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Asking a girl out on a date is nerve wracking. But knowing how to ask a girl out on a date is easy with these 15 inspiring ideas.

Understanding how to ask a girl out on a date is a little daunting at times, but if you don’t try, you’ll never know what could have been! Of course, your chances of a yes greatly increase if you put a little effort and thought into it and come up with a charming and unique way of asking her out.

When it comes to asking a girl out on a date, there are lots of things to help make sure she agrees. Just remember, if she likes you back she will probably say yes, even if you do stumble over your words or make a mistake. However, if you ask her out in a calm and confident way she’ll be impressed right from the start and looks forward to your date from the outset. [Read: The subtle art of flirting by touch and arousing a girl]

How to ask a girl out on a date

Many guys find it difficult to know what to say or suggest when asking a girl out on a date, but with these 15 great ways you’ll feel much more confident that this one is in the bag!

It’s a good idea to try and figure out whether she likes you too. She might play hard to get or just not be interested at all. If it’s the latter, save yourself time and heartache! So, before you actually ask her… Let’s take a look at how to ask a girl out on a date! [Read: 12 signs she’s just being a tease and wants you to chase her]

#1 Check out her body language. Does she smile at you? Do you always seem to lock eyes whenever you are in the same room? Does she play with her hair or blush when she talks to you? Noticing her body language, the way she acts around you, whether she touches you, if her eyes light up when you talk to one another all help you decide whether she is keen too.

If she seems defensive or disinterested or like she tries to avoid you or ignore you, she may be telling you not to bother! [Read: The 15 body language clues to watch for in a girl you like]

#2 Test the waters. We know asking a girl out directly feels a bit overwhelming, so why not test the waters by striking up a conversation with her first? You don’t have to immediately show your hand. Just be friendly and chat with her for a bit and leave it at that.

The next time you see her strike up a conversation again. Don’t keep this up for too long otherwise you run the risk of ending up in the ‘friend’ zone. Instead keep it light and flirty, and ask her out in good time.

#3 Offer to help her. We’re not saying you must be a knight in shining armor but offering to help her with something shows her your interest as well as being a true gentleman! Offer to pay for her coffee, your coat if she looks cold, open a door for her, or carry her bags. If she accepts your help this is a good sign that she is interested in you too. [Read: White knight syndrome: Get off your horse and save yourself first]

#4 Make an effort. If you want to ask her out, make sure you don’t blow your chances by letting yourself down. It doesn’t take that much bother to make sure you picked out a cool outfit to wear, taken a shower, and put on some nice cologne. If you look and smell nice you make a good impression.

If you don’t make any effort at all this could be off-putting to her and signal you don’t think she is worth the effort and won’t make much of an effort when you actually take her out either.

So now that you have the basics down, consider these things when actually asking her out.

#5 Make sure she’s available. There is nothing worse than spending all this time preparing and plucking up your courage only to find out she has boyfriend already. So, make sure, if possible, to find out whether she is available first. [Read: How to tell if a girl has a boyfriend without asking her directly]

#6 Be confident. Confidence goes a long way. Wait until you feel prepared and confident before you ask her out. If you shake or stutter she might think this is cute, but you don’t want her to feel sorry for you! Stand up straight, speak clearly, and act like she is definitely saying yes.

#7 Smile. A big smile goes a long way and makes you seem more friendly, attractive, and fun. So, even if you feel super nervous, don’t forget to smile. [Read: How to smile more often and change your life forever]

#8 Keep it casual. The more you make a big fuss of asking her out, the more you put pressure on her which is off putting. Even if you are a massive romantic it might be a good idea to save the grand romantic gestures for later down the line. When it comes to understanding how to ask a girl out on a date, especially in the first instance just keep everything casual, light-hearted, and fun. You will more likely to get a yes.

#9 Don’t go into too much detail. In the interest of keeping it light and fun, there is no need to go into too much detail about where you plan to take her or what you plan to do on your date. Loads of details might seem a bit overwhelming. Try to keep some things a mystery.

#10 Don’t go too crazy with your plans. While coming up with a weird and wonderful plan could swing the odds in your favor, if you aren’t sure, just stick to asking her out to do something normal in the first instance.

#11 Make her laugh. If you make her laugh, you are so much more likely to get a yes. If she’s laughing not only will she find you more attractive, she also feels more relaxed and comfortable around you too. [Read: How to make a girl laugh and like you instantly]

#12 Start a conversation first. Don’t just run up to her and scream ‘WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME???’ in her face. Lead up to it with a casual conversation first. Then, when the time feels right, just go for it. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you without actually asking her]

#13 Think about the time and place. Make sure the setting works in your favor. Don’t ask her out when she looks like she is in a rush to get somewhere or busy and flustered at work. Pick the right time. Your chances of her saying yes increase.

#14 Prepare what you are going to say. Having a loose script of what you will say is just good preparation! You don’t want to get tongue tied. Make sure you practiced what you are going to say, but don’t stick rigidly to it word for word. Otherwise, you’ll get even more flustered if she says something unexpected! [Read: 15 secrets to make any girl fall for you]

#15 Be prepared for rejection. Remember, no matter how prepared you are, sometimes it just isn’t meant to be and that’s okay. The more chilled and friendly you are if she says no the better you come across. You never know, it might just change her mind!

[Read: The 15 absolute best ways to ask a girl out and get a definite yes]

Knowing how to ask a girl out on a date with these tips helps you feel prepared, calm, confident, and ready. Just remember, if she says yes that’s great. If she doesn’t, there are plenty more fish in a sea!

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Bethany Locke
Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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