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How to Tell if a Girl Has a Boyfriend Without Asking Her Directly

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There’s nothing worse that wondering if your crush is in vain. Here are all the tips for how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend, without even asking her.

You like a girl, but is she taken? There’s no point in wasting your Prince Charming routine on someone who’s already been wooed. If you have a crush on a girl and you want to start making your intentions clear, you’ll probably want to start by figuring out if she’s even single.

If you want to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend, it might seem easy, but there are some factors that can get in the way of your detective work… especially if you don’t want to cut out the middle-man and just ask.

When you like someone, you pour your whole heart and soul into adoring their very being. So why waste all of your lovin’ efforts on someone who’s taken? Luckily for you, there are some sneaky and downright obvious ways to tell if your crush is in a relationship or not. It’s just up to you to put in the extra effort to find out.

Why it’s hard to tell if a girl is in a relationship

You’d think it’d be crystal clear whether your crush is attached. If a girl has a boyfriend, surely you would have heard about him by now… right? Wrong. Here are some of the most common reasons why your crush is throwing a wrench in your romantic plans.

#1 She flirts with everybody. Just because she’s in a relationship doesn’t mean she’s not a flirty girl. Her lusty eyes and sarcastic quips are leaving you tingling, but does that mean she’s single… or just flirtatious in nature? [Read: Is a girl with a boyfriend flirting with you? What you need to do]

#2 She doesn’t talk about her boyfriend. Just because a girl is in a relationship doesn’t mean she wants to be ‘that girl’ who actively looks for ways to bring her boyfriend up in conversation. While her friends may be grateful she’s not bragging about her boy toy, it can leave a confusing mess for you. Oops.

#3 You never see her with another guy. This might seem like a great indication that your crush is riding the single train, but there are plenty of reasons why you’ve never bumped into your crush with her man. What if he lives in another city, goes to a different school, or they’re just homebodies? The mystery continues.

Here’s how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend

Don’t let your butterflies go to waste on a girl who’s already taken. Here are the sure-fire ways for how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend without even asking her.

#1 Is she straight? Forget about a boyfriend, does she have a girlfriend? The reason you never see her getting cozy around town with a guy may not be because she is single, she just may not be playing for your team. This is a good one to figure out before you even begin the courting process. Check out the article “Is she straight? 6 clear signs to know for sure!” to see if your gaydar is failing.

#2 She talks about him all the time. One way to tell if a girl has a boyfriend is to listen to her. When you ask about her weekends does she say, “We saw a movie” or “We had a low-key night,” but never really mentions who this vague pronoun could be? It’s probably her boyfriend.

Other girls may be more open about the subject and will talk about her man openly. One way to find out about her current status is to ask about past relationships.

Somewhere along the line drop in a ‘What was the best relationship you ever had?’ Or ‘What was the worst?’ question, and she’ll probably let it slip whether she’s currently attached. [Read: How to get a girl with a boyfriend to like you]

#3 Ask her friends. You may not want to ask her directly if she’s attached, but you could always ask her friends. Ask if your crush is interested in anybody at the moment. Either her bestie will say no or will inform you that your crush has a boyfriend.

Just remember that friends talk, and this route may lead to your crush finding out about your interest in her. This is an effective strategy for figuring out how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend.

#4 Social media stalker. So, you want to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend? You’ll be happy to know that social media is a great way to solve this little mystery. Most Facebook users state their relationship status in their profile.

Twitter users will @ their sweethearts in various tweets and Instagram girls will post photos of her and her fella. If she uses social media, she probably enjoys flaunting the good things that happen in her life. If she’s in a happy relationship, then this should easily include her boyfriend!

#5 Her behavior. Your crush’s behavior is going to say a lot about whether she’s on the market or not. If she’s flirting or getting touchy-feely with you, she *might* be coming on to you. Then again, she may just be a flirtatious girl.

But don’t worry, there are other indicators in single behavior. For example, is she glued to her phone, always getting texts, and smiling like a Cheshire cat when she responds? Boyfriend alert.

Is she often dressed to the nines and looking to impress? Research shows that girls on the prowl will dress more scandalously than girls who are in relationships. To put it crassly? Most of us can tell the difference between a girl looking to bone, from one who gets enough at home.

Side note, however. This is a tricky strategy for knowing how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend because behavior can be so easily misinterpreted. So just keep that in mind.

#6 Trick questions. Want to ask your crush if she has a boyfriend without actually asking? Here are a couple trick questions to get the job done. [Read: 13 clues that will tell you if she’s single or taken]

– Do you have plans this weekend? If yes, she’ll probably mention where she and her man are headed to.

– What does your boyfriend think of *behavior or silly habit she has?* You must drive him crazy! This is an innocent way of flirting while inquiring whether she’s taken or not.

– I think I saw you and your boyfriend at *location* yesterday. Obviously, you didn’t. Still, it’s a great way to get her to reveal whether she was with a guy recently.

#7 Ask her out. Want to know the easiest way to know if she’s single or taken? It’s some men’s theory to simply treat her likes she’s single until she lets you know otherwise.

This means you’re free to flirt, tease, text, and ask her out. Tell her you’re going to take her out for an unforgettable first date, and unless she tells you she already has a guy to take her out, assume she’s free and interested. [Read: The manual of girlfriend stealing – How to steal another man’s girl effortlessly]

#8. She’s always busy. If you have already tried to ask her out and she’s given you the brush off, or you find that she’s has a seemingly endless social calendar, odds are she already has a boyfriend. Or she’s just not into you. Either way, the message is clear.

[Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere]

Liking someone who’s attached is about as useful and as helpful as a hand cramp. Learn how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend before you get your heart attached, and you’ll save yourself a world of frustration.

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Waverly Smith
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