Does the question “should I ask her out?” constantly hover in your mind, and yet, you just can’t seem to find the courage to actually make the move? It’s understandable, asking anyone out can be scary. No one wants to get their feelings hurt or be humiliated by someone turning them down.
Sometimes, this can get really confusing too. At times, you’re convinced she really likes you. And at other times, you’re just not sure. Now, in the worst case scenario, she’s blowing hot and cold and leading you on. But there are ways to know for sure if she isn’t, and is only trying to get your attention. So if you’re wondering if you should ask her out, you should. Why is that?
Well, the problem is, the longer you have a crush on someone and don’t do anything about it, the more risk you’ll end up in the friend zone. Or worse still, your crush will end up going out with someone else and be taken off the market altogether.
So if you like a girl, what can you do to minimize your chances of rejection if you do take the plunge and ask her out? Well, that’s where we can help! [Read: 18 clear signs you’re in a girl’s friend zone already]
Should I ask her out? 30 subtle hints she’s crazy about you and waiting for you to make a move
Often, it is easy to miss the signals that a girl is giving you that says she likes you. So we’ve listed 30 signs to look out for. If she’s giving you these signs, then you know that she wants you to ask her out. And if you do, you will almost certainly get a positive response.
#1 See if she makes an effort to be around you. Obviously, if a girl wants you to ask her out, she is going to want to spend as much time as possible with you. She can’t hope for you to ask her out if you are never around each other, so this just makes good sense!
If you find yourself bumping into her more often than usual, she is probably making sure she goes where you do so you have more chances to chat. If this happens, stop wondering, should I ask her out, and just do it already! [Read: The most obvious signs she wants you to ask her out]
#2 If she comes over to speak to you. If you’re at a party or in a bar and when you arrive she makes a beeline straight for you, it’s because she wants to spend every second with you. She’s obviously interested, so just bite the bullet and ask her out!
#3 She seems to be staring at you a lot. Eye contact is the name of the game, so if you find that you keep catching her eye gaze, and she smiles and then looks away, she is definitely flirting with you! [Read: How to ask her out when you’re a shy guy]
#4 She smiles at you. Smiling is our way of telling someone that we like them, that we are interested in them, and that we want to interact with them some more. If she can’t help but show her pearly whites every time you are around, then it’s clearly because she’s got a major crush going on.
#5 She touches you. Being physically affectionate with someone is a sure fire sign that they like you. So if she always finds an excuse to touch your arm or give you a hug, it’s because she likes you, silly!
#6 She buys you gifts. Money can’t buy you love, but it certainly can’t do any harm either! If she’s always giving you cute and thoughtful gifts, it is because she is trying to show you how much she cares. [Read: Cute ways to ask a girl out that are sure to get a yes]
#7 She compliments you. Complimenting you is a pretty obvious sign that she likes you. Compliment her back and then stop asking the question, should I ask her out?!
#8 She asks questions. Asking questions shows that she is interested in you and wants to get to know you better. Make sure you reciprocate, and once you have found out a little more about each other, if you like what you hear, why not take it to the next level and go on a date?
#9 She tries to make friends with your friends. If she’s making a real effort to hang out with your friends *yes, even that one who is a bit of a douche,* it’s because she wants to get to you. She knows you might ask their advice on whether or not to ask her out, and she wants them to be her biggest fans!
#10 She asks about your family. If she is taking an interest in your family, she is trying to show you how much she cares – a girl like that is definitely a keeper!
#11 She is interested in the same things as you. If she suddenly has all these hobbies and interests that just happen to be the same as yours, she’s clearly got a massive crush and wants you two to have a lot to talk about, and as much in common as possible. [Read: 15 body language clues a girl just can’t hide if she likes you]
#12 She flirts with you. What more is there to say with this one? If she is flirting, then take her for a drink pronto! Ummm, so that sure answers the question, should I ask her out, huh? [Read: How girls flirt – 15 signs she’s being more than just nice]
#13 She teases you. If she likes to gently tease you, then it’s probably her way of flirting with you. Being a bit mean and mocking you is putting up barriers because she likes you so much, so put her out of her misery and ask her out!
#14 She flirts with other guys. If she flirts with other guys, don’t despair. It is more than likely she is simply trying to make you jealous because she likes you so much. [Read: 30 wicked but effective moves girls use to make a guy jealous and ask her out]
#15 She gets really quiet. If she gets all quiet and flustered around you, it’s because you clearly have a very good *but nerve-wracking* effect on her. If you like her too, then why not see if you can calm her nerves by taking her out to getting to know one another better?
#16 She gets really loud. If she suddenly starts acting all loud and boisterous around you, it is probably because she is trying to show off and catch your attention – make sure you give it to her.
#17 She ignores you. If she ignores you every time you walk into a room, she is simply trying to make you want her more. Treat them mean, keep them keen! [Read: How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend]
#18 She keeps touching her hair. Research has shown that if a girl touches her hair, she’s doing so because she’s flirting. It’s a very self-conscious and feminine thing to do, so keep your eyes peeled to see if she does it when you are talking to her.
#19 She wants to be alone with you. If she is always finding reasons to be alone with you, she’s hoping that might be just the time for you to pluck up the courage to ask her out.
#20 She calls and texts you. Every time your phone beeps, it’s her? She desperately wants you to ask her out, so just go for it. Duh, stop asking the question, should I ask her out, and just do it already!
#21 She tells her friends about you. If her friends seem to know all about you, it’s because she has been talking about you to them! [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]
#22 Her friends seem to like you and/or tease her when you are around. If her friends like you, it’s because she’s been talking you up. Make sure you make an effort with her friends too, and then you’re golden.
#23 Her friends are always super psyched whenever the two of you are together. If her friends get all excitable whenever they see you two together, or say things about what a cute couple you are, they are probably not-so-subtly hinting that she likes you and the two of you should get together.
#24 She laughs at what you say. If she laughs at like, everything that comes out of your mouth, it’s because you make her nervous, she finds you funny, and she is trying to show you she likes you! It’s a no-brainer! [Read: 12 ways to tell if she’s flirting or just being nice to you]
#25 She asks you to do everything *except go on a date*. She keeps asking you to do things with her, yet they are all non-date scenarios. That’s because she is trying to subtly hint to you that she wants to spend time with you, but doesn’t want to put her heart on the line and ask you on a proper date. Be bold and make the first move!
#26 She wants to be in pictures with you. If every time you pose for a snap, her pretty little face crops up, it’s her cunning way of making sure you remember her. Has it worked?! [Read: First date tips for guys to charm your date]
#27 She agrees to do anything you suggest. Even your most boring suggestions seem like wonderful ideas to her! She wants to spend time with you whatever the pair of you are doing, so why not ask her on a real date?
#28 She doesn’t talk about other guys around you. If she’s only got eyes for you, that’s a pretty good sign she is looking to date you and you alone. [Read: How to read mixed signals and turn it into love]
#29 She’s made it clear that she is single. She’s told you *probably more than once* that she doesn’t have a boyfriend. Now why do you think that is?
#30 She’s asked you if you are single. She’s asking you directly. Take the hint!
[Read: The subtle art of avoiding a girl’s friend zone and making her desire you]
If she does indeed like you, you’re going to see a lot of these signs already. Of these 30 signs, could you find yourself nodding along to more than half of them? If that’s the case, she definitely is interested in you. Why isn’t she asking you out already? Maybe she’s shy, maybe she doesn’t want to blow the friendship, or just maybe, she’s unsure about her feelings for you. Use this guide on how to let a girl know you like her without actually telling her so she knows what’s on your mind too.
Use these signs to find out if she likes you for sure, and then, it’s time to ask yourself, do you like her? If you do, then just use the right steps to ask her out on a date like a real gentleman.
How to ask a girl to hang out – The crucial steps you must follow to do it right
These 30 ways are great signs to answer the question, should I ask her out? So what are you waiting for? Ask her out already!
Liked what you just read? Follow us on Instagram Facebook Twitter Pinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life.
Get the very best of LovePanky straight to your inbox!