How to Tell if a Girl Is Flirting With You: 18 Telltale Signs

how to tell if a girl is flirting with you

Sometimes it’s hard to know whether she’s flirting with you or wants to be friends, here’s how to tell if a girl is flirting with you, or just being nice.

If you’ve got your eye on a cute girl, you obviously want to know, as soon as possible, whether she feels the same way about you. Perhaps you’ve had a few conversations, or even been on a few dates, but you are still not sure how she really feels about you. Learning how to tell if a girl is flirting with you is key to reading the subtle differences girls give away.

How to tell if a girl is flirting with you – Is she really flirting or friend zoning?

Understanding whether a girl is flirting with you or just being friendly can be tricky. You want to know whether she has put you in the “friend zone,” or if there is potentially something more.

So, if you are wondering if she’s flirting with you, then look out for these 18 signs.

#1 She touches her hair. Hair touching is a good sign a girl is flirting with you. If she constantly messes with her hair, twisting it between her fingers, flicking it to the side, or tucking it behind her ears, this body language shows she’s a little self-conscious.

She also wants you to notice her. Touching her collar or neck means the same thing, so look out for this! [Read: Are you boring her? 20 clear signs that she’s not interested]

#2 She maintains eye contact. If she keeps making eye contact with you, she is probably flirting with you. This holds true whether you look at each other from across a room, or whether you chat with her directly. If she pauses and looks in your eyes, she is definitely trying to let you know that she is attracted to you.

#3 She laughs a lot. Pay attention to her reactions next time you tell an amusing story. Does she laugh? If she is always laughing and giggling around you, it means she thinks you are funny. Girls love guys with a sense of humor, and her laughter speaks volumes about the way she feels about you! [Read: How to know if a girl likes you: 12 signs that won’t let you down]

#4 She touches you. Still confused and wondering how to tell if a girl is flirting with you? Well, check out her body language and whether she gives you any physical contact when you chat with her.

If she reaches out to touch your arm or your hand or even bumps into you playfully or always giving you cuddles, these are surefire signs she’s flirting with you and wants to take things further.

#5 She always responds. Does she always reply to your messages? If she always responds to you and doesn’t keep you waiting too long it means she is into you and flirting with you for sure. [Read: What to text a girl – Dos, dont’s and all the secrets to follow]

#6 She gets in touch first. If she doesn’t wait for you to message or call her and is the one taking the initiative, she is trying to tell you she likes you. You should know that she wants you to make the first move.

#7 She’s keen to meet up. Does she always suggest meeting up with you? Even if you bump into each other in a chance encounter? If so, she is being clear that she would like to spend some one on one time with you and you should definitely take her up on the offer!

#8 She makes fun of you. Both boys and girls use the teasing technique to show a person that they like them. Joking around and gently mocking you is her way of flirting with you, just make sure you give as good as you get!

#9 She turns the conversation to something more sexual. Is she always making your conversations about sex? Or ‘joking’ about what a good couple you would be?

She is obviously flirting if this is the case and trying to get the conversation steamier, making you think about having sex with her is clearly her game plan here. [Read: 7 signs a girl gives away if she wants to sleep with you]

#10 She compliments you. Of course, one of the most obvious signs that a girl is flirting with you is if she takes the time to compliment you. If she always says she likes the way you look or compliments you on your intelligence, humor, talent, etc., it’s because she thinks you are great and hopes you will ask her out.

#11 She invites you to compliment her. If she flirts with you, she gives you plenty of opportunities to compliment her. She’ll say things like “What do you think of my hair?” and “Do you like this top?” Make sure you take the hint and tell her how lovely she looks so she knows that you are into her.

#12 She tickles you. She wants to touch you but she doesn’t want to make it too obvious that she likes you, as she isn’t sure how you will respond. So, what is the obvious thing to do? Tickle you, of course! She is trying to make you laugh as well as touch you, why not tickle her back? [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she likes you]

#13 She borrows your clothes. Does that favorite hoodie of yours always seem to be around her shoulders instead of on you? If she is always asking *or taking* your clothes to wear, she wants to feel closer to you. She is definitely flirting with you.

#14 She tries to make you blush. If she says or does things to try and make you blush, she’s kind of testing the waters. If she says something a bit outrageous and you do blush, she’ll know that you probably like her too. [Read: Chick magnet alert: What makes a guy the total package?]

#15 She gets dressed up around you. Is she always dressed to the nines whenever you see her, no matter what the occasion? If so it is probably because she wants you to think she looks nice, so make sure you tell her ASAP!

#16 Her voice gets lower. Women’s voices get lower when they are attracted to someone and flirting with them. Make sure you look out for this, and if you notice her voice changing when she speaks to you, it’s probably because she is flirting with you.

#17 She acts coy. Does she go all cute, shy, and demure around you? She clearly wants you to see her as sweet and girly. Hands down, that’s her way of flirting with you. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you *without really asking*]

#18 She flirts with other guys around you. This may sound counterintuitive, but one way she may well be flirting with you is by going up to other guys and flirting with them instead! She might want to try and get your attention this way or seeing if it makes you jealous.

If she keeps throwing glances your way while she is talking to another guy, then it’s probably a weird and wonderful way of telling you it’s actually you that she likes!

[Read: What women find attractive: 16 traits girls instantly fall for]

So there you have it—if you want to know how to tell if a girl is flirting with you, the key is to pay close attention! Next time you end up in the same room, make sure you really watch what she does, how she talks to you, and how she acts around you.

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Bethany Locke
Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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