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How to Get a Guy to Hold Your Hand without Making the First Move

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The mere act of hand holding establishes a physical and emotional connection. If you crave that connection, here’s how to get a guy to hold your hand.

It really is addicting to hold a guy’s hand. However, doing it is easier said than done. Some women may feel nervous to initiate it themselves or sometimes, the moment doesn’t just present itself. But if motivated enough *with a little strategy*, you can learn how to get a guy to hold your hand at any time and place.

How to get a guy to hold your hand

Holding hands is more than just about touch. It is an act of connection. And for most women, having their hands held by that special guy is the first step to a romantic relationship.

There is just something about getting your hands held that gives off a comforting feeling. The enveloping size of his hand, the warmth of his touch, and that subtle gentleness of his grip despite his strength gives a woman a feeling of love and security in such a simple gesture.

General tip. Guys really won’t mind holding a girl’s hand. Most women are afraid to initiate holding hands or say they want to hold hands for fear of being seen as bold or precocious. First thing to remember is that guys really won’t mind if you ask them to. In fact, they will be more than happy if you let them hold your hand.

#1 Let him know that you don’t mind being touched. Remove the “touch barrier.” One thing girls must know is guys are wary to initiate hand-holding out of respect to a girl’s personal space. In order to encourage guys to make a move, women should let guys know they won’t mind having their hand held.

By removing this “touch barrier,” you give your man that figurative blessing and encourage him to make a move.

Remove the touch barrier by giving off several physical cues such as sitting next to the guy, or using friendly touches such as fist bumps, high fives, and playful slaps and punches on the arm. [Read: How to subtly flirt by touch without making it obvious]

#2 Flirt with him a little. Flirting is another way to let your man know your comfort with him. You don’t mind if he dares to hold your hand. Light flirting is a good way to ease tensions and relieve any existing awkwardness that discourages you both. [Read: These 40 flirty questions will leave your guy thinking of you alone]

#3 Act a little touchy. When confronted by a touchy girl, guys feel more at ease to hold a girl’s hand. If the girl herself initiates touching, guys see this as a form of “permission” to holding a girl’s hand. Once a girl shows a guy that they’re on the level of hugs, tickling, and walking arm over shoulder, then holding hands will be a piece of cake.

#4 Close in on him. Of course, a guy cannot hold your hand if you’re far. To increase the chances of him holding your hand, stay close to him. Close in on him so your hand is easily accessible. Borrow his arm when you walk together or grip his forearm just above the wrist so that you slide your hand down to his in case you feel gutsy. [Read: 15 ways to make a man chase you and fall really hard]

#5 Make your hand available for him. If you want your hand held, make sure it is free and available. Make sure that your hand-holding hand is free from your phone, purse, and out of your pocket. If you sit next to him, place that hand just about near his reach but not too close that it touches. The rest will be up to him to decide.

#6 Initiate the “pressure test.” The pressure test determines how he will respond to a hand-holding situation. To do this, take note of where he rests his hand. Once you target that hand, place your hand near it and wait for a few moments.

Then, move your finger that it slightly brushes against his several times. If he touches your fingers back, be confident. He  wants to hold your hand! [Read: 15 subtle flirting moves to bring them closer to you effortlessly]

#7 When his hand accidentally touches yours, don’t flinch. Let it rest there. There are some random moments when both your hands accidentally or intentionally touch. When something like this happens and his hand happens to rest on yours, let it stay there. Then, smile back at him. It’s a good invitation when it comes to knowing how to get a guy to hold your hand.

#8 Use the “lingering high five” trick. A high five is a staple type of friendly touch. We do this with most of our friends. When you get a high five opportunity with your guy, do the usual. But let your hands linger together for the longest time you can allow. Then interact like usual. Another way to nail the lingering high five is to snatch his hand right after the high five playfully. [Read: How to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and leave him smitten]

#9 Compare your hand sizes. This technique is a classic in the how to get a guy to hold your hand playbook. Best done during awkward silent moments, first ask if you can borrow his hand.

Once he agrees, grab him by the wrist and place your other hand over his for comparison. Innocently remark how big his hands are. From there, go for the hand capture where you lock fingers together or caress his hand while making eye contact. [Read: 21 traits that make you the cutest couple]

#10 Use the right moment to lead him by the hand. Another way, catch him off guard. Just grab him by the hand in an opportune moment. Walking together through a thick crowd and don’t want to get lost? Take him by the hand and help him navigate through the crowd.

Want to get out of a boring party? Grab his hand and hold on until you leave. This technique can be used in many different situations. [Read: 15 classy ways to make a guy go crazy over you]

#11 Just go for it when both of you are alone. In the end, if the thing keeping you from holding his hand is the fear of being seen by others, do it in those moments where you are alone together. The intimacy coupled with the romantic atmosphere does wonders to help you find the courage.

[Read: How to make a guy incredibly horny just by sitting next to him]

Both men and women love to hold the hand of the person special to them, but sometimes they are afraid to do so. But if motivated enough, this is how to get a guy to hold your hand.

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Paul Timothy Mangay
Paul Timothy Mangay
Paul aka Morty is a keyboard-pounding cubicle-dweller based in Manila where he occasionally moonlights as a writer for anyone in need of his mediocre word-strin...
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