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How to Charm a Girl & Subtle Ways to Make Her Think Fondly of You

You like this girl. Maybe you’re dating her, and maybe you’re not. But either way, you still want to know how to charm a girl. Here are your answers.

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Want to know how to charm a girl? You may have seen some guy chatting with a girl, and the girl laughing in delight and calling him a charmer. Sounds nice, doesn’t it?

Being complimented as a charming guy by a girl is one of the best compliments any guy can ever get from a girl. It’s not about looks, it’s not about your physique or your geek quotient.

It’s purely your wit, suave, and just how amazing you are at charming a girl.

How to charm a girl and impress her with your behavior

So, what exactly is charming a girl? Learning how to charm a girl isn’t about flirting with her or touching her in “secret” places.

You’d know you’re charming a girl when you make her feel so happy she could kiss you right there!

It’s a pretty good thing, isn’t it? Being a charmer?

[Read: How to talk to a girl – All the secrets to talk to girls and easily impress them]

We’ll tell you the most important things you need to know to charm your way into a girl’s heart. You can exchange a lot of looks and share intense eye contact with a girl, but you can’t charm her with that.

To charm a girl, you need to create an impression beyond looks and your swagger.

If you want to know how to charm a girl, firstly, it all starts with a conversation. And it pretty much ends there.

Charming a girl is all about how you communicate with her, make her feel happy and get her to enjoy your company. Use these tips and you’ll get there even before you know it! [Read: How to get a girl to like you – 20 things you must know about girls]

1. Converse about what she likes

You may think this is unnecessary. Most guys do. Most guys wonder why they have to talk only about something a girl likes. Why can’t girls talk about what a guy likes too?

Of course, girls can. Girls do take an active interest in trying to get to know what guys like to talk about too. But at times, especially when you’re trying to make an impression, it’s always better to be aware of what’s going on in a girl’s mind.

Now talking about what a girl likes doesn’t really mean couture, diamonds, or cosmetics. The bridge between girls and guys has narrowed down a lot these days.

It’s really easy to have an interesting conversation without breaking into a sweat. At least at the beginning, stay away from tech, calculations, and sports and you should be fine. [Read: What to talk about with a girl you like – 37 ways to build an instant connection in minutes]

2. Flatter her

When you talk to a girl, it’s easy to get her talking back to you. But that’s not enough. If you want to know how to charm a girl, you need to make her feel comfortable, and yet, let her know you’re interested in her.

Friends don’t charm each other’s pants off. So if you’re going to talk to her like a friend, she may think you’re a great guy. But she won’t think you’re a charming guy.

To be seen as a charming guy in a girl’s eyes, she needs to see you as a dating potential. And to do that, you need to flatter her. [Read: What do girls like in guys? 30 qualities that make a guy a catch]

Don’t go saying yawn-inspiring things like ‘you look beautiful,’ ‘you’re so pretty,’ or something along those lines. It’s too boring and so not genuine.

Instead, be vaguely specific when you compliment her. She’s got a new hairdo? Say something like “You look really cute today. Is that a new hairstyle?”

Cute is a nice word to use because men hardly ever use that word. So when you do use it, she knows how much you mean it. [Read: 117 sweetest things to say to a girl and make her smile]

Don’t say “Is that a new hairstyle? Gosh, those hair extensions really do wonders to your eyes. It’s gorgeous.” That makes you sound like her hairstylist or her gay best friend.

By flattering her the right way, you can do three things with one line. You can warm her up and make her smile. You can make her realize that you find her pretty. And thirdly, you can let her know that you’re attracted to her. All of which you need to do to make her look at you as a dating potential. [Read: How to compliment a girl – 15 must-know tips and 35 best lines to use]

3. Be funny

Now that you’ve got her all smiling with a good flow of flattery and great conversations, it’s time to get into her personal space if you want to know how to charm a girl.

All of us have personal spaces and we feel very uncomfortable when someone steps into it unless we’re comfortable with them.

To make her feel comfortable, you’ve got to make her have a good time with you. Now we can’t really tell you how to make a girl laugh. But we can give you two pointers to help you. Don’t tell her any jokes. Be happy when you talk to her.

Sounds vague? Firstly, telling jokes straight out of a book is stupid. Instead, tell her about a funny *real or made-up* incident she can relate to.

And be happy when you talk to her if you want to charm her. When you’re happy, the whole world smiles with you! If you’re smiling and feeling happy, she’d smile back and be happy too. But if you’re nervous, you’d definitely make her feel uncomfortable. [Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly]

4. Flirt with her

Guys flirt with girls all the time, but sometimes, a girl can think a flirty guy is creepy. So don’t overdo your flirting skills and gross her out. If you want to know how to charm a girl, one of the best ways to start flirting is by being casual.

Ask her what she does on weekends or after work, ask her about her favorite hangouts and restaurants, and just about anything that can be remotely personal. She’d know you’re hitting on her because no one really asks all these questions otherwise.

And out of the blue, pop this question.

“Hey, this is personal, but do you have a boyfriend? If you do, my heart’s just going to shatter into a million pieces right now!” Corny, yes. But it always works its magic! [Read: What do girls like to hear? 15 things she’s dying for you to say]

She will laugh, but this line gets your intentions across straight, and she’d know you’re interested in her. But don’t make things awkward by pausing after she answers the question.

Go on talking about something else like that question meant nothing to you. Your intentions will be made clear, and yet, you wouldn’t make her feel uncomfortable around you. [Read: How to make a girl want you, desire you and think of you sexually]

5. Touch her

This is dangerous ground, but something you need to learn. You do want to know how to charm a girl, right? So, touching her at the right time completes the main details you need to know about how to charm a girl. If you get this right, you’ve obviously made a great impression.

Now touching a girl is like playing with fire. Too quick a touch and you don’t feel the warmth. Too long a linger, and heck, you’ll burn! See how dangerous it can be?

You can send a tingle up her spine with a simple touch if you’ve warmed her up already. But remember this.

Touch her only if there’s a reason to touch her, like touching her ear lobe when you’re complimenting her earrings, brushing her hair aside when there’s a gust of wind, or placing your hand on her back while crossing the street.

A touch is very personal, so you really need to be careful and see how she reacts to your touches before you touch her again. [Read: How to flirt by touch and use subtle body language to seduce a girl slowly]

6. Get personal

Let’s face it – sometimes guys aren’t so good at asking personal questions about people. It might be because they don’t want to pry into someone’s life, so they refrain from doing it. Or, they just might not know how.

When guys are together, they tend to talk about topics that aren’t interesting to girls. They probably talk about sports, technology, video games, hustle porn, and topics like that. Rarely, do guys get personal with each other.

But when you’re with a girl, you have to realize that she likes getting deep into a conversation and sharing personal things. That is how girls bond with other people. They don’t bond by playing a game of basketball! [Read: How can men bond with a woman – The art of connecting with her on a deeper level]

So, ask her about herself. How and where did she grow up? What were her parents like and what is her relationship with them today? Does she have any siblings? What is her favorite memory? What’s her favorite food or pet?

These are just a few questions you can ask her. But don’t stop there. If you want to know how to charm a girl, you need to share personal information about yourself too. This will allow her to get to know you on a more personal, and deeper, level.

Girls like guys who can be vulnerable and share personal things. So, make sure you put your sensitive hat on and jump in the game with that. [Read: How to emotionally connect with someone – 14 steps to bond with a girl]

7. Do romantic things for her

You might just be friends with her *but hope to be more soon*, or you might be dating her. Either way, you can still do cute romantic things for her.

In case you haven’t noticed, girls like romantic things. In fact, romance is on their mind almost 24/7. Okay, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but it is certainly important to them. Heck, many girls even dream of finding their Prince Charming and what their wedding will be like.

Some ideas you can try are to buy her flowers or a cute gift like a necklace. Bring over her favorite bottle of wine. Get creative with this.

You can also plan a romantic date or “hang out.” Pack a picnic and go eat it outdoors in a scenic area. Cook her dinner and eat it by candlelight. The ideas are endless! [Read: Why don’t girls like me? 9 reasons she’s just not into you]

8. Keep in contact with her

If you really want to know how to charm a girl, then you need to be consistent with your communication. Girls hate it when guys blow hot and cold! So, don’t be that guy because she definitely won’t like it.

Instead, make sure you show her that you like her on a regular basis. Send her “good morning” and “good night” texts. Girls love that! Ask her how her day is going.

If you suggest hanging out, then follow through. Don’t flake out on her. Flaky guys are very unattractive. She wants to know that she can count on you. And when you are a man of your word, you will definitely stand out from the pack. [Read: How to impress a girl – 21 atypical secrets all guys should know]

9. Show empathy and be a good listener

Again, not to say anything bad about most guys, but a lot of them are not good listeners. And they don’t really show a lot of empathy sometimes.

You see, girls bond with people through listening and talking. When guys listen to someone, they are listening to solve a problem. But girls just like to talk for the sake of talking. They don’t need or want you to solve their problems. They just want to know that they can vent to you.

It’s also important to show her empathy too. Let her know that you can see how she’s feeling. Be kind and sincere. Showing this emotion to her will help her bond with you even more, and she will definitely be charmed.

Emotion is very important to girls. And if you can show emotions through listening and being empathetic, she will be impressed. [Read: How to be more empathetic and 16 steps to make anyone feel understood]

10. Be the man she can count on

You need to be the type of guy who has her back at all times. If she has a flat tire in the middle of the night, does she feel like she can call you for help? If not, then you need to step up your game and show her that you are.

Going back to consistency, you need to really let her know that you are always there for her. You are her rock. You are the first person she wants to call when something good or bad happens. That is very charming to a girl, and the more you can be her hero, the more she will like you.

[Read: How girls flirt – 22 signs she’s flirting more than just being nice]

If you want to know how to charm a girl and impress her, use these steps the next time you meet a girl you like. And you’ll see how great an impression you can make in the very first conversation!

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