and do something, he comes up with some type of excuse. He’s too tired, his balls hurt, he has to get up early. It’s terrible. But I’ve tried all of the tips and none of them have worked on him. I hope they work for somebody else!! Don’t let your sex life leave.

  40. Juan Martin says:

    Wanted to take the time to say that this article is full of bad advice. if you want to keep your man, follow some simple rules.

    1) Always keep communication lines open. When you are upset, DISCUSS it, and when your partner is upset, don’t ignore it. Talk about it, and if they are not ready, keep the lines open and try and hammer it out. Don’t let the sun set on your anger.

    2) Keep an air of mystery, but don’t play hard to get. Games like that make genuine more mature mates run for the hills.

    3) Learn to maintain conflicting opinions and thoughts in your mind and respect them without feeling the need to compromise. Accepting different points of view and learning to bend will go a long way.

    4) Avoid drama. Just avoid it all together. If you need drama to make your life exciting please see a therapist.

    I use these rules to easily form relationships, however most of my partners are either too immature to go along or just not ready for a commitment. It happens! Sometimes no matter how perfect you are for someone, they can not see that!

  41. Twinkle Parekh says:

    So true..if you make yourself, too much available for him, he will take you as some easily available stuff. So be yourself. Crying and being emotional is totally outdated and not the tantrum of today’s time

  42. Grahm says:

    This article is so crazy. You women should not be doing this, I run away from girls that do these things.

    You want a boyfriend to do all this, and you play us, funny how you can’t find a decent boyfriend. All you REALLY need to do, is not give it up easy, a little at a time, give him space, and don’t fall to early cause men don’t fall fast, it takes time, so don’t rush into something thinking that you are going to get married after one date, being too clingy and texting all the time is bad.

    He washes my hair for me dries it and brushes it for hours because i love it πŸ™‚
    He drives me everywhere and doesnt ask for any petrol money
    He makes me special cheesy sandwiches I love with crisps, picked onions and salad
    He buys me special treats and loads of teddys
    He tells me constantly im beautiful and cant live without me he tucks me in bed, wraps his arms around me and keeps me warm
    He will have his phone on loud to talk to me any moment i need him
    He never ever looks at other girls and doesnt want to
    He supports me, loves me and is always there for me
    He lets me have freedom, go out when I want and have my own friends
    He will drop anything for me instantly
    He makes me laugh and smile πŸ™‚
    He sends me at least 3 texts everyday telling me how happy I make him

  43. Alexus says:

    Why do I feel the need to have sex?

  44. Rockfall says:

    These recommendations serves to attract men who are narrow minded and unintelligent at best.

  45. Hazel says:

    OMG love the ideas…

  46. marybellht says:

    I really like this page..

  47. fraggle says:

    Hi, this is for the men on the forum. I was seeing someone for a while but work commitments and family got in the way. We called it a day but we are still flirting and it doesn’t feel over. My friends say play hard to get, let him chase you. Should I wait? What,if he never chases,me and it’s a missed opportunity. Can a woman give a,man a,gentle nudge and chase without looking desperate, needy or too forward? I still really like him and I think we talked too much too soon last time. All feedback appreciated. πŸ™‚ x

  48. yuppppp says:

    This is stupid and if any girl were to hang out with any guy or try to make THEIR BOYFRIEND “jelous” because she’s clingy and needy…the guy is gonna dump your ass and clasiffy you as an attention whore. Promise you this wont work ( as a guy that was in a similar situation ). And trying to look good for his friend is also a big turnoff to me…The biggest thing you should know is to give your guy enough space! Thats very important. And don’t accuse him of anything if you do not have proof! Hope this helps, this is what i would love in my relationship.

  49. chyna says:

    he’s having sex with someone else! so he’s losing interest in doing it with u after all u said he’s normally crazy about it cmon guys love sex and if he does not want it with you plz believe he getting it somewhere else dont be naive.

  50. ammie says:

    Do you mean a daddy?

  51. dalton's girl says:

    ” call a cute guy and hang out with him just to get back at your boyfriend.”? that is not loyalty at all. if you ever do that, you’re just letting another guy in your relationship, plus, you shouldn’t get back at your boyfriend, your boyfriend has to have guy friends too doesn’t he ? I mean, you can’t hang out with him ALL THE TIME. but that’s pretty stupid in my opinion because tat’s cheating af. my boyfriend is the best thing that has ever happened to me and he’s the ONLY guy I want/need to hang out with.:)

  52. Emma says:

    Well my take on the hang out with another man thing is that you should change it to “hang out with someone else who isn’t going to waste your Goddamn time.” Sometimes my male friends and coworkers are more fun to hang out with than my female friends. Does that mean I want to bang them? Hell no. I love my boyfriend. Might I flirt a little? Well yeah, I even flirt with babies, come on. But there are VERY clear boundaries and if my friends even toed the line thatd get an earful. And if they got forward and aggressive, they’re audi.

  53. Emma says:

    I’m sick of it being implied that just because I talk to other men and I’m friendly and joke around with other men, it means that I’m some shameless whore who is desperate to make her man jealous.

  54. Kat says:

    Just because you are ignorimg him for a short period doesn’t mean you are playing games. Sometimes, ignoring a guy can just be a way of giving him space instead of attacking him when you are upset. He will appreciate the fact that you would rather give space to work things out than if you go on a tangent telling him all the things he is doing wrong. He needs to know that you are serious. Even though you ignore him/give him space, you have to know him. You have to know how much time to give and if he does respond after a little bit, don’t be shy about letting him know how you feel but be respectful of how he may percieve it and let him respond to you about how he sees the situation. He may not have ever known there was a problem in the first place. Giving him space or ignoring his is not just for his benefit to let him know he did something against your wishes, but it lets you think about the true severity of the situation and calm down evough to civily talk about the situation so that it can strengthen the relationship rather than tear it apart. If it tears it apart, it wasn’t a good relationship to begin with.

  55. Anomolous says:

    Cool story but was that the right desision? He left you for somebody you were close to and you just forgave him because a spell made him nice? I hope this is a scam because I would have never talked to that guy again after what you said happened

  56. Ehhhhhh says:

    Hey lovepnky mods or wgatever, there are many probable scams here, plz ban

  57. Anomolous says:

    I agree, but I’ve accepted that some of the advice on this site should just be ignored sometimes.

  58. Anomolous says:

    May be a little late but I say go dor it, it depends on who you are but personally if I didn’t already have feelings for somebody being asked out by them would still be great and spqrk my intrests very much,
    I hope i was helpful

  59. Anomolous says:

    I dunno, I can’t see myself disrespecting anybody I would be in a relationship with, but I suppose
    I’m picky and would only date people I have intentions to stay with

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