27 Clear Signs She’s Not Interested in You Anymore & Getting Bored

Sometimes women can be difficult to figure out. She might blow hot and cold, and it confuses you. So, here are the signs she’s not interested in you.

signs that she's not interested

So, you think you’re in love! Or at least crushing on a hot girl. Either way, you just don’t seem to know if the feeling is mutual. They always say that it’s difficult to figure women out, but if you know how to read them, it’s not difficult at all. Not all girls drop hints or signs that she’s not interested, but if you know how to read them well, you’ll see the right signs in no time!

[Read: Why did she suddenly lose interest in you and what you need to learn from it]

What makes a girl not interested in a guy?

Human attraction is an interesting thing. Sometimes it’s difficult to describe why you are attracted to one person, but not another. They could both be equally good-looking and have nice personalities, but for some reason, one just doesn’t turn you on.

So, before we talk about the signs that a girl isn’t interested in you, we first need to discuss some common things that make girls pass a guy by.

Once you understand these core traits that are a huge turn-off for girls, it would be a lot easier to understand the exact reasons why a specific girl isn’t into you *we’ll get to that below*.

[Read: Turn offs for women – 25 things guys do that girls absolutely hate]

1. Lack of confidence

When a guy doesn’t have self-confidence, a girl can sense it right away. It can be in the way he talks, walks, or interacts with you. It could even be the way he looks. Either way, girls know when you don’t feel good about yourself. [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]

Unfortunately, girls like guys who are comfortable in their skin. It means they can take charge in the relationship and be a protector.

She may not even need this, but subconsciously, a lot of girls desire this in a partner.

2. No physical attraction

As we said above, physical chemistry is something you just can’t explain. Think about it. You and your friend might both look at the same girl, and you think she’s hot but he doesn’t. Why? It’s the same girl! Well, it’s just a personal preference. Sometimes, it may not be so much about the signs she’s not interested in you, and more to do with subtle evolutionary preferences.

Also, there is some actual physical chemistry that is lacking. People put out hormones called pheromones, and this either turns someone on or off. They have to be compatible with their chemistry for there to be an attraction. [Read: What are pheromones? The secret scent of sex and the role they play in attraction]

3. Personality differences

She might be really friendly, outgoing, and have a lot of friends. In other words, she’s an extrovert. She likes to go to parties and hang out with a lot of people. 

If she perceives you as more of an introvert or a shy guy, that might not be attractive to her. It doesn’t even have to be that. Maybe she likes guys who are really funny but you’re not. If she thinks your personalities don’t match up, maybe that’s why she’s not interested.

4. Situational

Maybe you work together, are her best friend’s brother, or a lot younger or older than she is. She might even like you and consider going out with you under different circumstances, but not with the one you find yourselves in.

Sometimes you can’t do anything about his one if you’re wondering about the signs a girl is not interested in you. You can’t disown your sister or make yourself younger or older. But you could theoretically get another job. But regardless, her disinterest in you could be situational. [Read: How to flirt with girls – 25 secrets to help you win her over]

5. Recently out of a breakup

She could be recently out of a relationship. And maybe she’s still hung up on her ex and not ready to start dating again. If this is true, it’s probably not you. She just needs time.

On the other hand, maybe you just broke up with someone and she thinks that you are not ready. Either way, she’s probably right. You don’t want to be a rebound, do you? And she doesn’t want to be yours either. [Read: What is a rebound relationship? 12 ways to know you’re in one]

6. No ambition

There is this stereotype that all girls want a rich guy. Well, that can be true for a lot of them, but not all. However, if you lack ambition in life and she doesn’t see your life going anywhere, that might be a turn-off for her.

She might perceive you as lazy if you are living in your parents’ basement and playing video games 24/7. No girl wants that. Or, maybe you just live a simple life, and she desires to have a more extravagant lifestyle. Either way, this will translate into clear signs she’s not interested in you because she might not think you are a good match.

7. Too nice or bad boy?

We’ve all heard the phrase, “nice guys finish last.” Sometimes that’s true, but not as a general rule. Some girls really like nice guys and prefer them to bad boys. So, if you’re a bad boy, she might not like you because of that. [Read: Nice guy syndrome – 16 things overly nice guys do and how to fix them ASAP]

However, if you’re a nice guy, she might prefer the bad boy. Some girls just like drama, and that’s what those guys provide.

If that’s true, then don’t worry about it. You’re not a good match, and she would be difficult to be in a relationship with anyway.

20 signs that she’s not interested in you and you need to walk away

After you read these signs she’s not interested in you, you’ll probably think, “Doh!” In other words, these are pretty obvious signs that she’s not interested. But sometimes we’re blinded by love and we miss these red flags – or even choose to ignore them.

But fear not… here are the ways you can know that she’s not interested in you. [Read: How to tell if a girl is interested – 20 signs she’s really into you]

1. She doesn’t text you back quickly

So, you send her a text at noon. The hours go by. Suddenly, it’s 5:00… then 6:00… then midnight. Why hasn’t she looked at her phone in the last 12 hours?

Trust me, she has. She has just chosen not to text you back right away – on purpose. [Read: When a girl doesn’t text back – why girls do that and what you need to do ASAP]

2. When she does reply, it’s just with a word or two

It might even be a day or two until she responds. And when she does, it might just be something like “Lol” or “Sure” or “Yup.” She isn’t interested in having an ongoing long texting conversation, because it’s one of the signs that she’s not interested in you.

3. She doesn’t get close to you and avoids physical contact

If you guys go out to a sports bar and sit at a table, she will sit across from you, not beside you. And she won’t playfully touch your arm or maybe not even hug you. She doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea.

4. If you ever hear the word “friend” when she is referring to you

Guys, please hear this! If a girl says, “I think we would be great friends,” or “I think we’re better as friends,” well, this is one of the HUGE signs that she’s not interested in you romantically.

But it’s amazing how many guys don’t think she’s serious or take it as a sign that she doesn’t really mean it. Trust me… she DOES mean it.

5. She doesn’t give you firm answers about whether you can get together

If you try to make plans with her, she says vague things like, “Sounds fun!” If she’s not saying things like, “Great! What day and time should we go?” then it’s one of the signs that she’s not interested and may even flake on you in the last minute. [Read: 10 clear signs you need to back off when pursuing a girl]

6. You haven’t met any of her friends

If she’s into you, then she will want to get all of her friends’ opinions. So, she will introduce you to them.

Or even if she does have you meet her friends, maybe it’s because she considers you one of her friends too and wants to include you in her gang. Get my point?

7. She always “has to check her calendar” 

Similar to the fifth sign, saying she has to check her calendar is another way of saying, “I really don’t want to, so I’ll take a long time to check my calendar, and I hope you forget about it in the meantime.”

8. She never initiates communication

If she’s into you, she will initiate talking to you AT LEAST 50% of the time. But if you’re the only one who always sends the texts first, then you are not on her mind.

Even girls who are trying to play hard to get don’t play THAT hard to get. She’s trying to send you one of the signs that she’s not interested in you. [Read: 10 creepy guys types girls avoid – Don’t be one!]

9. She never suggests that you hang out 

Not only does she not initiate communication with you, she never tries to make any plans with you. Why? Because you are low on her priority list. She has other people she’d rather hang out with.

10. She only wants to hang out with you in groups

Let’s face it, if the two of you are alone, then there is more of a chance that some romance could happen. Or that you could get the idea that she may want it to happen. So, it’s easier for her if you just hang out in groups. That way, you won’t get the wrong idea.

11. She never wants to do anything that seems “date-ish” 

She probably won’t go to dinner, to a play, or even a movie because well… that sounds like a date. And it feels like a date. So, she’s likely to stay away from any date-like scenarios with you. [Read: 13 naughty ways to get out of the friend zone in no time]

12. She flirts with other guys… but not you 

When you’re out in a group and she’s smiling and flirting with the other guys, but you’re just sitting there feeling left out, well, that’s another one of the huge signs that she’s not interested in you. When she’s interested, she flirts. Period.

13. She checks her phone all the time when she’s with you

She doesn’t want to give you her full attention. It could be because there are other people she’d rather be with, or she’s having a better conversation over text.

But if she’s only halfway with you, then that’s a red flag.

14. You notice she always has her phone with her but takes forever to answer you 

Wait. What? She’s constantly checking her phone and texting her other friends back right away, but it takes her 8 hours to reply to you? Ummm, yeah. Not interested. [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her desire you]

15. She asks you for advice about other guys

No, this is not an attempt to make you jealous. She just doesn’t care if you like her because she’s into other guys. If she was into you, she’d appear available and not talk about other men.

16. She flakes on you… a lot

You finally got her to commit to plans with you, but then she flakes. “I’m not feeling well,” or “I totally forgot I had this other thingy on my calendar for months,” or “I looked at the wrong day on my calendar” might be some of her excuses. But she probably just got a better offer. [Read: 19 wily signs she only wants your attention but not a relationship with you]

17. She only wants to hang out in public places

She is trying to avoid any “Netflix and chill” situations like the plague, and she never wants to hang out at your place or hers… alone.

Why? Because it’s too intimate and cozy. She doesn’t want to cuddle with you on the couch. She doesn’t want to put herself in a situation that sends you the wrong message.

18. She never wants you to pick her up at her place

Again, because this is too “date-ish.” She doesn’t want you walking her to her door after you hang out. Because then you might be tempted to try to go in for a goodnight kiss.

Nope. She just avoids it by meeting you in places. [Read: 12 ways to tell if she’s flirting or just being friendly]

19. She says she’s “not ready for a serious relationship right now” 

Newsflash! If she’s really that interested in someone, she’ll be ready for a relationship any time, any place. But this is just a nice excuse that girls use when they don’t like you. It spares the guy’s feelings.

20. She tells you that she’s not interested

Okay, this one might sound ludicrous. But if she flat-out tells you directly that she’s not interested, well then, she’s not interested!

No, she’s not lying. She’s really just not into you. This is one of the most obvious signs that she’s not interested in you, but so many guys ignore it!

Accept it when a girl says she’s not interested

Sometimes, it’s hard to accept the signs she’s not interested. Sometimes, it’s confusing if she’s blowing hot and cold. And worse, it’s even frustrating when she ignores you, and then comes seeking your attention some other time. [Read: 20 signs she’s leading you on, using you and only pretending to like you]

Dating can be a very tricky affair, true, but all said and done, you really need to pay attention to these signs. And most importantly, whatever you think, if a girl says she’s not interested in you, accept it and move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and not all of them lead you on or confuse you!

[Read: How to get a girl to like you again after she’s lost interest in you]

Don’t worry. Even if you see some of these signs that she’s not interested, that doesn’t mean other girls won’t be. You just haven’t found the right fit. So cut your losses quickly, before you get labeled creepy!

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Dr. Carol Morgan
Dr. Carol Morgan has a Ph.D. in communication and is a professor at Wright State University where she loves corrupting young minds. As a relationship and succes...