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How to Tell If a Girl Is Into You: 17 Subtle Signs You Should Go for It

Learning how to tell if a girl is into isn’t always easy. Is she shy? Is she playing hard to get? Follow these signs to know for sure.

How to Tell If a Girl Is into You

The dating world is nowhere near free of games. However, even when games aren’t the culprit, understanding how to tell if a girl is into you is not simple. Not only are some girls shy, but others are friendly with everyone. That is to say, it can all be a little confusing. [Read: 10 ways to read between the lines when it comes to dating]

In any case, whether you want to let her down easily, or ask her out, figuring out if she’s into you is the best way to prepare. With that, you really need to open your eyes. Follow all the signs, subtle and otherwise, so that you know for sure.

Now is when you learn how to read those signs a girl is into you.

Are you into her?

If this is a girl you like, the stakes can feel high. Moreover, you are nervous and worried all your dreams are going to crumble. Above all, you want to know if you can ask her out without the fear of rejection.

But, if this is a friend that you think likes you, and you don’t feel the same way, you may want to know for sure. This way, you don’t lead her on. Either way, it is hard to make a move without knowing what you’re getting into. [Read: 12 ways to face your fear of rejection]

There are plenty of reasons why you would want to know if a girl is into you. But, don’t let those alter your judgment. If you do, you may see what you want to see, rather than what is really there. It seems odd, but removing your feelings, and seeing things how they actually are, can give you a head start.

If you like her, you may interpret some signs a girl is into you, when in fact, she isn’t. But, in the event you want to let her down and don’t want to, you may overlook some signs she is into you. [Read: The 10 best ways to let her down easy]

To avoid this, try to look at the signs a girl is into you without those worries or hopes. It can be difficult to shut those feelings down, even for a moment. But, doing so will help you see things clearly.

Why can’t you just ask her if she’s into you?

Well, you can. In fact, I’d recommend it. But, if reading situations and hints is your thing, go for it. Straight out asking a girl if she likes you is probably the easiest in terms of time and thought. But, it can also be the scariest.

Even so, I always recommend just going for it. Take the risk. What’s the worst that could happen? You get rejected, and then you move on.

But, that is easier said than done. Not everyone has the confidence to just spit it out. So, depending on your level of guts, this could be ideal, or terrible for you.

If that sounds like emotional torture, luckily for you, there is another option. With time, patience, and practice, you can learn how to tell if a girl is into you. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you *without really asking*]

How to tell if a girl is into you

Things like hugs to leaning on you for emotional support, and even Snapchatting you, can be signs that a girl is into you. But, they can also just be signs that you are close friends, or that she is just friendly. How do you figure it out? [Read: 12 signs she definitely likes you]

Keep your eyes open, and pay attention to her behavior more than you worry about your own. You will figure it out.

#1 Does she blush around you?

This is definitely something not all guys would notice. It is certainly subtle, but if you tell her she looks nice or even sit near her, and her cheeks go rosy, she may like you. At the very least, she is probably attracted to you, which is a start.

Try complimenting her and she how she reacts. If that isn’t clear enough for you, try this…

With her consent, put a strand of hair behind her ear. If she blushes and feels warm, odd are she is into you. [Read: How to make her melt with just a simple touch]

#2 Does she laugh at your jokes?

If you are pretty hit or miss with your humor, but she is always laughing, she may be into you. Laughing with someone is an automatic response when you like them. Even if things aren’t funny, laughing is a sign of nerves.

If she is into you, she is probably at least somewhat nervous. She may be extra smiley or giggly around you.

If she consistently has a good time with you and wants you to know it by laughing at your jokes or telling you you’re funny, this could be a good sign that she is into you.

Just be sure to really pay attention, though. When girls are uncomfortable they also tend to laugh, because it makes the situation feel less awkward. It can be hard to see the difference between genuine laughter and this if you don’t know what you’re looking for.

If she likes you she will make eye contact and have no problem facing you. If she is uncomfortable she will look away and face her body in the opposite direction, hoping you’ll take the hint.

#3 She teases you

This may be a touch juvenile, but since pre-K days teasing someone has been a telltale sign there is a crush in the air. Personally, this is not my favorite sign someone is into you, because it can be disrespectful. But, in some cases, some mild teasing can be cute.

Just like all those will-they, won’t-they TV shows, some fighting like an old married couple is a sure sign she likes you. Not only is she comfortable with you, but she likes to push your buttons a little too.

When a girl teases you for something it is because she knows you well enough to do so. Sure, this could be simply friendly, but when it comes with some gentle nudges on the arm, it could be a sign she is into you. [Read: Body language cues a girl gives if she’s into you

#4 She texts you out of the blue

This doesn’t count if it’s in a group message, but if she sends you memes, and Snapchats throughout the day, she is thinking of you. I for one, don’t send memes to guys that aren’t my boyfriend or my brothers, if that helps ease your mind.

And if she is thinking of you, whether it’s to send you a photo of her cat, or a funny face, there are certainly feelings there. She doesn’t try to get the right angle for a selfie just for fun. The odds are, she is trying to impress you or get your attention. [Read: How to flirt with her via text]

If you like her and she does this, take it as a positive sign she is into you.

#5 She focuses on you when you’re in a group

If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl is into you, keep an eye on her behavior when you’re talking to her in a group. Whether you are at a party or hanging with a few friends, and she talks to you more than anyone else, she wants more time with you. And when you want more time with someone, there is a reason for that.

Does she tend to sit near you? Does she make eye contact with you from across the room? These are signs she has some level of connection with you.

So, pay attention if she steers her attention toward you when there are plenty of other people around. Also, if she touches your arm, or leans into you when it isn’t necessary, she may be subtly hinting that she wants to be closer to you. [Read: 8 ways to know if she is flirting with you or not]

#6 She talks to you about her dating life

She could be complaining about the single life or even talking about a date she went on. Or she may wants to see how you’ll react. While you want to know if she is into you, she may be wondering the same thing about you.

Yes, some girls talk to their guy friends about dating to see how guys’ minds work. But, if she is complaining more than really talking about one guy, she may be hoping you’ll take that as a hint, and make her dating life better.

Be aware of this. If she wants to study your reaction to her dating other guys, it may be a sort of test. [Read: 12 obvious signs she really wants you to ask her out]

#7 She asks for your opinion

When a girl is interested in you, she will want to know your preferences, what you like, and don’t like. From TV shows to music and even her style, she’ll want to know more about you.

A girl who isn’t interested in you won’t be as intrigued by your hobbies. She will pay attention when you talk about things you’re passionate about. She may even take some interest in these things herself, so that she can share them with you.

When you’re interested in someone you want to know more about them. That is exactly what she is doing.

#8 Ask her friends

Girls talk to their friends about everything. If you really think she may be interested in you, ask her friends. Now they may not tell you out of respect for her privacy. But a subtle and sneaky friend might just give you a nudge in the right direction.

And, if you don’t think that her friend will give you a straight answer, tell the friend that you’re thinking about asking her out, but don’t want to take her off guard or make her uncomfortable. With that, her friend will surely help you out in some way. Her reaction should give you your answer. [Read: Unique ways to get your crush to notice you]

#9 Mention your dating life

This might seem counterintuitive, but if she hears you talking about how you hate being single or the dating game is too much, her reaction will speak volumes. Remember, you are not trying to make her jealous, but feeling her out.

She may offer for you to hang out or clam up if you talk about a date with someone else. Think about how you react when she talks about dating. Does she react like that? Or is she pushing you to make thing work with someone else?

Her reaction will show you how she feels about you dating. If she is totally cool with it, she may not be as interested as you think.

#10 She touches you

Pull your mind out of the gutter. Is she fixes your hair, adjusts your collar, or just lightly touches you arm when you’re talking, there is a good chance she is into you. When a girl touches you she is comfortable around you.

She may want to be even closer to you. When she only views you as a friend or a brother she will not be as likely to make such intimate touches. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she actually likes you]

Also, be aware of her hands. If they are a little clammy or sweaty it could be a sign she has some nerves around you.

#11 Is she staring?

Don’t take this as a creepy sign she is too into you. When you like someone you naturally look in their direction. Whether you work together, have a class together, or are in the same friend group, her eyes will find you in a crowd.

You’ll probably pick up on this because you are looking at her as well. If you catch each other staring often, and more importantly, follow that up with a nervous smile, there is some chemistry in the air. [Read: How to make eye contact without looking weird]

#12 Does she dress up?

Even the most confident of girls want to look attractive to someone they are into. If her feelings are new she may start looking a little different. Now, I know guys aren’t always keen to these small changes like hairstyle, makeup, or even clothes, but try to be.

Is she wearing more makeup? Is she dressed up? Perhaps she styled her hair a new way. Also, remember the compliments you may have given her. If you said you liked her in a certain color and she wears that color around you a lot there is a reason. [Read: All the signs that she’s craving your attention]

Try to pick up on these small things, because these are all great ways to learn how to know if she’s into you.

#13 She opens up

Friends are great. You may talk to your friends about tons of things. But, when a girl likes you her trust starts to grow. She may open up more and be a bit more vulnerable. Part of her, maybe even a subconscious part, wants to know if you’re boyfriend material.

She may discuss personal things with you like her childhood or family issues. Getting closer with you, emotionally, is a great way to feel things out and create a stronger bond. When she lets her guard down it also helps you to see her differently.

#14 She compliments you

I already told you to look at her reaction to your compliments, but she may be doing the same to you.

I have always been very careful not to compliment guy friends I’m not into, because I didn’t want to give them the wrong idea. So, odds are that if she is complimenting your style or skills it is because she is trying to get you to notice her interest. [Read: If she does this, she likes you]

#15 You can’t shake the feeling

Sometimes you can’t quantify the vibes you’re getting. You may not be able to describe the signs she’s into you, but you feel it.

Your gut may not be 100% right all the time, but it is a good sign that she is into you. That doesn’t mean all these signs are for not. It just means you have a feeling that your feelings are mutual.

#16 She is dropping clues

Some girls are shy and subtle and others are throwing clues in your face. Even when you’re looking for signs she’s into you, they can go right over your head.

If she brings up a new restaurant she wants to try or how she is dying to go to a local game she isn’t just making conversation. She is giving you a set-up to make a move and ask her to hang out one-on-one. [Read: Learn how to interpret her clues]

No offense, but guys can be completely oblivious to the signs that a girl is into them. Really try to be on your toes.

#17 Ask her

Yes, I mentioned this earlier, but this really is your best move, especially if you like her back. When you’re looking into how to tell if a girl is into you, asking her straight up is bold and ballsy.

Not only will she be impressed by your confidence, but you’ll now know, either way and move forward based on that choice.

If you want to let her down easy, though, asking her straight up could get her hopes up. So, stick with this option if you’re hoping for a positive outcome. If you’re worried your friend likes you because you don’t feel the same, try to give her a more subtle hint, so that she doesn’t feel so blatantly rejected.

You can tell her! Make it clear you’re interested in someone else, or even encourage her to go out with someone else. Unless she 100% makes it clear she is interested, you don’t need to embarrass her or yourself for that matter, in the case that you’re wrong.

[Read: The RIGHT ways to make your big move]

If you’re wondering how to tell if a girl is into you, hopefully, this gave you some insight and guidance. And now you can take that knowledge and use it in your dating life moving forward. 

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Samantha Ann
My name is Samantha Ann. I am 28 years old. It was always my dream to become an advice columnist, so after years of off and online dating and eventually finding...