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How to Get a Girl’s Number Every Single Time: 15 No-Fail Ways

Whether you met a girl at a bar or the bookstore, you need to learn how to get a girl’s number. That is if you want to ask her out on an actual date.

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Imagine this scenario – you meet a wonderful girl, and you start talking. You feel like there’s something there, so you really want to know how to get a girl’s number. The only problem is that you don’t know how to or extremely nervous about doing so.

It might look intimidating, but girls are also human, which means it’s really not that hard to get her number. A girl doesn’t just give her number to anyone, but she gives it to those she feels has an actual chance with her. This is why it’s important to develop some form of connection before asking for her number right away.

Why do girls play hard to get?

There are so many different reasons why a girl would play hard to get. Maybe she is shy and isn’t exactly “trying” to do it. Or maybe she actually IS hard to get and isn’t interested in a relationship. Or it could be that maybe she just wants to see you work for her.

It’s no surprise that guys love the chase so if a girl is playing hard to get in giving you her number, maybe she’s just testing to see how far you’re willing to go.

But it could also be that a girl isn’t really intentionally making things hard for you to get her number, but that she’s just awkward about it as you are. [Read: How to get a girl’s attention wherever you are]

Why do you need to get a girl’s number?

You can only develop an actual relationship with her and have a real shot if you get her number. You can’t do that if you’re stuck with face-to-face conversations.

If you know her number, then even when you’re apart, you can get to know each other a little bit better, and you can ask her out on a date. By knowing how to get a girl’s number, your dating life will benefit from this. [Read: Don’t walk away! How to ask a girl for her phone number]

How to get a girl’s number

Honestly, it really isn’t that difficult to figure out how to get a girl’s number. If you’ve been lucky enough to find a gal who has caught your eye, you might need a way to get her number – especially if she’s a stubborn one.

Even if girls seem like they don’t want to give their number to you, we definitely do – but we just want you to work a little harder for it.

If you think you’ve tried everything in the book, here’s a list of ways on how to get a girl’s number. By the end of this, you’ll realize it wasn’t so hard after all. [Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her]

1. Play it cool

Don’t be the kind of person that is creepy and giddy and weird about asking for her number. Playing it cool is how to interest a girl just enough so she can give you her number *her real number, not a fake one to make you go away.* This means no demanding of her number and calling her a bunch of names if she doesn’t give it to you.

No girl would give a complete stranger her number unless she thinks there’s a potential connection there. If you want to know how to get a girl’s number, don’t look too excited or eager to even have her number. The less hard you try, the more natural you’ll seem. [Read: How to play it cool with a girl & impress her by keeping your calm]

2. Don’t even ask for it

I know, I know. We’re talking about how to get a girl’s number and yet you can’t ask her? But asking her directly can push her off immediately, especially when you ask for it right away. The minute you flirt with her and all goes well potentially, then she’ll just naturally give her number without you even asking.

Right when you’re about to walk away, watch her offer you her number, and that’s when you know you’ve won. [Read: How to ask a girl out if you’re a shy guy]

3. Give her a compliment

Girls love compliments. We love being told how pretty we are and how our smile is captivating. However, these are not the compliments you actually want to give her. Girls can be tired of hearing these types of compliments all the time so it’s best to stick with compliments on her hobbies and interests.

The best compliment to give her that will heighten your chances of getting her number is to compliment her intelligence. [Read: 19 sweet compliments for girls that’ll make them go awww]

4. Make her feel comfortable around you first

Again, no girl would dare give her number to a complete stranger who could be a total creep. If you really want to know how to get a girl’s number, it’s all about finding that connection with her. You can do this by just talking with her like you would an old friend.

Talk about life, tell her a little bit about yourself, and maintain a comfortable distance. If you notice that she’s moving closer to you, you’ve already sealed the deal. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

5. Avoid cheesy pick-up lines

Girls do not fall for silly pick-up lines anymore. They can be surface-level so despite what the name suggests, you can’t pick up a girl with even the cheesiest pick-up lines. Sorry to say, but life isn’t an episode of How I Met Your Mother.

Don’t go around saying stuff like, “I lost my number, can I have yours?” It may get a little smile out of us, but it’s more than likely a pity smile. Just skip these and stick to being yourself. It works much better. [Read: 30 foolproof pickup lines & 10 you should never use]

6. Be charming

Some people naturally have charm so if you’re one of those people, you can use that to know how to get a girl’s number. Being witty and charming is something that girls like because it shows your intelligence, making them feel calm and comfortable around you.

It gives her a sense of who you are that’s outside your external characteristics. But remember – being charming and arrogant are two opposite things. You can be charming without sounding like a complete ass *you don’t want to learn this the hard way.* [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]

7. Make her WANT to give you her number

If you start talking about how relationships are overrated, and you’re just looking to take a break and chill with someone interesting and different, she will be ALL over that. It’ll be refreshing for her, and she’ll be intrigued enough to give you her number.

Okay, so maybe this doesn’t go for all girls, but she could be going for someone with a little mystery depending on where you met her and who she is.

8. Leave the conversation right when it gets good, and ask for her number to continue it

Leaving the conversation with a cliffhanger is one of the best ways on how to get a girl’s number. You’ll keep her looking for more when you leave her with a cliffhanger. This is a technique that honestly works almost all the time.

All you have to do is get a great conversation going with her, and then look at your watch or phone and tell her you have to leave – but really want to continue the conversation some other time. It takes a lot of strategy and technique to do this, but if you pull this off, you might just manage to get her number and capture her interest.

Just make sure to follow up with that text, and don’t be seen in another bar or place where she might run into you right after. [Read: How to win a girl’s heart and impress her effortlessly]

9. Just be honest and tell her that you want to get to know her better

Honesty is tough to come by in a guy. Girls sometimes feel like all they get are propositions from guys trying to impress us, and we just don’t like it. We want someone real. This is one of the best and most genuine ways to get her number without playing any games or mind tricks on her.

You’ll often see that this only works for girls who are pretty honest too. She’ll be happy you’re being so open and honest with her, and so she may oblige without any issues. [Read: Being brutally honest: 13 scenarios when it’s an obligation]

10. Accept that she won’t give it to you

Girls don’t like when guys are just okay with not having their number. So if she says, “no,” walk away. Just say, “okay,” and leave. If you’re patient, she’ll be coming after you to strike up a conversation and actually give you her number. It’s a little reverse psychology that works for stubborn and hard-headed girls, especially.

If you really want her number, then use this strategy to your advantage. This technique is risky, but it pays out big when you realize that she’s actually chasing after you. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]

11. Pay attention to her interests

Girls are all about finding that common ground in order to feel some type of connection with you. Maybe she’s passionate about art, or maybe she likes this Netflix show. Whatever it is, pay attention because her interests will be the key to getting her number.

Especially when you both have a mutual interest for something, then that’s how you can earn things in your favor and get her to give her number. [Read: Attraction theory: What makes you desirable in someone’s eyes?]

12. Make her laugh

There’s no better way to get a girl’s attention than by making her laugh. If you want to know how to get a girl’s number, then give your best joke and see where it takes you. When a girl laughs at your jokes, there’s a high probability she’ll give you her number since she finds you so fun to talk to.

So don’t hesitate to crack that joke and show your humor if you really want to get her number before the night ends. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly]

13. Don’t act like a playboy

Obviously, she’s not going to give you her number if you’re acting like a playboy, f*ckboy, or badboy. Unless her intentions are strictly casual and wants to have fun, then she won’t give you her number if she sees that many red flags on you.

Remember what we’ve mentioned about being charming? This should be common sense, but you really need to show your most charming and nice self when talking to her. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]

14. Just be yourself

You’ll be surprised how of all the things on this list of how to get a girl’s number, this is the one guys often forget. Did you ever think about how she doesn’t care about the whole mind games when you ask for her number? Maybe she just wants you to be real with her and try to get to know her.

None of that playing hard to get bullsh*t, but just being frank and direct with her. She might even give it to you without hesitation if things go really well between both of you. [Read: How to be yourself: 14 steps to unfake your life & love being you]

15. Hint that you want to see her again

Observe her interests – maybe you have something in common she’d like to do together. Maybe you both like the same movies, or maybe you just tell her directly you’ll love to get to know her better by seeing her again. Ask for her number and see where this takes you.

Of course, don’t ask this right away, but find the right timing to hint her with seeing her again. This works best when you’ve established a common ground *like maybe you both like Marvel movies or Taylor Swift!*

[Read: 15 things to do on a first date to make your date fall for you]

So, how to get a girl’s number?

Be charming, stay true to who you are, and be as genuine as you can. Even if some girls like engaging in the chase, this tactic doesn’t work for all girls. Some are just waiting for you to be frank with them to ask their number, on the circumstance there’s a connection.

Hopefully by now, you have some new ideas for how to get a girl’s number. See, that wasn’t so hard now, was it? With these 20 tips, you’ll be having her number in no time!

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...